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How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by IyaTola: 12:50pm On Dec 29, 2020
As shared by Gold-Olufadi Shakirat @skinandall_
, A Physician, Dermatologist & Genitourinary medicine specialist.

That a person is married, doesn't mean some people won't still find them attractive. The gene for attraction doesn't automatically switch off when there's a spouse in the picture. There are actually some humans of destruction that go out of their way to prey on married men and women because there's no commitment involved.

What I'm saying in essence is that it is left for you, the married person to respect the relationship you have with your spouse. The outsider has no such commitment to your partner and they really don't care I have been out several times with my fiance and I look on in amusement when some are giving him the green light. Even with my rings on, some still want to 'toast' me...lol (babe lomo)

Sometimes, we invite the third party all by ourselves. You have a relationship with a friend and emotions start getting in the way. You deceive yourself by saying its nothing and you keep moving closer. You then start to see the 'missing' 20% that your partner lacks.

"Oh, see how Tunde listens to me. Always goes out of his way to help me. Lanre doesn't even put me first." Before you know it, your spouse no longer excites you. All you're looking forward to is when Tunde will come to town again. The phone rings and you're checking the caller ID to see if it is Tunde and you roll your eyes when you see it is Lanre. Careful, sister, that handshake is going past the elbow.

There's a Yoruba adage that says, "nkan tó báníje, má fi run mú." (What you have no intention of eating, don't even smell it lest you get tempted). Humans are emotional beings and sometimes, these emotions make us misbehave if we don't put them in check.

Another adage says, "tí wón bà n tàn é, má tan ra rè." (If they're deceiving you, don't deceive yourself). Most recognize when the feelings start to come up but deny it vehemently to themselves till they're in too deep.

At some time in a relationship especially marriage, see finish may enter the equation. And that is when you start to see all the shortcomings of your spouse. "She doesn't even bend it like Beckham, He's not even romantic, She likes tying wrapper."

When you get to this point, you have to remind yourself of all the things that endeared her/him to you and work on your relationship by communicating with each other effectively. It is not by seeking solace out there as that only gives temporary relief.

Again, there are different kinds of relationships. Some are married but are in an open relationship or they're allowed to bring other partners into the relationship (Nothing somebody will not see on Zikoko). As long as you are both in agreement with the dynamics of your relationship....ba wahala.

Finally, if you decide to let the handshake go past the elbow and you step out in your relationship...please don't blame the devil. Jeje l'esu joko. Be contrite and ask for forgiveness if they're willing to forgive you. If not, cut your losses and move on. No matter how angry you get as the aggrieved partner, don't ever do something that you'll regret later on - Like violence or worse, killing your partner. Don't spend your life behind bars for something that could have been handled better.

https://twitter.com/skinandall_/status/1343554372693843970

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by SteveOfu: 12:51pm On Dec 29, 2020
"Respect the relationship you have with your spouse. The outsider has no such commitment ". Words on marble. That 20% that one’s partner lacks is the bane of any relationship, once you go find that 20% in someone else that’s the day your relationship starts to fail

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by chatinent(m): 12:52pm On Dec 29, 2020
Nonsense and ingredients.



..to all bad belles.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Kingosytex(m): 12:53pm On Dec 29, 2020
It is only a fool that will allow some ten to twenty minutes pleasure to put him or her into eternal consequence of guilt and damnation.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Kriss216: 12:53pm On Dec 29, 2020
As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by PerfectMatchNG: 12:55pm On Dec 29, 2020
This piece is very apt and timely.
It's suitable for every married and about-to-marry couples. There are a lot of lessons to learn from here.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by gaius01(m): 12:57pm On Dec 29, 2020
Arrrrrrrh
Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by jaeyking(m): 12:59pm On Dec 29, 2020
Tinz dey happen o

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Pojomojo: 1:00pm On Dec 29, 2020
I read till the end and I most say this is the best thing I have read today, so much to learn and unlearn!
Thanks so much for this!

