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Something has been on my mind lately. Why do most newly married couples prefer to check into hotels immediately after the wedding for their honeymoon?

You’ll see a couple that just got married rushing to one expensive resort or hotel room that same night as if their house suddenly became uninhabitable. I understand that it’s meant to be special, but shouldn’t your home be the most comfortable place to start your marriage?

Personally, I don’t think I’ll feel at ease consummating my marriage in a hotel. There’s something about those places that just doesn’t feel personal. You’re surrounded by walls that have seen hundreds of other couples before you, beds that have witnessed all kinds of stories, and staff knocking at your door at random hours.

Meanwhile, your own home...the place you built or rented, carries your scent, your privacy, and your peace of mind. No distractions, no check-out times, no fake luxury. Just two people learning to be one under their own roof.

Of course, I understand that some people see it as a way to spice things up or escape family interference right after the wedding. But still, I feel like the real honeymoon should be in your own space. The one you’ll wake up in every morning as husband and wife.

I’d rather make memories in my home than in a hotel that costs 150k per night just to say we did honeymoon.

What do you all think? Is it just a trend, or is there something deeper about newlyweds choosing hotels over home for their first night together?

These are some of the reasons:
1. Imagine say I go marry a Northern lady from sokoto, do you expect me to take her back home that very day after the stress?
2. Privacy: neighbors and numerous people go dey come knock door to greet/congratulate una, which is a sort of disturbance as at that time.
3. Comfort: for good hotel, everything go dey provided for una. But if una dey house, una go dey so somethings on una own which will be kind of stressful.
4. Trend: some people just dey wan do am because others are doing it.
5. If you marry a non-virgin, you suppose know say dem don carry her go hotel tire, so you need to appease her one last time by taking her to a hotel so that her kpekus can finally give a good farewell to the hotel bed and A.C. It's just like say you wan take me out to USA finally, I will have to go and meet my friend and spend quality time with them for the last time na. If not for non-virgins, hotel businesses for no get gain, hence the reason you have to take her there to appease the hotel room.


What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Just say you are stingy Bro

Na the money dey do you
Stop using the amount spent to justify how you think people are wasting funds just to go stay in hotels/resorts/relaxation spots to enjoy their special marital consumation

Everything in life as regards decisions are often sociological for example what we call white wedding is a product of Queen Victoria of The United Kingdom putting on a White Gown for her wedding, and the idea of having Best Man and Grooms men originated from Best Sword Men and Groom Sword Men, thousands of years ago in Europe brides are often kidnapped on their wedding days and the grooms often attacked so the man will sword men following him to the altar. So na copy cat all of us be

Nazgul:
Something has been on my mind lately. Why do most newly married couples prefer to check into hotels immediately after the wedding for their honeymoon?

You’ll see a couple that just got married rushing to one expensive resort or hotel room that same night as if their house suddenly became uninhabitable. I understand that it’s meant to be special, but shouldn’t your home be the most comfortable place to start your marriage?

Personally, I don’t think I’ll feel at ease consummating my marriage in a hotel. There’s something about those places that just doesn’t feel personal. You’re surrounded by walls that have seen hundreds of other couples before you, beds that have witnessed all kinds of stories, and staff knocking at your door at random hours.

Meanwhile, your own home...the place you built or rented, carries your scent, your privacy, and your peace of mind. No distractions, no check-out times, no fake luxury. Just two people learning to be one under their own roof.

Of course, I understand that some people see it as a way to spice things up or escape family interference right after the wedding. But still, I feel like the real honeymoon should be in your own space. The one you’ll wake up in every morning as husband and wife.

I’d rather make memories in my home than in a hotel that costs 150k per night just to say we did honeymoon.

What do you all think? Is it just a trend, or is there something deeper about newlyweds choosing hotels over home for their first night together?


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Dominique

Thinking about it now, I tend to agree with you!

duduade:
Just say you are stingy Bro

Na the money dey do you
Stop using the amount spent to justify how you think people are wasting funds just to go stay in hotels/resorts/relaxation spots to enjoy their special marital consumation

Lol...you called me stingy because I said I don’t see the need for newlyweds to book hotels for their honeymoon. Like, how does that even relate? 😅

I’m just looking at it from a different angle. I’ve lodged in hotels outside my state of residence several times. Even the fancy ones, and honestly, I feel way more comfortable in my own house than in most of them.

