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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by horpe132(m): 3:25pm On Oct 21, 2025

That boy is scarred and traumatised forever....chai

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Angelfrost(m): 3:26pm On Oct 21, 2025

Well, she did say NO! Just with an unnecessarily lengthy and rude statement.

Somehow, I feel he kinda knew this would happen but still chose to "try his luck". tongue

It's not that hard to know a lady or guy is not really into you... Their body languages and attitudes towards your pleasantries speak it loud enough. Some of you simply choose to ignore the signs.

This is why the best thing anyone can and should do, especially guys, is to devote time to working on their goals and careers. Great relationships will happen if meant to happen, and when the right person that values you comes along.

I honestly hate it when people try to force relationships where no real chemistry exists. You simply open up yourself to embarrassments like this.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Bosman17: 3:27pm On Oct 21, 2025

You’ll be exactly what she called you if you haven’t blocked her by now! And start working very hard on yourself. Quit the group of people saying negative things about Nigeria and work your ass off! She’ll be the one looking to date you. But if she sees you in near future and thinks “thank God I said No!” You have failed yourself!

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by alezzy13: 3:27pm On Oct 21, 2025

Obviously she didn't write that. Chatgpt tins

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by jaxxy(m): 3:28pm On Oct 21, 2025

shadrach77:
This is the reason why bannies will continue to win over the male folk. Imagine the guys on here blaming the guy for getting insulted when all he did was ask the ~~goat~~ girl out.

The guy should just keep his dignity by avoiding her totally. Trying to continue friendship with such a person will only escalate the ridicule.

The whole vile was unnecessary when a simple no would have been sufficient. Insecure thing trying to use a guy to boost her flattened ego

The guy gets blamed for giving the girl so much power to think she's all that and he's delusional.

When a girl is nice to u and when she's into u. He should know the difference and be able to measure.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by ledaman: 3:28pm On Oct 21, 2025

Why all the insult?
It's a crime to asked her out?
A gentle No would have been okay.
Just watch in the next few years, the lady would regret for not accepting his proposal.
Am sure one naughty Niggaaa is digging her kitten that why !

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Kalulu44: 3:29pm On Oct 21, 2025

eulogised:
She has a right to say NO? And it should not be a thing. Individual tastes and standards

Then she should have said the no without all the jargons she wrote there

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Nobody: 3:31pm On Oct 21, 2025

Jennyclay:
what’s wrong with you people? Is it a crime to set standard for yourself?

She clearly knows the guy is broke and he’s not fit to take good care of her. What if she accepts and she starts cheating on the man if he can’t provide her, think about it

No woman want to build with a broke poverty stricken man, definitely not me because it doesn’t end well

Nah my issue is not with the gal. The reason I called her agbero was that she didn’t sound nice at all. It was very easy for her to say no but she decided to humiliate him and lower his self esteem.

My problem is with the guy, you have to be sure a green light is a green light before making approach.
Mixed signals, you’re already feeling fly and I’m sure they’ve not really blended well for her to go that far.

But why should a relationship be based on the guy’s finance, before the relationship wasn’t she taking care of herself?? If she started cheating then she always wanted to cheat. There’s nothing bad if she can take care of herself while the guy handles little stuff.

Yes a man should not be broke cos he’s a liability to even his family but that shouldn’t be the main purpose of a relationship. He can assist but should not bear all the burden. Do you know what men face🤔 or you think it’s easy for us. We’ve got 2 times of your bills to pay and we still manage to smile.

Yeah it is not advisable to build with a poverty stricken man cos the relationship will be a distraction to him. But if you see a hustling 🥷 that can foot his bills and still assist you, then he deserves some love.

Relationship is not poverty eradication problem. Try to help yourself too and the ones the guy can do, let him do. Don’t ask for something you know you can’t get with your own money.
🚶‍♂️

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Tenrack: 3:32pm On Oct 21, 2025

dollynnn:
Please, try and get some rest.

He needs plenty of it.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by RillJ(m): 3:32pm On Oct 21, 2025

Go build yourself, she will come begging in 5 to 7 years time!

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Kalulu44: 3:33pm On Oct 21, 2025*

Fiscus105:
Not until guys know, it's not every girl you see you ask out.

