₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
I disagree with this! The thing about traditional marriage is that it is not written anywhere in stone, yet people to this day pretend it is an ironclad arrangement that should be followed no matter what. Why? Because the system thrives on the ignorance of the female gender.

Marriage is already an agreement/contract between a man and a woman. The contract allows the women to make arrangements to have their own allowance from the dividends of the marriage. The law does not literally need to spell these things out. They put in labor during their time in the marriage, and they should know they are not slaves but partners in the marriage. If the man can enjoy the dividends of the marriage, they too should be entitled to their own share.

What you had in the UK is a legal marriage, not a traditional marriage. And bad then, the law literally had to specify that women couldn't receive so and so. Those limitations are what had to be removed, leaving the contracts up to individual couples to add whatever conditions they wish. Nigerian legal marriage laws are defined a lot similarly to what is obtained in the US and UK. Marital property is recognized, and yes, depending on the circumstances, women are entitled to a portion of it. But that is not what this is about now.

Kobojunkie:
When did Tiwa became the standard for all women including your mothers and grandmothers? 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! They are constantly having disagreements, meaning those kids are literally being subjected to all that toxicity living under the same roof as the two.

Their divorce should be granted abeg, and the man should either take full custody of the children, at least until the woman is able to secure herself a place and money, or he should be given shared/joint custody — each has the children two weeks out of each month — and they can each shoulder raising the kids that way.

Kobojunkie:
When did Tiwa became the standard for all women including your mothers and grandmothers? 🥱🥱🥱

Onegai:
Painful Fact for men to accept:

Once the kids come in, Men like marriage, Women don't.

Check it in EVERY country.

The only reason she's fainting is because she has 6 kids and no money. She knows once the marriage is over, the man will disappear by December and abandon his responsibility to his kids. That's why she's fighting.

The cure for this is to give the man the kids and wish him well. A lot of women are not wired to be Stepmothers, a lot of men aren't wired to be Stepfathers. So the reality of kids usually clears everyone's eyes.

For women who have money, marriage doesn't pay them because it's an additional responsibility. When my cousin's husband started misbehaving and fighting her, she merely laughed. When the man started to para, she moved her kids into Eko Hotel and called police to evict the man from the house. That's the power of Banking Money (all the way to CBN), babay. She has not replaced him, she won't because she doesn't want to be playacting Submissive Wife to a Man, when she has bought a house abroad and on the island.

That Tiwa Savage interview came from the same PR stables as the one 2face used to use ("no woman can control me, I'm polygamous blah blah blah".

They say it to trend (I worked in the industry, we know these things).

Tiwa has only one child, lots of money and can sleep with any man she wants.
What on earth will she do with marriage, so that the man will be telling her to stay home on a Friday night instead of hanging out with Wizkid and Cubana Chief Priest, complain say she no dey serve am his meals on bended knee and his mother will be complaining about her tattoos and how she doesn't spend ileya in the kitchen with the other co-wives but fixed her nails and is gisting in the parlour?

C'mon nau, make una look reality in the eye.

Triangles1:
It's easy for a man to remarry but for woman it's hard.


Women's benefit more than men in Marriage.

Sirjamo:
Adultery is the only thing that can make me divorce my wife. Who would take care of the children like her? I'd rather take a second wife.
I believe mothers should be there for their children, no matter what.

Sirjamo:
Adultery is the only thing that can make me divorce my wife. Who would take care of the children like her? I'd rather take a second wife.
I believe mothers should be there for their children, no matter what.

Tenrack:

RISQUE:
That man have had enough. Believe me

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! They are constantly having disagreements, meaning those kids are literally being subjected to all that toxicity living under the same roof as the two.

Their divorce should be granted abeg, and the man should either take full custody of the children, at least until the woman is able to secure herself a place and money, or he should be given shared/joint custody — each has the children two weeks out of each month — and they can each shoulder raising the kids that way.

Melagros:
COMRADES, don't you think the husband try and forgive her?

Neddstark:
The woman wants the marriage but cannot help being herself. Now reality has dawned on her that she's about to be a single mother and the only sex she would be getting is from randy men who will just knack and go. Madam just faint.🤣

Melagros:
COMRADES, don't you think the husband try and forgive her?

Onegai:
But did I lie

Tiwa can collect N1mil from any man right now, the man will even do his best in bed, because he wants to impress her. That sam man will be squeezing his face for his wife when she's humbly begging for N300,000 to complete their own children's schoolfees. Why would Tiwa or Toke Makinwa wish to give that up, just so that they have to be kneeling down to greet an elderly MiL whilst their husbands are squeezing face, looking to humble them?

Or are men drinking paraga and dying in hotels to impress their wives?

I hate sin and divorce but let's be real honest here: most women don't remarry because after a while they realize how much freedom they now have. Even abroad, most of them will talk about how peaceful it is, how they can finally arrange the house as they feel like, how they can have hobbies and go dancing without wondering what to make for dinner.

Men need to be taken care of or they die young. Which is why you'll see men enduring shege in 2nd marriages but they won't leave: they don't want to be mocked by people who warned them plus they're terrified of starting afresh for the 3rd time.

Sirjamo:
Adultery is the only thing that can make me divorce my wife. Who would take care of the children like her? I'd rather take a second wife.
I believe mothers should be there for their children, no matter what.