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I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Congratulations op.


Inu mi dun for you.




Congratulations once again,we should celebrate your divorce with a bowl of cold starch and steaming hot plate of Banga soup..


Bro the wiveshood is proud of you....Damn i m super proud of you.

You did the right thing .She can't give you peace so it better she should leave . God I no one marry two wife or divorce please give a woman that will give me peace of mind because I no like wahala I can't shout or argue with woman

You did the right thing to divorce her,God bless you richly

Congratulations @OP!

guest1234:
➜....My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.
➜ This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.
➜ From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

1. Why is your family putting their mouth when the decision is yours? Did they have some sort of contract with your wife that they then feel it is their place to interfere in the divorce?

2. Good decision! From your post, it is not clear if you have actually implemented the divorce or if you only recently decided on this.

3. Please, be sure to opt for shared/joint custody of your children(or full custody if you feel your wife is a threat to them), so you can only have a part in the raising of your own children and maybe have them at least 2 weeks out of each month.

Be safe bro

Two people that once professed undying love. Love is the greatest force in the universe. Some philosopher said love makes the world go round.

As a retired old man, I've studied love In hindsight. The speed of light transition between love and hate amazes me. The human mind is overdue for an upgrade so that we can better handle the love energy.

1. Didn’t read.

2. Congratulations.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Kobojunkie:
Congratulations @OP!1. Why is your family putting their mouth when the decision is yours? Did they have some sort of contract with your wife that they then feel it is their place to interfere in the divorce?

2. Good decision! From your post, it is not clear if you have actually implemented the divorce or if you only recently decided on this.

3. Please, be sure to opt for shared/joint custody of your children(or full custody if you feel your wife is a threat to them), so you can only have a part in the raising of your own children and maybe have them at least 2 weeks out of each month.

1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Hmmmmmm, life no balance truly!

I can feel your pain Sir, it hurts to give it all and still be at the receiving end irrespective of one's gender.

Are kids involved already? If Yes, I feel for them......try your possible best to always be part of the kid's growth while you priorities your sanity, you can as well see a counselor.

Be strong, may God Almighty strengthen you in this crucial time, you're not alone.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

Glad to know that there are no kids involved. Or else you would be stuck with having to raise them with your abuser at least until they turn 18 or for life..🥱🥱

Please fast forward your exit and to get your folks not to try to strong arm the woman in anyway; all that can go south quickly. 🥱🥱

Please file those papers ASAP so you can be free and begin your healing from all that unnecessary suffering you endured for no good reason whatsoever.

Irrespective of who is right or wrong, when it has gotten to the point of fighting with sharp objects, the best decision is to at least take a break

You waited too long

On the grounds of domestic violence, I’d say RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
Since the union didn’t produce kids, don’t even let her know where you now live. You can leave the house for her; a woman who would stab you in the neck would burn down the house with you in it.

By now you for don die, stabbed in the neck, she could have done his while you where sleeping.
Lesson is zero tolerance for any kind of violence physical of emotional. Marriage should be an agreement based on trust and understanding.
She's definitely out there looking for another husband to kill.
Better make a police report so as to avert possible disaster in future, make she go join Nigerian army them go need her stabbing service for bandit camps for sambissa Forest

Kobojunkie:
Congratulations @OP!1. Why is your family putting their mouth when the decision is yours? Did they have some sort of contract with your wife that they then feel it is their place to interfere in the divorce?

2. Good decision! From your post, it is not clear if you have actually implemented the divorce or if you only recently decided on this.

3. Please, be sure to opt for shared/joint custody of your children(or full custody if you feel your wife is a threat to them), so you can only have a part in the raising of your own children and maybe have them at least 2 weeks out of each month.

Remove your "Point 1".
No sane family will watch the wife of their son murder him in the name of marriage before reacting.

"Points 2 & 3" are good enough and well said without "Point 1".

No be me una won take settle. You go still remove her pant after settling with my advice. Putting my life in danger.

You made the right choice.

At least you lived to tell the tale.

No matter what - violence is a NO for me

OKOATA:
Story of a weakling man, Mother nature should have done her thing and took you along when she stabbed you in the neck. People like you won't learn so I know this won't be your first time.

I guess you aren't married Sir
After the rigours of counselling.

Billing upon billing onto marriage plans.

You would understand that leaving is almost always a last option, in the case of op to save his life.

