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Toxicity Is Not Love by Kalatium(op): 8:56am On Oct 31, 2025
You ever see posts like this online:

“A woman in love is obsessed. Possessive. Territorial. Almost psychotic. If she doesn't show the above then she doesn't love you”

And people will be in the comments shouting, "100% correct", I agree with you " “God when!”

Before you know it, the same woman don kpai the man o.

Let’s be real, when did we start celebrating this level of toxicity (madness) as love?

Now, everyone wants to prove loyalty by being toxic.

You see someone checking their partner’s phone 24/7, tracking location, fighting imaginary rivals and instead of calling it insecurity, they call it true love. 😒

Relationship wey suppose sweet like honey, don turn to FBI investigation.

The Hard Truth:

Obsession ≠ Attraction

Possessiveness ≠ Protection

Jealousy ≠ Love

All those “do or die” vibes we glorify are what’s destroying marriages today.
People no dey love again na to control, to monitor, to own.
Love wey no give peace, na punishment.
Love wey you no fit breathe inside, na prison.

You should know that, Love:

Gives you peace, not panic.

Builds you, not breaks you.

Trusts you, not tracks you.

Let’s stop normalizing emotional instability and calling it affection.
Because when it becomes obsession, somebody might end up in the news and it won’t be for good reasons.

Your so-called love of your life should not be the cause of your death.
Re: Toxicity Is Not Love by Hier(m): 9:16am On Oct 31, 2025
Kalatium:
You ever see posts like this online:

“A woman in love is obsessed. Possessive. Territorial. Almost psychotic. If she doesn't show the above then she doesn't love you”

And people will be in the comments shouting, "100% correct", I agree with you " “God when!”

Before you know it, the same woman don kpai the man o.

Let’s be real, when did we start celebrating this level of toxicity (madness) as love?

Now, everyone wants to prove loyalty by being toxic.

You see someone checking their partner’s phone 24/7, tracking location, fighting imaginary rivals and instead of calling it insecurity, they call it true love. 😒

Relationship wey suppose sweet like honey, don turn to FBI investigation.

The Hard Truth:

Obsession ≠ Attraction

Possessiveness ≠ Protection

Jealousy ≠ Love

All those “do or die” vibes we glorify are what’s destroying marriages today.
People no dey love again na to control, to monitor, to own.
Love wey no give peace, na punishment.
Love wey you no fit breathe inside, na prison.

You should know that, Love:

Gives you peace, not panic.

Builds you, not breaks you.

Trusts you, not tracks you.

Let’s stop normalizing emotional instability and calling it affection.
Because when it becomes obsession, somebody might end up in the news and it won’t be for good reasons.

Your so-called love of your life should not be the cause of your death.
I will like to hear your submission on this post sir
https://www.nairaland.com/8551325/ingrates-called-nigerian-girls-respects#137303487
Re: Toxicity Is Not Love by Kobojunkie: 2:48pm On Oct 31, 2025
The Nigerian sort of love is, in fact, toxicity, and many of our great grandmother, grandmother, and mothers were, in fact codependents in their relationships. These damage-related attachments are literally what we glorify across all cultures in Nigeria; our traditions (religions included) encourage these toxic connections in marriage tagging it love of the highest form. undecided
Re: Toxicity Is Not Love by Kaczynski: 3:34pm On Oct 31, 2025
idk about yall but me and my babe are like bonnie ans clyde


we fit kee person together
Re: Toxicity Is Not Love by Kalatium(op): 7:53pm On Oct 31, 2025
Kaczynski:
idk about yall but me and my babe are like bonnie ans clyde


we fit kee person together
grin
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