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This has been going on for a while now and i haven't been able to figure out exactly what to do. The very first time i noticed, i confronted her and the conversation made me know it was the guy that disvirgined her, Though she claimed it has always been chats and nothing more.. She promised to stop talking to him...


Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call they both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a whole 1 and a half hour?!)

Again, i confronted her and she said she couldn't just stop talking to him simply because he's her ex.

I won't lie, apart from this issue, she's been a good wife... Buh why would you not want to stop talking to your ex?!! The ex that disvirgined you for that matter..

I'm weak and really confused.

Ardeholar:
Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call the both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a while 1 and a half hour?!)



I'm weak and really confused.

Bro a talk for over 1 hour is not to be taken for granted. Accept my sympathy in advance

She even had the effrontery to tell you that she can't stop talking to her ex

Bro,it's only a matter of time.... For them to spend over an hour on the phone,it simply means they must be planning something which you should be very worried about

And to even think it was the same guy that took away her Virginity . Brooooooo!!!

Good wife indeed . Before Dem go enter you unaware......

BTW,if kids are already involved, please don't overlook the fact that DNA test must be carried out on all the kids.

Omo the ex don sabi everything wey dey go on for your house including the one wey you no sabi..
Na so attention dey build up very soon she go start to dey visit am ..
Let her stop of now for tomorrow might be too late

Run bro, her ex is still drilling her totex oil and gas, go for a DNA if you have kids with her

Bros check wat u are not doing well to her, pls no use force just look inward 1st

dollytino4real:
Bros check wat u are not doing well to her, pls no use force just look inward 1st

To the best of my knowledge, I'm doing everything I'm meant to be doing... If there's anything I'm not doing, i really don't know and she's not saying.

Ardeholar:
This has been going on for a while now and i haven't been able to figure out exactly what to do. The very first time i noticed, i confronted her and the conversation made me know it was the guy that disvirgined her, Though she claimed it has always been chats and nothing more.. She promised to stop talking to him...


Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call they both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a whole 1 and a half hour?!)

Again, i confronted her and she said she couldn't just stop talking to him simply because he's her ex.

I won't lie, apart from this issue, she's been a good wife... Buh why would you not want to stop talking to your ex?!! The ex that disvirgined you for that matter..

I'm weak and really confused.

Fire on the mountain. Your wife is becoming bored with the marriage or the marriage is taking a toll on her. Sit her down and let her tell you what is causing her to disrespect you that way.

All una wives dey talk to one man or the other.
Even the thread above yours. On FB one man has dashed his wife to her sideknacker. You might wanna take a cue from him.

Always remember you are the prize.
Don't take nonsense from any woman.

dollytino4real:
Bros check wat u are not doing well to her, pls no use force just look inward 1st

Women supporting women, U understand the problem clearly, but see wetin you dey cap .

pocohantas:
All una wives dey talk to one man or the other.
Even the thread above yours. On FB one man has dashed his wife to her sideknacker. You might wanna take a cue from him.

Always remember you are the prize.
Don't take nonsense from any woman.

Hacked account, this is not the real owner. Mods, kindly investigate .

pocohantas:
All una wives dey talk to one man or the other.
Even the thread above yours. On FB one man has dashed his wife to her sideknacker. You might wanna take a cue from him.

Always remember you are the prize.
Don't take nonsense from any woman.

Well for me, read again, as far as I'm concerned, my wife can't try it and I will still refer to her as "a good wife".

Some of una dey try o. Abeg, wetin go make my wife still dey in contact with her ex in the first place?. E come still tell you say she no fit stop communicating with the guy?

Abeg, I give you 19 gbosa! 🙌🙌🙌

Okafor......Hmmm.......OKAFORs Law of Congoelasticity about to go down...If u know u know..........Okafors law, A very strong law since the creation of Humanity

pocohantas:
All una wives dey talk to one man or the other.
Even the thread above yours. On FB one man has dashed his wife to her sideknacker. You might wanna take a cue from him.

