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natedensel:
The problem is why can't she just LovePeddler herself and leave, why is she now trying to control a family she just invaded few months ago, now she's diverting every support my siblings are supposed to get from their father for her and her child, her grown up teenage child, did you read what I wrote at all? She's now my father's voice like she speaks for him now, isn't it logical to nip this in the bud before it becomes rooted.

SpencerForbes:
Lemme advise you from experience. Bro leave this house. Even if it means squatting with your uncles for now. I wish I could reveal more cos I know the feeling
Leave your siblings and find your way out first then come back for them. A blind man doesn’t lead a blind man out of the pit.

If you challenge or talk to him, you’ll just be worsening things. Especially if he’s an egoistical man
Anything you say will be used against you and both of them will make the house unbearable for you
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natedensel:
My mum died not long ago, and my dad has a hand in her demise because her marriage was a turbulent one and she died of HBP, now shortly after she died, my dad came along with one woman who is very bold and shameless, first off she already has children from another fling not marriage, and now she comes and sleeps over, infact she's not discreet about it she's bold, brazen and doesn't feel ashamed of what she's doing.

Recently she has gotten more relaxed , she used to mind her business, she comes and do her thing and leaves, now she overstays, and she's now meddling in our family affairs, trying to mom me and my siblings now, then turning our dad away from us, now my dad sponsors her and her child from another relationship but neglects us like he did our mom.

I could easily make life miserable for her but I am not interested because I'm moving out as soon as possible, but what about my siblings, she has taken over everything and now she's my father's voice.

AngelSlay:
This moment in your life — as ugly, unfair, and heartbreaking as it is — won’t define the rest of your story. Families break, people fail us, and love can feel hijacked, but your identity is not wrapped up in your father's failures or this woman's presence.

Your role now is to:

Protect your own heart.

Stay emotionally available to your siblings.

Choose peace over revenge — not because she deserves peace, but because YOU do.


You are showing more maturity, emotional intelligence, and strength than most adults would in this situation. And that says something powerful about who you're becoming — not in spite of this, but because of it.

If you ever want help planning how to talk to your dad (if that’s a road you want to take), or help navigating boundaries after you move out, I’ve got you.

You're not alone in this.

dauntless15:
whatever man, there's a level of intelligence I interact with, just know this so you won't expect more replies.

id4sho:
dont tolerate nonsense from her. try and get copies of all landed assets. she will kill your father and flee with properties. am in same position now

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to the @OP, abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

We4all:
The butterfly thinks himself a bird! What makes you think you are more intelligent that the person you mentioned? Because you said so? Anyways, talk is cheap and you just proved it.

natedensel:
➜It's like you know my dad, yes truly everything you do he holds onto it and uses it against you, even words you utter he remembers and reference it always and he doesn't forgive, so yes he's an egoistical man, I had an altercation with him because of the way he treated my mum one certain time and he held it against me to the point of bringing it up at a family meeting, ➜so yes you said the fact, na that same iron clad person one woman dey use like doll so, it beats my imagination it's like I'm in a nightmare I will not wake up from.

natedensel:
My dad has never set foot in a church, nor have I, and he's not Muslim, but he believes in God, just that he's not churchy or religious, but I'm in my 20s and the oldest and my siblings are teenagers and adolescents.

id4sho:
➜dont tolerate nonsense from her. try and get copies of all landed assets. she will kill your father and flee with properties. am in same position now

Kobojunkie:
This here reveals a lot as to why you decided to attack the woman and not your father from the start. It also tells us why your father does not think twice to humiliate you and your siblings while serving the children of this other woman. Like many have already suggested, you should probably be looking for ways to free yourselves from his presence and dependence on him.

2. Nah! That is merely you confusing two different things. An egotistical man is not necessarily a man who is a good father to his kids or a man who does not desire and worship women. You forget that he is a man and has a type and when that type comes in his life, he is willing to give up on any others for her sake too.

dauntless15:
whatever man, there's a level of intelligence I interact with, just know this so you won't expect more replies.

Lekby25:
➜All of you that has no value for Jesus, i can assure you, you will be brought down to your knees to confess his name, except God is no longer alive i swear. Mark my word for it

dmangodwin:
Nice one . A junkie always thinks weirdly.

ThinkWISELY:
God bless you abundantly sir, please check my signature and so sorry for the stress. I qouted the acc earleir, they keep removing it, the mods.

Onegai:
OP, look for the wisest, richest family member you have (Nigerians respect money like mad) and ask him/her to speak to your dad, very calmly.

The person should tell your father: "this love will finish and in your old age, you'll look for your children to support you but they'll tell you to follow the love that made you chase them away".

Then let the rich person very symbolically, in front of the woman, wash his/hands in a bowl of water (Nigerians fear symbolic religious gestures) and say loudly "I will take these children and make them great! And their prayers and glory will be mine!". Then leave calmly and dignified.

You and your siblings should cry, act afraid, enter room and loudly do devotion.

Let no relative come and visit your dad.

Once that seed has been planted in your father's head, don't stress him. Let the women unravel by continuing being shameless (she will desperately try to hold onto your dad with sexxx and manipulation).

Watch your father get more quiet. Then maybe sabotage his car in 2 months (half packet of Dangote sugar in his fuel tank, plant 2 nails in his front tyre another time etc), just be doing small small stuff (mess with the NEPA wiring, eye drop in his medicine so he will have stomach ache etc), that looks like spiritual attack whilst reminding him of your relative's words. Let your youngest call your dad one afternoon in his room and say "Daddy, I had a bad dream, please can we pray together, let me pray for you" (ideally this should come after some months of sabotage, once seed has germinated into a plant )

Make your papa dey fear.

Gbam.

Your father is not going to hear word now because she's influencing him to join in her shamelessness. A good woman would encourage a man to take care of all the kids, she will be worried that the man is neglecting his kids (even if it's just because she doesn't want curses on her life). She's not a good person.

natedensel:
My mum died not long ago, and my dad has a hand in her demise because her marriage was a turbulent one and she died of HBP, now shortly after she died, my dad came along with one woman who is very bold and shameless, first off she already has children from another fling not marriage, and now she comes and sleeps over, infact she's not discreet about it she's bold, brazen and doesn't feel ashamed of what she's doing.

Recently she has gotten more relaxed , she used to mind her business, she comes and do her thing and leaves, now she overstays, and she's now meddling in our family affairs, trying to mom me and my siblings now, then turning our dad away from us, now my dad sponsors her and her child from another relationship but neglects us like he did our mom.

I could easily make life miserable for her but I am not interested because I'm moving out as soon as possible, but what about my siblings, she has taken over everything and now she's my father's voice.

dauntless15:
Do you know What a junkie mean at all? Una dey muzz me for this space, make it make sense.

Arobake:
How about your email address? Isn't that allowed too?
Your account details isnt on your profile.

Ps: Im not a man.
Thank you.xoxo

natedensel:
It's like you know my dad, yes truly everything you do he holds onto it and uses it against you, even words you utter he remembers and reference it always and he doesn't forgive, so yes he's an egoistical man, I had an altercation with him because of the way he treated my mum one certain time and he held it against me to the point of bringing it up at a family meeting, so yes you said the fact, na that same iron clad person one woman dey use like doll so, it beats my imagination it's like I'm in a nightmare I will not wake up from.