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https://youtube.com/shorts/cnG2KPTJjzw?si=1v2JX894xYONin4j

Here's what the video says:

90% of married women do not really love their husbands. They're just happy to be married.
Modern marriage is not about love. It is about convenience, it is about security, it is about validation. A woman's loyalty is conditional. Her faithfulness is temporary. Her devotion is only as strong as her option. Hypergamy is undefeated.
Women are wired to seek the highest-value man they can get. When they say "I love you" they often mean "I love what you do for me", "I love the lifestyle you provide", "I love the way others perceive me because of you", "I love that I don't have to compete anymore". But does she love you really? Or is she just satisfied to have locked down a provider, a status symbol, a walking retirement plan?
A woman's love is transactional. The moment you lose your value, she loses interest. The moment you stumble, she re-evaluates. The moment another man presents a better deal she rethinks everything.

What's your take?
Compare to Regina and Ned

DiarisGodoo:
➜90% of married women do not really love their husbands. They're just happy to be married.
➜Modern marriage is not about love. It is about convenience, it is about security, it is about validation.
➜ A woman's loyalty is conditional. Her faithfulness is temporary. Her devotion is only as strong as her option.
➜ Hypergamy is undefeated. Women are wired to seek the highest-value man they can get. When they say "I love you" they often mean "I love what you do for me", "I love the lifestyle you provide", "I love the way others perceive me because of you", "I love that I don't have to compete anymore". But does she love you really? Or is she just satisfied to have locked down a provider, a status symbol, a walking retirement plan?
➜ A woman's love is transactional. The moment you lose your value, she loses interest. The moment you stumble, she re-evaluates. The moment another man presents a better deal she rethinks everything

A woman is happy in a marriage with a man that she does not love? Yikes! Is that even a possible thing? Define happiness in this situation.

2. So which of these translates into happiness for a woman, abeg?

3. But there is no such thing as unconditional loyalty, to begin with. And faithfulness to a man she does not love? Isn't that asking for way too much?

4. If hypergamy is the rule, then shouldn't it simply mean that men should know their levels? (Don't engage women of equal or higher class than the one you operate in?)

5. Love, from its very beginning, has always been transactional and conditional. Why are people now threatened by the most basic of things?

my wife is in the 1% and even if you split that one percent to 0.5%... she love me like say na jazz i use.
tested 1001 times over.
I need to buy that babe a nice benz + 50 million naira cash gift.

So help me God. Amen

Kobojunkie:
A woman is happy in a marriage with a man that she does not love? Yikes! Is that even a possible thing? Define happiness in this situation.

2. So which of these translates into happiness for a woman, abeg?

3. But there is no such thing as unconditional loyalty, to begin with. And faithfulness to a man she does not love? Isn't that asking for way too much?

4. If hypergamy is the rule, then shouldn't it simply mean that men should know their levels? (Don't engage women of equal or higher class than the one you operate in?)

5. Love, from its very beginning, has always been transactional and conditional. Why are people now threatened by the most basic of things?

You initially sounded like you disagreed with the video, then went ahead to validate it!
Relate it to Regina and Ned. She said she loved him. Note what the video describes as what women mean by "love"

AllBlack:
my wife is in the 1% and even if you split that one percent to 0.5%... she love me like say na jazz i use.
tested 1001 times over.
I need to buy that babe a nice benz + 50 million naira cash gift.

So help me God. Amen

Probably because you're fully aware your wife is reading this

WHY?
Why do you think she loves you? The video says "the moment you stumble, she re-evaluates"

DiarisGodoo:
➜You initially sounded like you disagreed with the video, then went ahead to validate it!
➜ Relate it to Regina and Ned. She said she loved him.
➜ Note what the video describes as what women mean by "love"

. Far from it, I instead pointed out the many problems with the claims made in the video regarding women. Beginning with the suggestion that a woman married to a man she does not love can be said to be happy.

2. I know nothing of those people and so cannot relate the gobbledegook from the video to them either.

3. Wrong! The video only presents a skewed idea of love from a biased man's point of view.

Kobojunkie:
. Far from it, I instead pointed out the many problems with the claims made in the video regarding women. Beginning with the suggestion that a woman married to a man she does not love can be said to be happy.

2. I know nothing of those people and so cannot relate the gobbledegook from the video to them either.

3. Wrong! The video only presents a skewed idea of love from a biased man's point of view.

According to the video, by definition, a woman cannot love unconditionally as a man can. They always "love" for a reason and conditionally!

A woman's happiness does not derive from that kind of love - unconditional love. They love conditionally and are quite happy to do so!

