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Guy come meet me for Escape or Starboy for Grays make I give u expo.

My story is very similar to yours but without the juju or violence part.

Na me Bleep up go dey fight side dude. I end up in crown court my bro. I get another paddy wey just dey go through him own. Him go beat up him live in non nigerian baby momma for that Basildon. Him case don dey on for almost 18 months now.

pigmania:
They were together when she was still broke and living with us at our family house in Nigeria, they seemed to really like each other back then, I don't know how or why the love went sour. She took him to Europe because he stood by her when she had nothing, he would travel from Delta state to come see her in Lagos and my parents always welcomed him. This love and marriage thing is just confusing.

I think its resentment built up over time at her success as she is even the wife sef in tbis case, some friends woukd been teling him she is using your glory and she may have nknowingly lost a little bit of respect for him too and showed it unconsciously.
Its really complicated
God go help us ni cos its not looking funny anymore

Say please

pongwa:
nonsense thing, remove, this thing will break more marriages

dbabs500:
Attached is the picture of what I saw, forgot to attach

This is very fetish bro. Run for your life else she use remote control for you, no be become gbewu dani husband

dollypi:
Say please

why should I?
what goes around comes around and ignorance will not be an excuse when pay back time comes.

dbabs500:
Not always as easy as being said, when children dun involve.

Just dey play o..anyway Il advice you to remove your mind from such a woman and get another secretly while you keep knacking her with PROTECTION sha and securing your finances away from her reach like Hakimi and Akon did and when you are solid with the other woman then kick that cheating thing out of your house with a divorce. You can lie and deceive yourself all you want but you already know your marriage has ended cos another man is opening your wife's legs..

You sound very weak for a man. She denies and shouts and you just say no problem and end the matter like a Simp. If your wife has the mind and guts to betray you like this then she no longer loves or values you and the marriage so you better be a step ahead preparing for the inevitable. God help you.

dbabs500:
Hello Nlanders

I will tel you guys something for sure, marriage is sweet, but the bitter part of it can affect a mans life even more than a woman. Episodes upon episodes have surfaced online regarding SOME men bringing in their wife to the western world and gradually seeing the demon crawl out of them. I have read many and heard of some within my community here in the UK. I always thought these episodes only happen to some people that it could never happen to me, bros and sis, he dey sup oo.

I don't want to delve into too many details, but I just want to share with you guys the most recent thing happening in my own, this is just to let u guys know that he unthinkable can happen to anyone whether or not you deserve it or not

So one day i decided to change the kitchen lights from the white one to the warmer bulbs, I had kept them right atop the kitchen cabinet which is a bit high. I climbed my chair and lo and behold I saw a paper neatly wrapped in a square shape, I took and opened it, lo and behold the attached is what I saw, I obviously don't know exactly what it is, so I called my mum, and the only thing she could tell me was to destroy it and up my spiritual game.

Overtime, I sort of react on situations with my wife, but I have changed ways. I politely and diplomatically approached her and asked if she knew anything about what I found, and she said, where is it, told her I have destroyed it but showed her a picture that I took. She sobbed and said she knows nothing about it, and I silently ended the convo.

A week later, I was assisting her to monitor the facebook ad that I have helped her with, a notification popped up on her computer saying ' finalize your hotel booking', which apparently popped out from bookings.com, I checked and saw that she pre-booked a hotel booking for 24th of Oct to 25th of Oct, I saw this 2 days prior to the 24th. I have had it in mind that I will not question her, set a trap and catch her red-handed, I know alot of you would say you should not have told her, she will now be smarter, I have my reasons and that's that. I left for work that day (24th), she was suppose to go for a house viewing as we are planning to move, I knew if for whatever reason, she might use that outing to go run things, that's if an actually plan was underway. On her wayback, we were talking while she was driving, then towards the end of the conversation, I asked her why she nor tell me sey she book hotel for me and her for Basildon, 24th to 25th two adults, she paused for like 6 seconds, and said which booking,then i gave her the lowdown, at first she was defensive, saying she does not want to further be asked questions, but that the pre-booking might have been done in error bla bla. I just ended it with no p, I thought I'd ask you.

Since 7 days now, she dey try seduce me, i nor gree Bleep, im just telling myself, what kind of fake life person wan dey live so, i am with a woman that at least i know she's effing someone, because she has not been caught red-handed its all 'lets continue our normal life' but me nor sabi pretend and the fear of contracting disease and also spiritual misfortune is now on the high for my mind. Winter dun come, who i wan dey nack, the depression just start now again.

Nlanders what would u do

You are a lucky man to have found out what is happening this early but if u waste time u are gonna pay for it dearly
I pray u don’t end up paying with ur own life

Get away from here bro...

pongwa:
why should I?
what goes around comes around and ignorance will not be an excuse when pay back time comes.

