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This is from personal experience, tested severally and worked.

1. Being sincere. Before a lady can open up to you , you must be trusted meaning you must have been sincere and consistent with your stories. The moment they start telling you things willingly, it will be hard for them to hide things from you

2. Being confidence. Ladies like someone that will tell them repeated assurance like don't worry everything will be alright. Someone who is ready to face challenges without breaking down. You don't have to be a super hero, just be confident in whatever situation.

3. Being responsible. This not necessary mean taking care of bills. Womanizing, alcoholic, gambling excess are what most ladies termed irresponsible.

Those 3 key things are important when getting to know each other, that's the stage of building trust and confidence

An honest, confident and responsible man. That’s not a lot to ask for but 80% fall at the 1st hurdle.

Everything you listed here are complete garbage without money. Na Money be real man

Cum4me:
Everything you listed here are complete garbage without money. Na Money be real man

You can't as well have better money without those list..

Em go later use am against u.
U r still a student
Stip writing gabage
Ubcant have sense in your twenties
Enter 30's and 40's
U go get sense

If this could keep a woman, then Will smith and Bill Gates won’t be divorced. A woman even divorced her man for being too perfect 😂

The truth is: all this are attributes of ‘NICE GUYS’. All this sign isn’t read as what you wrote there but it’s a clear sign of[b] DESPERATION AND WEAKNESS[/b] and will only set you up for being used.

Women don’t speak your language. 🙄 Only gender that could communicate with serpents perfectly😂 when you’re thinking X+Y= Z, she’s thinking x^2+2ab-2c, that’s it! They are more emotional while men are more logical. So if you’re expecting your gift and kindness to pave way, you’re in for a ride.

Yeah! They’ll cheer you on (which captive will want his prisoner to be as strong as he is or know his strength) but once you decide to apply those points you wrote up there, you’ll get bitten. That’s why we have questions like “after all I did for her”😂

So I seriously doubt your experience.

SpencerForbes:
If this could keep a woman, then Will smith and Bill Gates won’t be divorced. A woman even divorced her man for being too perfect 😂

The truth is: all this are attributes of ‘NICE GUYS’. All this sign isn’t read as what you wrote there but it’s a clear sign of DESPERATION AND WEAKNESS and will only set you up for being used.

Yeah! They’ll cheer you on (which captive will want his prisoner to be as strong as he is or know his strength) but once you decide to apply those points you wrote up there, you’ll get bitten. That’s why we have questions like “after all I did for her”😂

So I seriously doubt your experience.

Those 3 things are not only applicable to relationship but financial and life as well.

You can't be rich if you are irresponsible lavishing your money

You won't get better deal if you are not trusted

If you are not confident, you won't be bold to take some steps

helinues:
Those 3 things are not only applicable to relationship but financial and life as well.

You can't be rich if you are irresponsible lavishing your money

You won't get better deal if you are not trusted

If you are not confident, you won't be bold to take some steps

Yeah, Finances have laws and principles. The nature is ruled by principles but they don’t apply to women. If it was applicable, women won’t leave a responsible man for a bad boy. She should have rewarded the responsible kind man with her love, but she wants to conquer a bad boy.

She wants to be his savior. No man wants a perfect woman. So if you apply the principles of finance and wealth to women, you’ll fail woefully.

Re: Modern Simp Syndrome — Chasing A Girl Just To Pay Her Bills by Diam..ond098454(f): 2:57pm On Nov 20
Men can do anything to get a girl. You will be in your house next thing you will see is delivery and book to sign

Some girls doesn't need those things because they are comfortable already.

SpencerForbes:
Yeah, Finances have laws and principles. The nature is ruled by principles but they don’t apply to women. If it was applicable, women won’t leave a responsible man for a bad boy. She should have rewarded the responsible kind man with her love, but she wants to conquer a bad boy.

She wants to be his savior. No man wants a perfect woman. So if you apply the principles of finance and wealth to women, you’ll fail woefully.

