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ogascomax:
Women have always suffered the most. Otherwise you won't see baby mama scattered everywhere.

And it is my fault😂😂😂 your greedy and hypergamy nature no gree make you siddon one place and then you get hurt, I’ll still the blame for your intelligence 😂😂😂
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ogascomax:
Don't personalise this forum discussion. It's not about you and a girl. But it's about why women have decided that it most be pay as you go.
In research you have to look the history of a thing and study what resulted to such behaviour.
My own opinion was the cause of this present behaviour.

Just an example to get your idea. Ask a young girl what she wants in a man, she’ll list bad boys attributes and leave the good ones and when she gets hurt,
I’ll take the blame?🤦‍♂️
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ogascomax:
Don't personalise this forum discussion. It's not about you and a girl. But it's about why women have decided that it most be pay as you go.
In research you have to look the history of a thing and study what resulted to such behaviour.
My own opinion was the cause of this present behaviour.

Educate us on the causes and why they decided to leave good guys for bad guys and how it relates with us being the cause of their actions🤔
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Kobojunkie:
1. Romance has almost always been up for negotiation, only that up until now, many men have been able to get away with getting their needs met for free, while the women are left carrying the empty bag and baggage left behind.

2. What is the difference between a woman who gives up her body for free to a man and a woman who gives up the same body at a cost to another man?

3. There was never such a line. There was simply a male-dominated past now giving way to a present where females are stepping up to call the shots, as far as the cost of giving it up is concerned.

4. Men brought it down to where women decided it all had to change for the better.

The poverty situation in Nigeria also contributed to this mess. It has blurred the line between geniune dating and prostitution. Little surprise here that Nigerian men are often the perpetrators of romance scams and business email compromise when it comes to dating women abroad. Ladies have learned that too.

ogascomax:
Don't personalise this forum discussion. It's not about you and a girl. But it's about why women have decided that it most be pay as you go.
In research you have to look the history of a thing and study what resulted to such behaviour.
My own opinion was the cause of this present behaviour.

All what you’ve stated are the effects and consequences. Now state the causes let’s start from the root. What’s the cause of pay for sex motive?

kiddaz:
Yeah. Blame us for everything on earth 🌍. We messed up everything. Thank you

Yenyenyen

JetStar:
The poverty situation in Nigeria also contributed to this mess. It has blurred the line between geniune dating and prostitution. Little surprise here that Nigerian men are often the perpetrators of romance scams and business email compromise when it comes to dating women abroad. Ladies have learned that too.

Yeah that’s true but my problem is why try to shift the blame. Accept that’s what you do than saying we men use their body or it’s because we need their body. Poverty caused it but don’t push it to men. About romance scams, why don’t they also target the whites

Our boys are mainly targeting the whites to build something down here. Please enlighten us on why the ladies should be doing different?
You rarely hear of guys scamming ladies in Nigeria but our ladies are doing the opposite, why🤔
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Dpsychologist:
Swipe left. Swipe right. Repeat.

For every one genuine-looking profile on Tinder, you’ll find fifteen more selling something — a fantasy, a body, or a lifestyle. Let’s be honest: what used to be a dating app has quietly evolved into a digital marketplace.

A guy once said, laughing,

“Bro, na hookup site be dating site now.”

And he’s right.

Because these days, “Let’s hang out” usually translates to “Pay to play.” Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.
The affection, by transaction.
And the connection? Well, that’s usually temporary — gone as soon as the bank alert hits.

Hookup culture has flooded the streets — and the screens — so badly that genuine dating feels like a lost art. Everyone’s performing; few are connecting.
You’ll see bios that say “No hookups” but read like price lists in disguise.

It’s a strange new world where beauty is currency, and emotions are collateral. People are no longer dating — they’re bartering.

And yet, no one seems surprised.

Maybe it’s because we all secretly know that the line between “dating” and “deal-making” has long disappeared. What we’re left with is a culture where affection has a price tag and love has become a luxury item few can afford.

So the next time someone says,

“There are no real dating sites anymore…”

Don’t argue. Just smile and ask,
“Who did this to us?”

Beautiful, beautiful bro. You have really expressed our situation strongly and succinctly

You’re searching for a rich guy to upgrade yourself, then you’ll start collecting money thinking anything is free in the world. You get pregnant thinking you could tie him down, he told you he’s a busy person and can’t afford it now. He tells you to be his baby mama and you agreed meanwhile you forgot Chuks that had plans for you.

Now you’ve realized you couldn’t bag the money and you cry foul. Next, you start blaming men😂😂😂
Blame it on your greed young lady, blame it on your greed😂
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SpencerForbes:
All what you’ve stated are the effects and consequences. Now state the causes let’s start from the root. What’s the cause of pay for sex motive?

I already said it Na. The consequences is the motive. Many are abandoned after been pregnant. A girl slept with a girl, a virgin and impregnated her. Now he said it was only one time he slept with her. So one time don't get one pregnant. Now if that girl go through that trouble herself then tomorrow start putting a tag on it people we start saying they are selling their body. This is the genesis of the problems today. Lot of them suffered similar things.

