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You see her as your girlfriend but she see you as her ATM machine.

Kobojunkie:
. She says she deserves better. So, yes, let her go, and you, too, can move on to finding yourself a woman well within your range. Work on getting a woman you can afford, or better still, put all of your energy into building your financial capacity and strength so you don't run up against the same issue again.

Since women are sex workers isn't it? Did I read where you also said the woman should work to get a man she can afford? Prostitution era and then you say women aren't sex objects? I pity you lot

Kobojunkie:
If this is what you truly think it means to date a girl, then why bother with women altogether? Clearly, you don't like or regard them at all for you to suggest that you are taking the place of her dad when you choose to date them?

Work to get a woman u can afford isn't it same as what you are arguing about? You practically said said thing and you are here arguing blindly

irumole1975:
I didn’t know what to say so I just left her on read. And I liked one of the msgs where she prayed for me. I wish her well tho

Don't ever reply that mumu girl , her mentality is poor. These are the future divorcees and baby mamas, they are broke but don't see themselves as broke. The moment the man doesn't give them they run to the next

correctyourself:
Her tone said it all and very clear that both of you're:

1) Very young & inexperienced
2) Not relationship that would be meaningful
3) You're in a materialistic relationship
4) You're stable financially for such relationships

Finally my advice; continue to improve and develop your yourself for the future ahead of you. Maybe you guys can still be together in future. She understands she needs help which you can't render for now.

These mindset isn't exhibited by young ones alone, even married women have these mindset unless you are economical with the truth. Most women in Nigeria think men owe them money once they start dating whether young or old . There are exceptions but they are in the minority.

Qualityoffer:
According to you, the OP should work hard on getting a woman he can afford or make more money to satisfy the needs of the present one and retain her - which means that you believe that women are just commodities and are like infants that should be taking care of by their dads.

And the same you have a problem with someone, the person you quoted in particular, who advised the OP to know that once he starts dating a woman, he should know that he has become her second dad - dads are good in taking care of their infants.

Well, my bible has your type of person in mind when it says in 1 Timothy 6:4 - they are conceited and understand nothing. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions.

Don't even think that I will dignify you with meaningless back and forth exchange of words on this thread.

I quoted her pointing out same thing, to them women should be seen as prostitutes but at the same time argue that women aren't prostitutes, pathetic.

All I know is that as a man be responsible for your woman’s upkeep

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

This man dt will just bend the narrative because he wants to talk.

what do you mean by bare minimum? Is there a written constitution forced on him dt he shud do barest minimum? Is that his responsibility?

Kobojunkie:
. She says she deserves better. So, yes, let her go, and you, too, can move on to finding yourself a woman well within your range. Work on getting a woman you can afford, or better still, put all of your energy into building your financial capacity and strength so you don't run up against the same issue again.

You would just open your mouth waa!

Lol @ She deserves better. That really cracked me up.

Broke babe, that her parents can’t even take care of. Gob forbid.

Kings you deserve better. Leave all these low class babes that are hungry.

Any babe demanding money cause you are dating, we all know what she is …..“Olosho”

irumole1975:
I didn’t know what to say so I just left her on read. And I liked one of the msgs where she prayed for me. I wish her well tho

from today your name na piggybank... that's why I laugh at nibbas getting married.

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

Wait a red minute! When did it become the obligation of a boyfriend to give hair money? No be your hair? Do am Na, abi na me they do am for you before? How did you used to do it before? And why didn't she just ask him for money to do hair and just dumped him with that epistle? And why am I writing this epistle because of someone elses problem self, it is well anyway.

Tolu2024:
If you are not a yahoo boy and you want to date please look for someone who have something doing or someone still living with her parents and respected background and good home training, leave all this street girls for yahoo boys you can’t compete with them.

the only perfect comment here💯✅

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

guy you be simp, you don dey annoy me like this.
Why woman go dey use your head.

Kobojunkie:
. She says she deserves better. So, yes, let her go, and you, too, can move on to finding yourself a woman well within your range. Work on getting a woman you can afford, or better still, put all of your energy into building your financial capacity and strength so you don't run up against the same issue again.