DiarisGodoo:
Probably because you're fully aware your wife is reading this

WHY?
Why do you think she loves you? The video says "the moment you stumble, she re-evaluates"

Keep guessing. You guys always love the stormy narrative and just can't accept other people's reality even when I clearly stated that I HAVE TESTED HER 1001 TIMES, you just chose to be selectivly blind to that part. Stumble? Me wey don stumble 100 times and she has always come to my rescue or stood firm when she can't rescue 😁. I have met plenty ogbanje and karashika for me to know that I am just one of the lucky few to have such a badass beauty in & out and if ever she leaves me... I am sure it will be my fault because my wahala tooooooooooooooooooo much 👍🏽.
Are you even married? Yes/No? Is your wife from hell or Krakatoa?

Wait... So you think my wife knows I have this account on Nairaland? You be small pikin abi you no just get co-ordination for up?

DiarisGodoo:
➜According to the video, by definition, a woman cannot love unconditionally as a man can. They always "love" for a reason and conditionally!
➜ A woman's happiness does not derive from that kind of love - unconditional love. They love conditionally and are quite happy to do so!

1. The video is wrong! Love, in and of itself, is conditional. A man cannot love a woman unconditionally because he is a human being who conditionally decides which woman to love and when to love and maybe even marry her — all of that is conditioned on parameters he has on selecting who to love, marry, and remain married tto.

To say a man can love a woman unconditionally is to suggest that a man is not even a human being at all.

2. A woman's happiness cannot be derived from that which is impossible for a woman. In the same way, a man's happiness cannot be desired from that which is impossible for him as well.

Don't just take what you read(or hear) at face value. Analyze it to ensure it makes sense before you decide whether to run with it or put it back in the trash where it belongs.

Kobojunkie:
. Far from it, I instead pointed out the many problems with the claims made in the video regarding women. Beginning with the suggestion that a woman married to a man she does not love can be said to be happy.

2. I know nothing of those people and so cannot relate the gobbledegook from the video to them either.

3. Wrong! The video only presents a skewed idea of love from a biased, deluded and unfortunate man's point of view.

Yeah I added those.

AllBlack:
Keep guessing. You guys always love the stormy narrative and just can't accept other people's reality even when I clearly stated that I HAVE TESTED HER 1001 TIMES, you just chose to be selectivly blind to that part. Stumble? Me wey don stumble 100 times and she has always come to my rescue or stood firm when she can't rescue 😁. I have met plenty ogbanje and karashika for me to know that I am just one of the lucky few to have such a badass beauty in & out and if ever she leaves me... I am sure it will be my fault because my wahala tooooooooooooooooooo much 👍🏽.
Are you even married? Yes/No? Is your wife from hell or Krakatoa?

Wait... So you think my wife knows I have this account on Nairaland? You be small pikin abi you no just get co-ordination for up?

You wish is all I can say. I try to believe you but I know people are people and women are women.
What options does she have? How old is she?
How many kids do you have? Have you ever gone broke? Etc

Kobojunkie:
1. The video is wrong! Love, in and of itself, is conditional. A man cannot love a woman unconditionally because he is a human being who conditionally decides which woman to love and when to love and maybe even marry her — all of that is conditioned on parameters he has on selecting who to love, marry, and remain married tto.

To say a man can love a woman unconditionally is to suggest that a man is not even a human being at all.

2. A woman's happiness cannot be derived from that which is impossible for a woman. In the same way, a man's happiness cannot be desired from that which is impossible for him as well.

Don't just take what you read(or hear) at face value. Analyze it to ensure it makes sense before you decide whether to run with it or put it back in the trash where it belongs.

You are wrong. A man can see a woman and just love her FOR WHO SHE IS, NOTHING ELSE!! Women don't operate that way. You must satisfy her hpergamous nature and other criteria before sho "loves" . The two sexes are simply not wired the same

DiarisGodoo:
➜You wish is all I can say. I try to believe you but I know people are people and women are women. What options does she have? How old is she? How many kids do you have? Have you ever gone broke? Etc

You are far from being reasonable. Like men, women are not a monolith. Yes, men and women are human beings, and men and women behave alike. We have the same limited set of emotions, and we are allowed to react to each emotion(signal) by acting as we each choose. However, we cannot say that because a group is of the same gender, their response to a certain signal has to be the same, like some sort of hive. It does not work that way when dealing with human beings.

So, yes, your reasoning is deluded and ignorant at best.

Kobojunkie:
You are far from being reasonable. Like men, women are not a monolith. Yes, men and women are human beings, and men and women behave alike. We have the same limited set of emotions, and we are allowed to react to each emotion(signal) by acting as we each choose. However, we cannot say that because a group is of the same gender, their response to a certain signal has to be the same, like some sort of hive. It does not work that way when dealing with human beings.

So, yes, your reasoning is deluded and ignorant at best.

