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Such noble families she mentioned will never see her obsession for money as respect and consider getting any close to her in the fitst place. Her ilks are a damaged mind

Theomarvelus:
I pray you won't fall victim of ritualist that we use 'someone's own money or resources to host or entertain them'.

TheBreastSucker:
I have money but I can only date you if your booobie is firm and sweet.

When can I come have a taste for confirmation?

That's fornication bro

My own is that what if the guy has been doing well but all of a sudden lost his job or things turn down for him, will you leave him?

Sunkab:
My own is that what if the guy has been doing well but all of a sudden lost his job or things turn down for him, will you leave him?

Una no take math class abi wetin? Why continue to ask these obvious questions?

As long as the man does not earn more... no matter the condition... the woman, if she respects her own boundary, has the right to waka.

Goodlady:
I am sorry to say this to ya face. I can't date a broke man.
Can't respect a man that's not earning more than me. Reality has proven money's the engine if love so don't preach to me.

What will be used in taking care of my skin, my needs and all the stuff? The answer is money.
It's an aberration for a man to approach someone richer than him.
That's why it's good to do profile check before dating.
A times if numbers weren't given out after sizing the guy's destiny they d say she's rude, she's bla bla bla yenyenyen.
Who nor like better thing?
When there are eligible Bachelors like Paddy Adenug, Okoyya boys, Dantalta family, Danghote family and co to marry from.
Abeg make no sapahead boy disturb me today. I am not responsible for ya hardship. Make you you make legit money before you impregnate or marry any woman.

Seun, don't you have moral code that guides you? Anyways, I learnt you are atheist but can't good conscience save you from depravity?! How come you put up a high pedestal for lowlife like this jezebel to yab crap to netizens. You need no investigation to know this one is a godless woman of vanity. This is a terrible negative influencer that no godly institution should give relevance

Kobojunkie:
There are about 4 billion men out there in the world. Are you wanting us to believe that Adenuga boys make up the bulk of men out there that we should consider what Adenuga boys -- whoever they are --- do to be the norm for all men? Come on now...we are almost into 2026, you can do better in the area of reasoning things and life, abeg! 🥱🤣🥱

OP specifically mentioned Adenuga's boys, Dangote has no male kid

And speaking of reasoning, how many out of the four billion men are heirs to billionaire-dollar fortunes? OP had a preference that automatically excluded 99% (maybe higher) of the male population, you might want to read her rant all over again for better comprehension

Abeg where una Dey see jobs. I’m not disrespectful, I just need a job 😭😢.

IbnB:
➜OP specifically mentioned Adenuga's boys, Dangote has no male kid
And speaking of reasoning, how many out of the four billion men are heirs to billionaire-dollar fortunes?
➜ OP had a preference that automatically excluded 99% (maybe higher) of the male population, you might want to read her rant all over again for better comprehension

Again, the core of OP's argument is that she would not date or marry a man who earns less than she does.

2That only applies if OP herself is at least a dollar billionaire.

Try to comprehend what her mentioning of those names implies, not what you want it to mean for you.

Kobojunkie:
The simple reason is that many of these women have been programmed from birth to believe they have no worth without marriage. That remains the major reason why many females engage in that which is self-detrimental. Their self-worth has been eroded by the societal programming to the point that they do not consider even their own health and life worth investing in, and that is sad.

Boys do not receive similar brainwashing from childhood, and as such, they don't feel obligated to do for their wives more than they can muster in themselves to do for them. Rather, many are told they are entitled to a wife-material who would aid them in accomplishing their life goals as well as their procreation goals in life. This explains why there are so many men out there who believe women should be content with what is, in most cases, less than the bare minimum — subhuman standard of relationship treatment, aka abuse.

2. Again, it is the mental enslavement programming hammered into them from childhood. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Nonsense! A man who loves a woman would treat her like his partner... (in religious speak) be equally yoked with her in marriage. That is only possible if a man loves a woman. However, a man who hates a man does the opposite... he sees her as his servant/slave to take advantage of, and that is what the vast majority of Nigerians, including the religious-minded— in direct contradiction to their so-called religious values— are notorious for doing. 🥱🥱🥱

While it is easy to blame the women in these cases for not attaining self-love before marriage — overthrowning all of their childhood trauma— that does not remove the blame from those who take advantage of them at that.