Like I said note this as a Christian I don't support this kind of lifestyle from both men and women. I am just being pragmatic.

SpencerForbes:
Educate us on the causes and why they decided to leave good guys for bad guys and how it relates with us being the cause of their actions🤔
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😂😂😂 Good guys story is an illusion. Do you know how many self acclaimed good guys have deceived women. Good guys position themselves but they were wolf in sheep clothing. Guys can do anything to sleep with a girl. We don see am tire. Some will even go and visit you in your church and meet with your pastor join. Them go see family members too. You go know their parents.
Na your own you know oo don't speak for other good guys but speak only for yourself.
I will not excuse girls that also go after bad guys either.
I was liking one girl and her eyes are on someone else but me and her knows that the boy in question go really break her heart but she still wanted him anyways. They are also girls like that.
However, I am taking a broader position on this issue on what resulted to the escalation of this behaviour in the society.
You have both the primary cause and the secondary cause.

ogascomax:
I already said it Na. The consequences is the motive. Many are abandoned after been pregnant. A girl slept with a girl, a virgin and impregnated her. Now he said it was only one time he slept with her. So one time don't get one pregnant. Now if that girl go through that trouble herself then tomorrow start putting a tag on it people we start saying they are selling their body. This is the genesis of the problems today. Lot of them suffered similar things.


Like I said note this as a Christian I don't support this kind of lifestyle from both men and women. I am just being pragmatic.

Nice 👍 Now let’s go to the lady, she has lots of suitors and “toasters” she leaves emeka cos he’s still struggling and goes to Chuks cos he’s a big boy and can upgrade her lifestyle. He showers her with gift making her feel like a princess.

No habit is created by a man in a day. She knows Chuks won’t make a good father but instead of leaving him, she’s scared another lady will have him and decides to stay in the relationship. Now Chuks is progressing massively and she’s thinking on how to secure her future and Chuks doesn’t have the same plans which she knows but decides to continue with her plans. She gets broken cos Chuks wasn’t ready.
Please who’s fault is it majorly Chuks is also at fault but who should take the blame🤔🤔🤔🤔
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Tenrack:
bros why you dey entertain this person? You get time sha. My threshold for BS no solid like this. Lol.

Lol

I dey always laugh people especially males wey dey go back & forth with that mama

She is in her mid to late fifties,twice divorced and also bipolar

Pesin wey don snap foto of her amu post am here before

Dpsychologist:
Swipe left. Swipe right. Repeat.

For every one genuine-looking profile on Tinder, you’ll find fifteen more selling something — a fantasy, a body, or a lifestyle. Let’s be honest: what used to be a dating app has quietly evolved into a digital marketplace.

A guy once said, laughing,

“Bro, na hookup site be dating site now.”

And he’s right.

Because these days, “Let’s hang out” usually translates to “Pay to play.” Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.
The affection, by transaction.
And the connection? Well, that’s usually temporary — gone as soon as the bank alert hits.

Hookup culture has flooded the streets — and the screens — so badly that genuine dating feels like a lost art. Everyone’s performing; few are connecting.
You’ll see bios that say “No hookups” but read like price lists in disguise.

It’s a strange new world where beauty is currency, and emotions are collateral. People are no longer dating — they’re bartering.

And yet, no one seems surprised.

Maybe it’s because we all secretly know that the line between “dating” and “deal-making” has long disappeared. What we’re left with is a culture where affection has a price tag and love has become a luxury item few can afford.

So the next time someone says,

“There are no real dating sites anymore…”

Don’t argue. Just smile and ask,
“Who did this to us?”

Do you want a real relationship!? Don't go searching online. Learn to build and relate with the people you have contact with. Learn to increase your network of people. Make every encourage meaningful and impactful.
It's that simple.

ogascomax:
😂😂😂 Good guys story is an illusion. Do you know how many self acclaimed good guys have deceived women. Good guys position themselves but they were wolf in sheep clothing. Guys can do anything to sleep with a girl. We don see am tire. Some will even go and visit you in your church and meet with your pastor join. Them go see family members too. You go know their parents.
Na your own you know oo don't speak for other good guys but speak only for yourself.

Okay it’s possible and it’s also my fault you looseguard 🤔🤔🤔
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All these problems were caused by we men. A lady and giy can be quarreling but watch the men take the lady side. A lady can easily accuse a man of rape but the same can’t happen when a woman molest a child. Social media has given women the power to fight men who gave them the social media in the first place. My recommendation, landlords should stop allowing single ladies as tenants. This single move alone will reset all that has been spoilt. If a single woman wants to remain single am sure her idols like dj dimple and blessingceo has homes for rent where she can go and indulge her nuisance.

LANDLORDS STOP ALLOWING SINGLE LADIES RENT YOUR HOMES, A WOMAN ABOVE 25yrs should be accompanied by a man.

