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drstranged:
Just look at the childish kind of reasoning. They're called fish brain for a reason

There is nothing childish about it, actually.

Even gate men will begin to think you are giving them signals the moment you become too nice to them.

She's 90% right. if a girl is nice to u it doesn't mean anything unless u aren't used to female attention or ure not loved at home or in ur circle.

Now it could also mean something but it doesn't give u license to be a jerk.

Gym guys are notorious human beings.

Kobojunkie:
There is nothing childish about it, actually.

There's nothing childish about generalizing an action just because of a singular experience she had? A smarter/intelligent lady would know how to approach and intellectually adapt based on the individual and situation she's dealing with. But a lady who has little capacity to intellectually adapt to variety will always remain rigid in her thought process. And that's the key sign of a child. Intellectual adaptability is a key sign of intelligence.

AllBlack:
Nigerian men are actually very considerate and nice oh.

How many men will even look at this balloon twice if spends three full months in Europe? Not to talk of getting close.

Are Nigerian men better looking with their pot bellies

All that one nah story. The guy no dey feel u, no dey use reverse psychology.🥱

If you present yourself as a nuisance that can’t conduct herself properly those men will treat you the same way

drstranged:
➜There's nothing childish about generalizing an action just because of a singular experience she had?
➜ A smarter/intelligent lady would know how to approach and intellectually adapt based on the individual and situation she's dealing with. But a lady who has little capacity to intellectually adapt to variety will always remain rigid in her thought process. And that's the key sign of a child. Intellectual adaptability is a key sign of intelligence.

She didn't generalize. The many masculine movements out there that supposedly provide cheat codes to men on dating literally suggest that men should interpret a woman's niceness as interest. Crime statistics have literally revealed over and over that women are more likely to be victimized by men whom they are nice to. Yes, there are literally reasons why a woman should go slow on being nice with men in general to protect herself from potential victimhood.

2. Actually, smartness is prioritizing one's safety and security in all cases.

Kobojunkie:
She didn't generalize. The many masculine movements out there that supposedly provide cheat codes to men on dating literally suggest that men should interpret a woman's niceness as interest. Crime statistics have literally revealed over and over that women are more likely to be victimized by men whom they are nice to. Yes, there are literally reasons why a woman should go slow on being nice with men in general to protect herself from potential victimhood.

2. Actually, smartness is prioritizing one's safety and security in all cases.

1. That's the point! Not all men think that way. So generalizing it for all men is just a dumb move by her. My opinion is that she should be herself. If being herself is being friendly and nice so be it. There are decent guys out there who would truly cherish that quality in her with no negative intentions.

2. Being mean to all men is not being smart, neither would it guarantee her safety. Being too nice too wouldn't also guarantee her safety.

Women do it too, even on this forum. I remember when about nine different women on this forum individually assumed that I was in a relationship with each of them, simply because I either extended to them the privilege to frantinize with each of them here or to some that I responded to their DMs, I was courteous in my response and benevolent towards them.

One of them even openly accused me here that I promised her a relationship and marriage offline but had to move on after waiting for me to no avail, LOL.

drstranged:
1. That's the point! Not all men think that way. So generalizing it for all men is just a dumb move by her. My opinion is that she should be herself. If being herself is being friendly and nice so be it. There are decent guys out there who would truly cherish that quality in her with no negative intentions.
2. Being mean to all men is not being smart, neither would it guarantee her safety. Being too nice too wouldn't also guarantee her safety.

1. Again, the point is studies and crime rates— around the world, mind you — have shown that enough men think that way, and so it makes sense for women to want to choose meaness over general niceness at this point. This isn't about generalizing but about being logical about the situation in most countries, let alone in a country like Nigeria, where the rights of women and general security of citizens are pretty much non-existent.

2. It is actually smart. Removing completely the chances of men thinking she is giving them signals actually goes with smartness.

We4all:
Are Nigerian men better looking with their pot bellies

Yes we are dwarf, fat, hairy, with thick eyebrows and short fingers but Nigerian men are hot cake and I can show you many posts and comments from international women who attest to this.
Please show me where anyone gushed over a fat bellied Nigerian woman. 😁

No matter are lady play tuff! their is one guy who holds their mumu button.

Kobojunkie:
You are not safe because these women literally stalk and harass you clearly marking you a victim in this, abi wetin?

Yes naw
You think its impossible
Some of us look so good we are practically irrestitible agents of temptation

Spiritual husband is jealous, he uses quarrel to scare right suitors. Please go for deliverance

DyshApp:
A young lady has shared her reason for deliberately being mean to men who try to get close to her.

In a post shared on X (formerly Twitter), she revealed that her attitude changed after an encounter with a man at the gym. According to her, being nice to men often leads to misunderstanding.

She wrote: “I’m always a little mean to men because if you’re too nice they’ll think you want to sleep with them. Because how is this guy at my gym inviting me over to his house? All I did was buy you Pocari sweat, bro. Are you not loved at home?”

Rest
You can decline the request politely without coming to SM...we see your type in shiloh & hallelujah challenge every year

Simps keep disgracing themselves everywhere

Kobojunkie:
Will her brothers misconstrue her niceness for romantic attention? That has to be the answer to your question.

