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My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.

For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.

She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.

Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.

Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there.

Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart.

So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on.

It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.

Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

Maliq

ariesbull:
My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.

For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.

She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.

Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.

Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there.

Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart.

So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on.

It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.

Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

Many modern women and girls forget that men have more latitude when it comes to finding new partners. When we tell them that women shouldn't cheat, they're always quick to say "what about men also? If men cheat then two can play that game" Ok, nao

When a man cheats and you tell the wife or girlfriend to be patient they tell you you don't know what you are saying. Now, look at this story. A fifty year old man has more chances of getting a new steady partner than a thirty year old lady

When you understand that with or without you, life must continue.. then you'd start thinking deeply before making decisions.
She moved out for another lady to move in.. her loss.

ariesbull:
My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.

For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.

She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.

Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.

Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there.

Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart.

So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on.

It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.

Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

That story is a typical example of SE who feels Nigeria cheated her, she went into war but Nigeria forgave her and begged her to come back with a starter package to start afresh, but she was not pleased and always make reference to the initial misunderstanding, she nag and nag with every member of the family who are tired of her complex.

Now she back to take the position of the first wife but the a husband Nigeria has moved on.

Getting a second chance when occured is should be seen as miracle

ariesbull:
➜My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.
For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.
She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.
Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.
Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there. Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart. So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on. It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.
➜ Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

If your friend had simply stopped at starting afresh, instead of jumping headlong into meaningless relationships, she probably would have been better off.

Yes, she did the right thing by abandoning her abuser — the man who cheated on her. No woman or man should remain in an abusive relationship, no matter how much their abuser begs. Her mistake was in roping herself with other men afterwards without first ensuring she had properly healed from the previous abuse, and also her own lack of self-awareness and dearth of self-love.

2. Wrong, life more than gave your friend numerous chances at a second chance. She refused to take advantage of them to the fullest. Life has nothing to do with what became of your friend, as your narrative clearly shows. There are so many of our mothers and grandmothers who were literally abandoned in marriage, who went on to live better and more fulfilling lives outside of marriage out there as examples to any woman who wishes to use her second chance outside of marriage to her benefit.

Unfortunately, this story is typical of a certain kind of woman... the kind who doesn't know or even realize how valuable she is as a human being; this kind typically believes her worth is nothing until a man accepts her. It is a shame that professional psychotherapy is still not fully embraced by many in Nigeria.

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Tell your friend it is not too late for her to pick herself and start over again loving herself first. That is the only way to heal and get her self in esteem back where it ought to be -- up high. No human is born needing others for validation and self worth. 🥱🥱

The story is a very common scenario for majority of women that divorced their husbands with children just because of cheating.

Though they hide it but unfortunately it's what it's.

There is also Annie Idibia who endured for years. I am not even sure Tuface had to beg her. Only to be kicked out at 40yrs. Una still blame Annie Idibia. So make una try rest with these stories aimed at gaslighting women to see infidelity as normal. If she was cool with him, she should have stuck to him. Some women have done it and heaven didn't fall.

ariesbull:
My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.

For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.

She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.

Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.

Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there.

Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart.

So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on.

It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.

Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

another made up story

you think in this decade i need to go to my ex house to know he/she is married? when we have facebook, instagram whatsapp status?

and you want to give us the bs story of a kind step mother

in this nigeria??

there is only one real moreal to your made up story - and that is that a woman should ensure she is not financially dependent on her husband

as for the husband - if he actually now has four children - he is not smart at all in this decade. na the first two pikins go suffer am pass

GloriousGbola:
another made up story

you think in this decade i need to go to my ex house to know he/she is married? when we have facebook, instagram whatsapp status?

and you want to give us the bs story of a kind step mother

in this nigeria??

there is only one real moreal to your made up story - and that is that a woman should ensure she is not financially dependent on her husband

as for the husband - if he actually now has four children - he is not smart at all in this decade. na the first two pikins go suffer am pass

are you done ?

OP is this your story as you didn't give credit to X.

Stop jor! Just edit the story further to hide your sentiments and bias and make it more realistic.

ariesbull:
are you done ?

McLizbae:
Stop jor! Just edit the story further to hide your sentiments and bias and make it more realistic.

Are you done with bitterness

GloriousGbola:
another made up story

you think in this decade i need to go to my ex house to know he/she is married? when we have facebook, instagram whatsapp status?

and you want to give us the bs story of a kind step mother

in this nigeria??

there is only one real moreal to your made up story - and that is that a woman should ensure she is not financially dependent on her husband

as for the husband - if he actually now has four children - he is not smart at all in this decade. na the first two pikins go suffer am pass

The story might be made up but it's also a very common reality.

And the main moral of the story is that divorced women with children find it difficult to get another single man/ never married men to date or remarry them.

That doesn't mean a woman should not divorce her husband for whatever reasons that suit her. It just means that she has a very high chance of facing similar hurdle.

Helpout12345:
The story might be made up but it's also a very common reality.

And the main moral of the story is that divorced women with children find it difficult to get another single man/ never married men to date or remarry them.

That doesn't mean a woman should not divorce her husband for whatever reasons that suit her. It just means that she has a very high chance of facing similar hurdle.

So how does that affect you people's existence if she faces similar hurdle? Why does her life after divorce matter to y'all? Even if she remains single or she sleeps with whoever it is none of your business, keep your tales by moonlight stories of gaslighting and manipulation to yourselves, and accept the fact that women will continue to divorce their cheat of a husband because THEY CAN, very simple common sense.

Aim of many of such tales by moonlight, is to subtly gaslight women to doubt the possibility of thriving outside that relationship/marriage even when faced with repetitive cheating.