Your definition of responsible could be different from others. You can see when I said responsibility, I didn't mention money but other Things

Not paying attention to little things could be tagged as irresponsible

helinues:
Your definition of responsible could be different from others. You can see when I said responsibility, I didn't mention money but other Things

Not paying attention to little things could be tagged as irresponsible

Define ‘being responsible’ to your own understanding

At the bolded. She’s a lady, let her solve some of her own challenges. Some ladies actually wants to prove they’re capable. Let her handle the little thing while you handle the big ones, she also wanna fix things and prove she can. Don’t fret because your girlfriend doesn’t have airtime or data. You’ll be surprised of their problem solving skills.

Double0h7:
An honest, confident and responsible man. That’s not a lot to ask for but 80% fall at the 1st hurdle.

Define a responsible man....you forgot to mention that he has to be wealthy too.

SpencerForbes:
Define ‘being responsible’ to your own understanding

At the bolded. She’s a lady, let her solve some of her own challenges. Some ladies actually wants to prove they’re capable. Let her handle the little thing while you handle the big ones, she also wanna fix things and prove she can. Don’t fret because your girlfriend doesn’t have airtime or data. You’ll be surprised of their problem solving skills.

Is it boredom that's making you to be making this arguments as it has no basis

helinues:
Is it boredom that's making you to be making this arguments as it has no basis

Yeah I’m bored, if not I won’t be engaging someone that’s ‘truly in love’ 😂 I just decided to point this out for the younger ones (like a caveat) so they don’t fall into the trap you’re leading them.

But you ended up not giving any definition for ‘being responsible’. How does your response answer the simple question? Seems you don’t have a clear definition 😂

You people just come online, post what’s not and fantasy and expect people to swallow it hook, line and sinker.

Have a nice day.

Kaka the Brazilian footballer had all those qualities you just listed,but his wife still left him simply because she believed he was too perfect for her.

My bro,women are the most confused set of people..

Sonnobax15:

Kaka the Brazilian footballer had all those qualities you just listed,but his wife still left him simply because she believed he was too perfect for her.

My bro,women are the most confused set of people..

If you married a wrong person, no amount of qualities you can have that will make different.

helinues:
If you married a wrong person, no amount of qualities you can have that will make different.

You’ve just arrived at reality, cheers 🍻

SpencerForbes:
You’ve just arrived at reality, cheers 🍻

Your arguments have been blurred before. In any relationship, you give what you are expecting from others

helinues:
Your arguments have been blurred before. In any relationship, you give what you are expecting from others

Yeah…. Sometimes I get so blunt my bad

But in relationships, we don’t give what we are expecting from others, I disagree.

We give because we wanna give, not expecting anything from anyone. They can choose to replicate the love, it’s their choice or they can decide not to.

The reason why I say so is, if you give with expectations, you’ll be hurt if the receiver doesn’t replicate. But if you give because you can afford it, you won’t feel any emotions if he/she doesn’t replicate.

So it’s good to give, but it shouldn’t be with expectations. Do it because you can and you’ll avoid heartbreaks from people. If you choose to be responsible, then be. Not because of any woman but because of yourself and humanity. About honesty, I’ll like to advise ‘selective honesty’ be honest but not about everything (don’t reveal all your cards) like your salary or secrets because you’re honest (always remember Samson)

SpencerForbes:
Yeah…. Sometimes I get so blunt my bad

But in relationships, we don’t give what we are expecting from others, I disagree.

We give because we wanna give, not expecting anything from anyone. They can choose to replicate the love, it’s their choice or they can decide not to.

The reason why I say so is, if you give with expectations, you’ll be hurt if the receiver doesn’t replicate. But if you give because you can afford it, you won’t feel any emotions if he/she doesn’t replicate.

So it’s good to give, but it shouldn’t be with expectations. Do it because you can and you’ll avoid heartbreaks from people. If you choose to be responsible, then be. Not because of any woman but because of yourself and humanity. About honesty, I’ll like to advise ‘selective honesty’ be honest but not about everything (don’t reveal all your cards) like your salary or secrets because you’re honest (always remember Samson)

What then is the meaning of love map in a relationship

helinues:
What then is the meaning of love map in a relationship

Damn…. All those ‘titanic’, ‘Cinderella’ and romantic love doesn’t exist. Those are pattern created by the world to emasculate and control you.