I can see some people lashing the girl, the same people will be saying, girls should marry who they love and not for money, they are the once also be blaming the girl for rejecting the guy, because, she didn't love him an inch.

Who told you it's love that is the issue here, or that the guy isn't yet package to her taste

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by mandikwilliams: 3:33pm On Oct 21, 2025

Fast forward she will be one of the fellas parading Shiloh for a 2.0 version of that same guy she humiliated.
Her father maybe 3.0 version of that dude.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Angelfrost(m): 3:34pm On Oct 21, 2025

horpe132:
That boy is scarred and traumatised forever....chai

Not necessarily... It's merely a reality check for him.

Going forward he will be more attentive to red flags, and he won't make assumptions about emotions or act on feelings alone.

It's a learning curve which more guys than you think have passed through.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Tenrack: 3:34pm On Oct 21, 2025

Jennyclay:
what’s wrong with you people? Is it a crime to set standard for yourself?

She clearly knows the guy is broke and he’s not fit to take good care of her. What if she accepts and she starts cheating on the man if he can’t provide her, think about it

No woman want to build with a broke poverty stricken man, definitely not me because it doesn’t end well

is she an orphan? Is she so useless that she can't provide basic things for herself? Shiorr nonsense

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Angelfrost(m): 3:36pm On Oct 21, 2025

Bosman17:
You’ll be exactly what she called you if you haven’t blocked her by now! And start working very hard on yourself. Quit the group of people saying negative things about Nigeria and work your ass off! She’ll be the one looking to date you. But if she sees you in near future and thinks “thank God I said No!” You have failed yourself!

Lol... Most of the successful people in Nigeria actually say "negative things" about this country, while the ones that say nothing but good about the country remain average and miserable.

I am not saying it's right to constantly speak ill of your country, but success never works solely based on verbal affirmations and declarations.

Just saying...! tongue

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Nobody: 3:38pm On Oct 21, 2025

LordIsaac:
This is an example of what makes people bitter and sociopathic, especially towards the opposite gender. Tomorrow now if this seed she sows grows, she'd come to Nairaland and become a Kobojunkie!

Your heaven na disappearing message😂😂😂😂

Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Emeskhalifa(m): 3:39pm On Oct 21, 2025

Jakumo:
Fellas, this man's failed mission is a fine example of what a man should NEVER ask a woman. Any man foolhardy enough to formally apply for the official post of "boyfriend" will only succeed in killing off any chance of romance that might have existed BECAUSE that kind of question carries so much baggage as to erase whatever attraction the woman might have initially felt for the man if only he had kept things simple.

A young woman faced with a man applying to be her boyfriend will immediately sense that the man is lacking in confidence, and likely to become jealous and possessive as soon as the woman replies that such a formal relationship can start. Instead of going that old-school job application approach to entering the promised land, it is far better to keep things playful, flirtatious, and light hearted, so the girl can simply go with the flow, without being placed under pressure by such a formalized applications to hang pipe.

Na m u m u the boy be na. Girl wey e for use dey hold side without the baggage of relationship, e carry hin pencil mouth go dey apply for BF post. Serves him right

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by bigysf(m): 3:39pm On Oct 21, 2025

A Native hen you are trying to someday upgrade to a Broiler.

Sonnobax15:

Some men dey cha...

Imagine creating time from your busy schedule just to woo a lady,only to end up getting this kind of a message from the same native hen that you want to spend your hard earned money on

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Angelfrost(m): 3:40pm On Oct 21, 2025

ledaman:
Why all the insult?
It's a crime to asked her out?
A gentle No would have been okay.
Just watch in the next few years, the lady would regret for not accepting his proposal.
Am sure one naughty Niggaaa is digging her kitten that why !

I would want to agree with you, but NAH!

Life is not that straightforward, Chief.

Good girls still end up in regrets, and such arrogant ladies end up married to great husbands.

Good hearted virgins marry and end up waiting long years for pregnancy, while street wh0res marry and churn out babies like ATM machines dispensing cash.

Same way the best brains who are honest end up in misery and penury while dropouts that are lowlifes roll in wealth!

Life can never be fair nor balanced.