I don't call it weak... But being matured and saving his investment.
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After over a 100 slaps this year alone, you still didn't feel like quitting until she stabbed you, if you had die, shey na your ghost for dey write this story abi?



Op, you failed when you chop the first slap and didn't say anything, like which kin women una dey carry put for house that would slap you and still be feeling alright....

calabaman:
I guess you aren't married Sir
After the rigours of counselling.

Billing upon billing onto marriage plans.

You would understand that leaving is almost always a last option, in the case of op to save his life.

I don't call it weak... But being matured and saving his investment.
.

So if you use your money to buy food and you find out that the food is causing you severe stomach ache, you go continue eating the food because of the money you used to buy it right?



Now I see why plenty married folks dey die for their marriage, cause they are all about what outsiders would say...


Yes, na the same outsiders go attend their burial and say plenty Ehya.....



Shey if say op die from stab wound, all the money he had wasted to do marriage would be used to wake him back up...


Rubbish and ingredients....

You did the right thing. I want you to know that is not all people that have the capability to be married.

Some have mental disorder and unloveable. My friend escaped death in the hand of his ex-wife on two occasions. He ran to U.K after series of physical and spiritual attacks from this so called woman. But thank God, he found a good woman who is giving him peace of mind.

Once again, you did the right thing in walking away. Don't see yourself as failure, give your yourself time to heal and fall in love again, this time with your eyes opened.

You did well Brother. Try and stop every communication with her even if it comes from an ordained person. Don't link up with her in any way. Stay happy for yourself. Glad you're free now.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.

She has slapped you over a 100 times just this year?

To leave your marriage is never enough. Get her arrested and jailed!

That's what she would have done if she's in your position.

Seems you married a runs girl or agbero. I’ll love to hear her own side of the story and also know the root causes of the problems at home before I can say my mind.
Leave first, don’t decide before I speak my mind. So you will understand the truth.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Thanks God u use your head, you didn't entertain Jesus stories. I lost my father to his wife. RIP baba

SpencerForbes:
Seems you married a runs girl or agbero. I’ll love to hear her own side of the story and also know the root causes of the problems at home before I can say my mind.
Leave first, don’t decide before I speak my mind. So you will understand the truth.

No b everything Dem dey hear two sides of the story, abi till she kills him . I've lost over #2B inheritance to this daughters of eve. Be guided

Kobojunkie:
Congratulations @OP!1. Why is your family putting their mouth when the decision is yours? Did they have some sort of contract with your wife that they then feel it is their place to interfere in the divorce?

2. Good decision! From your post, it is not clear if you have actually implemented the divorce or if you only recently decided on this.

3. Please, be sure to opt for shared/joint custody of your children(or full custody if you feel your wife is a threat to them), so you can only have a part in the raising of your own children and maybe have them at least 2 weeks out of each month.

Guy , you fold my hands big time. Marriage has always been btw families. Dem for go baby mama route na

calabaman:
I guess you aren't married Sir
After the rigours of counselling.

Billing upon billing onto marriage plans.

You would understand that leaving is almost always a last option, in the case of op to save his life.

I don't call it weak... But being matured and saving his investment.
.

Bro, e get why I dey hustle money. See, I b confirm northerner📌💯. Women na tissue paper . That gender will stop you from reaching your potentials

Ganicus676:
So if you use your money to buy food and you find out that the food is causing you severe stomach ache, you go continue eating the food because of the money you used to buy it right?



Now I see why plenty married folks dey die for their marriage, cause they are all about what outsiders would say...


Yes, na the same outsiders go attend their burial and say plenty Ehya.....



Shey if say op die from stab wound, all the money he had wasted to do marriage would be used to wake him back up...


Rubbish and ingredients....

That guy get shallow reasoning, very anyhow mentality

ProfGday:
You did the right thing. I want you to know that is not all people that have the capability to be married.

Some have mental disorder and unloveable. My friend escaped death in the hand of his ex-wife on two occasions. He ran to U.K after series of physical and spiritual attacks from this so called woman. But thank God, he found a good woman who is giving him peace of mind.

Once again, you did the right thing in walking away. Don't see yourself as failure, give your yourself time to heal and fall in love again, this time with your eyes opened.

Fall in love again, this time with your eyes opened.

God bless the senior man, Barman give him a chilled bottle of orijin 🍻