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Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 11:34am On Apr 09, 2020
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Shormiey(m): 11:43am On Apr 09, 2020
I pick your drift bro.....

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Fireflare: 11:45am On Apr 09, 2020
Word.. Lalasticlala come o

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wldzgr8st(m): 11:59am On Apr 09, 2020
Spot on

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 5:29pm On Apr 09, 2020
Shormiey:
I pick your drift bro.....
I'm a girl tho grin

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 5:30pm On Apr 09, 2020
Wldzgr8st:
Spot on
thanks for reading wink

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 5:31pm On Apr 09, 2020
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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Shormiey(m): 10:05pm On Apr 09, 2020
mhizgracie22:
I'm a girl tho grin
I don't know now....you didn't indicate... grin

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by samtinx(m): 10:35pm On Apr 09, 2020
~Words crested on a Marble~ cool cool

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by samtinx(m): 10:37pm On Apr 09, 2020
mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.
Now that's a front page material wink wink

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by KingZaddy(m): 11:26pm On Apr 09, 2020
you got good points...


your ex is pained when she doesnt see signs of you missing her.


stop being constant online (whatsapp facebook)

dont chat her up

when you make posts let them be business related (life progress)

celebrate birthday of other friends and make sure your captions dont smell of emotional hurts

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Millz404(m): 11:33pm On Apr 09, 2020
mhizgracie22:
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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by yyba: 11:56pm On Apr 09, 2020
May coronavirus and dangerous thunder locate my ex and her parents immediately . idiot, stupid, silly, foolish mad familyundecided undecided angry

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by wizdomnzube(m): 11:24am On Apr 10, 2020
Our 9ja babes go post so tey na to block them ho be it next option. Especially wen u nor even rewson dis mata after the break up grin

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 12:29pm On Apr 10, 2020
Same thing i always, ignore and overlook..no calls no chats infact i delete everything about my ex ....i was surprise to see her call earlier this year..after 5 years telling me she wish me unfruitful marriage with my wife..that i wil never enjoy any woman except her that she loved me so much that i will come back to her that she is d only one made for me...imagine after 5 years...i taught she would hav been married by now..because of the way she carries herself then...i never altered a word while she was ranting..i only allowed her finish .then i replied thank you..takia...put off the call and blocked d number again...why hasnt she gotten over me?

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 12:43pm On Apr 10, 2020
Shormiey:

I don't know now....you didn't indicate... grin
Gracie is a female name na grin

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 12:44pm On Apr 10, 2020
samtinx:
~Words crested on a Marble~ cool cool
thanks for reading wink
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 12:50pm On Apr 10, 2020
KingZaddy:
you got good points...


your ex is pained when she doesnt see signs of you missing her.


stop being constant online (whatsapp facebook)

dont chat her up

when you make posts let them be business related (life progress)

celebrate birthday of other friends and make sure your captions dont smell of emotional hurts
exactly

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 12:50pm On Apr 10, 2020
yyba:
may coronavirus and dangerous thunder locate my ex and her parents immediately . undecided undecided angry
ahh shocked.. seems she really hurt you

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 12:52pm On Apr 10, 2020
wizdomnzube:
Our 9ja babes go post so tey na to block them ho be it next option. Especially wen u nor even rewson dis mata after the break up grin
grin grin grin
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 12:56pm On Apr 10, 2020
Wizywiz:
Same thing i always, ignore and overlook..no calls no chats infact i delete everything about my ex ....i was surprise to see her call earlier this year..after 5 years telling me she wish me unfruitful marriage with my wife..that i wil never enjoy any woman except her that she loved me so much that i will come back to her that she is d only one made for me...imagine after 5 years...i taught she would hav been married by now..because of the way she carries herself then...i never altered a word while she was ranting..i only allowed her finish .then i replied thank you..takia...put off the call and blocked d number again...why hasnt she gotten over me?
Bros you're wicked o grin , there's nothing more painful than getting "thank you" or "okay" as a reply after ranting on phone or sending a long dramatic text, that shi.t hurts like hell grin

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 1:06pm On Apr 10, 2020
mhizgracie22:
Bros you're wicked o grin , there's nothing more painful than getting "thank you" or "okay" as a reply after ranting on phone or sending a long dramatic text, that shi.t hurts like hell grin
well, she broke up with me then..i loved her so much then...she was so eager and desperate to marry, she gave me an ultimatum on when to marry her, i refused yielding to her pressure we broke up and now she is coming back to yarn dust to me...maybe because she still dey single and in her late thirties...

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Lamanii22(f): 1:19pm On Apr 10, 2020
samtinx:
Now that's a front page material wink wink



Yeah right...... So worthy...

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 1:32pm On Apr 10, 2020
Lamanii22:




Yeah right...... So worthy...


awwn thanks

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by mhizgracie22: 1:43pm On Apr 10, 2020
Wizywiz:
well, she broke up with me then..i loved her so much then...she was so eager and desperate to marry, she gave me an ultimatum on when to marry her, i refused yielding to her pressure we broke up and now she is coming back to yarn dust to me...maybe because she still dey single and in her late thirties...
women have a biological clock so It's quite normal for ladies in their thirties to be eager to get married,especially here in Nigeria (because of family pressure), ladies in their thirties are likely to end a relationship if they don't see marriage in the near future so I don't really blame her but I don't believe in pressuring a man to propose

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Youngpo413: 1:50pm On Apr 10, 2020
Wizywiz:
Same thing i always, ignore and overlook..no calls no chats infact i delete everything about my ex ....i was surprise to see her call earlier this year..after 5 years telling me she wish me unfruitful marriage with my wife..that i wil never enjoy any woman except her that she loved me so much that i will come back to her that she is d only one made for me...imagine after 5 years...i taught she would hav been married by now..because of the way she carries herself then...i never altered a word while she was ranting..i only allowed her finish .then i replied thank you..takia...put off the call and blocked d number again...why hasnt she gotten over me?
u dumped her.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 1:54pm On Apr 10, 2020
mhizgracie22:
women have a biological clock so It's quite normal for ladies in their thirties to be eager to get married,especially here in Nigeria (because of family pressure), ladies in their thirties are likely to end a relationship if they don't see marriage in the near future so I don't really blame her but I don't believe in pressuring a man to propose
honestly if she was a bit patient i would hav married her..i loved her so much then sad to say even more than d way i loved the woman that became my wife...but she was never patient enough..we only dated for a year plus

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Youngpo413: 1:55pm On Apr 10, 2020
Wizywiz:
well, she broke up with me then..i loved her so much then...she was so eager and desperate to marry, she gave me an ultimatum on when to marry her, i refused yielding to her pressure we broke up and now she is coming back to yarn dust to me...maybe because she still dey single and in her late thirties...
men don show am pepper,she don sabi say not all glitters are gold...lol,see as e sweet me for body.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 1:56pm On Apr 10, 2020
Youngpo413:
u dumped her.
nope, she called it quite

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 1:58pm On Apr 10, 2020
Youngpo413:
men don show am pepper,she don sabi say not all glitters are gold...lol,see as e sweet me for body.
she wasnt patient enough and the way she sounded when she called ..the vulgar words wey she use my brother ...the babe don wild oooo...she don turn something else...

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Youngpo413: 2:02pm On Apr 10, 2020
Wizywiz:
she wasnt patient enough and the way she sounded when she called ..the vulgar words wey she use my brother ...the babe don wild oooo...she don turn something else...
keep on ignoring her,na desperation cause am...they always believe its all about beauty and 'endowments'.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by jawalis(m): 2:03pm On Apr 10, 2020
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