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I'm very grateful to my parents for giving me a solid foundation. By God's grace I'm well educated and an established entrepreneur. In essence, exposure or financial buoyancy are barely my problems.

But I realized my foundation didn't train me on a truth early enough, about the advantages of having real opposite sex connections and also the advantages of early marriage.

I got to learn about these truths around my 24 and started aligning myself aright. This made me start a relationship with the view that by 28 after NYSC we'd marry if things work out but things stopped working out some months before I turned 28, even before NYSC duty called at that same age.

Now 29, I have found it difficult to settle for any girl so far, despite the fact I seriously long to marry a wife.

With all of these happenings I realized my foundation erred in this area, imagine if I had a foundation that meant I connected with a lot of the opposite sex and had the mindset of early marriage I know I would not be in this situation as I am right now.

Finding my wife has not been easy.

Foundation only has a very strong influence while you're a teenager. Once you pass puberty, discipline yourself to be the HUMAN BEING YOU ASPIRE TO BECOME.

"My foundation erred" is a self-pitiful-excuse for not able to define your own identity.

Good thing, you can learn it.

Try involving yourself in lots of social activities.

Auxtan:
➜I'm very grateful to my parents for giving me a solid foundation. By God's grace I'm well educated and an established entrepreneur. In essence, exposure or financial buoyancy are barely my problems.
But I realized my foundation didn't train me on a truth early enough, about the advantages of having real opposite sex connections and also the advantages of early marriage. I got to learn about these truths around my 24 and started aligning myself aright. This made me start a relationship with the view that by 28 after NYSC we'd marry if things work out but things stopped working out some months before I turned 28, even before NYSC duty called at that same age. Now 29, I have found it difficult to settle for any girl so far, despite the fact I seriously long to marry a wife. With all of these happenings I realized my foundation erred in this area, imagine if I had a foundation that meant I connected with a lot of the opposite sex and had the mindset of early marriage I know I would not be in this situation as I am right now. Finding my wife has not been easy.

What are these advantages you suppose exist in having "real opposite sex connections"?

Sounds more like you generally lack some really basic emotional and social intelligence, and this is why you think a special formula is necessary for interacting with women(those I assume you refer here to as the opposite sex), as opposed to men. And part of why there is currently a male loneliness epidemic is that a lot of men put in a bit more work into their ability to socialize with women than they do with other men. When you begin to see both men and women plainly as human beings and you focus on building your general emotional and social skills towards all humans, you will find yourself in a far better place with all human species & genders out there.

The moment you stop searching, she'll find you herself.

RealityKings1:
The moment you stop searching, she'll find you herself.

That is what many were told, but that turned out not to be true for the most part.

Kobojunkie:
That does not seem to work either.

The moment you stop seeking, the birds come in droves

RealityKings1:
The moment you stop seeking, the birds come in droves

Not according to the reality of things.

Kobojunkie:
Not according to the reality of things.

if he's patient enough, the reality unfolds gradually

Auxtan:
I'm very grateful to my parents for giving me a solid foundation. By God's grace I'm well educated and an established entrepreneur. In essence, exposure or financial buoyancy are barely my problems.

But I realized my foundation didn't train me on a truth early enough, about the advantages of having real opposite sex connections and also the advantages of early marriage.

I got to learn about these truths around my 24 and started aligning myself aright. This made me start a relationship with the view that by 28 after NYSC we'd marry if things work out but things stopped working out some months before I turned 28, even before NYSC duty called at that same age.

Now 29, I have found it difficult to settle for any girl so far, despite the fact I seriously long to marry a wife.

With all of these happenings I realized my foundation erred in this area, imagine if I had a foundation that meant I connected with a lot of the opposite sex and had the mindset of early marriage I know I would not be in this situation as I am right now. Finding my wife has not been easy.

set your proritizes damn well shigger


looking for a wife when you havent figured your fouarking life out



jesus mehnn get a gripe on yourself



now its not the time to look for a wife . focus on better things that will benefit you in the long run. stop inhaling the fumes of societal pressure