The young man should move on and try to get past this humiliation... I guess he has since he chose to share it online.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Konjiboii: 3:41pm On Oct 21, 2025

He is not even bad looking if we are being honest, I will like to see the Mimi

Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by correctguy101(m): 3:41pm On Oct 21, 2025

FineUsername:
The last time I ask a girl to be her boyfriend was when I was 13 or 15yrs.

Since i enter 17 or so na frequent teasing, romance, knacking and the girls be asking what are we?

So it's understandable since the boy is a minor, for adults beech pls.

Nonsense and ingredients. [

Let him operate according to his own level.

He'll eventually learn. And if he no learn, he'll just be doing suffer head over small mundane matters like this

Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by trytillmake(m): 3:42pm On Oct 21, 2025

Dammmn the girl gat writing skills, but grin

na so life be, dust yr self and move on

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Frontend: 3:42pm On Oct 21, 2025

dollynnn:
She will end up in Shiloh. We know her type.

I feel sad for ladies of the younger generation. “Wokeness”, arrogance and toxic feminism will make them end up toxic and lonely at the end of the day.

By the way, is it a crime for ladies to be respectful and polite? Nothing kills a woman’s character faster than arrogance and rudeness.

All this must be coming from a Lagos girl
Just travel out na she go first call you

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by SweetyMarvel00(m): 3:43pm On Oct 21, 2025

SpencerForbes:
You just went and ask an agbero out😒 now she has roasted you and brother zone you
hope you’ve blocked her and if you dare beg her and come back here to cry, 3 strokes of cane 🦯

Una go Dey fall person hand👨‍🦯

Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Jakumo(m): 3:43pm On Oct 21, 2025

Emeskhalifa:
Na m u m u the boy be na. Girl wey e for use dey hold side without the baggage of relationship, e carry hin pencil mouth go dey apply for BF post. Serves him right

Me sef I don try dat application way before, but after when I collect my fail report card, I no come try am again.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Angelfrost(m): 3:43pm On Oct 21, 2025

shadrach77:
This is the reason why bannies will continue to win over the male folk. Imagine the guys on here blaming the guy for getting insulted when all he did was ask the ~~goat~~ girl out.

The guy should just keep his dignity by avoiding her totally. Trying to continue friendship with such a person will only escalate the ridicule.

The whole vile was unnecessary when a simple no would have been sufficient. Insecure thing trying to use a guy to boost her flattened ego

The girl's only offense worthy of rebuke was being unnecessarily rude... She wasn't wrong in rejecting his advances.

The guy on the other hand failed to read and understand the signs, except she was manipulating him.

Chemistry is a real thing in such matters... Why ask a girl out when her attitude and disposition toward you don't match up in any way to yours?!!

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Lovit(m): 3:47pm On Oct 21, 2025

Na this kind girl dey request for extra sheet for exam only to end up scoring 5/100

You can turn down a man nicely and politely without injuring his ego, after all you were both friends

When she turns 39 tomorrow now and no man is asking her out, she will be disturbing God and NSPPD people

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by histemple: 3:51pm On Oct 21, 2025

Girls with that name "MIMI" are usually very rude.

There maybe some exceptions but I am yet to see one.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by buttlover(m): 3:52pm On Oct 21, 2025

If you reply that girl again, I will lay curse on you. undecided

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by tollyboy5(m): 3:56pm On Oct 21, 2025

dollynnn:
She will end up in Shiloh. We know her type.

I feel sad for ladies of the younger generation. “Wokeness”, arrogance and toxic feminism will make them end up toxic and lonely at the end of the day.

By the way, is it a crime for ladies to be respectful and polite? Nothing kills a woman’s character faster than arrogance and rudeness.

As quiet as I use to be in my early days, I fear for disrespect.
Some ladies I related with those days with no intentions towards them was feeling fly.
I had to tell one in my class then at JSS 3. That there's nothing special about her and her body, we're just seat partners and I don't like her.
The girls in my class were telling me I was too harsh but she was the one who started the busy body.
I maintained that policy even after many years. Most of these ladies have no value and jump after money! Money!! Money!!! So when we're older we know it's all fake feelings, some guys prefer pay as you go services instead till they find a sensible woman.

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Re: Man Shares The Brutal Message A Lady Sent Him After Asking Her To Be His GF by Kevineleven(m): 4:02pm On Oct 21, 2025

never forget that message, let it challenge you to become a better man, when you succeed, show no mercy.

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