1. That her story doesn't hold water, just another twitter story for engagement.
2. That she's meeting some randy men (which I am sure she's the one showing them the greenlight and when they make a move she cries victim) doesn't mean every man out there is same. Like I said, she tries that madness with someone else, she's getting yanked off. Someone like me will just forget about her existence.

Emeskhalifa:
1. That her story doesn't hold water, just another twitter story for engagement.
2. That she's meeting some randy men (which I am sure she's the one showing them the greenlight and when they make a move she cries victim) doesn't mean every man out there is same. Like I said, she tries that madness with someone else, she's getting yanked off. Someone like me will just forget about her existence.

You already know what she is talking about (the statement in bold), yet you remain adamant that her story does not hold water all so you can continue to feign ignorance. That na your own problem!

YoungLionken:
Don't mind them. Even in relationships too, they would tell their men about the other men disturbing them (the ones they don't like), but you see the ones they like, they would never let you know. And the moment you find out, they would pick up an argument...

Na so one dey tell me that year, be like she think say na mumu I be and I will be moved by that till the day I asked her, what about the once you accepted and allowed them to pipe you? She went dead at that moment and could not reply. Na the genesis of the end of our FWB be that 😂 😂

Se iya e lo ni monopoly of meanness ni?

Kobojunkie:
You already know what she is talking about (the statement in bold), yet you remain adamant that her story does not hold water all so you can continue to feign ignorance. That na your own problem!

Word of advice, if you know her, like on Personal level, tell her to quit acting up, time's ticking.

jaxxy:
She's 90% right. if a girl is nice to u it doesn't mean anything unless u aren't used to female attention or ure not loved at home or in ur circle.

Now it could also mean something but it doesn't give u license to be a jerk.

Gym guys are notorious human beings.

I couldn’t agree more. The truth is, a lot of guys didn’t really experience love growing up, and that’s why when a lady becomes overly nice to them, they often misread the signals.

I remember back in my university days, my mom once called me while I had some coursemates around. The call was on speaker, and when she ended the call with, Alright honey, take care, I love you, (she uses those words whenever she calls me even till tomorrow) my coursemates looked at me strangely like it was something out of place.

That was when it really hit me. Many men never felt genuine affection at home. So when a girl starts showing them attention, they immediately assume it’s romantic or emotional, not realizing that some people were simply raised with warmth and kindness.

I know a guy who confronted a lady just because she called him “dear.” according to him if she isn't ready to be his girlfriend, she shouldn't use such words on him. He failed to understand that for some people, those words are just part of their natural expression, nothing more.

Honestly, a lot of men need emotional healing and mental rehabilitation. It’s not an insult, just the plain truth.

Nazgul:
I couldn’t agree more. The truth is, a lot of guys didn’t really experience love growing up, and that’s why when a lady becomes overly nice to them, they often misread the signals.

I remember back in my university days, my mom once called me while I had some coursemates around. The call was on speaker, and when she ended the call with, Alright honey, take care, I love you, (she uses those words whenever she calls me even till tomorrow) my coursemates looked at me strangely like it was something out of place.

That was when it really hit me. Many men never felt genuine affection at home. So when a girl starts showing them attention, they immediately assume it’s romantic or emotional, not realizing that some people were simply raised with warmth and kindness.

I know a guy who confronted a lady just because she called him “dear.” according to him if she isn't ready to be his girlfriend, she shouldn't use such words on him. He failed to understand that for some people, those words are just part of their natural expression, nothing more.

Honestly, a lot of men need emotional healing and mental rehabilitation. It’s not an insult, just the plain truth.

Yeah very correct, however dealing with female attention is a different kettle of fish for most guys and then there's the aspect of mixed signals and actual feelings and leading people on.

My rule to deal with that is to assume nothing is up until I see something is up. Lol

She's right about the 'misunderstanding' part though, Naija men tend to think that any friendly woman is open to sêx with them

eepeepook:
She knows what she did. She’s making noise.

OP, next time you call someone a young lady, don’t post a picture of your aunt. That woman looks forty or a few days younger.

🤣🤣

RealityKings1:
🤣🤣

The original meaning of the term Lady refers to unmarried woman. It does not matter her age.

Kobojunkie:
The original meaning of the term Lady refers to unmarried woman. It does not matter her age.

Young is subjective. She's young at heart

So.. is he saying "come to my house" meNs he wants to spread Dem cheeks


😏😏😏😏

What if he's just tryna be nice to you back ..

Heck he could be a chef on the side and just want to treat you to a new cuisine..

Just a post on internet for clicks. She doesn't like one who goes to the gym

DyshApp:
A young lady has shared her reason for deliberately being mean to men who try to get close to her.

In a post shared on X (formerly Twitter), she revealed that her attitude changed after an encounter with a man at the gym. According to her, being nice to men often leads to misunderstanding.

She wrote: “I’m always a little mean to men because if you’re too nice they’ll think you want to sleep with them. Because how is this guy at my gym inviting me over to his house? All I did was buy you Pocari sweat, bro. Are you not loved at home?”

Horseshit.

In my experience, and I'm sure in the experiences of most men, being nice to women only begets misunderstanding. Most regard your niceness as an attempt to sleep with them