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Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

Some men cha.

Where una take dey see these particular species of people to date self?

Next time, He'd ask you to borrow his sister your pant and bra

Well,you can as well explain this to any good tailor around...I believe he/she will definitely tell you those materials being displayed by your fiance are more than enough to sew a very big red flag

Anyways, congratulations 👏

How this your matter take affect us now , You can get out of the relationship,or you can shoot your fiance in the head,I don't give a shot

Dont be stingy. Their is love in sharing

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

Serious red flag... how come he is the the one pushing for such. He ought to be shielding you not expose.

The question is: if your Fiance has a car or let's say a good pair of suits, or sneakers, and your brother asks you to help him ask your fiancé if he could borrow any of these items for a similar event, if your fiancé refuses, the question now is that: how would you handle it? Your answer to that question solves the problem..
My rule of life is simple, there is no right way or wrong way to treat anyone, just treat them how you want to be treated. Reject them how you want to be rejected. That's fair.

That's a pink flag...

E never enter red yet. It's getting there!

His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me

Imagine begging for wigs
That family lack contentment. Why must she borrow wig to attend another person's wedding?

What was the sister wearing for weddings before you met her brother?

If you succumb to her request, she may ask for your pant and bra on the day you weds her brother.

Afriifa:
The question is if your Fiance has a car, and your brother asks you to help him ask your fiancé to borrow him his car for a similar event, if you guys refuses, the question now is that how would you handle it? Your answer to that question solves the problem.

don’t mind them
Very selfish people….what are clothes and wig?
And what makes her think that she won’t be asking for a favor from the same lady in the future?

Na the man suppose bail out

Meedon:
Dont be stingy. Their is love in sharing

There's only love in sharing IMPORTANT things not things as useless as a wig... knowing that this wig covers about 95% of women's brain.

Your future sister in law asked to borrow an outfit and you came online to ask whether you should cancel your wedding

We just making shi up nowadays just to trend. I ve engaged and you’re welcome.

Nemesis0147:
don’t mind them
Very selfish people….what are clothes and wig?
And what makes her think that she won’t be asking for a favor from the same lady in the future?

Na the man suppose bail out

They always look at things from one sided perspective. I even went as far saying a car. Let's say her guy has a fine suit, and her brother asked if he could borrow it and then her guy refuses, what happens? will she be okay with it? very selfish people.

Afriifa:
They always look at things from one sided perspective. I even went as far saying a car. Let's say her guy has a fine suit, and her brother asked if he could borrow it and then her guy refuses, what happens? will she be okay with it? very selfish people.

It's not everyone that loves sharing their personal belongings na...


Who does that?


Common man!

brain54:
It's not everyone that loves sharing their personal belongings na...


Who does that?


Common man!

If you don't like sharing, make things known personally. Don't come and be asking us our opinion.

Afriifa:
If you don't like sharing, make things known personally. Don't come and be asking us our opinion.

Lol...

Now you deviate. I never take such people seriously!

brain54:
Lol...

Now you deviate. I never take such people seriously!

She clearly stated she needed advise as to whether to share or not. Which means she shares her stuffs and is uncomfortable this time around. Most women share things like clothes and wigs. It is a common thing for them. If you are the type that don't share their stuff, e no pass to communicate clearly. Like me, I share somethings but not all. One thing I don't share is my generator. no matter what, don't ask to borrow it, I won't give you.

Afriifa:
She clearly stated she needed advise as to whether to share or not. Which means she shares her stuffs and is uncomfortable this time around. Most women share things like clothes and wigs. It is a common thing for them. If you are the type that don't share their stuff, e no pass to communicate clearly. Like me, I share somethings but not all. One thing I don't share is my generator. no matter what, don't ask to borrow it, I won't give you.

No bro...

You missed it. She is seeking advice whether it's a red flag her fiance is not talking to her for refusing to share her clothing and wig with his sister. And if she should opt out of the relationship due to this "red flag".

You must really like your generator o. But why?

Zonefree:
There's only love in sharing IMPORTANT things not things as useless as a wig... knowing that this wig covers about 95% of women's brain.

Ahhh
You mean the wig covering their brain did not allow them to get sense

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

Red flag, don't give them. Which kind yeye pattern b dat na. Dare not give the wig oOoOO, na otilo b dat.

