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A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.

In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride.

Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.

He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish.

Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any.

Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.

He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.

The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.

His tweet read;

“Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there.

First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“

Dating woes. Life continues.

DyshApp:
A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.

In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride.

Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.

He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish.

Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any.

Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.

He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.

The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.

His tweet read;

“Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there.

First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“

Gen Z will not stop to amaze me,

Some people have zero shame! How will I pack leftovers from a date like I haven’t eaten in years 😭😭😭

Hungry fellows i hail thee.

DyshApp:
➜A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.
In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride. Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.
➜ He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, [b]saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish. Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any. [/b]Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.
➜ He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.
His tweet read; “Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there. First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“

He is most definitely better off alone if he thinks his grand gesture— not his personality and character, but just a bunch of performative acts — is what it should take to win him the heart of the woman. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Why in the world would you order so much food when you are only out on a date with someone, and you know you are not rich enough to not care about it? You were obviously trying to lie your way into that woman's heart. And here you want us to believe you are some sort of victim when, instead, you are just a scammer who got had!

3. Please remain single until you:
➜ learn to cut your coat according to your size. Stop trying to lie or scam your way into getting women whose preferences you cannot afford to date you. That is FRAUDULENT.
➜ learn that gestures alone do not win over quality women; a combination of maybe performative gestures— I say maybe because some women don't even appreciate such gestures—, quality character, and personality would.
➜ realize that your mental, emotional, and social intelligence are the best weapons you can have, both in life and relationships

Being happily married to a loyal woman (SPDAZZY) for 10 years and I will always count my marriage a blessing from God.

Being happily married to a loyal woman (SPDAZZY) for 10 years and I will always count my marriage a blessing from God.

Never being insensitive to her demands but has proven to be Godly, virtuous, loving wife and mother, something now quite rear about this generation of women.

Our commitment is for happily ever after!

By the way, she’s also very brilliantly and only recently became a phd holder from a UK top university.

na see finish day make guy take girl to resturant date


y i go do dat shmit if u no day do netflix n chill day your house make i day mine

Why would you let a lady dictate the tempo of the date? As a man, you are supposed to be the one leading, not the other way around. I make it a rule to take women to places I am familiar with—my 'home turf'—rather than places they demand.

Also, my Nigerian ladies, please normalize ordering only what you can afford! It is embarrassing to be stranded. I recently had to clear a bill for a lady’s catfish and drinks because the guy she went on a date with ran away and left her there.

SpencerForbes:
Why would you let a lady dictate the tempo of the date? As a man, you are supposed to be the one leading, not the other way around. I make it a rule to take women to places I am familiar with—my 'home turf'—rather than places they demand.

Also, my Nigerian ladies, please normalize ordering only what you can afford! It is embarrassing to be stranded. I recently had to clear a bill for a lady’s catfish and drinks because the guy she went on a date with ran away and left her there.

Mehn you try for that banny. God will reward you back.

Who spends that much in a first date wey una still dey do let's get to know each other ..

Anything above 5k for a first date I no dey do.


Na only when things don really set naim I dey do expensive night out or dates..


Zero gbezume always...

Why will you even spend up to 100k for a date you know might not work out Nigerians are always forgetting to sew their coat according to their pocket everybody wants to chill with the big boys

But where were you when she was ordering so much? Aren't you the one paying? Why would you be so ashamed that you can't tell her this is the most I can spend on this date?

SpencerForbes:
Also, my Nigerian ladies, please normalize ordering only what you can afford! It is embarrassing to be stranded. I recently had to clear a bill for a lady’s catfish and drinks because the guy she went on a date with ran away and left her there.

that lady is shameless, you mean she has no money on her account to pay for the catfish meal?

First date and you are going to an expensive restaurant showed you are a real SIMP.

I guess it was her idea to go to such restaurant and you agreed.

His first mistake was to go where he can spend 109k on the first date.

From the beginning, you can always predict the end. If on a first date, you begin hear funny locations like sheraton restaurant, or some rooftop places, you should not go there unless you can afford it.

Trying to give the perception of ''money no be problem'' is bad. If she think you are broke for being frugal, then she just confessed that she is not good for you. You cant have high tatse on someone's else pocket.

Men should understand that since they have the responsibility to spend, then they also have the right to choose how, where, and what to spend on. ''Responsibilities'' and ''rights'' go hand in hand.

If a girl insist on a particular place to meet and it seems expensive, playfully ask if she is the one taking you out. If her response seems like she is expecting you to foot the bills, then decline if it is above your budget.

A woman that likes you will happily meet you at a bus station, and walk in a park with just a bottle of water and groundnut.

Guys, please stop trying to impress ladies by spending extravagantly.

First date, plates of jollof rice with beef in a good eatery. Option 2: Buy meat pies, a pack of Hollandia or juice and bottle waters.

Second date,take her to a park. Buy snacks & soft drinks.

Third date, invite her over to your house. Cook a good meal for yourself, get soft drinks and alcohol too. A good movie too.

If you do all these and she still says no, let her go peacefully. You no lose cuz u had fun too.

