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| . by Samantha125(op): 11:09am On Oct 17, 2025*. Modified: 5:16am On Oct 18, 2025 |
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| Re: . by Fourthpredator: 11:32am On Oct 17, 2025 |
I don't even know what to say, but I will say that you should have a meeting with your sister face to face and try to reason with her that it is not by force to be in a relationship with others, that she can just be having casual s$x with people since she cannot be faithful to one person. The reason I say she should not stay in a relationship is that great love can turn to great hate, because the fact that someone can accept two children from other men means that the man is highly in love with your sister and if she still stays in that relationship with that man, he might just erupt and cause harm to her in a fit of passionate rage. Also don't confess to the man about the salary issue sometimes ignorance is bliss and your confession can be the thing that pushes your sister fiance over the edge. This matter is solely your sister fault and it is only your sister that can fix it 2 Likes |
| Re: . by Tenrack: 11:48am On Oct 17, 2025 |
Smh. I just pity men who still see women as angels and trust their spouses completely. See how they've turned this poor man to something else. Like I always say, women would stain your white. She colluded with her sister to take advantage of the man. Let's call a spade a spade, if as a man you are still trusting women, "oh mine can't do this to me" you're in for a very rude shock. You want to be a good man, be a good man and use your brains. Not your heart. Make I waka. Modified: By the way im no child of a senile, wicked, greedy old fool. 7 Likes |
| Re: . by Ganicus676: 12:29pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Now I see where you got your snatching powress from madam OP 😁😀😀 I will tell you the truth and nothing but the truth, your sister na Ol**ho, the sooner you girls come to terms with that, the better for all of you. Some people ain't meant for one partner, no matter how you try to keep them down, the spirit of exploration no dey allow them rest. First lemme address your big sis: My advice for her is to keep chopping the simp man until he gets sense and dumps her. Furthermore, she should use her talent wisely, her mates dey collect big men from their wives, she dey follow pencil wey no even get house, na her man house wey person dey cum nack her, like WTF... I'm sure south African series no dey lie, cause their men are all about drinking and fornicating, the ones wey dey manage hustle go be factory security 😁😁😁😁😁 Secondly lemme address the simp man: He deserves what ever is happening to him for carry a big sign painted with red colour plus her double luggages and can still afford the indignity of getting his woman screaming another man's name untop his bed. And what does he do when he finds out? Yes, he went to his woman's younger sister for advice. Can another mortal Simp like this? Only in S.A precisely..... As you for you madam OP, just buy popcorn and coke and watch the drama from afar, you're already a complicit to the whole equation so don't try forming sainthood, just embrace your sins and hope for the best outcome.... BTW, the worse outcome would be a triple homicide..... I just hope you'll post it if it gets to that, cause it's only a matter of time..... I come in piss..... 5 Likes |
| Re: . by Ganicus676: 12:38pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Tenrack:You see this particular line wey you talk so, you no lie. Babe wey I fit tell you say I like pass for my life, we broke up one time and first word that came out of her mouth 'you think you are the only one I'm banging', omor thank God say na phone we dey talk cause my jaw literally fell. Babe wey dey everly go only two places, mostly my house till night, then direct to her parents house, wey she go even call me when she arrives, sometimes I go talk to her siblings sef, but she still manage still dey cheat... From that day on eh, when it comes to women, na just to pray for the best and hope for the worse so that when it happens (and it almost certainly does, provided you are willing to forgive), e no go sha pain you much.... Wahala for who dey carry woman for head... 8 Likes |
| Re: . by AndroBlaze: 12:59pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Fourthpredator:Great advice. @OP you should take it....as long as you have an explanation for your husband on the sausage pics on your phone, he'll take it, since your sister's reputation precedes her. Samantha125: BTW what does this mean.? Also, when a woman cheats repeatedly like the way your elder sister does, especially when she has siblings in stable relationships, there will likely be some early sexual ( abuse ) trauma she is still dealing with that you all are probably not aware of. |
| Re: . by SeverusSnape(m): 12:59pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
What a wonderful read. Sincerely, I don't have any advice to give. I found the "Children of Tinubu" very funny. But please I'm not a child of TUluMbU  I hope you settle the matter. All the best. 2 Likes |
| Re: . by Tenrack: 1:19pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Ganicus676:Some dey say I dey bitter because I dey state am as e be. As I dey now, i no send any girl. I like my freedom. They have absolutely nothing good to offer you I promise. If no be pikin wetin person dey put woman for house for. They are too much of a risk and liability. My married friend keeps disturbing me with requests as if I send am work. I don kuku stop to pick e call. You can never tame a woman unless na God won help you. I really pity men wey dey trust their women completely. If only they can access their partner's phones... 2 Likes |
