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Holluwhakemmy:
You too like to do beggy beggy from your comment, is it encouraging to beg for wig?is car not differ from wig? I beg stop it's bad habit

I never said anything about begging. Some of you have comprehension problem. I merely asked her to reverse the roles, and see if the whole thing sits well with her. If yes, then her actions are justified, if no then are actions are not justified. I only showed her a mirror to find her answers .

Well there is something fundamental wrong with your relationship with your "in law" to be . I advise, end it now before u see hell in that marriage.

He wants to break up with you but doesn't know how to tell you. Wig and dress are personal properties that you shouldn't just give out to anybody. End the relationship, lick your wounds and move on.

ledaman:
The lord also said one should be contented with what ever you have, because others don't @ all.

He commanded that, "give and it shall be given unto thee."

For the hand that giveth also receiveth

Remember, He also said and I quote, "if your neighbor ask you to give him or her bread (in this case wig) don't say go away and come back tomorrow while you have that thing "

May the good Lord bless His words.

Afriifa:
The question is: if your Fiance has a car or let's say a good pair of suits, or sneakers, and your brother asks you to help him ask your fiancé if he could borrow any of these items for a similar event, if your fiancé refuses, the question now is that: how would you handle it? Your answer to that question solves the problem..
My rule of life is simple, there is no right way or wrong way to treat anyone, just treat them how you want to be treated. Reject them how you want to be rejected. That's fair.

May your days belong…..well said

AutoConsult:
Na una know where una dey find all these men

Hahaha

Mumu men everywhere. And usually, the girls are even educated o.

A man that can't educate her sister about the virtue of contention. What sort of a man is that?

What if his girlfriend never had that attachement or whatever it's called? By the way, that's a highly private thing. You can't joke with something you wear on your body. I seriously kick against sharing personal stuff.

This apc tulumbu acquired nairaland, has been pushing parochial treads to front-page to re-direct people from pertinent issues facing the country.

They are looking to distract

Just lend the wig... one you're tired of....maybe a dress too ...one you don't see yourself wearing again. Get stinging nettles and rub well into both of them....I can guarantee they wouldn't ask again ...nor will accept any clothing from you.

samuelson06:
Hahaha

Mumu men everywhere. And usually, the girls are even educated o.

A man that can't educate her sister about the virtue of contention. What sort of a man is that?

What if his girlfriend never had that attachement or whatever it's called? By the way, that's a highly private thing. You can't joke with something you wear on your body. I seriously kick against sharing personal stuff.

Spot on. Lots of young women don't actually have an idea of what an ideal man should look like. I can't imagine the kind of kids these young parents will raise.

AutoConsult:
Spot on. Lots of young women don't actually have an idea of what an ideal man should look like. I can't imagine the kind of kids these young parents will raise.

That's because everyone feels you don't need to learn about relationships/building a home. Most relationship/marriage problems have always been avoidable, but no one cares.

Mozenge1:
May your days belong…..well said

Thank you

Nemesis0147:
don’t mind them
Very selfish people….what are clothes and wig?
And what makes her think that she won’t be asking for a favor from the same lady in the future?

Na the man suppose bail out

If, in the future, she won't feel bad that her brother come to borrow her fiancé/husband car for any reason including emergencies, but the hobby refuses, then, she is not selfish.

Kayberg:
Don't do it… not just for the physical reasons, but for the spiritual implications.
I repeat, don't do it.

Pls elaborate, What kind of spiritual implications

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

You will end up as unreasonable wife. Please leave that man alone. Wedding is for a day, marriage is life time.

A Wedding gown that you ll wear for just less than 24hrs, why held on to it

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

LOL! I hope you have your finances sorted, else if you marry this Princess, be prepared to wear borrowed clothes, likewise.

samuelson06:
That's because everyone feels you don't need to learn about relationships/building a home. Most relationship/marriage problems have always been avoidable, but no one cares.

Spot on. People don't care. They just wanna do what feel emotionally satisfying to them.