So basically, cooking and cleaning in the household you both live is considered slavery while having a man that provides not only for you but takes care of yourr external family needs as well is considered normal duty of a man (This is how it works in most Nigerian marriages).

If you want to change societal or traditional belief system you must be willing to change the role of a man from such provider and speak on how boys are also raised from childhood to be providers and how their financial status determines their worthiness of a woman/wife!

You can't have the double standards of speaking against societal conditioning for the woman while ignoring the same for the man!

Suddenly you're a helpless baby and some man must take care of you before you can exist otherwise you will not be taken care of, how old are you again.

abbey621:
➜So basically, cooking and cleaning in the household you both live is considered slavery while having a man that provides not only for you but takes care of yourr external family needs as well is considered normal duty of a man (This is how it works in most Nigerian marriages).
➜ If you want to change societal or traditional belief system you must be willing to change the role of a man from such provider and speak on how boys are also raised from childhood to be providers and how their financial status determines their worthiness of a woman/wife!
➜ You can't have the double standards of speaking against societal conditioning for the woman while ignoring the same for the man!

Doing labor that you are not adequately remunerated for, cannot clock out of — you are literally on call 24/7, and also get no vacation time off from it is slave labor. Look up the word in the dictionary.

2. I said nothing of wanting to change anything. This discussion is simply seeing up, pointing out things for what they are.

3. There is nothing wrong with beneficial social conditioning, such as the concept of submitting to the law for the community to thrive. What I simply pointed out earlier is the harmful conditioning that causes women to submit themselves to men who prey on them and their energies.

Goodlady:
I am sorry to say this to ya face. I can't date a broke man.
Can't respect a man that's not earning more than me. Reality has proven money's the engine if love so don't preach to me.

What will be used in taking care of my skin, my needs and all the stuff? The answer is money.
It's an aberration for a man to approach someone richer than him.
That's why it's good to do profile check before dating.
A times if numbers weren't given out after sizing the guy's destiny they d say she's rude, she's bla bla bla yenyenyen.
Who nor like better thing?
When there are eligible Bachelors like Paddy Adenug, Okoyya boys, Dantalta family, Danghote family and co to marry from.
Abeg make no sapahead boy disturb me today. I am not responsible for ya hardship. Make you you make legit money before you impregnate or marry any woman.

This one never get sense, when she reach fourty, she go get sense bye force

Kobojunkie:
Doing labor that you are not adequately remunerated for, cannot clock out of — you are literally on call 24/7, and also get no vacation time off from it is slave labor. Look up the word in the dictionary.

2. I said nothing of wanting to change anything. This discussion is simply seeing up, pointing out things for what they are.

3. There is nothing wrong with beneficial social conditioning, such as the concept of submitting to the law for the community to thrive. What I simply pointed out earlier is the harmful conditioning that causes women to submit themselves to men who prey on them and their energies.

Again you're making my point, 24/7 what exactly? Husband that goes to work for 10 to 12 hours, sleep for another 6 to 8, how are you catering to him 24/7? Same goes for kids, unless they're babies, kids will go to school or daycare for 6 to 8 hours, sleep for another 7 to 8, so how is this 24/7?

Large percentage of Nigerian middle and upper class households have help, where's this 24/7 catering coming from? RIDICULOUS!

Kobojunkie:
Again, the core of OP's argument is that she would not date or marry a man who earns less than she does


2That only applies if OP herself is at least a dollar billionaire.

Try to comprehend what her mentioning of those names implies, not what you want it to mean for you.

OP did not state that anywhere in initial post, that condition exists only in your imagination....you preach comprehension but it is obviously not one of your own strong suits

abbey621:
... Large percentage of Nigerian middle and upper class households have help, where's this 24/7 catering coming from? RIDICULOUS!

Storyland! The over 170 million living under the poverty line have daycare and all that for kids and babies, abi!

The same middle/upper class that now makes up less than 10% of the current Nigerian population, where over 170 million live under the poverty line? Yeah, you are being quite ridiculous now!

No rich man should marry an entitled parasite and a liability.

It won't be funny!

immortalcrown:
Meaning that any man that earns more than you do should disrespect you and should not hesitate to dump you when he finds a lady that earns more than you.