I’ve stayed in rooms that cost up to 50k per night, and still, it’s just one limited space. You can’t move around freely unless you’re heading to the bar or lobby. For me, that’s boring. At home, I have space. I can walk from my room to the kitchen, to the palour and even the balcony without restrictions.

Me and my spouse can move around naked, make breakfast together, even have a little fun before returning to the bedroom. 😏 That’s freedom. You won’t get that in any hotel, no matter how expensive it is.

Let me even gist you. I once lodged in a hotel in Abeokuta for 30k during a burial trip. By midnight, they switched off the generator to manage fuel. Imagine being on your honeymoon and they switch off your light while you’re trying to vibe with your partner?

At home, I can run my gen till morning, play my music, eat when I want, and enjoy my own space. That’s real privacy.

So no, it’s not about being stingy. It’s about comfort and control. Some people just love the hotel aesthetic, and that’s fine. But for me, nothing beats the peace of enjoying your own space with your spouse after the wedding.

Two reasons:
1.
Some people don't have conducive and comfortable homes. No good bed to do the thing. No privacy, neighbours can knock on the door as early as 6:00 in the morning. No constant electricity and air conditioners.

2.
Some people have good homes but want to follow trends.

Nothing else.

It depends on the lifestyle of the people involved! During mine I have a room inside the hotel venue, but I gave it out as I prefer to go home and continue the celebration with my friends and neighbors.

I was very much ok with that decision without isolating myself and thinking how to go back home and start arranging things and bills settlement.

Simple lifestyle is a goal!

How people chose to live their lives is their choice. Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean others don’t. Everyone doesn’t need to have the same thought processes.

duduade:
Just say you are stingy Bro

Na the money dey do you
Stop using the amount spent to justify how you think people are wasting funds just to go stay in hotels/resorts/relaxation spots to enjoy their special marital consumation

How on hell does his question translate to stinginess?
Abi werey ni yin ni NL ni?

Nazgul:
I’m just looking at it from a different angle. I’ve lodged in hotels outside my state of residence several times. Even the fancy ones, and honestly, I feel way more comfortable in my own house than in most of them.

I’ve stayed in rooms that cost up to 50k per night, and still, it’s just one limited space. You can’t move around freely unless you’re heading to the bar or lobby. For me, that’s boring. At home, I have space. I can walk from my room to the kitchen, to the palour and even the balcony without restrictions.

Me and my spouse can move around naked, make breakfast together, even have a little fun before returning to the bedroom. 😏 That’s freedom. You won’t get that in any hotel, no matter how expensive it is.

Lodging in a hotel for newly weds gives them a little space to rest from all the wedding prep stress. If they go home, they might have to start fixing their meals or Nigerians will start coming to say congratulations. Sometimes there are visitors in their houses and it would take them up to a week to leave. No need going home to all that.

It is the same thing we do with new mums.
She is discharged my 9am and by 4pm, they are coming to her house to sing and pray.

If the new couple can afford it, I recommend.

Personally, I don’t think I’ll feel at ease consummating my marriage in a hotel.

How many couples do you think have energy to knack that night?

Lalami3232:

These are some of the reasons:
1. Imagine say I go marry a Northern lady from sokoto, do you expect me to take her back home that very day after the stress?

You can always book a return trip, bro. Traditional marriages don’t take the whole day. You can even let the family know your schedule ahead of time. By 2–3pm you’re done, and by 4pm you’re already at the airport. 6pm max, you’re back in your state with your wife.

I’ve actually attended one in my village (in the East), and the groom came all the way from Owerri. After the traditional rites, he still left with his wife that same day. It’s just about planning.

Lalami3232:
2. Privacy: neighbors and numerous people go dey come knock door to greet/congratulate una, which is a sort of disturbance as at that time.

That one na if you dey live for face-me-I-face-you. 😂
If it’s a proper apartment or your own place, nobody go disturb you. Most people in standard estates barely even know each other , talk less of knocking for greetings.