From one of your threads linked below, you should have been long gone from this marriage. Unless may be you are in it to get your stay or something. Or you are hanging in there because of the young kids.

https://www.nairaland.com/8523832/wife-always-quick-leave-house

Oga you be small pikin? You body too de in a hurry. Why did you not calm down, hold body and monitor her movement since you had the hotel booking, that way you would have confirmed any doubt you have or if it is jut coincidence. Now you have alerted her she will be more cautious.

@ ops. U were not smart enough. If u want to catch woman u catch her for hand not for leg. U should have let her go the hotel then let her know that u saw her and catch her red handed and divorce the LovePeddler u married. A cheating wife is a time bomb. I can tolerate any woman but not a cheating wife because if she no kill u she go kill the other concubine. If i were u i go just leave the marriage because u no dey safe. Better let ur family know before dey go kill u for midnight

AngelicBeing:
Hahaha, Namaster is not a devil ooooooooo, he actually gives BRUTAL & NON-COMPROMISING advice ooooooooo mucheche Hahaha , l heard that TINUBU is preparing to announce Namaster as the Minister of Family , Bachelor, Spinster's affairs, Namaster will likely resume on the 15 th of November 2025 to help APC government to Flog shege on those causing problems in different marriages in Nigeria 😂

ROTFL my belle. No kill Me abeg

flokii:
Things dey happen for that U.K o.. any lady whether single or married can be used to cure konji.
I'm suspecting it's one of her co-workers she is having affair with.. for her to be seducing you means she is trying to bribe you so you don't react.
The only worry there is STDs and other deadly diseases one can get from cheating partner because most don't use condoms.

Na only UK e de happen? Oga it is worse here in naija. Bros, most women have one or two to do in their working places, expecially those cooperate ladies. I remember in the early 2000s when I had some consultancy work for one fellow like that living in a huge secluded bongalow in Ikeja gra. The house was his office and residence, his proper home was in ikoyi.
This man's bank manager was one Calabar lady from zenith bank (let me not mention the branch), yellow fine woman. Omo once the woman comes to this man's office, na the bed room them de do the meeting not the office side, married woman ohh, heavy duty nacking, infact both were so freeky the man say make I join am nack the lady say she like 2 some, I declined and left.
If most men know what their madams do at work, almost all the marriages for naija for don collapse.

Wizywiz:
oga if u kpai children will move on....weak men everywhere, always tolerating what shouldn't be tolerated...

Plenty of una wey dey chat this never marry or have never had close siblings married going through something similar that has children and are in western world, when i say its not that easy to decide is because children are involved and also am a dependent under her. Am at great risk here na why i dey count my eggs b4 them hatch.

Elementofficial:
You are a lucky man to have found out what is happening this early but if u waste time u are gonna pay for it dearly
I pray u don’t end up paying with ur own life

I was with one for over 9 years
No kid
We still got married cos I loved her so much
She forced me into court marriage
I signed the paper
After four years of marriage,
I decided to put one of her phones on automatic call recording after I suspected some funny moves
Lo and behold,
Aged long evidences of infidelity, diversion of business funds in millions to her people, conspiracy to kpai me tru diabolical means plus a whole lot of other dark secrets came to the surface

I didn’t let her know becos she could have ended me immediately
I asked her to go home n meet her parents for a visit and the rest is history
Women are more wicked than men
They can deal with u without any iota of mercy
U shud have moved silently
However since u didn’t think twice before taking any action u can still save urself from further depression by securing ur property first while pushing her away in the most simple way

some males be reading this and still saying it cannot happen to me. I pity Una

dbabs500:
Plenty of una wey dey chat this never marry or have never had close siblings married going through something similar that has children and are in western world, when i say its not that easy to decide is because children are involved and also am a dependent under her. Am at great risk here na why i dey count my eggs b4 them hatch.

oga relax I was married for 5years ....2016-2021...with Two kids trust me immediately I noticed and found out such, I sharparly called it quit no hard feelings no matter what my kids are fine and always will...these generation of women are something else, if u kpai my brother na you over loose...take it or leave it...never forgive or stay with a cheating partner...take it or leave it I ve been there and I will tell you....flee

Kaido:
You didn't do anything, after finding out the hotel. She gon be more smarter next time.

Always bang her with condoms, or risk getting a sexually transmitted disease.

Marriage ain't for me, so I no fit advise you.
You are a man decide for yourself.

Marriage might not be for you but make sure you give BIRTH 📌

You don't even need special advice, because there are online records of people who passed through your exact situation, even here on nairaland.

dbabs500:
Plenty of una wey dey chat this never marry or have never had close siblings married going through something similar that has children and are in western world, when i say its not that easy to decide is because children are involved and also am a dependent under her. Am at great risk here na why i dey count my eggs b4 them hatch.

