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greatiyk4u:
➜Forgiveness abhors enemity in any form

I don't understand what any of this means? Where do you get the notion that forgiveness does not allow one to have enemies or whatever it is you claim?

Mourn what?


The woman did the right thing, make everybody rest.

SpencerForbes:
But the husband can disrespect her😂 I believe it’s a thing of choice and if she doesn’t want to, then it’s justified cos it wasn’t agreed in the family that the man will be polygamous. If you make any decisions be ready to face the consequences. The man made his decision and is bearing it. Let’s leave the woman to make hers too.

Just imagine if it was your mum, would you even allow her to go to the burial🤔
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You wont allow your mum to go to the burial, meaning you too won't attend your dad's burial is that it?

Kobojunkie:
I don't understand what any of this means? Where do you get the notion that forgiveness does not allow one to have enemies or whatever it is you claim?

The word of God in the Christian Bible encouraged us to love our neighbors as well love ourselves and also advised to always pray for our enemies

greatiyk4u:
➜The word of God in the Christian Bible encouraged us to love our neighbors as well love ourselves and also advised to always pray for our enemies

You are clearly lying since no word of the God of the Israelites alone suggests any of what you claim thus far.

The command to love their neighbors — Leviticus 19 vs 18 - 20 — was given to the Israelites in tandem with laws which decreed that no mercy be shown to sinners and enemies. You folks need to stop trying to wrap your lies around the mentions of a God who has nothing to do with you lot.

Una lucky say she no come with her side bobo and celebratory band. Just respect yourself and accept her presence as enough. Na for inside shame your brother die. Such burial suppose to be quiet and fast. Sorry for your shameful loss.

Kalulu44:
You wont allow your mum to go to the burial, meaning you too won't attend your dad's burial is that it?

It’s very possible cos women are more influential to the kids than men. Especially if the man was irresponsible coupled with the adultery. Can you imagine the betrayal and lack of trust?? If he had gotten another wife, I’m sure it wouldn’t be this bad but he betrayed his family and the in-laws are making it harder on the woman. That burial should be done in shame and silence cos I’m sure he was focusing on taking care of his side chicks than his wife.

Shedrack777:
better not going to the burial at all, than attending the burial with pepper red lipstick. It's like adding salt to injury.
If she was my in law and she attended the burial that way, forget, I swear she go collect better slap. He died on his side chick doesn't mean she can disrespect us

For her to come to the burial is disrespecting you😳 Oya Kukuma restrict her movement. Because she’s married to you means she’s not human. Which village are you people from? I thought all this Sh*te was gone with Mary slessor? I’m very sure with this your mentality, if the source of the man’s death wasn’t found, you’d accused the woman of being a witch🤔

She’s a free human being and you all have no right to control her behavior. Leave her let her face the consequences from the “gods” the same way the man faced his own😤
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Generally I find this sort of things absurd to respond to but as they say, things happens a lot in this life that doesn't even make sense.

As for the you OP, if it was the wife that died under the same circumference and your brother is trying to mourn her, will you not call him a bastard?

I'm kind of wondering what the mourning is meant to achieve. Bring the husband back or get him to rest in peace?

Refusing to mourn a dead husband because he cheated on her is a sign that she never did love the man in the first place.

Her lack of love might have driven the man into the arms of a side chick.

Dogalmighty17:
Showing up all made up the way she did and leaving as soon as he was committed to the ground will indicate that her character is a possible reason why the husband looked outside in the first place.
I am not excusing the late husband's cheating. But whatever it is, he remains the father of her children and if she has nothing else to mourn for, that her kids will grow up without their father is reason enough.
Secondly, her actions indicate she is outrightly cutting ties with her husband's people. Possibly, that will be the last time they'll see her or the kids.
The way the husband died is shameful. The wife drawing attention to it by her actions, embarrasses her in-laws and her children. Of course there will be mourners at the burial who are not family and they will be wondering why the wife left. They will get to know the reason why and whatever positive memory they may have about the late husband, will vaporise.

Any woman who can openly disrespect and disregard her in-laws like that is a woman who never had much regard or respect for her husband in the first place..


Kobojunkie avoid me. You go show here now now.

na them trying to gaslight a woman into mourning an adulterous man is wild for me.person wey suppose dey chuckle and Chew gum while casually watching his body go down

Secondly as long as the kids aren't babies they're adults, they know what went on,you cannot use the kids to gaslight who no wan mourn.you cannot force someone who doesn't want to mourn to mourn and to say her actions was probably the reason he cheated is another manipulative antic.1st of all the man in question is an adult that cannot be controlled so which 1 come be the woman's action possibly made him look outside. Mr man a man will do whatever he wants to do regardless of the type of wife he married so drop that one.that one no be talk and like someone rightly said the family expecting the woman to mourn is like a family of the husband expected to cry after the wife born b@s#ard.

Obviously you are that type of family. Like family members like brother. Its the entitlement to want to control a woman's emotion for me.orisirisi

Port8080:
Refusing to mourn a dead husband because he cheated on her is a sign that she never did love the man in the first place.

Her lack of love might have driven the man into the arms of a side chick.

will you mourn your wife assuming she died of adultery?. Stop dishing what you cannot eat Mr man

Every woman ceases to love a man the moment she knows he's engaging in adultery. The love dies a natural death .if she's still with him after adultery she's with him for other factors and not love.

Women if I'm lying, please expose the lies

Namaster:
The wife is a REALLY good person.
She went to the funeral.

A man died while actively DESECRATING his marriage why should the SCORNED wife mourn him?

Expecting the woman to mourn a husband who died while frolicking with his CONCUBINE is like expecting a man to mourn a wife who died while giving birth to a BASSSTAARRRRD.

