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Please guys I am seriously dealing with marital issues and I have posted on this forum as regards to how my wife turned into something else in my very own eyes. Well in my previous post I talked about how my wife changed in pregnancy though I am still not sure the pregnancy is mine as I have stated on my previous post how she is secretly seeing a guy in my street who sells female wears and I am a kind of person that don’t often stay in the house. To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

Xso666:
Please guys I am seriously dealing with marital issues and I have posted on this forum as regards to how my wife turned into something else in my very own eyes. Well in my previous post I talked about how my wife changed in pregnancy though I am still not sure the pregnancy is mine as I have stated on my previous post how she is secretly seeing a guy in my street who sells female wears and I am a kind of person that don’t often stay in the house. To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

Kick her out and let her people bring the fight to your doorstep if the pregnancy is yours,or she fades into the stewpid cloth sellers life if its his. Act fast and be stern with your demands... Good luck!

What do you need matured minds for when you can just do the needful without seeking anyone's opinion .

The fact that she's seeing someone else even when she's with your pregnancy is an enough reason to show her the exact road that leads to her parents house

Send her packing...



PS: plus disclaimer... I'm not a mature guy o!

Lord Jesus!

The struggle!

The pain.

It's hard to truly comprehend how guys cope with disrespect and on top of that you want sex from her.....

I can't believe that they are such kindness spineless guys in this country you mean your wife with her pregnancy which you doubt the paternity still has the end country and you

Brother of you are legally married to her or u did introduction with her, you have every right to send her back to her parents so they can know what you have been exercising patience about, I'm sure they will call you to come and explain and make sure you explain all of them right after the other so they know the devil you have been coping with, I'm sure sending her there will reveal many things about her.

When I read some comments, I go just know say some of una no suck breast reach 3 months. Anyways, since you've been enduring, I will advise you to keep on enduring and change your middle name to endurance. No be me na una go take settle laslas. From your write-up, it's obvious say if dem advise person like you, you go tell your wife after una don settle. So I refuse to be the scape goat when you and your wife go use sex take settle, hence I'm advising you to endure with your "darling, sweet and virtuous wife" who God has given you. No be from my mouth you go hear say yansh get center parting.
The only advice I have for you and all men is that if you know say you no meet the food completely sealed from the factory, then know say it must have been tampered by someone else. And if you must claim complete ownership of a tampered food, apply preventive measures, else running stomach go show you shege laslas.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

fyneboi79:
Kick her out and let her people bring the fight to your doorstep if the pregnancy is yours,or she fades into the stewpid cloth sellers life if its his. Act fast and be stern with your demands... Good luck!

Thank you for this but I’m still considering if I should wait till she delivers

Sonnobax15:

What do you need matured minds for when you can just do the needful without seeking anyone's opinion .

The fact that she's seeing someone else even when she's with your pregnancy is an enough reason to show her the exact road that leads to her parents house

I was thinking if I should wait till she gives birth. Score kicking her out

Lalami3232:

When I read some comments, I go just know say some of una no suck breast reach 3 months. Anyways, since you've been enduring, I will advise you to keep on enduring and change your middle name to endurance. No be me na una go take settle laslas. From your write-up, it's obvious say if dem advise person like you, you go tell your wife after una don settle. So I refuse to be the scape goat when you and your wife go use sex take settle, hence I'm advising you to endure with your "darling, sweet and virtuous wife" who God has given you. No be from my mouth you go hear say yansh get center parting.
The only advice I have for you and all men is that if you know say you no meet the food completely sealed from the factory, then know say it must have been tampered by someone else. And if you must claim complete ownership of a tampered food, apply preventive measures, else running stomach go show you shege laslas.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Please read my previous post my wife was a virgin when I met her

Pupanchie:
Brother of you are legally married to her or u did introduction with her, you have every right to send her back to her parents so they can know what you have been exercising patience about, I'm sure they will call you to come and explain and make sure you explain all of them right after the other so they know the devil you have been coping with, I'm sure sending her there will reveal many things about her.

Exactly what I’m thinking but I want more opinions on this so I don’t act based on emotions because some people says pregnancy comes with a lot of mood swings too so I’m confused

wildcatter23:


Lord Jesus!

The struggle!

The pain.

It's hard to truly comprehend how guys cope with disrespect and on top of that you want sex from her.....

I can't believe that they are such kindness spineless guys in this country you mean your wife with her pregnancy which you doubt the paternity still has the end country and you

It has gotten to the point we dont have sex I just masturbate you can read my previous post how it all started to this point

If you are very sure that the pregnancy is not for you, then send her out. Thanks.

Your wife is having affair outside and you're still with her?

In some places,death might have visited you by now. You better sent her packing or leave her there and run for your life.

The pregnancy isn't yours why are you disturbing us here.

Is there no one in your family that you can talk to.

Xscape1993:
If you are very sure that the pregnancy is not for you, then send her out. Thanks.

Well some people in this forum on my previous post adviced me about the pregnancy and told me to do a dna when she gives birth

Foodqueen:
The pregnancy isn't yours why are you disturbing us here.

Is there no one in your family that you can talk to.

Please I don’t mean to disturb you here i have been talking about this issues from the very first day it started if you check my previous post you’ll understand why I still brought it back here

Wannabenz:
Your wife is having affair outside and you're still with her?