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by gaius01(m): 1:03pm On Dec 29, 2020
Kriss216:
As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.

I have heard story like what you said and yet they still fall.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Pascopele: 1:05pm On Dec 29, 2020
I say this to those that needs to hear to hear.

"The mark of respect of your relationship is in the response you give to thirdparty/intruder/outsider."

I have been guilty once, i learnt my lesson...
I have been a victim twice, I also learnt some lessons too

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by pharmagba: 1:10pm On Dec 29, 2020
When the advancement comes wives don't glory in it and tell your husband that you are still in the market, rather you quitely admit and deliberately try and avoid or try be frank and tell the man, "I can't" especially for office relationships.
For men know you're committed to your wife despite her inadequacies stay true to her unless you've both agreed to go separately

This can come anywhere even from the opposite sex even among church members! A man / woman can start desiring another wife and/ or husband.
Take your eyes away from what is not yours and focus on yours. Also note, ' the grass looks greener on the other site, you may get there and you find out it's not so but much worse than where you are coming from

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Leezah(f): 1:15pm On Dec 29, 2020
People know when they're being seduced...what makes them fall Is that they deliberately want to see how the seduction end hoping they'll be able to stop when they want to. Besides, yielding to temptation is sweeter and easier that resisting it

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Pusyiter(m): 1:25pm On Dec 29, 2020
I wonder who you carry sense resemble? wink
Bring your lips for a German kiss........ grin
Leezah:
People know when they're being seduced...what makes them fall Is that they deliberately want to see how the seduction end hoping they'll be able to stop when they want to. Besides, yielding to temptation is sweeter and easier that resisting it

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Oyindamolah: 1:41pm On Dec 29, 2020
Interesting read
Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Liposure: 2:10pm On Dec 29, 2020
That is why its good to flee from all lustful desires. Its better than being caught by surprise

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Alexaonfleek: 2:14pm On Dec 29, 2020
Kriss216:
As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.
What of black coloured ones?

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Oyindamolah: 3:12pm On Dec 29, 2020
They lacked self control
gaius01:


I have heard story like what you said and yet they still fall.
Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Dpsychologist: 3:32pm On Dec 29, 2020
Words on marble.
Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Leezah(f): 4:42pm On Dec 29, 2020
Pusyiter:
I wonder who you carry sense resemble? wink Bring your lips for a German kiss........ grin
Mr. Kisser

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by adelana81357: 4:51pm On Dec 29, 2020
Tinz dey happen o
Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Pusyiter(m): 5:06pm On Dec 29, 2020
That is who I am
You deserve my pink lips for the smart answer..... wink
Leezah:
Mr. Kisser

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by yazga: 8:18am On Dec 30, 2020
Wonderful piece

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Gabriel8003: 8:50am On Dec 30, 2020
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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by ABOVEDELAW: 12:39pm On Dec 30, 2020
THERE MUST BE BOUNDRIES IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Biglittlelois(f): 10:09pm On Dec 30, 2020
That is why I tell people that cheating is NEVER a mistake, it is a conscious and deliberately action/effort, no one diicks and thrusts continuously, cum/orgasm, then call it a mistake


May God continue to favour/bless the faithfuls as we enter the new year, amen.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by blinking001(m): 10:09pm On Dec 30, 2020
Impressive

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by obembet(f): 10:10pm On Dec 30, 2020
If you lose what is yours,u will take what is not yours.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by ruggedtimi(m): 10:10pm On Dec 30, 2020
Mad piece.
Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by Palema007: 10:12pm On Dec 30, 2020
Kriss216:
As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.
Na your type ordinary cleavage dey distract.

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Re: How Ladies Give My Fiancé 'Green Light' In My Presence, Not Minding My Ring by humilitypays(m): 10:13pm On Dec 30, 2020
It's common, especially if your fiancé is well off financially. Get use to it, but keep being a humble, respectful lady to your fiancé, he won't let u down, he sure knows how to handle them

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