You really believe your wife loves you for you and not for anything that's attached to you. Okay o.
Female hypergamy does not apply to her. Okay o.
And even if you become of status lower than her's she'd still love you exactly same. Okay o, but
that's not what extensive historical examples have borne out

DiarisGodoo:
➜You are wrong. A man can see a woman and just love her FOR WHO SHE IS, NOTHING ELSE!!
➜ Women don't operate that way.
➜ You must satisfy her hpergamous nature and other criteria before sho "loves" . The two sexes are simply not wired the same

. A man always has a reason for why he chooses to love a particular woman and not the next woman or all the others around her. That is one of the many ways to indicate that love is conditional. In the case you pointed out, you indicated that he loves her FOR WHO SHE IS... the condition for his love.

2. Wrong! Women, like men, are humans, and also capable of loving a man or woman for the same reason you pointed out. There is nothing scientifically or psychologically gender-based about the ability to love another conditionally. Study after study has shown that men and women are capable of exhibiting the same emotions and acting in similar ways to them.

3. What most of you who drone on about hypergamy fail to realize is that hypergamy is merely one of many options — there are other options also available to women— that a majority of women gravitate towards to ensure they are at least guaranteed some benefit out of what is a relationship with another human being whom they have no control or rule over.

Love map was missing during courtship

Most of the men that always come home late( not work excuse), it's because they are not having a happy home

DiarisGodoo:
You wish is all I can say. I try to believe you but I know people are people and women are women.
What options does she have? How old is she?
How many kids do you have? Have you ever gone broke? Etc

I WISH? Now I see you have a problem, A very deep seething problem. You want others to pay attention to your video and accept it as the only obtainable reality while you engage in SELECTIVE reading that reeks of immaturity. You just want something to be wrong so you can have a replica of the things that happen in your personal life.
You are desperately looking for a reflection of your misfortune that stems from your parents' bad marriage or that of some other unfortunate members of your family and you vehemently refuse to see anything contrary to what you want to see.

You are like a GRINCH and Any testimony of a blissful marriage by reason of consistently loving wife is just a fairy tale or anomaly to you. There just have to be a dent or a full blown disaster for you to get validation for your flawed topic.

Kobojunkie saw through this (i wonder why he's still wasting time on you) and I will not be the last to see it too. This is my last comment on this shallow topic from a fellow who can't answer the simple question of his marital status. Bye.

DiarisGodoo:
Probably because you're fully aware your wife is reading this

WHY?
Why do you think she loves you? The video says "the moment you stumble, she re-evaluates"

Is your mother not love your father? Infact, did you even come out from married couples or single parenting?

Fiscus105:
Is your mother not love your father? Infact, did you even come out from married couples or single parenting?

My mother loved my father to the extent he's always been a good provider, and she needed him to raise her kids, and he's always been of higher status than her

AllBlack:
I WISH? Now I see you have a problem, A very deep seething problem. You want others to pay attention to your video and accept it as the only obtainable reality while you engage in SELECTIVE reading that reeks of immaturity. You just want something to be wrong so you can have a replica of the things that happen in your personal life.
You are desperately looking for a reflection of your misfortune that stems from your parents' bad marriage or that of some other unfortunate members of your family and you vehemently refuse to see anything contrary to what you want to see.

You are like a GRINCH and Any testimony of a blissful marriage by reason of consistently loving wife is just a fairy tale or anomaly to you. There just have to be a dent or a full blown disaster for you to get validation for your flawed topic.

Kobojunkie saw through this (i wonder why he's still wasting time on you) and I will not be the last to see it too. This is my last comment on this lewd topic from a fellow who can't answer the simple question of his marital status. Bye.

But the person did not attack you, why are you being aggressive?

Check the person you mentioned response's on the same comments by the op.

Make we dey try and be respecting each other even when we are having contrary opinions

Kobojunkie:
. A man always has a reason for why he chooses to love a particular woman and not the next woman or all the others around her. That is one of the many ways to indicate that love is conditional. In the case you pointed out, you indicated that he loves her FOR WHO SHE IS... the condition for his love.

2. Wrong! Women, like men, are humans, and also capable of loving a man or woman for the same reason you pointed out. There is nothing scientifically or psychologically gender-based about the ability to love another conditionally. Study after study has shown that men and women are capable of exhibiting the same emotions and acting in similar ways to them.

3. What most of you who drone on about hypergamy fail to realize is that hypergamy is merely one of many options — there are other options also available to women— that a majority of women gravitate towards to ensure they are at least guaranteed some benefit out of what is a relationship with another human being whom they have no control or rule over.

You are defining "unconditional" too broadly. For our purposes it means loving someone for who they are and NOT for what they are or anything attached to them. Men can love that way. Wonen can't.

Hypergamy is the chief determinant of a woman’s "love". Hence a high value woman can love and be willing to be third wife of a high value man than be only wife of a man of status lower than her's. The sexes are DIFFERENT!