| Re: . by Nobody: 1:57pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Putting on my thinking hat 🎩 🤔 The matter is complicated. I don’t think it’s something she’s just starting. It’s probably what she learnt since high school. Best option is to talk to your sis, not confrontational but try to reason with her and find the “cause and reason behind some of her actions” cos all what’s I’ve been reading from your post were solutions without finding the root cause. Even if she goes into another relationship, she’ll still end up bringing shame to you and your family and you know the saying “one bad egg ruins the basket” Try to involve your mom so you all can have a heart to heart discussion with her and ask her why she wants to ruin the family name. Better still call a family meeting without involving the man and listen to the causes. Not only throwing blames and consequences. If the decision should result in her being single, then it’s fine. Make sure it is rung in her ear that if she loses this relationship that she won’t have the backings of the family in her next relationship and the fault is all hers. Let’s think about the “Legely guy”🤔 are you sure he’s not the guy that deflowered her or the guy that made the first imprint in her🤔 (okafor’s law) If he’s the one, then she should stop relationship because she would never stop seeing it😁 Point is try to find the cause of it, then deal with it or later on don’t be surprised when your husband compares you to her in the nearest future. Shalom😎 🚶♂️ |
| Re: . by Nobody: 1:57pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Samantha125:Don't tell him about the money. She trusted you, let the man find out on his own. send the photos to your email, or your Google drive and delete the ones on your phone. You can also tell your husband about it depending on His personality. Just so he knows. 5 Likes |
| Re: . by Samantha125(op): 2:08pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Problem is that we are staying in different provinces, I'm currently based in KZN province while she's based in Gauteng province, so meeting face to face won't be possible right now and according to the fiance, she doesn't know that he knows about the affair. Fourthpredator: |
| Re: . by Fourthpredator: 2:49pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Samantha125:You should tell the man that he should please break up with your sister that your sister cannot change, so that your sister doesn't continue hurting him. The reason I am advocating for a break up is that even if your sister's fiance decides to forgive her he might be holding a grudge and if in the future they are having an argument, that grudge may influence him negatively to do something he will regret. Also don't consider your sister a bad person, she might be in a relationship just because of what society will say or because of financial benefits, if you guys can talk even on the phone, you should try to convince your sister and her fiance if they can consider an open relationship since she likes the freedom of having multiple s$xual partners. Who knows, seeing her fiance with other women might trigger jealousy that will change her behavior and make her consider being faithful Your sister situation requires you a delicate approach so that you don't ruin your relationship you guys have. 1 Like |
| Re: . by NiRfreak(m): 2:50pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Tell ur husband and make him promise he won't divulge it out. Don't tell the man about the fact that you and ur sister lied about her pay. Don't get urself involved, your sister will hate you for it forever. And she will put the blame of her marriage crash on that singular act of conspiring with her man to crash her marriage. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Ganicus676: 3:03pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Tenrack:I get one current girl wey use mouth finish me in the name of motivational talks(wetin vex me be say na g-boy she dey use compare with me) Years back, I'll have given her a piece of my mouth but instead I just kept quiet and swallow all the shalaye with water... Since that day, I mean every single day, she calls at least 5 times and never for once will I pick, even if them put gun for my head, neither would I blacklist the number.. She's in the place that I created specially for dumb women.... 1 Like |
| Re: . by Nobody: 3:08pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
If you expose our sister, she will come after your own marriage meaning you also have skeleton in your cupboard and your other sisters are likely into the same evilness against good men too. Men who get married these days are really getting into hell. |
| Re: . by peanutbutterr: 3:13pm On Oct 17, 2025*. Modified: 4:59am On Oct 19, 2025 |
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| Re: . by Tenrack: 3:20pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Ganicus676:welldone. Make she go meet those Gboys. God punish debii |
| Re: . by Mko123(m): 3:23pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
I've nearly given you a warm hearted advice not until I gaze on children of Tinubu on your last line. I lost all advice immediately because all your write up over there is not up to a scene in the movie we the Tinubu children are shooting titled The Great Tinubulation |