Ojagun:
Lol

I dey always laugh people especially males wey dey go back & forth with that mama

She is in her mid to late fifties,twice divorced and also bipolar

Pesin wey don snap foto of her amu post am her before

I just Dey free this week oo😂😂 So I say make I play small😂😂
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SpencerForbes:
Just an example to get your idea. Ask a young girl what she wants in a man, she’ll list bad boys attributes and leave the good ones and when she gets hurt,
I’ll take the blame?🤦‍♂️
👨‍🦯

That one day too. I said this particular thing in a previous response.

SpencerForbes:
Okay it’s possible and it’s also my fault you looseguard 🤔🤔🤔
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It's hard for her to know Na. She can't see your heart but she can only see your intentions. You showed her all the wonderful love but neither does she know that you have an evil agenda.

ogascomax:
😂😂😂 Good guys story is an illusion. Do you know how many self acclaimed good guys have deceived women. Good guys position themselves but they were wolf in sheep clothing. Guys can do anything to sleep with a girl. We don see am tire. Some will even go and visit you in your church and meet with your pastor join. Them go see family members too. You go know their parents.
Na your own you know oo don't speak for other good guys but speak only for yourself.
I will not excuse girls that also go after bad guys either.
I was liking one girl and her eyes are on someone else but me and her knows that the boy in question go really break her heart but she still wanted him anyways. They are also girls like that.
However, I am taking a broader position on this issue on what resulted to the escalation of this behaviour in the society.
You have both the primary cause and the secondary cause.

Now you’re in, my problem is why they generalize it. Blame your baby daddy and don’t tell us men. A lot of ladies have turned men into something else for fun. They’ve made men cry and vice versa but you don’t see us taking our anger on them and blaming us.

Nowadays once they’ve been bitten by one, the next to come start paying for another man’s sin. They take it as a form of revenge and when they finally finds one that outsmarts them, they cry foul. Ladies should stop seeing relationship as payback and we’ll have a fairly stable society.

ogascomax:
It's hard for her to know Na. She can't see your heart but she can only see your intentions. You showed her all the wonderful love but neither does she know that you have an evil agenda.

If you’re scammed, who’s fault is it🤔🤔🤔 The scammer or the scammed🤔
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Yankee101:
It is prostitution
Call it by any other modern name, it remains what it truly is, prostitution

Before nko?
Thats what many Naija women now are & the Naija men are the "tricks"
The pros.titutes are all about the money though & can never love the "tricks"
Naija men created the situation especially the elites.The mentality then trickled down to the society's lower-tier

Ojagun:
Lol

I dey always laugh people especially males wey dey go back & forth with that mama

She is in her mid to late fifties,twice divorced and also bipolar

Pesin wey don snap foto of her amu post am here before

Are you serious right now?

Tenrack:
Are you serious right now?

I don tay for this website
I know all their tori for this side
That mama get 2 very notorious monickers before but i no go mention dem.I no wan chop ban like my last username

PUNANI01:
i have a real dating app but you must pay for it. Girls will be chasing after you like say tomorrow no dey.

See marketing.

Ojagun:
I don tay for this website
I know all their tori for this side
That mama get 2 very notorious monickers before but i no go mention dem.I no wan chop ban like my last username

lwkmd. Nawa. Things dey sup for this place

PUNANI01:
i have a real dating app but you must pay for it. Girls will be chasing after you like say tomorrow no dey.

Rest.

Na una still dey complain say women are becoming transactional with love, what do you expect in a godless generation.

Dpsychologist:
Wahala for the hyperreligious.

We are too superstitious in Nigeria.

How it should be.

tctrills:
Do you want a real relationship!? Don't go searching online. Learn to build and relate with the people you have contact with. Learn to increase your network of people. Make every encourage meaningful and impactful.
It's that simple.

Kobojunkie:
Because the aftermath is almost always borne by the woman alone. Plus, the vast majority of the time, women don't even enjoy these encounters.

For instance, out of 100 such encounters, the woman probably only enjoys it 5 out of those times. Who bears the cost during the other 95 times that she did not? Shouldn't it be the man?

The reason men pay for sex has nothing to do with the reasons you stated above. Men pay for sex because of the imbalance in demand. Men demand for sex more than women so women decided to monetize the demand. If men's libido were significantly lowered below women's then women will start being the ones paying for sex.

I don’t use dating apps. I can’t relate. Most of the hookup females I’ve come across are fat girls in the job to boost their self esteem. I don’t spend thirty minutes to one hour exercising daily for me to chase a fatty. Yuck!

DMCA:
for where i dey dem dey say 20k short time, Over night 30K
e be like say dem even get union d way wey all of dem the charge at a flat rate.
Kobojunkie go soon come to come defend the professionals
Na only O.S dey dating apps. if u are not and u are on a dating app in Naija, u will still be approached like an O.S
Na who wan go find serious relationship for Tinder

Tips

Invite her very late she might not want to go back, that how I ended up paying 15k for TDB actually it was for short time . She came around to 10 and couldn’t go back . 3 rounds