So women are now commodities to be bought off the market hahahaha... Wonderful

ExudeLoveToAll:
Since women are sex workers isn't it? Did I read where you also said the woman should work to get a man she can afford? Prostitution era and then you say women aren't sex objects? I pity you lot

baba leave that guy, that guy na scrab

Where do you young boys see such Girls?
Are you Guys allergic to resourceful girls or what?
Don't you know some Girls pay school fees for Guys too?
Don't you know some Gals allow their Boyfriends drive their father's cars?

How can a church rat be dating a church rat?
That can only lead to more church rats.
Know your position before going into dating.

Keep silence like that. It is torture for her.

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

Can't she get a job as a grown up? When what ought to be a treat becomes an obligation, then the relationship is more like a prostitute/client one. It'll even be better to get a hooker than to be saddled with emotional baggage of being a provider ( mumu)

Kimikazi2:
➜Can't she get a job as a grown up? When what ought to be a treat becomes an obligation, ➜ then the relationship is more like a prostitute/client one.
➜It'll even be better to get a hooker than to be saddled with emotional baggage of being a provider ( mumu)

. Even if she has a job of her own and can well afford these things for herself, she is not your friend but your lover. If what you are looking for is a woman to be just a friend whom you don't have to contribute to in any way, then opt for a friend. However, when you cross over to wanting a lover — someone to invest time, emotional, mental, and physical energy in you— in either a woman or a man, then you should be able to contribute adequately, or simply accept that you are not worth what you are looking for.

Note that there are different kinds of relationships out there for different needs. You need to pick only what you need and can afford, not go out there to waste another person's time, physical, mental, and emotional energy for nothing, cause that is also what you do when you fail to understand exactly what you need and can afford. 🥱🥱🥱

2. I am all for you opting for a prostitute if what you need is a prostitute. (They do not have to put in any emotional and mental labor, and their time with you is limited to how much of it you can pay for —in some cases, you pay a fixed rate for their limited time with you. If that is what you need, a pay-as-you-engage relationship, then clearly a prostitute is what you need, not a lover.

3. Exactly! A prostitute may be what you need instead of a lover. Getting yourself a prostitute means you don't need someone who is emotionally, physically, and mentally available to you, and that is OK. Paying for a prostitute removes the emotional and mental layer of the relationship, strictly limiting interactions to the physical, and that is completely OK.

Tolu2024:
If you are not a yahoo boy and you want to date please look for someone who have something doing or someone still living with her parents and respected background and good home training, leave all this street girls for yahoo boys you can’t compete with them.

like seriously, yahoo boys really spoil things beyond repair.

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

Breaking up with a guy because he can’t provide what your father can’t provide for you is a street girl nah, she will look for someone and before she will see they will knack her wotowoto.

Tolu2024:
➜Breaking up with a guy because he can’t provide what your father can’t provide for you is a street girl nah, she will look for someone and before she will see they will knack her wotowoto.

What you are saying is that a woman now has no right to break up with a man whom she feels does not add any real value to her life? She has to be tagged a street gal if she comes from poor parents yet desires a life better than her parents were able to afford her as a child? I guess I shouldn't ask you what you would call a woman who would not budge as far as her boundaries and sheet!

I think it makes more sense to personally avoid dating women who are beyond your own pay group; that way, you can protect yourself from heartache, being dumped— for being too cheap/stingy— and needing to shame them for not wanting you. 🥱🥱🥱

Tolu2024:
➜Only LovePeddler go into a relationship and expecting the guy to be doing everything for her .
➜ If a girl can’t afford to do her own hair once a while she’s useless or going into relationship for the guy to be providing all her needs, so if the guy can’t provide she will look for the next guy to provide, how long will she keep looking for a guy to provide her needs before she get someone to do all that ?
➜ Happy I never dated any girl who depend on me 100%.

Wrong! Pr0stitutes do nothing of what you accuse them of. They know how to separate their work from their relationships. I know this because I used to befriend some women who were into the pr0stitution business. The are mostly able to compartmentalize, and that is how they can have lovers on the side.

2. You don't get to make the rules for women. Know this now and find your peace. If it turns out that you don't like women having freedom to decide their own standards and boundaries, then consider this... it is a you problem and not a them problem.

3. I really pity girls who date individuals with mentalities such as yours. If you literally can't abide women having the freedom to decide for themselves what they will accept or not accept in a love-relationship with men, then you are literally abusive as sheet to any woman that you engage with! Abuse is never acceptable.