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Fowl brain on the prowl. They usually don't think things through just come online and spew trash.

Madam your mates dey husband house dem no drag anything with you or anyone else.

Receive sense biko.

Kobojunkie:
Storyland! The over 170 million living under the poverty line have daycare and all that for kids and babies, abi!

The same middle/upper class that now makes up less than 10% of the current Nigerian population, where over 170 million live under the poverty line? Yeah, you are being quite ridiculous now!

You're not good at data analysis, you really believe we have over 170 million adults in Nigeria with kids to take care of?.......DEY PLAY!

Goodlady:
I am sorry to say this to ya face. I can't date a broke man.
Can't respect a man that's not earning more than me. Reality has proven money's the engine if love so don't preach to me.

What will be used in taking care of my skin, my needs and all the stuff? The answer is money.
It's an aberration for a man to approach someone richer than him.
That's why it's good to do profile check before dating.
A times if numbers weren't given out after sizing the guy's destiny they d say she's rude, she's bla bla bla yenyenyen.
Who nor like better thing?
When there are eligible Bachelors like Paddy Adenug, Okoyya boys, Dantalta family, Danghote family and co to marry from.
Abeg make no sapahead boy disturb me today. I am not responsible for ya hardship. Make you you make legit money before you impregnate or marry any woman.

Poor men children
Money always comes first.

Kobojunkie:
You said OP is right and wrong, but did not clarify any of this in your comment.

Your wife is lucky that, in your case, things turned out better than they were when she first met you. However, for the vast majority of women out there who married men who earned less at the time, the reality did not turn out the same. That is partly the reason why almost 50% of married women in Nigeria today are breadwinners. Of the others who were not breadwinners, many of them who were not able to attain financial independence before marriage(and maintained it in marriage), a large portion are financially abused by their spouses in marriage.

What OP expressed is a preference many women have, and there is nothing wrong with their choice. Additionally, that choice is facilitated when the woman is financially independent before and throughout the course of the marriage, as we are all aware that even rich men can be stingy towards their own wives and children.

Where did you get your statistics of 50% of married women being breadwinners in Nigeria?

How did you get your information?

How many married women and married men have you interviewed?

Emeskhalifa:
Your wife knew about your other business that brings 50m per year before marriage?

She didn't know...I was the one who told her few years in our marriage because she saw that money wasn't a problem and it was coming in.

Nice2023:
She didn't know...I was the one who told her few years in our marriage because she saw that money wasn't a problem and it was coming in.

Oh nice.

But 1 question, since money wasn't the problem right from onset, do you think if today money becomes a problem (God forbid, won't ever be your portion) she'd still stay loyal to you?

Just saying, you should think about that too.

Kobojunkie:
You said OP is right and wrong, but did not clarify any of this in your comment.

Your wife is lucky that, in your case, things turned out better than they were when she first met you. However, for the vast majority of women out there who married men who earned less at the time, the reality did not turn out the same. That is partly the reason why almost 50% of married women in Nigeria today are breadwinners. Of the others who were not breadwinners, many of them who were not able to attain financial independence before marriage(and maintained it in marriage), a large portion are financially abused by their spouses in marriage.

What OP expressed is a preference many women have, and there is nothing wrong with their choice. Additionally, that choice is facilitated when the woman is financially independent before and throughout the course of the marriage, as we are all aware that even rich men can be stingy towards their own wives and children.

Almost 50% of women are bread winners? In which Nigeria? Pls where did you get your statistics from?

Do you even know that many women from Northern Nigeria don't work, and the North makes up almost 50% if not more of the Nigerian population (you can look it up) . So I ask again... Where did you get your 'almost 50% of women are bread winners in Nigeria'?

Once woman foot bills for 1 or 2 months due to some financial constraints on the husband's side who has been footing bills for donkey years... THEY SUDDENLY BECOME BREAD WINNERS....

Kobojunkie:
You said OP is right and wrong, but did not clarify any of this in your comment.

Your wife is lucky that, in your case, things turned out better than they were when she first met you. However, for the vast majority of women out there who married men who earned less at the time, the reality did not turn out the same. That is partly the reason why almost 50% of married women in Nigeria today are breadwinners. Of the others who were not breadwinners, many of them who were not able to attain financial independence before marriage(and maintained it in marriage), a large portion are financially abused by their spouses in marriage.