This is a very big lie! If the writer said that they no longer love their husbands, I may agree. Implying they married whom they never "loved" is a fallacy because these days, ladies mostly choose whom they marry. The problem here is knowing what "love" really is! Getting infatuated with a man who tickles her fancy in terms of physical attraction or wealth is NOT love! Any lady who married for the above two reasons will definitely get tired in the long run and people like the poster of this thread would start saying that she was forced to marry whom she never loved.

AllBlack:
I WISH? Now I see you have a problem, A very deep seething problem. You want others to pay attention to your video and accept it as the only obtainable reality while you engage in SELECTIVE reading that reeks of immaturity. You just want something to be wrong so you can have a replica of the things that happen in your personal life.
You are desperately looking for a reflection of your misfortune that stems from your parents' bad marriage or that of some other unfortunate members of your family and you vehemently refuse to see anything contrary to what you want to see.

You are like a GRINCH and Any testimony of a blissful marriage by reason of consistently loving wife is just a fairy tale or anomaly to you. There just have to be a dent or a full blown disaster for you to get validation for your flawed topic.

Kobojunkie saw through this (i wonder why he's still wasting time on you) and I will not be the last to see it too. This is my last comment on this shallow topic from a fellow who can't answer the simple question of his marital status. Bye.

Touché! We're having an intellectual discussion on a faceless public forum. I have no way of knowing if anything u tell me is true. Likewise I could tell u I'm married or not married, you have no way of knowing and it has no relevance to the topic.

Best regards to your non-hypergamous wife, who loves you for no reason and without seeing any potential in you!
Take good care and thanks for your contributions

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You are defining "unconditional" too broadly. For our purposes it means loving someone for who they are and NOT for what they are or anything attached to them. Men can love that way. Wonen can't.
✓ Hypergamy is the chief determinant of a woman’s "love". Hence a high value woman can love and be willing to be third wife of a high value man than be only wife of a man of status lower than her's. The sexes are DIFFERENT!

1. We are hham. Beings and hence incapable of unconditional love. A man or women telling you they love another just the way he/she is either has a reason (by virtue of being a human being after all or confuse what may be attachment with love.. -- something that a whole load of people out there do. 🥱🥱🥱

We would need to drill down to the particulars of the supposed love in each case to know exactly but is behind the claim. 🥱🥱

2. Hypergamy is but a determinant but a safest option for most women when choosing love. Note the difference, please. So we do not keep going around in circles. 🥱🥱🥱

helinues:
But the person did not attack you, why are you being aggressive?

Check the person you mentioned response's on the same comments by the op.

Make we dey try and be respecting each other even when we are having contrary opinions

Can you carefully Show me where I attacked anyone? I dare you.

Just because your receptors interpreted my words as an attack doesn't make it so... or are you trying to say something? take your gaslighting elsewhere. I merely asked questions in relation to the comment that was addressed to me.

Do you know how demeaning it is for the guy to say YOU WISH over a testimony I gave on first hand and present tense basis? That is equivalent to calling me a liar but I didn't expect you of all people to see or even recognise it let alone addressing it since that is your hallmark and trade.

I should check whose comment? So you are now the umpire of uniform commenting? Is there a template I should follow or you just feel like commenting to feel a little relevant? step aside and try somewhere else, this is not your regular water size... you will drown here.

Nobody:




Me and my wife:

AllBlack:
my wife is in the 1% and even if you split that one percent to 0.5%... she love me like say na jazz i use.
tested 1001 times over.
I need to buy that babe a nice benz + 50 million naira cash gift.

So help me God. Amen

before you buy am for her. Buy for your mama first to avoid stories that touch. Don't be too comfortable all the same. E get why

DiarisGodoo:
Probably because you're fully aware your wife is reading this

WHY?
Why do you think she loves you? The video says "the moment you stumble, she re-evaluates"

I like men like am. E go clear for him eyes

AllBlack:
I WISH? Now I see you have a problem, A very deep seething problem. You want others to pay attention to your video and accept it as the only obtainable reality while you engage in SELECTIVE reading that reeks of immaturity. You just want something to be wrong so you can have a replica of the things that happen in your personal life.
You are desperately looking for a reflection of your misfortune that stems from your parents' bad marriage or that of some other unfortunate members of your family and you vehemently refuse to see anything contrary to what you want to see.

You are like a GRINCH and Any testimony of a blissful marriage by reason of consistently loving wife is just a fairy tale or anomaly to you. There just have to be a dent or a full blown disaster for you to get validation for your flawed topic.

Kobojunkie saw through this (i wonder why he's still wasting time on you) and I will not be the last to see it too. This is my last comment on this shallow topic from a fellow who can't answer the simple question of his marital status. Bye.

people type pass all these, beat chest pass like this, still collect am for the angel of a wife hand. Sha don't feel comfortable.