₦airaland Forum

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got 3 questions:

•Are you married yet?
She might be pretending so she would be married. I’ve seen a man cried that the lady he dated is different from the one he dated.

•Are you marrying for your parents, What if your parents are no more?
Marry for yourself. Your parents have played their parts. Start planning for your own kids. Let it be priority, then your parents can come in. Never ignore them but plan for your kids.

•Do you also love her family the way she does yours?
Reading your post, your focal point is your own family. How about her own family?👨‍🦯

Stephen0mozzy:
Good for you Sir.
Make sure you keep being a good husband to your wife and extend the same care to her own parents too if you want this vision to "stay long".

And nope, nothing forced you.

greatiyk4u:
The marriage is already with three kids and has been moving progressively, peacefully and joyfully though not without some intermittent few misunderstanding but we easily sort ourselves out.

MaziObinnaokija:
U are a responsible son..As u take care of your parents,so shall your own take care of u.

Those of u that neglect'ed' your parents use Karate kick,chase them around with cutlass over 1000k, wish their dismiss to enable you share their property will REAP Ur rewards.

God bless you and your household greatiyk4u.
Remember to invite us to your marriage ceremony

MaziObinnaokija:
U are a responsible son..As u take care of your parents,so shall your own take care of u.

Those of u that neglect'ed' your parents use Karate kick,chase them around with cutlass over 1000k, wish their dismiss to enable you share their property will REAP Ur rewards.

God bless you and your household greatiyk4u. Whatever you sow, you will reap.
Remember to invite us to your marriage ceremony

BeardedMeat:
Did you send your wife back to the village to live with your parents?

All you needed do was employ one or two househelps for them.
A mature woman and a younger person of secondary school age.

If your wife doesn't live with your parents, I don't see how you have helped their loneliness.

Houseofglam7:
Hmmmmmmm
Congratulations to y’all.

Samantha125:
Wait, so you married your girlfriend with the intention of turning her into your parents' carer?

Why not hire one who'll live with your parents instead?🤔🤔🤔

greatiyk4u:
They rejected the idea of maid though the later accepted but they saw a wife more of a family and companion, a shoulder to lean on than a maid who has kpi
They were indirectly looking for grand children from us.

Samantha125:
They can still get those grandchildren while living with their carer, it will be weird at first, but with time, they'll get used to having her around and start considering her as a family... So your wife has to now carry the burden of looking after the children and your elderly parents, doesn't she also has elderly parents back at home to worry about?

Next thing when she starts having less time for you due to exhaustion, you'll be complaining of how she is neglecting you... Never involved your family members into your marriage if you want peace... All it takes is one small misunderstanding between her and your mother and the rest is history.

Samantha125:
They can still get those grandchildren while living with their carer, it will be weird at first, but with time, they'll get used to having her around and start considering her as a family... So your wife has to now carry the burden of looking after the children and your elderly parents, doesn't she also has elderly parents back at home to worry about?

Next thing when she starts having less time for you due to exhaustion, you'll be complaining of how she is neglecting you... Never involved your family members into your marriage if you want peace... All it takes is one small misunderstanding between her and your mother and the rest is history.

ednut1:
Instead of hiring a maid for them you got married so your wife can take care of your parents. Which kind talk be this

BeardedMeat:
All you needed do was employ one or two househelps for them.

Orlandoo:
Many have lost their lives to maids in the past.

ednut1:
so its better to marry a woman that will take care of your own children and add your parents to the burden. Una well so?

greatiyk4u:
She was visiting them and my parents accepted coming to relax in my house in the city after my marriage claiming to be more relaxed with her.

AllBlack:
And who are you to tell a full grown man ALL HE NEEDED TO DO?

Have you finished handling your own life?

Just look at the audacity.

meobizy:
I dey fold arms look una. If women were bad, all men would remain unmarried.

The thing I hate most is when Nigerians birth kids with the intention that they’ll take care of them in old age. Your children owe you nothing.

That is one thing about whites that I respect the most. They raise children, free them to their own adulthoods at eighteen then work towards saving enough to use a care home. The selfish ones who realize beforehand that their kids won’t care for them decide to use their pension to finance a young African or traditional wife.

Towma:
Men and audacity sha
Imagine if a woman started a topic to say she only got married because she needed a husband to provide for her aged parents.