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Chubhie:
Two people that once professed undying love. Love is the greatest force in the universe. Some philosopher said love makes the world go round.

As a retired old man, I've studied love In hindsight. The speed of light transition between love and hate amazes me. The human mind is overdue for an upgrade so that we can better handle the love energy.

We live in the best of times with opportunities to upgrade ourselves.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R0lsn0-H5kY?si=pzDtV8Qu8yz0vT72

Sorry it's not short. If you'd rather read, best I found is pdf.

https://ia801309.us.archive.org/12/items/TheArtOfLoving/43799393-The-Art-of-Loving-Erich-Fromm_text.pdf

I just wonder how someone would give or tolerate a single slap, talk less of a hundred. A man or woman who will slap his or her spouse is sick and will do worse in a matter of time. Even the person who tolerates it is sick.

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guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

You courted for five years and you did not notice this behaviour?
Please tell me more about your courtship.

Congratulations!

You are finally free!

This news is gorgeous and we hope to read gorgeous news as this in the future. Keep the gorgeous news coming because it encourages men to do the right thing and not die in silence in the name of "for better for worse."

Congratulations, thank God for you. I thought na woman exit her marriage but as i see from my wife. I just come comment

Lies..

AI bot write-up.

Op, what are you testing?

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

I hope U snap picture as evidence

You made the right decision.

Not early enough though.

Thank goodness you're safe.

My brother be sure the person you are dating is not just mad with is partner claiming to be single, otherwise you will open the books of lamentation reading from chapter one to the end.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Congratulations.....but u sld have divorced her since.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

You wife get mind slap you hundred times, and you dey look am?!

Meedon:
This news is gorgeous and we hope to read gorgeous news as this in the future. Keep the gorgeous news coming because it encourages men to do the right thing and not die in silence in the name of "for better for worse."

"For better for worse" was coined by male-focused systems to help keep women in check. Men being encouraged to stand up against the establishment is actually a good thing.

You married someone with mental problems. How did not see the signs before the marriage, sometimes they tell you how they will react to situations, and it shows warning signs. Sometimes you can see it from their behavior.

janvier27:
I just wonder how someone would give or tolerate a single slap, talk less of a hundred. A man or woman who will slap his or her spouse is sick and will do worse in a matter of time. Even the person who tolerates it is sick.

The matter sef tire me!

Weak man.

WhizdomXX:
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You courted for five years and you did not notice this behaviour?
Please tell me more about your courtship.

He most likely saw it but chose to ignore the signs, the marriage even seems like something that was done out of duress

SpencerForbes:
Seems you married a runs girl or agbero. I’ll love to hear her own side of the story and also know the root causes of the problems at home before I can say my mind.
Leave first, don’t decide before I speak my mind. So you will understand the truth.

thy is nothing to hear again if truely she stab him on the neck

guest1234:
...On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

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If anyone asks you about what you have achieved this year, let them know you've achieved your life.

Congratulations Op, congratulations once again!🤝 🎊 🎉

I'm curious, did you leave the house for her or you sent her back to her parents?

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Until we here her own part of the story you are lying

guest1234:
She is not a runs girl or agbero but a church girl to the core, if she sing you will think Angels will come down but in aspects of this marriage, she is not worth it, and regard hearing her side of stories, I can't sugar coat my part in order for me to look lie a saint, in a forum that I don't know any person personally and for the root cause, I don't know why she is misbehaving because anything that man can provide for his family, I have done that in regards to feeding, accommodation, clothing, emotional, and otherwise so I don't understand her behavior and moreover thanks for your input

Well you could have given a few situations of things that happened without including any delicate specifics in your details.

It is hard to believe someone who had good behavior started misbehaving just a year ago. Although people can pretend for long, there would have been signs that connects back to current behavior. Doesn't mean she would have stabbed you during dating but maybe some aggression towards you or others

guest1234:
She is not a runs girl or agbero but a church girl to the core, if she sing you will think Angels will come down but in aspects of this marriage, she is not worth it, and regard hearing her side of stories, I can't sugar coat my part in order for me to look lie a saint, in a forum that I don't know any person personally and for the root cause, I don't know why she is misbehaving because anything that man can provide for his family, I have done that in regards to feeding, accommodation, clothing, emotional, and otherwise so I don't understand her behavior and moreover thanks for your input

she is not a church girl but use church to lie to you,he actually sees somebody else those times he tell you he is going to church.....na who no know women thy dey decive.

ChronicGp:
I'm curious, did you leave the house for her or you sent her back to her parents?

I don't think you read the post. 😏

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings.

For 5yrs that you people courted, you didn't see the signs that you were with a man killer? You're lucky to have escaped with your life intact.

You have made a right decision. Marriage is never a do or die affair

Better 🏃now than waiting to leave
in a coffin...


The woman appears possessed..

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

So what exactly were you guys about before she proceeded to stabbing you? What were you guys fighting about? The attempt wasn't while you were sleeping I would imagine.

Kobicove:
He most likely saw it but chose to ignore the signs, the marriage even seems like something that was done out of duress

Cos it's not adding up in my head.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

My dear brother I can relate. If I knew what I know now honestly I would have stayed away from marriage. Though mine didn't get to the point of knives and scissors, I still suffered humiliation all in the name of peace. She'd tear my cloths of my body right in front of the kids whenever she was angry. She also cheated countlessly.

Truth is marriages aren't really working anymore. Today it's a woman but even the men have their downsides in matrimony.

I tell you one thing though. Separation is better that suicide or murder.

You did the right thing