Always remember you are the prize.
Don't take nonsense from any woman.

Truer words were never spoken. And this is coming from a woman as well. Respect poco

Soul Tie.

Her ex has left imprints on her, and it will very difficult for her to unplug.

Her very first man already sets the expectations of other coming after, hence it’s absolutely necessary to be your wife’s first.

I don’t know how you’ll manage it but Goodluck

Ardeholar:
This has been going on for a while now and i haven't been able to figure out exactly what to do. The very first time i noticed, i confronted her and the conversation made me know it was the guy that disvirgined her, Though she claimed it has always been chats and nothing more.. She promised to stop talking to him...


Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call they both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a whole 1 and a half hour?!)

Again, i confronted her and she said she couldn't just stop talking to him simply because he's her ex.

I won't lie, apart from this issue, she's been a good wife... Buh why would you not want to stop talking to your ex?!! The ex that disvirgined you for that matter..

I'm weak and really confused.

The Goodness Of A Wife Doesn't Change The Psychology Of The Woman In Her.


She's Sexually Attached To Him Because She's Been Sexually Bounded With The "Psychology Attachment Of Loving The First Man She Gave Her First Entrance To Her Paradise To" Mentality.


It's A CAGE.


She's Already Being Emotionally Trapped Into The CAGE Since She Already Talks For Hours With Him.


At First, It Was A Psychological Trap, Now - It's Becoming An Emotional Trap!

If You Love Her And Want To Keep Her; Help Her Out Of The Cage.


Talk To Her About It Softly.

Tell Her That You Both Need To Seek Counsel About This Matter As It Is Already Getting Out Of Hand.


Ask Her:


"Would She Not Feel Broken If She Start Seeing You Consistently Call And Cling To Your Ex For Too Long During Calls ?"





Hit The Nail Hard On The Head, Softly.

Let Her Know She's Not Being Humane And Losing The Respect That You Have For Her As A WIFE As She Continues To Engage With Her Ex.



Do All Of These Calmly In The Best Way That You Can With The Right Tone, The Right Authority And The Right Approaches.

Kdon2:
Fire on the mountain. Your wife is becoming bored with the marriage or the marriage is taking a toll on her. Sit her down and let her tell you what is causing her to disrespect you that way.

True This.


Her Behaviour Is Not Just Unwise But Disrespectful.


Yet - Repairable!

InsteadOf:
The Goodness Of A Wife Doesn't Change The Psychology Of The Woman In Her.


She's Sexually Attached To Him Because She's Been Sexually Bounded With The "Psychology Attachment Of Loving The First Man She Gave Her First Entrance To Her Paradise To" Mentality.


It's A CAGE.


She's Already Being Emotionally Trapped Into The CAGE Since She Already Talks For Hours With Him.


At First, It Was A Psychological Trap, Now - It's Becoming An Emotional Trap!

If You Love Her And Want To Keep Her; Help Her Out Of The Cage.


Talk To Her About It Softly.

Tell Her That You Both Need To Seek Counsel About This Matter As It Is Already Getting Out Of Hand.


Ask Her:


"Would She Not Feel Broken If She Start Seeing You Consistently Call And Cling To Your Ex For Too Long During Calls ?"





Hit The Nail Hard On The Head, Softly.

Let Her Know She's Not Being Humane And Losing The Respect That You Have For Her As A WIFE As She Continues To Engage With Her Ex.



Do All Of These Calmly In The Best Way That You Can With The Right Tone, The Right Authority And The Right Approaches.

What would you say to me now if i told you I've tried this twice, when that didn't work, i reported her to her parents, she told them it was just casual conversations

Ardeholar:
This has been going on for a while now and i haven't been able to figure out exactly what to do. The very first time i noticed, i confronted her and the conversation made me know it was the guy that disvirgined her, Though she claimed it has always been chats and nothing more.. She promised to stop talking to him...


Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call they both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a whole 1 and a half hour?!)

Again, i confronted her and she said she couldn't just stop talking to him simply because he's her ex.

I won't lie, apart from this issue, she's been a good wife... Buh why would you not want to stop talking to your ex?!! The ex that disvirgined you for that matter..

I'm weak and really confused.

Her ex is playing his cards well and he knows exactly what he's doing.

She's playing with fire and it's senseless pretending not to know how fire burns.

Let her understand that talking to her ex isn't cool by you.

If the tables are turned, she won't take it from you.

Don’t you have exes? Start talking to them too. See how she takes the revelation.

Ardeholar:
This has been going on for a while now and i haven't been able to figure out exactly what to do. The very first time i noticed, i confronted her and the conversation made me know it was the guy that disvirgined her, Though she claimed it has always been chats and nothing more.. She promised to stop talking to him...


Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call they both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a whole 1 and a half hour?!)

Again, i confronted her and she said she couldn't just stop talking to him simply because he's her ex.

I won't lie, apart from this issue, she's been a good wife... Buh why would you not want to stop talking to your ex?!! The ex that disvirgined you for that matter..

I'm weak and really confused.

It's obvious you're not hitting it right and you're emotionally absent, that woman is lonely...🤭🤭🤭

Ardeholar:
This has been going on for a while now and i haven't been able to figure out exactly what to do. The very first time i noticed, i confronted her and the conversation made me know it was the guy that disvirgined her, Though she claimed it has always been chats and nothing more.. She promised to stop talking to him...


Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call they both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a whole 1 and a half hour?!)

Again, i confronted her and she said she couldn't just stop talking to him simply because he's her ex.

I won't lie, apart from this issue, she's been a good wife... Buh why would you not want to stop talking to your ex?!! The ex that disvirgined you for that matter..

I'm weak and really confused.

U still address her as a good wife.
U are part of the problem.
Return that woman back to her rightful owner.

kpankpangolo:
Don’t you have exes? Start talking to them too. See how she takes the revelation.

Funny thing is i do not have... She happened to be the first woman i dated and married.

Samantha125:
It's obvious you're not hitting it right and you're emotionally absent, that woman is lonely...🤭🤭🤭

I don't know if either is the case but what do you suggest i do

Unfortunately, I'm not a relationship expert, even I'm perplexed.

Let's wait for the wise men and women of nairaland to come and advise you.

Ardeholar:
I don't know if either is the case but what do you suggest i do

Abeg I get one question wey I want ask concerning this topic , Mature folks abeg answer .

What if man come get GF wey good wella , like she they give am advice , encourage him hustle, give am food and understanding but situations no come fit allow them marry and the man understands that the girl is a good girl . But now she's married to another man , the man in question now is now in a place where he can assist the girl and wants to start repaying the girl for the good time / good deeds they shared and he they send her money and them talk once in a while .. abeg na bad thing .

Cc. Pocohantas , onegai , gloriousgbola etc . You matured advice is needed here

If she invested heavily in the wedding, she won't do things to make the Union break

Ardeholar:
This has been going on for a while now and i haven't been able to figure out exactly what to do. The very first time i noticed, i confronted her and the conversation made me know it was the guy that disvirgined her, Though she claimed it has always been chats and nothing more.. She promised to stop talking to him...


Fast forward to last week, caught her again chatting with the guy... A whatsapp call they both made lasted 1h20m( in my mind, what were they talking about for a whole 1 and a half hour?!)

Again, i confronted her and she said she couldn't just stop talking to him simply because he's her ex.

I won't lie, apart from this issue, she's been a good wife... Buh why would you not want to stop talking to your ex?!! The ex that disvirgined you for that matter..

I'm weak and really confused.

Your instincts are not wrong, so don't gaslight yourself.
You have to do something drastic about that, otherwise, your marriage is heading for the rocks.
Wisdom is profitable to direct.

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