In some places,death might have visited you by now. You better sent her packing or leave her there and run for your life.

Well some people accused me of insecurity since I have no valid proof about her having an affair or cheating on me

Xso666:
Well some people in this forum on my previous post adviced me about the pregnancy and told me to do a dna when she gives birth

If you can still tolerate her. It is fine. Thanks.

@ op

Bro, I can feel ur pain from this post
and it’s clear u’re going through a lot
emotionally and mentally.
But the best thing u can do right now is stay calm and avoid decisions made out of
anger or frustration.

Pregnancy alone can change a woman’s mood and behavior in ways that may not even make sense to her.
That doesn’t excuse everything, but it helps u understand the tension better.
Don’t rush to send her away yet, wait till after she gives birth so that both mother and child are safe.

In the meantime, focus on getting urself back on ur feet financially and emotionally.
Work on ur peace of mind. Find something productive to do, even if it’s small. That sense of purpose will help u think clearly.

Also Avoid masturbation, it won’t solve the issue, it only drains ur strength and focus. Rather, pray, exercise, and spend time around positive people.

Hopefully, u’ll feel better

Remember to do DNA before child dedication. Sometimes pregnancy can be frustrating. Send her to her parents for ‘amugbo’

If she gives birth and still continues, normalize staying out for weeks ( probably 2 weeks) If she doesn’t show any care, hmmm………….

Normally we’re just wasting advices here because this is the fourth thread you’re creating because of your wife. If you had listen to first and second, you won’t be here again. So adios……..

We’ll still be here for the next thread and all this proves you’re incapable of handling family matters.

Xso666:
✓ ... To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

Can you please tell the wife to come on Nairaland to tell us her side of the story since you seem to have taken to condemning her without proof and all. 🥱🥱🥱

No, don't be a foolish man, pregnancy doesn't change mood to that extent
Imagine your legally married wife still went a head to see another man,even telling you face to face that you are irritating her
My brother please wise up
I find it difficult to believe this story

I was considering marrying a girl through recommendations and stuffs without true dating and stuffs. But this your story is a testament that it doesn't work out well like that. I believe you brought your wife from another town and most possibly a village because she didn't know any man and is well behaved, the reason why she's a virgin according to you. But here's the thing, she is just discovering you and it turned out you both don't match. The fact she started flings with someone else due to the nature of your job, if that there was any real connection before marriage you would have seen these signs and would have made a better decision concerning her.

One advice you got wrong on this platform is reacting quickly to your discoveries. Sometimes a man sits back and acts stupid till he gets a verified established fact before acting. The moment you saw these signs, especially the day you came back earlier to spoil her plans, you would have stepped back a bit and acted stupid to buy yourself more time to verify your suspicion, remember until established suspicions are not facts.

Reacting quickly to your suspicions damaged your relationship with your wife that was why she went from probably hiding what she feels about you to showing you and telling you to your face.

For her pregnancy you are unsure about, I will advice you to be calm about the situation, I know you're emotionally drained but a man of your age should learn to be emotionally strong as every happenings is all life lessons. Wait for her to put to birth to ascertain with certainty the baby's paternity through DNA test. Start saving for it because that will be only how you can be certain of that the baby is yours or not.

Be strong.

Kobojunkie:
Can you please tell the wife to come on Nairaland to tell us her side of the story since you seem to have taken to condemning her without proof and all. 🥱🥱🥱

She doesn’t know about this forum and even if I don’t think she will be in for something like this. I get this is to my advantage to seek more knowledge from various people

D111:
No, don't be a foolish man, pregnancy doesn't change mood to that extent
Imagine your legally married wife still went a head to see another man,even telling you face to face that you are irritating her
My brother please wise up
I find it difficult to believe this story

You can visit my previous post to know how this whole issues started.

D111:
No, don't be a foolish man, pregnancy doesn't change mood to that extent
Imagine your legally married wife still went a head to see another man,even telling you face to face that you are irritating her
My brother please wise up
I find it difficult to believe this story

Please check my previous post and you’ll understand better

Xso666:
➜She doesn’t know about this forum and even if I don’t think she will be in for something like this. I get this is to my advantage to seek more knowledge from various people

You know of this forum and are on this forum complaining, right? Therefore, you could tell her about using this forum to air her grievances and get advice from others who may have been in her shoes in marriage.

You are close to dumping her, are you not? So, what have you got to lose?

This is a failed marriage.... Plan ur exit lowkey, when she delivers annd the child is not urs leave the marriage.... Just chill small and u need to stop being timid else she will always trample on you.... From what you are saying my best advice is plan ur exit except you are leing

Xso666:
I was thinking if I should wait till she gives birth. Score kicking her out

Do you have conclusive evidence that the pregnancy is not yours?

Kobojunkie:
You know of this forum and are on this forum complaining, right? Therefore, you could tell her about using this forum to air her grievances and get advice from others who may have been in her shoes in marriage.

You are close to dumping her, are you not? So, what have you got to lose?

Put yourself in my shoes please

Kobicove:
Do you have conclusive evidence that the pregnancy is not yours?

Honestly I don’t have and that’s why I don’t want to act based on emotions