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partnership is much better than marriage oooooooo

I'm sorry my friend buy for u to stay in an abusive marriage and not leave until the point the person picks up a weapon to stab u show u have a serious situation evaluation problem. And this only emboldened the oppressor.

What if this attack was fatal or serious enough to render u inactive?

from the 1st signs of potential abuse u walk away immediately far ahead of when they expect u to. So u react even b4 they have the chance to manifest.

This makes them realise the slightest abuse will not br tolerated. Not the maximum abuse if u survive it to wake u up.

Physical abuse from ur wife?
Wait, Dude ur wife dey beat you?

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

good decisions from you here

guest1234:
We dated for five years before we got married last years

And none of this played out while you were dating? No sign of violence whatsoever?

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

every man should listen and listen good. it's understandable to tolerate some things from a woman and keep her by your side, but the moment you tolerate a woman that doesn't give you peace, trust me you will never live beyond 55-65 years on Earth.

Peace is everything in your home as a man don't comprise it for love or anything else.

Well done 👍

Sammy5413:
Physical abuse from ur wife?
Wait, Dude ur wife dey beat you?

Oga not all MEN are volatile....some men are super calm and peaceful.

Different strokes for different folks.

Since you're not yet divorced, you can't say it's over.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Congratulations 🎉, Welcome to the renewed life... enjoy it while it lasts sir...No to toxicity...

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

Very sad. Didn't she show signs of being violent in your 5 years of courtship?

I pray that you meet your soulmate. Someone you'll enjoy partnering with in love and for progress. Be watchful during courtship. The signals and red flags are often glaring. Don't love blindly.

IamAsiri:
And none of this played out while you were dating? No sign of violence whatsoever?

Wolf in sheep clothing,women pretend a lot... Kai ..God help some of us searching for the right one..

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Happy survival, thank God for sparing your life, so you can live to see another day and tell the story.
Don't be too much in a hurry to jump into another relationship, like you said take your time to reflect, relax, etc. Above all, take enough time to Pray to God for wife designed for you. Cheers

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Am sure your ex-wife is a Yoruba woman

Retired old man 😔 😔 😔 😔 You are confusing me seriously and I hate to be confused......

Chubhie:
Two people that once professed undying love. Love is the greatest force in the universe. Some philosopher said love makes the world go round.

As a retired old man, I've studied love In hindsight. The speed of light transition between love and hate amazes me. The human mind is overdue for an upgrade so that we can better handle the love energy.

Kobojunkie:
1. Marriage is between a man and his wife, not his family and his/her family have no right to interfere in their marriage or their divorce. They can come in to help their ward move his/her things from the marital home after a divorce but they have no legal right to come in to throw the other partner out even if the other partner is legally required to do so.

All that gra-gra barbarian sheet Nigerians are used to doing is reason why nothing seems tow ork of make sense. The sooner people begin adopting more civil ways of doing things, the sooner they begin to see common sense begin to reign in their lives and hopefully society.

Learn to take corrections.
You still haven't changed your character.
When it reach your turn, allow your sibling to be kpaid by their spouse before intervention.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

You walked away too late,thank God you did not die,you are very weak to tolerate several slaps from a woman you married with your hard earned money.the law empowers you to defend yourself in the face of violence.you should have defended yourself the first time she slapped you by giving her a brain resetting slap which will deter her from trying that the second time.you even allowed her to stab you before you decided to quit.bro you are a simp.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

Over 100 slaps this year and you’re still there? Wow.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Congratulations! I am also at the brink of walking away after 18years of marriage and 4 years of courtship. It has become evident that I am on a journey with the wrongest of companions. One day, I hope I will be able to tell the story with clarity like you did.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Is she from the east?

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

You courted for 5 years as you claim, yet you couldn't see the red flags?

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

5 years wow. Were there no signs at all?

Kobojunkie:
Congratulations @OP!1. Why is your family putting their mouth when the decision is yours? Did they have some sort of contract with your wife that they then feel it is their place to interfere in the divorce?

2. Good decision! From your post, it is not clear if you have actually implemented the divorce or if you only recently decided on this.

3. Please, be sure to opt for shared/joint custody of your children(or full custody if you feel your wife is a threat to them), so you can only have a part in the raising of your own children and maybe have them at least 2 weeks out of each month.

Always trying too hard to be the smartest person in the room but usually ending up being that annoying creature. If she kills him while they refused to interfere/intervene, wouldn't the loss become theirs? You're so smart

BigYash:
She will tell you op made her stab him by not fighting back when she slapped him. No be woman again

^^^

Kobojunkie:
I have always wondered why Nigerian men and women do not report abusers so they are at least blacklisted to save others from potential harm. It is equally as stupid as people refusing to file for custody of their ward in court or child support after a break up of relationship only to later whine that they never got anything from the other partner. It infuriates me.

Unfortunately, there is no proper documentation trail here in Nigeria. A person can be an violence offender and his/her name does not pop it up with pictures when searched.

Ebymyk:
Wolf in sheep clothing,women pretend a lot... Kai ..God help some of us searching for the right one..

Not this way. There is usually a slip-up somewhere.

Unless the lady has a mental problem, of which he should be aware of too or a really serious spiritual problem...

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

Are you for real?😧

Jesus 📌📌📌...All these?...Such woman is bitter... Relocate from a place unknown to her!!!..Heal from afar please

calabaman:
I guess you aren't married Sir
After the rigours of counselling.

Billing upon billing onto marriage plans.

You would understand that leaving is almost always a last option, in the case of op to save his life.

I don't call it weak... But being matured and saving his investment.
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Any married man enduring half of what OP endured is a weakling and has no business being a husband.