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Pootle:
bad of him

Don't be too quick to judge...you are hearing one side of the story. In this Nigeria now, he is saying he is more beneficial to the friend yet the friend is dodging him.. Oga!

tosyne2much:
The moment I realize I was no longer a visitor in a friend's place was the attitude of his wife

This my friend was really envying and snitching me behind my back but in my presence, he would act all nice and caring

First and foremost, I suspected he was telling his wife negative things about me but when I started noticing something was wrong was when I visit him, his wife would tell me he's not around

Most times, I turn back but later on, I suspected he would be at home while his wife would tell me otherwise

There was one day the wife told me he wasn't around and a part of me was telling me that he was inside. To satisfy my curiosity, I asked his children and they both chorused to me that their daddy was inside.. This happened for about three times until I started withdrawing myself because I don't like to stay where I'm not honoured or valued

Now, me and that my friend are no longer in good terms.. He snitched me badly and plotted evil against me

One big lesson I've got to learn in life is that there's no best friend anywhere. Your wife and your children are your best friends

so you are the saint?

Best friends or not, we were taught to have boundaries when visiting anyone who's not a family member and it's not a cultural shock where I'm from, but a sociatal norm.

Your best friend might be your partner in crime, but there's a reason why your homestead is called a family house and not a friendship house, he shares that house with people who are not only not your friends, but definitely not your partners in crime and there are some family matters that need to be kept enclosed within the family.

Even my husband knows that I'm not comfortable with him constantly bringing his friends into the house unless they hangout in the balcony, our apartment has a nice specious furnished balcony... I do the same with mine because I don't joke with my privacy... I also like wearing skimpy clothes around the house during summer times, I can spend the entire day wearing nothing but a panty and a loose t-shirt, something I wouldn't be comfortable doing when his friends are in the house.

hegelian:
we are not talking about friends but best friend..one not many..everywhere i know best friend become family cos it means your partner in crime, your go to person...a best friend that is not free in your house is not your best friend but ordinary friend or maybe your close friend...

Cheeryfeet:
Bro this is your own part of the story.. until we hear the your guy's part, nobody throws away gold, when you are a person of value either real or potential, people will want to hang around you.

That's not always the case

Being a person of value doesn't make you invulnerable to being cheated on, disrespectfed or manipulated.. Na you no go give room for that

Kokaine:
wow. It took you three of such occasion to take a decision to respect yourself. Wow. We introverts should be thanking God everyday

I didn't want to jump into conclusion, so I wanted to be very sure

You know you need to have concrete evidence before you eventually withdraw yourself from a friend

I wasn't so sure the first and second time but the third one confirmed the first and second to be true

Hope you grab?

February30:
so you are the saint?

I'm not painting myself as a saint but when it comes to being loyal to a friend, I don't joke with that

We've been friends for several years before i visited him. The first day i visited him he took me to his bedroom and showed me everything in the house.

Cheeryfeet:
Don't be too quick to judge...you are hearing one side of the story. In this Nigeria now, he is saying he is more beneficial to the friend yet the friend is dodging him.. Oga!

lol you no trust his side of the story

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