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|Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by binarymachine(m): 6:58am On Nov 25|
Come to think, how did I even meet you? First time I met you, the world seemed not to exist, nothing else matters with just the two of us in the cosmos. The world can move as fast as it wants, or it can wait, it is no concern of mine, so long as I have you beside me.
Everything seems to revolve around this person, you dream about them, in the day your thoughts are filled with them. Even when you are alone, you just laugh by yourself when you remember their face or something loving about them. And yes the mushy feelings that comes with love are the most beautiful; that butterfly that flutters in your stomach when you see the one your heart loves and of course your heart does multiple backflips when you just look at the person and you cannot just help it but to thank God for gifting you with this wonderful person of a human. And because you have this person’s love, you consider yourself the most lucky individual on earth.
The relationship progresses after the confession of feelings and profession of love and one day, you wake up from the bed, or halt midway while dicing an onion in the kitchen, and look up to your partner and then ask the question “how did I meet you anyway?”.
This is really funny, because it is legit and real. One minute we are head over heels with someone. The next minute, we cannot wait to have them out of our hair. They become the most annoying individual on earth. If you are in a relationship already you will find this is true. I mean, maybe before you were her knight in shining armour and she was the damsel in distress, but now she is a fierce woman and does not really need your help as she once did. And that seems to irk you a lot.
See, we tend to fall for the perfect image or character of the person we love. There is this ideal picture we have painted as a result of love, we have carved them out and placed them on the epicentre of our minds. We think the person to be flawless; this comes with emotional love though, it tends to blind us and impede our reasoning even though there are glaring evidences right in front of us.
So we go on and love that character in our heads, forgetting they are humans like us and then one day we wake up, viola!! The scales fallen from our eyes, our feet has touched earth again. We are jerked back to reality and then when we look at the love of our lives, we begin to ask ourselves “how on God’s green earth did I even choose this person?”
“Why?” Because we are back to reasoning, we now realise that the breath of the love of our lives, doesn’t smell like strawberries anymore or roses in bloom, rather they stink like that of a goat. We find that their snore even makes us wake up at night to ask them what is happening. We look at them and we are shocked. We do not know what is happening, how we met this person, how to remedy the situation or cope with the changes; Relax, it happens.
If you see getting into a relationship or you want to let yourself love, you can do yourself a favor by letting go of image of a perfect person in order not to be disappointed. I mean getting to know someone and adjusting to that person and their way of life is one hell of a work, but then, you do not want to sit down to cross off all you had on your list about your ideal person.
It is okay to have an idea of the kind of person you want, but what is not okay is you thinking that the ideal man or woman will be prince or princess chamming; and I mean charming in all sense of the word.
By now it should be no news to you that no one is perfect. Everyone is flawed one way or the other. Everyone has that streak which is going to be annoying to you. If you are looking to get a perfect partner, you are not going to see one. In fact, you will have to wait your whole lifetime to get one, and yet you will not see any; I kid you not. So in order not to get disappointed or box yourself in the corner, let go of those perfect pictures in your head, l’ve and love.
Now, this is not going to stop the surprises from popping up in your relationship. It is not going to stop your partner from farting and telling you they have lactose intolerance. Rather, it will make you look up at them and ask “how did I meet you anyway”, and they will shrug, and you will look into their eyes and realize how fortunate you are to have them in your life while you both laugh at each other, indeed, love happens at first sight.
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by KiNg0G: 7:00am On Nov 25|
Love is an illusion.
A figments of one imaginations.
It's can't be real, since you can't touch it... but claim to feel it.
Just like GOD, DOUBT,FEAR, PAIN.
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by chatinent: 7:00am On Nov 25|
It is not love that brings two people together at first, it is attraction.
It is later you learn to love the person... don't mistake both words.
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Juliusmomoh: 7:02am On Nov 25|
Love at first sight exist, but not in my country...
What a typical nigeria girl will see at first sight is the size of your pocket and ghola...
And what a typical naija guy will see is the size of the girl ass. Like bksoul own ...
No love in my country. What we have here are two hungry people ....