Why do I say so: if you have a love map of a lady and she leaves you, do you think it will be easy to delete those memories, events and even pictures from your phone? Then you’re emotionally invested than she is (sunk- cost fallacy)

You can’t guarantee anything when it comes to humans. Sometimes we help even our relatives and they turn their backs on us. Where you expecting them to? No. But they did.

Imagine a lady that you both created a love map together. (Remember women are emotional and emotions can fluctuate) and she leaves you for someone that can create adventures and turns her on. Will you be able to delete her memory from your brains??

That’s why heartbreak hurts. Never expect your X+Y to equals Z when it comes to lady. Im very sure Kaka and others that felt hurt when their wives left them created enough love maps but it wasn’t enough to take them to the promise land. I’ll say this anytime. ‘BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY SELFISH’ when it comes to women because if the tables were turned, they’ll do the same.

SpencerForbes:
Damn…. All those ‘titanic’, ‘Cinderella’ and romantic love doesn’t exist. Those are pattern created by the world to emasculate and control you.

Why do I say so: if you have a love map of a lady and she leaves you, do you think it will be easy to delete those memories, events and even pictures from your phone? Then you’re emotionally invested than she is (sunk- cost fallacy)

You can’t guarantee anything when it comes to humans. Sometimes we help even our relatives and they turn their backs on us. Where you expecting them to? No. But they did.

Imagine a lady that you both created a love map together. (Remember women are emotional and emotions can fluctuate) and she leaves you for someone that can create adventures and turns her on. Will you be able to delete her memory from your brains??

That’s why heartbreak hurts. Never expect your X+Y to equals Z when it comes to lady. Im very sure Kaka and others that felt hurt when their wives left them created enough love maps but it wasn’t enough to take them to the promise land. I’ll say this anytime. ‘BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY SELFISH’ when it comes to women because if the tables were turned, they’ll do the same.

Just say you have never experienced true undiluted love before without any money influence.

Just like being rich is for few people, it's same with true love. Only few people will experience it

helinues:
Just say you have never experienced true undiluted love before without any money influence.

Just like being rich is for few people, it's same with true love. Only few people will experience it

I very much agree with you 😊

Let me drop something for all the young lads before I vanish into oblivion. A lot of people will surely come for my head.

The point is, that woman you think loves you, loves you for something. Even the broke boy that is loved, he’s loved because of his prospects (with expectations)

Unconditional love is BS. This might sound insane but even some mothers don’t love unconditionally except they could do that to a total stranger. Some mothers love because of the pains and sacrifice while others love because of what they expect.

So if you are on the journey of finding true unconditional love, all I can say is GOOD LUCK 😊

In all these things,

1. Have money

2. Have more money

3. Keep having more money

EmmyMaestro:
In all these things,

1. Have money

2. Have more money

3. Keep having more money

What's the business of a broke guy with relationship. He should channel his energy on how to make money first.

Then after the money, what next?

helinues:
This is from personal experience, tested severally and worked.

1. Being sincere. Before a lady can open up to you , you must be trusted meaning you must have been sincere and consistent with your stories. The moment they start telling you things willingly, it will be hard for them to hide things from you

2. Being confidence. Ladies like someone that will tell them repeated assurance like don't worry everything will be alright. Someone who is ready to face challenges without breaking down. You don't have to be a super hero, just be confident in whatever situation.

3. Being responsible. This not necessary mean taking care of bills. Womanizing, alcoholic, gambling excess are what most ladies termed irresponsible.

Those 3 key things are important when getting to know each other, that's the stage of building trust and confidence

Baba, whilst you are right, in this our country, once you have money abd/or are good at sex, those three things you mention pale into significance.

Conversely, without money or bring good in the sack, these things again matter little, in this our country at least.

aswani:
Baba, whilst you are right, in this our country, once you have money abd/or are good at sex, those three things you mention pale into significance.

Conversely, without money or bring good in the sack, these things again matter little, in this our country at least.

If you are responsible you already have money, same as self confident and be sincere to be trusted. Those keys are applicable to other things

helinues:
If you are responsible you already have money, same as self confident and be sincere to be trusted. Those keys are applicable to other things

I can't agree with this sha based on my experience, not saying it's not true for you ó.

I won't trust a lot of people that have money as an example and some are definitely not responsible.

They are pretty confident, I grant you that, though with some, it's a hollow confidence solely based on their bank balance.