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

I guess you earn far more than him 🤷🏿

Meedon:
Ahhh
You mean the wig covering their brain did not allow them to get sense

I see what you did there...Catalyzing
May vawulence reign

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

You dey fiance an immature, poverty-stricken man in this economy? You no like yourself or your life at all. Hating yourself is the primary warning sign/red flag here. I don't know why you feel you should do this to yourself in this day and age.

Do you even realize the many things that could go wrong if you marry this man? He could have his family coming to your place to take as they please when you both become married, and there wouldn't be much you could do about it then. Do you realize that the man you plan to marry would likely fund his family during your marriage with money you both should have been using to build your futures? These are some of the things that you should hash out in a prenuptial agreement before marriage. Additionally, consider a prenuptial agreement requiring that if both of you contribute financially to the marriage, then not only would the marriage's communal wealth belong to you both — meaning you both divide property from the marriage equally— but that you both handle as partners all the responsibilities in a marriage — a partnership relationship in place of master-slave marriage.

This is 2025, and we are entering 2026. If you do this to yourself, you will have yourself to blame for the duration of the marriage for all that befalls you. Start loving yourself and don't even bother getting a man until you have completely centered yourself and your interests — acquire self-love. Better step back and focus on your financial security and getting you a man who can carry his own weight to marry, if at all.

Marriage ain’t by force! If he doesn’t love you that much to respect your decisions before marriage, there’s no guarantee he’ll do that when you get married. It isn’t rocket science!

It’s either you iron it out now or you find yourself sharing all your personal items with your sister in-laws.

Never start what you can’t finish.

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

Stick to your decision.
The sister should use what she has or let the brother your fiance use part of the money has for the wedding to buy for his sister.
It doesn't matter even if he is the one who bought it for you or not, it's not his place to tell you to give to his sister.
The sister should have established relationship with you long before now that will enable her come close to you and ask you for such.

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run to my dm i wee marry you before you regret it tommorrow



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Kobojunkie:
You dey fiance a immature poverty-stricken man in this economy? You no like yourself or your life at all. Hating yourself is a primary warning sign/red flag here.

Do you even realize the many things that could go wrong if you marry this man? He could have his family coming to your place to take as they please when you both become married, and there wouldn't be much you could do about it then. Do you realize that the man you plan to marry would likely fund his family during your marriage with money you both should have been using to build your futures? These are some of the things that you should hash out in a prenuptial agreement before marriage. Additionally, consider a prenuptial agreement requiring that if both of you contribute financially to the marriage, then not only would the marriage's communal wealth belong to you both — meaning you both divide property from the marriage equally— but that you both handle as partners all the responsibilities in a marriage — a partnership relationship in place of master-slave marriage.

This is 2025, and we are entering 2026. If you do this to yourself, you will have yourself to blame for the duration of the marriage for all that befalls you. Start loving yourself and don't even bother getting a man until you have completely centered yourself and your interests — acquire self-love. Better step back and focus on your financial security and getting you a man who can carry his own weight to marry, if at all.

Kobo that's why you are my fav nairalander...

You always bring a different angle/line of reasoning that is important to the table.

Respect! ✌️

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

😡 make Una two getat abeg.

That one no be fiance..

Somebody wants to get married but doesn't want to play the role of a wife and SIL. If the matter tire you, free the guy for the next babe. You are not the only person he could catch. Most spouses didn't marry their first choice.

Jumbojax:
I see what you did there...Catalyzing
May vawulence reign

The guy is stylishly inciting vawulence but as an advocate for peace I need to make sure peace reigns.

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

I opened YouTube and I found this video that I think you might benefit from watching and maybe even sharing with your friends today. Don't shortchange yourself in the name of desperation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ra-T8nV2-Y?si=WyVaUWPB6MicSDOs
You are today surrounded by women who did exactly that — they settled because they felt that the Mrs badge one is awarded with when one marries was more important than their standards and boundaries. And millions of those women are today living regretting it for the rest of their years. Do not settle for less than what you want and deserve in marriage.

dawnomike:
Serious red flag... how come he is the the one pushing for such. He ought bed shielding you not expose.

"He didn't buy it for me" that's the reason she isn't giving it to her, women will always call men stingy when they are the stingy gender. If he was the one that bought it she would have given to her. Same girl will be entitled when it's not coming from her pocket but when it comes from hers it's hers alone crew my money is my money and your money belongs to us all.