Fountainofyouth:
So how does that affect you people's existence if she faces similar hurdle? Why does her life after divorce matter to y'all? Even if she remains single or she sleeps with whoever it is none of your business, keep your tales by moonlight stories of gaslighting and manipulation to yourselves, and accept the fact that women will continue to divorce their cheat of a husband because THEY CAN, very simple common sense.

I have sisters. So I will advise them accordingly if they face that situation. Yes, the decision is theirs but I will tell them the truth which is this reality.

Helpout12345:
I have sisters. So I will advise them accordingly if they face that situation. Yes, the decision is theirs but I will tell them the truth which is this reality.

There are no one way truth or reality when it comes to divorcing a cheating husband, so many of them remarry, while some choose to remain single and enjoy their life, let them choose the kind of life they want to live cos you are not them neither are you in their shoes.

If marriage benefits women and not men then I wonder why the need for all this propaganda? Any self respecting person should not need a another person so badly that they are willing to risk their mental, physical, or emotional health to avoid being by themselves.

Telling stories like this to prevent women from leaving men who chose to disrespect their marital vows is something else. The odd thing is you or whoever wrote that didn't blame the man who was at fault but you're somehow blaming the woman for leaving the adulterer.

As for her, I'll commend her for leaving the man if she thought that was the right thing to do for herself and her kids. Her only mistake was not taking the time to vet the next men properly, but other than that kudos to her for leaving. The man had only apologised because he got caught, not because he was apologetic and remorseful. Had she continued the marriage, he most likely would've continued his cheating.

Any woman that leaves her marriage because her husband cheated, not because of continuous violence, such a woman is the worst fool and has tendency for promiscuity. Cheating is wrong, but no matter what you think, it is always a man's world and cheating by a man is not enough to leave him especially when he is remorseful and apologises

oz4real83:
✓ Any woman that leaves her marriage because her husband cheated, not because of continuous violence, such a woman is the worst fool and has tendency for promiscuity. Cheating is wrong, but no matter what you think, it is always a man's world and cheating by a man is not enough to leave him especially when he his remorseful and apologises

Hope when a woman cheats on you and then tries to gaslight you into believing it is a woman's world from her own point of view, you would equally not leave her so long as she is remorseful and apologizes. 🥱🥱🥱

Ttalk:
That story is a typical example of SE who feels Nigeria cheated her, she went into war but Nigeria forgave her and begged her to come back with a starter package to start afresh, but she was not pleased and always make reference to the initial misunderstanding, she nag and nag with every member of the family who are tired of her complex.

Now she back to take the position of the first wife but the a husband Nigeria has moved on.

Getting a second chance when occured is should be seen as miracle

This is a stvpiid analogy!
Which starter package did Nig give the SE Same people you collected their buildings in your states and left them with only #20??
Rvbbissh

Kobojunkie:
Hope when a woman chests on you ans then tries to gaslight you into believing it is a woman's world from her own point of view, you would equally not leave her so long as she is remorseful and apologizes. 🥱🥱🥱

People like you that always want to do something all because a man did it always learn your lesson too late. Many of your kind are now fighting to become second, third, 4th, 5th ...... Wife or even a side chick to a married man

oz4real83:
Any woman that leaves her marriage because her husband cheated, not because of continuous violence, such a woman is the worst fool and has tendency for promiscuity. Cheating is wrong, but no matter what you think, it is always a man's world and cheating by a man is not enough to leave him especially when he is remorseful and apologises

Will you give your own daughter this kind of advice?

I work in Healthcare and have seen and heard cases of men transmitting incurable diseases to their wives because of their sleeping around. This propaganda of trying to force women to forgive cheating husbands is nothing but pure evil.

If as a man you cannot masturbate your excess sex urges instead of cheating on your wife, then make sure you inform whoever you want to marry that you believe it's your right to cheat so she can know what kind of selfish bastard you are before marriage.

One always has to think their decisions through.

If She was my Sister. I’ll tell her the two things that could result as usual.

Protect yourself first then Confront him & see whether it can be resolved. It’s funny how many adults cannot sit down and have a face to face honest conversation because of personality issues.

If it cannot be resolved, especially if from no faults of her own and for her own health and sake she should

Leave him. But make sure you have a way to heal and build yourself back up before trying out relationships again especially in areas of finance. And choose better the next time.

Most of this ladies leave marriages only to become side chicks to married men. Make it make sense. Who still loses out in the end.

You all can post with emotions but in the end, Real life is way different especially if you’re in nigeria.

oz4real83:
People like you that always want to do something all because a man did it always learn your lesson too late. Many of your kind are now fighting to become second, third, 4th, 5th ...... Wife or even a side chick to a married man

At least we finally have you admitting that even though a man marries himself so many wives, he really has no love for all those other wives. I hope women who are pining for such positions in the lives of men out there in Nigeria-- and maybe elsewhere-- begin to realize that they are seen as being no better than garbage for and by many such men.

Towma:
Will you give your own daughter this kind of advice?

A man that cheated is remorseful, apologizes and take steps to correct his mistakes, are those actions not enough? Some of you will still want the man to kpai himself despite all his efforts to make amendments.

oz4real83:
A man that cheated is remorseful, apologizes and take steps to correct his mistakes, are those actions not enough? Some of you will still want the man to kpai himself despite all his efforts to make amendments.

A man/woman who cheated and is remorseful, apologizes, and takes steps to correct his/her mistakes is not enough, though because deep down we are all aware that cheating is abuse of trust and the nullification of the relationship contract itself -- commitment in at zero and so also relationship trust. Why insist women do what mean find the hardest to do-- continue in a trustless, commitment-less relationship? Why the blatant loathing of women ? 🥱🥱🥱