Tenrack:
some males be reading this and still saying it cannot happen to me. I pity Una

Most times I marvel at those who tag most stories posted here as fiction
It’s a every wicked world bruh
If u are yet to witness one then don’t call it fiction becos someone has had the experience

Elementofficial:
Most times I marvel at those who tag most stories posted here as fiction
It’s a every wicked world bruh
If u are yet to witness one then don’t call it fiction becos someone has had the experience
I’m a victim but by his special grace I cud have died in the hands of the woman I loved so very much
I still bear the emotional and psychological scars anyway and I’m healing gradually
It cud have been worst if I hadn’t exercised restraint and threaded softly after discovering the truth
I pray one day I wud find someone who loves me genuinely
Guess who is at the receiving end?
She!
She don suffer wella and all her colleagues in wickedness

They should keep doing Doubting Thomases. I too have been scarred as well, I gave this person everything that I am, and she took me for granted, stole from me, and gaslighted me. Mehn...I'm not even looking for anyone to love me as it is. I don't trust nobody especially females. Nobody really cares save for your parents and some siblings. Find happiness and fulfillment in your work and hobbies. Human beings are selfish and are prone to carrying out betrayals especially the other gender. I don't trust anything coming from them...manipulative bunch.

I am happy to know that she's getting her karma now. No go dey feel sorry for am o. She deserves all that she's getting. I hope she gets more of it. Wicked things.

dollypi:
Just keep your eyes open, watch her actions and say less.

Small thing una don ask AI

Nigerian men planning to travel abroad with their wives must make up their minds early enough to switch positions with their wives once abroad. They must prepare to become the submissive wives of their wives. That is the only way to live in peace with her abroad. This place reversal also means that you should be ready to look the other way if your wives want to have some affairs with other men to spice up the marriage. Wives on the other hand must learn how to cheat and not start resenting or depriving their submissive husbands of intimacy. Just like men would cheat and still love their wives, cheating wives must keep loving their husbands and also not starve him of intimacy. It is the fear of being hated by the wives or even being killed that make some men want to die once their wives cheat. So alpha females who want to keep an affair while still married should learn how not to start resenting their husbands. If you're able to assure your husbands of your continued love while cheating, you may be surprised that he could become your cvcko1d .
So op, since your wives still makes the move to seduce you, it means she still loves you and I think you should reciprocate and allow her to cheat in peace. You can even train your mind and body to enjoy your wife's intimacy with other guys.

As for me, all my wife needs to do is to learn how to perfectly be a man to me both in bed and out of bed(not in terms of provision because I'll still provide for the family). That would earn her the freedom to have affairs with other men while she insists that I remain faithful to her and her alone.

dbabs500:
Hello Nlanders

I will tel you guys something for sure, marriage is sweet, but the bitter part of it can affect a mans life even more than a woman. Episodes upon episodes have surfaced online regarding SOME men bringing in their wife to the western world and gradually seeing the demon crawl out of them. I have read many and heard of some within my community here in the UK. I always thought these episodes only happen to some people that it could never happen to me, bros and sis, he dey sup oo.

I don't want to delve into too many details, but I just want to share with you guys the most recent thing happening in my own, this is just to let u guys know that he unthinkable can happen to anyone whether or not you deserve it or not

So one day i decided to change the kitchen lights from the white one to the warmer bulbs, I had kept them right atop the kitchen cabinet which is a bit high. I climbed my chair and lo and behold I saw a paper neatly wrapped in a square shape, I took and opened it, lo and behold the attached is what I saw, I obviously don't know exactly what it is, so I called my mum, and the only thing she could tell me was to destroy it and up my spiritual game.

Overtime, I sort of react on situations with my wife, but I have changed ways. I politely and diplomatically approached her and asked if she knew anything about what I found, and she said, where is it, told her I have destroyed it but showed her a picture that I took. She sobbed and said she knows nothing about it, and I silently ended the convo.

A week later, I was assisting her to monitor the facebook ad that I have helped her with, a notification popped up on her computer saying ' finalize your hotel booking', which apparently popped out from bookings.com, I checked and saw that she pre-booked a hotel booking for 24th of Oct to 25th of Oct, I saw this 2 days prior to the 24th. I have had it in mind that I will not question her, set a trap and catch her red-handed, I know alot of you would say you should not have told her, she will now be smarter, I have my reasons and that's that. I left for work that day (24th), she was suppose to go for a house viewing as we are planning to move, I knew if for whatever reason, she might use that outing to go run things, that's if an actually plan was underway. On her wayback, we were talking while she was driving, then towards the end of the conversation, I asked her why she nor tell me sey she book hotel for me and her for Basildon, 24th to 25th two adults, she paused for like 6 seconds, and said which booking,then i gave her the lowdown, at first she was defensive, saying she does not want to further be asked questions, but that the pre-booking might have been done in error bla bla. I just ended it with no p, I thought I'd ask you.