What OP expressed is a preference many women have, and there is nothing wrong with their choice. Additionally, that choice is facilitated when the woman is financially independent before and throughout the course of the marriage, as we are all aware that even rich men can be stingy towards their own wives and children.

My reason is that,she is already right in her thinking and u can't force an adult whose mind has been set on something...u cam only be talking.

I had to dwell on the part which is most pressing.

vanvickie:
Almost 50% of women are bread winners? In which Nigeria? Pls where did you get your statistics from?

Do you even know that many women from Northern Nigeria don't work, and the North makes up almost 50% if not more of the Nigerian population (you can look it up) . So I ask again... Where did you get your 'almost 50% of women are bread winners in Nigeria'?

Once woman foot bills for 1 or 2 months due to some financial constraints on the husband's side who has been footing bills for donkey years... THEY SUDDENLY BECOME BREAD WINNERS....

In the majority of marriages the wife is a co bread winner because wives work and what will they be doing with their income?. Only a few men have a high enough income to not need input from their wives.

Emeskhalifa:
Oh nice.

But 1 question, since money wasn't the problem right from onset, do you think if today money becomes a problem (God forbid, won't ever be your portion) she'd still stay loyal to you?

Just saying, you should think about that too.

When I wanted to marry my wife in 2015,her mother went to my village to find out more about my family.

Do u know what they told her,they told her that we were poor with integrity.
And my mother in law said,poverty is of the mind and they too were poor before things got better and after that,my mother in law and her son jointly gave my wife the go ahead to accept the proposal as what they were interested in was peace of mind and honest family where there is love.

This is a family I can die for.

Nice2023:
When I wanted to marry my wife in 2015,her mother went to my village to find out more about my family.

Do u know what they told her,they told her that we were poor with integrity.
And my mother in law said,poverty is of the mind and they too were poor before things got better and after that,my mother in law and her son jointly gave my wife the go ahead to accept the proposal as what they were interested in was peace of mind and honest family where there is love.

This is a family I can die for.

Wow. Wishing you an everlasting happiness in your house sir.

That's how some of dem ended up as bitter single momas antagonizing men here and there, claiming rights jumping from one bed to another(bed to bed midfielders)

Kobojunkie:
You said OP is right and wrong, but did not clarify any of this in your comment.

Your wife is lucky that, in your case, things turned out better than they were when she first met you. However, for the vast majority of women out there who married men who earned less at the time, the reality did not turn out the same. That is partly the reason why almost 50% of married women in Nigeria today are breadwinners. Of the others who were not breadwinners, many of them who were not able to attain financial independence before marriage(and maintained it in marriage), a large portion are financially abused by their spouses in marriage.

What OP expressed is a preference many women have, and there is nothing wrong with their choice. Additionally, that choice is facilitated when the woman is financially independent before and throughout the course of the marriage, as we are all aware that even rich men can be stingy towards their own wives and children.

Good. So when I see any woman that earns more than her,I'd gladly dump her and go for the highest earner. What's good for the goose,is good for the ....

Sapasenator:
Can you tell us your earnings? I wan check something

How much u too dey earn?

TheBreastSucker:
I have money but I can only date you if your booobie is firm and sweet.

When can I come have a taste for confirmation?

You don't need to have a taste.
But do you really have money?

bentenny:
Don't you have money to do the highlighted?
Well thats all i need i need to know from an equally broke lady!

Men said they're the breadwinners naa.

RISQUE:
Nuisance

Nuisance

poiZon:
Me i can not date a lady that can't make a simple sentence that someone can read without cracking his head.

What's ya Eng grade in waec?

frozen70:
This one never get sense, when she reach fourty, she go get sense bye force

Am getting married soon. God go Shame u.

Dollarboss93:
Poor men children
Money always comes first.

I can fees you

Goodlady:
How much u too dey earn?

You don't need to have a taste.
But do you really have money?

Men said they're the breadwinners naa.

Nuisance
What's ya Eng grade in waec?

Am getting married soon. God go Shame u.

I can fees you

There's a way someone behaves on social media then you'll realize they have a mental illness and there's absolutely no need to engage them.