Lalami3232:
3. Comfort: for good hotel, everything go dey provided for una. But if una dey house, una go dey so on una own which will be kind of stressful.

Let me gist you small. There’s no major difference between some hotel rooms and the self-con I stayed in during my university days. The only thing making it luxury is the AC and the bedsheet. 😂

When you say “everything is provided,” what exactly do you mean?

If it’s food, you’d still have to order and pay for it.
If it’s comfort, you’re limited to just that one room.

At home, I can stock my fridge, move around naked, cook breakfast in the kitchen, and chill in the parlour afterward. That’s comfort and freedom.

Lalami3232:
4. Trend: some people just dey wan do am because others are doing it.

I agree with you on this.

Lalami3232:
5. If you n, you suppose know say dem don carry her go hotel tire, so you need to appease her one last time by taking her to a hotel so that her kpekus can finally give a good farewell to the hotel bed and A.C. It's just like say you wan take me out to USA finally, I will have to go and meet my friend and spend quality time with them for the last time na. If not for non-virgins, hotel businesses for no get gain, hence the reason you have to take her there to appease the hotel room.


What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Lol

pocohantas:
Lodging in a hotel for newly weds gives them a little space to rest from all the wedding prep stress. If they go home, they might have to start fixing their meals or Nigerians will start coming to say congratulations. Sometimes there are visitors in their houses and it would take them up to a week to leave. No need going home to all that.

It is the same thing we do with new mums.
She is discharged by 9am and by 4pm, they are coming to her house to sing and pray.

If the new couple can afford it, I recommend.

They won’t even need to fix meals. There’ll be plenty of leftovers from the wedding. Half the time, food and drinks go surplus. That one shouldn’t be a problem.

As for people coming to say congratulations, common sense should tell anyone that by 7pm, it’s time to go home and allow the couple some privacy. No one needs to spend the night disturbing newlyweds.

For those visitors or family members staying over, it all depends on planning.
If they’re coming from outside the state, lodge them in a hotel for a couple of nights. If they’re within the state, make it clear ahead of time that they’ll need to leave within 48 hours so you can have quality time with your wife. Communication solves that.

And about the comparison with new mums. That one is totally different. A new mother actually needs help, care, and guidance from older women. But marriage? That’s not something you need assistance for. I doubt any couple needs an elderly couple hanging around to teach them what to do in bed. 😂

pocohantas:
How many couples do you think have energy to knack that night?

Exactly my point. Most don’t even have that strength after all the wedding stress. That’s why the comfort of your own home makes more sense. You can rest properly, no pressure, no hotel rules, no noise from the bar, customers or reception downstairs. Just peace.

Nazgul:
They won’t even need to fix meals. There’ll be plenty of leftovers from the wedding. Half the time, food and drinks go surplus. That one shouldn’t be a problem.

As for people coming to say congratulations, common sense should tell anyone that by 7pm, it’s time to go home and allow the couple some privacy. No one needs to spend the night disturbing newlyweds.

For those visitors or family members staying over, it all depends on planning.
If they’re coming from outside the state, lodge them in a hotel for a couple of nights. If they’re within the state, make it clear ahead of time that they’ll need to leave within 48 hours so you can have quality time with your wife. Communication solves that.

And about the comparison with new mums. That one is totally different. A new mother actually needs help, care, and guidance from older women. But marriage? That’s not something you need assistance for. I doubt any couple needs an elderly couple hanging around to teach them what to do in bed. 😂


Exactly my point. Most don’t even have that strength after all the wedding stress. That’s why the comfort of your own home makes more sense. You can rest properly, no pressure, no hotel rules, no noise from the bar, customers or reception downstairs. Just peace.

Oh well, this is one of those cases I hate to say experience is the best teacher.

pocohantas:
Oh well, this is one of those cases I hate to say experience is the best teacher.

Hmmm.

How many people are getting married as virgins? Most people have already consummated the marriage before marriage na

Nazgul:
They won’t even need to fix meals. There’ll be plenty of leftovers from the wedding. Half the time, food and drinks go surplus. That one shouldn’t be a problem.

