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I have so much resentment towards my parents

What happened? You don't have to be.

Don't worry, it'll pass. One day, future you will look back and laugh at this you. Hang in there

Mrdealer4all:
I have so much resentment towards my parents

So much is not enough.

increase it.

Why

You're probably still staying with your parents. Once you leave your current environment, everything will be okay. Why do you hate them? Maybe someone who's been through a similar experience can help you out
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Your eyes go open wen dem kpai.

Dealer! Wetin your paale and maale do you??

Mrdealer4all:
I have so much resentment towards my parents

Same dude posting with different monikers?

same but you dont see me wailing like a 2 year old with diaper on a fulani cattle herding forum

Mrdealer4all:
I have so much resentment towards my parents

No one receives a manual titled “How to Be a Parent.”
Parents are simply individuals — each with their own personalities, strengths, weaknesses, and flaws — who happened to grow older. They still make mistakes, they’re still learning, and most of the time, they’re just doing the best they can. Remember, it’s a cycle: they were once raised by their own parents and shaped by the experiences and knowledge they had.

I may not know your personal story, but try to see them as people who never had it all figured out — they just moved through life, doing what they thought was right.

It is well.

This is more common than you think. I even think those that do not have resentment for their parents are minority. Most families are not healthy. I repeat, most families are dysfunction.

If the family is from Nigeria, then the chance of dysfunction is not just high, but very high.

You probably will find it easy to forgive your parents when you become a parent yourself. Your parent grew up in the worse geographical region that have been looted for centuries, where illiteracy, poverty, voodoo, and all kinds of evil thrive freely.

Your parent probably have beef with their parent as well, but they hid it well from you, since they are committed to undo the trauma from the past.

The past is connected to the future. For a people that have been subjected to all kind of abuse for centuries from both internal and external exploiters, you cant expect things to just be fine. On an individual level, you can undo the past, but from a national level, even in a continental level, Africa is really under heavy bitterness.

What you can do right now is to move on. Forgive your parents and make sure your kids do not have resentment towards you. Let see if you will do a better job.

Because it is easier to point fingers at others, to sit at the throne of a judge, but if the table turn round, we might fall short of our own judgement.

I wonder if it is lack of sense or something out of my understanding on how a child could hate his parents no matter how bad they had been.


reminds me of Eminem track (Cleanin’ Out My Closet) when he blasted his mother on the track. D hate was rap-a-ble to Eminem. Even had the woman live in regrets till her death.

Haaaaaaaaaaa! What did they did to you?

Kpele, when you become a parent do better.
All their failings that made you resent them, Do not repeat it and try to do better so that in 30yrs your kids wont be opening a thread about how they resent you

ukaface:
No one receives a manual titled “How to Be a Parent.”
Parents are simply individuals — each with their own personalities, strengths, weaknesses, and flaws — who happened to grow older. They still make mistakes, they’re still learning, and most of the time, they’re just doing the best they can. Remember, it’s a cycle: they were once raised by their own parents and shaped by the experiences and knowledge they had.

I may not know your personal story, but try to see them as people who never had it all figured out — they just moved through life, doing what they thought was right.

It is well.

God bless you for these words of wisdom.

Wait till you become a parent first, maybe you will change your mind

adamkkk:
I wonder if it is lack of sense or something out of my understanding on how a child could hate his parents

you're not in his shoes. Please don't george.

my parent gave birth to 5 and I died so we are left with 4 and am d last .
My elder brothers all have extremely hatred for my parent except ONLY me 😞😞

In conclusion after both of them died they are now admitting the errors or mistakes they made because life became more tougher for them till date 😢


Try and take the life the way you see it and don't take any grudge against them.

GENZ geng that dont know life yet

Mrdealer4all:
I have so much resentment towards my parents

A dark evil spirit can only understand emotions like this and express this only..
Are you Yoruba?

Mrdealer4all:
I have so much resentment towards my parents

Honour your father and your mother is the only commandment that comes with a promise.
Except if your life is under threat of harm, it's your call to honour them and get over whatever you are disagreeing with

You will soon become parent that time your eyes go clear.

Generational poverty I guess 🤷🏿, let's plan very well before we start breeding. Don't expect miracle, magic or help from anywhere once you start a family. Prayers abi night vigil won't feed you 📌💯

Parents owe their children everything for unilaterally bringing them into this stressful world without their consent

Children owe their parents nothing because they are merely results of their parents' sexual recklessness

If as a parent, you give your child any reason to detest you, you deserve whatever results from that child's dissatisfaction

If you can't give your child the best, don't birth...Simple

A large percentage of the problems we have on this earth result from inadequately raised kids

enemyofprogress:
you're not in his shoes. Please don't george.

It's judge oo

George is a name

AllBlack:
So much is not enough.

increase it.

Werey... Ya signature make me burst laugh like madman... See wetin you cause🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is exactly how you feel when you grow into adulthood without leaving your adolescence behind.

During adolescence, everyone feels like the actions and words of our parents were always overbearing.

The moment we enter adulthood, we see beyond the screens of childishness and appreciate every one of those moments as love.

Don't be surprised, the things that these children may have experienced from that their 'parents,' may not be up to 1/5 of what we experienced. But we still love our parents and wil continue loving them till our last days.

adamkkk:
I wonder if it is lack of sense or something out of my understanding on how a child could hate his parents no matter how bad they had been.


reminds me of Eminem track (Cleanin’ Out My Closet) when he blasted his mother on the track. D hate was rap-a-ble to Eminem. Even had the woman live in regrets till her death.

That part means that you are not in term with reality. "No matter how bad they had been"?

ZombieDredd:
It's judge oo

George is a name

both of them are correct. One is British English, while the other one is American English, I chose to use the American English which is my mother tongue.

maasoap:
That part means that you are not in term with reality. "No matter how bad they had been"?

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cos i really had it bad with my mum bt growing up i realized i had been plain childish. It wasn't right. No matter what she says and does, she remains d mother. Sorry mama.