Since 7 days now, she dey try seduce me, i nor gree Bleep, im just telling myself, what kind of fake life person wan dey live so, i am with a woman that at least i know she's effing someone, because she has not been caught red-handed its all 'lets continue our normal life' but me nor sabi pretend and the fear of contracting disease and also spiritual misfortune is now on the high for my mind. Winter dun come, who i wan dey nack, the depression just start now again.

Nlanders what would u do

Brother, please if you wont ask her to open up....... begin to make a secret alternative. Finish.

Samantha125:
Her cheating has nothing do do with her being abroad, that's if she's indeed cheating... She was still gonna get herself a hunky looking Nigerian side dude in Nigeria while you're abroad...

Blame the character and not the country...

Blame the country too my sister. I know what am talking. We have been there. Wetin eyes see, mouth no go fit talk. You know there is so called sexual freedom in UK that cannot be matched with occasional random man disturbing you in Nigeria.

flokii:
Things dey happen for that U.K o.. any lady whether single or married can be used to cure konji.
I'm suspecting it's one of her co-workers she is having affair with.. for her to be seducing you means she is trying to bribe you so you don't react.
The only worry there is STDs and other deadly diseases one can get from cheating partner because most don't use condoms.

I don’t think that’s why she is seducing him. She may have had unprotected sex with the other guy and might be thinking she is pregnant. So she won’t be caught out, let him do it too so as to confuse or rope him in as the father of the child.

It requires a certain level of intelligence to identify human writing nowadays

slimmax:
Small thing una don ask AI

Tolu2024:
I don’t believe your tales though, even if it true why didn’t you monitor your olosho wife to the hotel without telling her?

It seem once Nigeria men travel abroad they all turn mumu.

Exactly. He is not smart at all. He had two solid leads but blew them foolishly.

Now she will be smarter and
more dangerous in fulfilling her mission.

dbabs500:
Hello Nlanders

I will tel you guys something for sure, marriage is sweet, but the bitter part of it can affect a mans life even more than a woman. Episodes upon episodes have surfaced online regarding SOME men bringing in their wife to the western world and gradually seeing the demon crawl out of them. I have read many and heard of some within my community here in the UK. I always thought these episodes only happen to some people that it could never happen to me, bros and sis, he dey sup oo.

I don't want to delve into too many details, but I just want to share with you guys the most recent thing happening in my own, this is just to let u guys know that he unthinkable can happen to anyone whether or not you deserve it or not

So one day i decided to change the kitchen lights from the white one to the warmer bulbs, I had kept them right atop the kitchen cabinet which is a bit high. I climbed my chair and lo and behold I saw a paper neatly wrapped in a square shape, I took and opened it, lo and behold the attached is what I saw, I obviously don't know exactly what it is, so I called my mum, and the only thing she could tell me was to destroy it and up my spiritual game.

Overtime, I sort of react on situations with my wife, but I have changed ways. I politely and diplomatically approached her and asked if she knew anything about what I found, and she said, where is it, told her I have destroyed it but showed her a picture that I took. She sobbed and said she knows nothing about it, and I silently ended the convo.

A week later, I was assisting her to monitor the facebook ad that I have helped her with, a notification popped up on her computer saying ' finalize your hotel booking', which apparently popped out from bookings.com, I checked and saw that she pre-booked a hotel booking for 24th of Oct to 25th of Oct, I saw this 2 days prior to the 24th. I have had it in mind that I will not question her, set a trap and catch her red-handed, I know alot of you would say you should not have told her, she will now be smarter, I have my reasons and that's that. I left for work that day (24th), she was suppose to go for a house viewing as we are planning to move, I knew if for whatever reason, she might use that outing to go run things, that's if an actually plan was underway. On her wayback, we were talking while she was driving, then towards the end of the conversation, I asked her why she nor tell me sey she book hotel for me and her for Basildon, 24th to 25th two adults, she paused for like 6 seconds, and said which booking,then i gave her the lowdown, at first she was defensive, saying she does not want to further be asked questions, but that the pre-booking might have been done in error bla bla. I just ended it with no p, I thought I'd ask you.

Since 7 days now, she dey try seduce me, i nor gree Bleep, im just telling myself, what kind of fake life person wan dey live so, i am with a woman that at least i know she's effing someone, because she has not been caught red-handed its all 'lets continue our normal life' but me nor sabi pretend and the fear of contracting disease and also spiritual misfortune is now on the high for my mind. Winter dun come, who i wan dey nack, the depression just start now again.

Nlanders what would u do

it is well,
Everybody with his own problem