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

Stick to your decision and let your fiance know that you don't like sharing personal stuffs with people - even your siblings aren't excluded. If he still refuse to reason with you, I'm afraid , he is not a husband material.

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

Run and don't look back. How could he even say that to you? The sister and possibly too, your fiance, are badly raised for wanting what they do not own, and feeling sooooo entitled about it. Mtcheeeew for them!

Kobojunkie:
Exception? He is an immature individual meaning he does not respect his fiance and does not know how to emotionally regulate as adults or even husbands are supposed to be. Why is an exception needed for you to admit this?

2. There are no perfect humans out there, and hence no perfect relationship. But does a relationship have to be perfect to be safe and healthy? Clearly, they don't. Why would you advise anyone to enter into a relationship where there is no peace or happiness to be had, only heartache, trauma, immature tantrums at every corner, while staying silent, or being a punching bag to keep the peace? Any relationship where one literally has to exist in survival mode is not a relationship but a literal war/trauma to one's body and mind.

And why is it so wrong for one to choose to remain single for life? Why is that not a better option than entering into unhealthy relationships where one will never find the connection, safety, or love that one truly desires to have?

3. You mean she should begin walking on shells, silence her emotions, and minimize herself, all so she can remain engaged to a man who is clearly immature and has shown her his true self by his actions? To what end?

You are a good writer of fiction. You successfully amplified the little happening to a lengthy novel My guy, being single has its own challenges too, for a lady. Hoping from bed to bed to cure kongi - body no be wood - exposes the single lady to more danger than imagined.

Afriifa:
Relationship issues are complicated. Is not a one shoe fit all thing. Wether borrowing is wrong or right in this context depends on a lot of facts that are unknown to us. That is why I asked her to reverse the roles, only then she can find her answers to whether it is right or wrong. I merely showed her a mirror, whatever she finds there is for her to see.

nice 👍

Afriifa:
The question is: if your Fiance has a car or let's say a good pair of suits, or sneakers, and your brother asks you to help him ask your fiancé if he could borrow any of these items for a similar event, if your fiancé refuses, the question now is that: how would you handle it? Your answer to that question solves the problem..
My rule of life is simple, there is no right way or wrong way to treat anyone, just treat them how you want to be treated. Reject them how you want to be rejected. That's fair.

This is why I like Nairaland.

Brutal and straight to the point. I agree to the bold because ordinarily, I would not offer my car to anyone. Suits and shoes? Yes. Car? No.

ExudeLoveToAll:
"He didn't buy it for me" that's the reason she isn't giving it to her, women will always call men stingy when they are the stingy gender. If he was the one that bought it she would have given to her. Same girl will be entitled when it's not coming from her pocket but when it comes from hers it's hers alone crew my money is my money and your money belongs to us all.

Another strong point.

Jumbojax:
Pls elaborate, What kind of spiritual implications

Do you believe in the supernatural or spirituality?

Do not consider marrying into the family. It's a different thing if you are friends with the sister and she asked you directly. But your man asking for her sister It's indeed shameful

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

He's shameless.

What kind of responsible man does that? He has a dead heart.

Kayberg:
Do you believe in the supernatural or spirituality?

Of course, it controls the physical

Jumbojax:
Of course, it controls the physical

Good you know that…
Who knows the kind of head/body his sister carries?
Do you know some people's star doesn't rhyme with these kind of things?
Not taking notice and precautions have caused some people avoidable problems.

That's why it's not cool to be with an immature, inexperienced, and a novice for a partner at times.

Kayberg:
Good you know that…
Who knows the kind of head/body his sister carries?
Do you know some people's star doesn't rhyme with these kind of things?
Not taking notice and precautions have caused some people avoidable problems.

That's why it's not cool to be with an immature, inexperienced, and a novice for a partner at times.

I agree with your point a lot of RELATIONSHIP experience is needed before choosing to take someone seriously in the modern day dating climate.
But do you think spirits and curses can be transferred through wigs