As for people coming to say congratulations, common sense should tell anyone that by 7pm, it’s time to go home and allow the couple some privacy. No one needs to spend the night disturbing newlyweds.

For those visitors or family members staying over, it all depends on planning.
If they’re coming from outside the state, lodge them in a hotel for a couple of nights. If they’re within the state, make it clear ahead of time that they’ll need to leave within 48 hours so you can have quality time with your wife. Communication solves that.

And about the comparison with new mums. That one is totally different. A new mother actually needs help, care, and guidance from older women. But marriage? That’s not something you need assistance for. I doubt any couple needs an elderly couple hanging around to teach them what to do in bed. 😂


Exactly my point. Most don’t even have that strength after all the wedding stress. That’s why the comfort of your own home makes more sense. You can rest properly, no pressure, no hotel rules, no noise from the bar, customers or reception downstairs. Just peace.

Lodging plenty people might be more expensive than just lodging you both, more expensive than that 150k you said. How will they feed, do logistics and all? Body go scratch them still come knock your door later and spoiling the 'show' Then again, some people have talked about the most important thing which is privacy. That part ehn, o se Koko oo. Also, these hotels come with some add ons like pools, games some other experiences. Psychologically, everybody likes a holiday. So starting immediately from the same house..same room e get as e be.
But your points are valid too

And I'll keep asking you if you've conducted a DNA test to confirm if you're your father's biological child before enlightening your fellow men nationwide about the good news of DNA testing...

Lalami3232:

These are some of the reasons:
1. Imagine say I go marry a Northern lady from sokoto, do you expect me to take her back home that very day after the stress?
2. Privacy: neighbors and numerous people go dey come knock door to greet/congratulate una, which is a sort of disturbance as at that time.
3. Comfort: for good hotel, everything go dey provided for una. But if una dey house, una go dey so somethings on una own which will be kind of stressful.
4. Trend: some people just dey wan do am because others are doing it.
5. If you marry a non-virgin, you suppose know say dem don carry her go hotel tire, so you need to appease her one last time by taking her to a hotel so that her kpekus can finally give a good farewell to the hotel bed and A.C. It's just like say you wan take me out to USA finally, I will have to go and meet my friend and spend quality time with them for the last time na. If not for non-virgins, hotel businesses for no get gain, hence the reason you have to take her there to appease the hotel room.


What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

I'm a newly wed, but I don't know... We didn't go to any hotel after the wedding, but something tells me that you're one of those boring unromantic African men... It's probably their honeymoon and there's also nothing wrong with exploring.

But perhaps we'll go to somewhere special after our second wedding ceremony this upcoming December...

Are you supposed to do your honeymoon in your house?

E be like say Seun don remove the 20 characters requirement

Samantha125:
I'm a newly wed, but I don't know... We didn't go to any hotel after the wedding, but something tells me that you're one of those boring unromantic African men... It's probably their honeymoon and there's also nothing wrong with exploring.

But perhaps we'll go to somewhere special after our second wedding ceremony this upcoming December...

It's better to book a hotel and go there after the wedding so that visitors in the house will not hear you moaning when your husband is phocking you

pocohantas:
Lodging in a hotel for newly weds gives them a little space to rest from all the wedding prep stress. If they go home, they might have to start fixing their meals or Nigerians will start coming to say congratulations. Sometimes there are visitors in their houses and it would take them up to a week to leave. No need going home to all that.

It is the same thing we do with new mums.
She is discharged my 9am and by 4pm, they are coming to her house to sing and pray.

If the new couple can afford it, I recommend.

 

How many couples do you think have energy to knack that night?

If na me go marry you on the wedding night I go phock shege comot for your body

HelenaWills:
How on hell does his question translate to stinginess?
Abi werey ni yin ni NL ni?

It is stinginess because I don't understand how you can spend all that money on the wedding but you don't want to spend at least 50K on a hotel room so you can phock your new wife without any distractions

That's what's available in a country that upholds such. There no places to visit across Naija....not to talk of safe places.

Wait till you wed then you will know why

Why u de ask? They want to have a good time with no distraction from anyone.
They want to kna-k and kna-k without any restraint.

Western ideology and just to feel among!

Honeymoon should be for virgin couples.