It's MADNESS!

As that all he was known for tho?
She mustnt mourn if she feels that all the man was worth. Let her go and marry the one that doesn't cheat.

It seems the man left nothing reasonable behind. If he had left some valuable property, his wife would have valued his corpse. I know a woman who is about to inherit ₦40 million — such a person wouldn’t take her husband’s corpse for granted. To be poor and still frolic with side chick is out of place

The woman is right, but if you think she is not, you are right. All these comments are right nobody is wrong.
If you think I am right or wrong you are right 🤷😂

Kobojunkie:
You are clearly lying since no word of the God of the Israelites alone suggests any of what you claim thus far.

The command to love their neighbors — Leviticus 19 vs 18 - 20 — was given to the Israelites in tandem with laws which decreed that no mercy be shown to sinners and enemies. You folks need to stop trying to wrap your lies around the mentions of a God who has nothing to do with you lot.

Go through this

Here are some Bible quotes about loving your neighbors:
- *Key Verses*
- "Love your neighbor as yourself." - Mark 12:31, Matthew 22:39
- "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." - Leviticus 19:18, Galatians 5:14
- *Expanding on Love*
- "Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." - Romans 13:10
- "Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up." - Romans 15:2
- *How to Treat Neighbors*
- "Treat others the same way you want them to treat you." - Luke 6:31
- "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." - Ephesians 4:32
- *Importance of Loving Neighbors*
- "For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'" - Galatians 5:14
- "If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself,’ you are doing well." - James 2:8¹ ² ³

SpencerForbes:
It’s very possible cos women are more influential to the kids than men. Especially if the man was irresponsible coupled with the adultery. Can you imagine the betrayal and lack of trust?? If he had gotten another wife, I’m sure it wouldn’t be this bad but he betrayed his family and the in-laws are making it harder on the woman. That burial should be done in shame and silence cos I’m sure he was focusing on taking care of his side chicks than his wife.

You still didn't answer my question?

Kalulu44:
You still didn't answer my question?

If the dad wasn’t responsible and only bore the name dad, I won’t attend😏
They can call “the gods”.
If I should go, it should be like going to a friend’s burial or service to humanity but as a family no.
He made his choice to be irresponsible so do I also have the right to make my own choices and face the consequences.
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SpencerForbes:
If the dad wasn’t responsible and only bore the name dad, I won’t attend😏
They can call “the gods”.
If I should go, it should be like going to a friend’s burial or service to humanity but as a family no.
He made his choice to be irresponsible so do I also have the right to make my own choices and face the consequences.
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Good that's what I want to hear. But if he was responsible for your upkeep till your adulthood but just made that singular mistake of offending your mum before his death, you will tow ur mum line and forget all he did for you

Kalulu44:
Good that's what I want to hear. But if he was responsible for your upkeep till your adulthood but just made that singular mistake of offending your mum before his death, you will tow ur mum line and forget all he did for you

I’ll attend for my own sake and leave her to make her own decision if she wants to be there. I didn’t marry him for her, she should have known before marrying him so that was her decision and she’s facing the consequences.

But I won’t try to force her. If she wants to come, I’ll let her make the decision cos she’s the one that’s hurt not me. But I’ll pay my last respect to my dad.

Who knows if the mum was cheating also but was just too smart for anyone to know🤔

Mourning is overrated

Sonnobax15:

Painful to read..

But personally,I have two rules to forgiveness which are--"When you give birth, I'll forgive you no matter what you did to me". And secondly,in death --"I don't nurture hatred for someone even till when he's no more.....

Reminds me of a saying where I come from: "A woman that births children does no wrong."

Chilipepper:
My brother's wife has refused to mourn him because he died with his sidechick: Lady seeks help

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It is quiet shocking that she attended the burial. She shouldn't have been anywhere near there.

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Chilipepper:
My brother's wife has refused to mourn him because he died with his sidechick: Lady seeks help

she suppose arrest d dead body self

greatiyk4u:
Go through this

Here are some Bible quotes about loving your neighbors:
- *Key Verses*
- "Love your neighbor as yourself." - Mark 12:31, Matthew 22:39
- "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." - Leviticus 19:18, Galatians 5:14
- *Expanding on Love*
- "Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." - Romans 13:10
- "Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up." - Romans 15:2
- *How to Treat Neighbors*
- "Treat others the same way you want them to treat you." - Luke 6:31
- "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." - Ephesians 4:32
- *Importance of Loving Neighbors*
- "For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'" - Galatians 5:14
- "If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself,’ you are doing well." - James 2:8¹ ² ³

Na to lift verses out of context to get them to saying What they really don't you liars dey always take first in. If you go back through many of those same books you lifted those verses from you will find other passes which deal with how to handle enemies and so on! 🥱🥱🥱

Abeg, carry this una nonsense religious delusions waka pass me today. I get better way I wan focus on. 🥱🥱

What good does her mourning or lack of it do for the dead?

Oboy but ur bro no try.

Namaster:
The wife is a REALLY good person.
She went to the funeral.

A man died while actively DESECRATING his marriage why should the SCORNED wife mourn him?

Expecting the woman to mourn a husband who died while frolicking with his CONCUBINE is like expecting a man to mourn a wife who died while giving birth to a BASSSTAARRRRD.

It's MADNESS!

Laughing here. The woman is holy, right?

The brother wife is 100% RIGHT.

And to think of it, are you supposed to be demanding she mourns for him or you are supposed to be offering her apologies for the disgrace of a husband (from your family) that she married?

And you can see, you are a woman! You will wish that such circumstances (of a cheating husband) don't happen to you, but see how you empathize with another woman?

Women are their own enemies!