| Re: . by Ganicus676: 3:23pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Tenrack:After all the stress Baba Bola dey give person, no woman to fit add to the stress at all... God pass all of them...😁 1 Like |
| Re: . by Samantha125(op): 3:27pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Sorry about that, just pretend you didn't see it...  Mko123: |
| Re: . by Helpout12345: 3:28pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
I only blame the mu.mu man that saw an old woman with 2 children from 2 different men and still became over serious with her. I am not blaming the woman at all. If she is just a jewel of a woman, she will not be outside with 2 kids from 2 different men. Maga must always learn the hard way. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Samantha125(op): 4:15pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Well, he also has a child from his previous relationship. Helpout12345: |
| Re: . by Helpout12345: 4:52pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Samantha125:That doesn't still justify why he should settle for such woman. Or is your sister feeding him and paying his bills?? |
| Re: . by Samantha125(op): 5:35pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
I'm not trying to justify her actions and all I know is that they're both working... I don't know much about their household arrangements because it's none of my business, but the father of her first child is paying child support despite being physically absent... She has also opened two accounts for her two children from previous relationships, she has been saving some money for them from her salary and the fiance is aware. But still, what she did is uncalled for and despicable, the guy doesn't deserve any of it. Helpout12345: |
| Re: . by Double0h7(f): 5:49pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Your loyalties need to be with your sister. Delete these pictures and tell her man not to involve you in their relationship. I sense that you don’t like your sister very much but you can’t betray her. Nobody held a gun to your head to open the account for her so finish what you started. Stop communicating with her man and tell him to contact her parents because you don’t have authority being the younger sister. You don’t know the hand life will deal you so don’t pick a stranger over your older sister no matter how nice the stranger might seem to you. Live and let live. Try to forgive yourself and in the future don’t allow anyone to pull you into their relationships. 1 Like |
| Re: . by Tenrack: 6:29pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Ganicus676:I dey tell you bros na man wey Neva Sabi go let one girl dey stress him life |
| Re: . by Tenrack: 6:34pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Lest I forget; In all that you do... AVOID SINGLE MOTHERS! AVOID SINGLE MOTHERS!! AVOID SINGLE MOTHERS!!! AVOID SINGLE MOTHERS!!! Just fvvvk dem and go your own way. Nothing good can come out from starting a relationship with one No say I no tell you oh. Your case might not be any different. 4 Likes |
| Re: . by Nobody: 6:37pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
Tenrack:Verily verily I say unto you. No truer words have been spoken. 🚶♂️ 3 Likes |
| Re: . by Tenrack: 6:44pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
SpencerForbes:bros seriously. Get one fine Yoruba Muslim babe wey I be dey eye early last year. I could tell she was into me too as I'd caught her severally staring at me. So I walked up to her to collect her digit which she gave me without stress. So I started texting her and I discovered that she was replying me in a dry manner. I stopped after a while. Every now and then I'd come across her and I'll just throway face...this continues for a while until I stopped going to Thier shop to buy stuff. I later discovered after a while that she had a protruded tummy- she don get belle- dawan make me comot mind finish. She later gave birth to a baby girl. Now recently I've been going there to withdraw money and I noticed that she's always so friendly even trying to crack jokes with me. Laughing at almost everything I say.....e come be like we Neva talk before. She was even saying I should come by often bla bla bla....I was now wondering what was the attitude for earlier? Now wey you don born for another person.... wetin I won come use you do now? In her mind now...very confused bunch |
| Re: . by Samantha125(op): 6:53pm On Oct 17, 2025 |
What do you mean I don't like my sister when I've always been the one who had her back when the entire family turned their backs on her? No one at home takes her seriously anymore because they regard her as a disappointment... They didn't even think her relationship would last a year but I've always tried to overlook her flaws and see the goodness in her like I do with everyone...That's why she even trusted me with her money... And where did I say I kept in communication with the man? He sent me a WhatsApp message out of the blue and I clearly stated how I was surprised to even see his message because it was the first time ever that he did, was I supposed to ignore him? It was even the first time him and I held a conversation. And if I didn't like her, do you think I'd have bothered opening this thread? I mean I could've just went straight ahead and told the guy everything. Double0h7: |
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