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! Pr0stitutes do nothing of what you accuse them of. They know how to separate their work from their relationships. I know this because I used to befriend some women who were into the pr0stitution business. The are mostly able to compartmentalize, and that is how they can have lovers on the side.

2. You don't get to make the rules for women. Know this now and find your peace. If it turns out that you don't like women having freedom to decide their own standards and boundaries, then consider this... it is a you problem and not a them problem.

3. I really pity girls who date individuals with mentalities such as yours. If you literally can't abide women having the freedom to decide for themselves what they will accept or not accept in a love-relationship with men, then you are literally abusive as sheet to any woman that you engage with! Abuse is never acceptable.

You Just typing with emotion while I am typing with life experience nothing personal just fact . I am married and I married one of the best who don’t depend on me to give her money to make her hair like when I don’t give her, she can’t make her hair unless she sex around or another boy gives her .

My point is sample don’t compete with girls who only date yahoo boys , they are girls who only date them while they are girls who don’t date yahoo boys .

I once met a girl in owerri our first date she offer to pay for it and she told me she can’t date yahoo boys, they are not that rich but they were okay she’s in USA now doing well for herself.

Tolu2024:
➜You Just typing with emotion while I am typing with life experience nothing personal just fact . I am married and I married one of the best who don’t depend on me to give her money to make her hair like when I don’t give her, she can’t make her hair unless she sex around or another boy gives her .
➜ My point is sample don’t compete with girls who only date yahoo boys , they are girls who only date them while they are girls who don’t date yahoo boys .
➜ I once met a girl in owerri our first date she offer to pay for it and she told me she can’t date yahoo boys, they are not that rich but they were okay she’s in USA now doing well for herself.

1. That statement in bold there says so much about your marriage that you don't even realize.

2. Your point is moot since there are only a handful of girls dating Yahoo boys out there; the vast majority don't even have access to or have desire for Yahoo boys.

Women are not a monolith; they have never been throughout all of history. They each have standards and boundaries that are meant to be respected, not trampled on or used to demean them. The fact that you don't feel this right should be respected, tells me a lot about the woman you are supposedly in a marriage with.

3. Storyland! Again, anyone who does not respect women's individual right to have standards of their own and boundaries as well, not only has no respect for women, but also screams abusive as sheet.

Ask your wife to come on Nairaland to tell us her side of the story so we can verify something.

Kobojunkie:
1. That statement in bold there says so much about your marriage that you don't even realize.

2. Your point is moot since there are only a handful of girls dating Yahoo boys out there; the vast majority don't even have access to or have desire for Yahoo boys.

Women are not a monolith; they have never been throughout all of history. They each have standards and boundaries that are meant to be respected, not trampled on or used to demean them. The fact that you don't feel this right should be respected, tells me a lot about the woman you are supposedly in a marriage with.

3. Storyland! Again, anyone who does not respect women's individual right to have standards of their own and boundaries as well, not only has no respect for women, but also screams abusive as sheet.

Ask your wife to come on Nairaland to tell us her side of the story so we can verify something.

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No matter how hard you tried the day you don’t give her , she will dump you the next dick.

That why you don’t need waste your time if you are doing Legitimate work/business to date someone who is not doing anything only depends on you to take care of her .

Tolu2024:
➜Man Storms Ex-Girlfriend’s House With Friends To Reclaim Every Item He Bought
https://www.nairaland.com/8562851/man-storms-ex-girlfriends-house-friends
No matter how hard you tried the day you don’t give her , she will dump you the next dick. That why you don’t need waste your time if you are doing Legitimate work/business to date someone who is not doing anything only depends on you to take care of her .

If all the value you offer a woman in a relationship with you is the money you bring to her in the relationship, then be sure that she can and should rightly dump you when she no longer has a benefit to gain from being with you.

Even if, in your mind, you convince yourself that you are working hard enough, again, if your hard work DOES NOT translate to something of value to the woman, then yes, she has every reason to leave you.It is that simple!🥱🥱🥱

irumole1975:
I didn’t know what to say so I just left her on read. And I liked one of the msgs where she prayed for me. I wish her well tho

did you send this messages to yourself for content?