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by yanabasee2: 7:07am On Nov 25|
Only adolescent fall in love at first sight.....
Nobody falls in love seeing a woman for the first time... Because, she has her wahala and you just have to evaluate her first before stepping into her life...
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Hanks0000(m): 7:09am On Nov 25|
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Macsjebs: 7:12am On Nov 25|
Yeah, several factors make that possible
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Homeboiy: 7:31am On Nov 25|
Love no dey exist
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Juliusmomoh: 7:38am On Nov 25|
Help me tell them,
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Dshocker(m): 12:04pm On Nov 25|
There is nothing like love at first sight,but we have fvck at first sight
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by murphyung(m): 12:04pm On Nov 25|
Love at first sight is bullshit. Just tell the person you want to knack.
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Jeromejnr(m): 12:05pm On Nov 25|
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Alababoys: 12:05pm On Nov 25|
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by tofolo(m): 12:06pm On Nov 25|
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by ceaser: 12:06pm On Nov 25|
This question is a recurring decimal.
Even here on naira land, it is a topic that has graced the front page time after time.
This implies that it is a nagging question that tends not to go away with the barrage of answers provided and it seems to follow the fact that the more solutions/answers you get regarding it, the less you know about it.
So is love at first sight really love?
Fact is, that you fell in love with someone right now does not mean that that is the only person that can ever appeal to you. There are always tens, possibly hundreds of other partners out there that will best what you can see at the moment and appeal more to your senses than the one you currently believe is the best for you.
So if you fall in love at your first sighting of a potential partner, what then happens when couple of minutes after or days after you sight another that appear to be better, huh?
Based on that, love at first sight is a concept created in your minds to convince yourself that that which you loved is the only one or the best one for you.
Why not keep your options open then? Take things one step at a time, and with one person of course. Not simultaneously on multiple fronts (individuals) else you risk turning yourself to an Olosho or Brolosho. So appreciate at first sight, take some time to study yourselves and determine how far your compatibilities go, you can along the way begin to love the person for whoever they are - of course with the end game of matrimony - and finally you can pop the big question.
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by parzdor(m): 12:06pm On Nov 25|
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by DissTroy(m): 12:06pm On Nov 25|
No, it's a myth. Love when you really know the person and accept what comes with them or compromise for each other.
You think you love that girl? Do you think you still would love her and adore her after going through her Facebook and WhatsApp messages? Can you truly accept what she's done before she met you?
If you can then you love her. If you can't, that's the answer you seek.
You'd be surprised how quickly that love you feel for her can turn to resentment after you discover those things about her past.
Most times that resentment comes from the other person projecting a false perfect image of themselves. From "I don't really do sleepovers but just this once" to you finding out she or he probably cohabited for months or years with different sexual partners at different times.
Love is the closest emotion to hate. It's better when it begins from indifference somewhat to like to fancy then to love. You have less chances of resenting that man or woman that way.
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by wunmi590(m): 12:06pm On Nov 25|
Sometimes it can
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Mercychen(f): 12:07pm On Nov 25|
Yes it is.
My ex was love at first sight. I saw him for the first time in church and Immediately he opened hia teeth and smiled, I melted .
His immaculate white gap tooth got me. So when he came to me it was an easy catch for him. . And yes I loved him up till the time we parted and after we parted. In fact, I used prayers to get him off my mind after I found out hes married.
So, love at first sight really works.
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by uchdavinci: 12:07pm On Nov 25|
Both the one at first sight and that at tenth sight no be love, nothing like love just feelings.
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by ImoleNaija: 12:07pm On Nov 25|
Well, I don't believe in love at first sight. After knacking, see finish would set in. Keeping the feelings alive requires extra efforts from both lovers.
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|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by omanzo02: 12:07pm On Nov 25|
Op it's not love but lust at first sight, we also call it pre nuts clarity!
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Tonytonex(m): 12:07pm On Nov 25|
No sir. You can't love someone you don't know.
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by Fryzi(m): 12:08pm On Nov 25|
Yes, mother & child
|Re: Is Love At First Sight Really Love? by SenatePresdo(m): 12:08pm On Nov 25|
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