Must the first date be at a restaurant? Must it always be about food?

Nnamdipapa:
Must the first date be at a restaurant? Must it always be about food?

Nigerian women are like hungry tigresses. They gotta eat while bore you with their unintelligible...

Naija luxury restaurant na scam
Too much money for thrash food

Nnamdipapa:
➜ Must the first date be at a restaurant? Must it always be about food?

Well, given that the average individual —including the busiest folks out there—has to stop to eat about 3 times a day, it makes sense that meeting over a meal is the default way to go during dates.

Kobojunkie:
Well, given that the average individual —including the busiest folks out there—has to stop to eat about 3 times a day, it makes sense that meeting over a meal is the default way to go during dates.

.....also, has to order takeway to continue a solo date at home. Just helping to complete your train of thoughts. Coming on a date should never be seen as an opportunity to satisfy hunger at the expense of the man. That is all shades of wrong.

Nnamdipapa:
➜...also, has to order takeway to continue a solo date at home. Just helping to complete your train of thoughts. Coming on a date should never be seen as an opportunity to satisfy hunger at the expense of the man. That is all shades of wrong.

People dine out regularly—some do it like three times a day—, so saying that it is about satisfying hunger is not a thing for all who go out on dinner/lunch/breakfast dates.

As for ordering to satiate hunger as expressed in the OP, we all heard from one side. For all we know, the guy probably gave the gal the impression and maybe even the permission to order all of that food, only to complain about it later on when regret set in for him. However, as far as people ordering more food and taking the rest with them after a date, that usually happens only with permission from the one paying the bill. I recall witnessing such while dining out, where a man at the table not far from mine chose to pay for more food to be packed to go for the gal he was with and her roommates who weren't there(he knew of them from what he said, and suggested his date take food for her roommates from the restaurant.)

Kaczynski:
na see finish day make guy take girl to resturant date


y i go do dat shmit if u no day do netflix n chill day your house make i day mine

Lol... You mean netflix and off pant

On behalf of the bro clan this guy needs to be flooged
Obviously he fell for the hungry genz who obviously doesn't even have money to cook at home.. but all they do is look good and pretty..
If we say send pictures of the girl, e go be one fine baby poo

she wasn't even attracted to him... Bro, were you not smelling nice too.. no matter how bad, she supposed send you appreciation message for funding her stomach infrastructure alleviation program

Imagine we have said this over and over stop spending too much on these types of ladies

pansophist:
His first mistake was to go where he can spend 109k on the first date.

From the beginning, you can always predict the end. If on a first date, you begin hear funny locations like sheraton restaurant, or some rooftop places, you should not go there unless you can afford it. Trying to give the perception of ''money no be problem'' is bad. If she think you are broke for being frugal or exercising your right to choose a date location that you are expected to pay for, then she just confessed that she is not for you. Men should understand that since they have the responsibility to spend, then they also have the right to choose how, where, and what to spend on.
If a girl insist on a particular place to meet and it seems expensive, playfully ask if she is the one taking you out. If her response seems like she is expecting you to foot the bills, then decline if it is above your budget.
A woman that likes you will happily meet you at a bus station, and walk in a park with just a bottle of water and groundnut.

Thank you for all you do.

From the screenshot, it is clear that the girl does not like him, which is okay. Also, it is highly likely they just met and decided to kick off with a date. This is why I prefer to establish a clear and natural platonic relationship before doing all these Ndi fancy restaurant dates. I have taken ladies to such settings, but I did it for two reasons:

- to know her better as a person
- having someone to talk with.

Afterwards, I don't pester for romance or anything related. Another important factor is to always eat at/visit the chosen restaurant before taking a random woman there. I first spoil myself before spoiling another person. Please yourself first before anyone else. Abi dem forbid men to go on solo dates at expensive restaurants?

Ebenezer2021:
that lady is shameless, you mean she has no money on her account to pay for the catfish meal?

The crazy part, which confirms her gullibility, is that she actually gave her phone to the guy just so he could call his 'friend'—because ‘she trusted him’

The manager was telling me they were both scammers and accomplice. I just felt sympathetic because he was threatening to call mopol to handle her 😂

He also refused when she asked someone to follow her to her house to retrieve some cash. Since the amount was something I could easily part with, and out of sympathy (I have a younger sister), I voluntarily cleared the bill.

She had ordered more than the guy who abandoned her. That convinced me that she was simply naive or greedy. I truly believe she’ll never make such a mistake again. Honestly, I don’t blame the guy for running away.

Did you take her home, to have sex with her.

SpencerForbes:
Why would you let a lady dictate the tempo of the date? As a man, you are supposed to be the one leading, not the other way around. I make it a rule to take women to places I am familiar with—my 'home turf'—rather than places they demand.

Also, my Nigerian ladies, please normalize ordering only what you can afford! It is embarrassing to be stranded. I recently had to clear a bill for a lady’s catfish and drinks because the guy she went on a date with ran away and left her there.

DyshApp:
A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.

In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride.

Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.

He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish.

Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any.

Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.

He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.

The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.

His tweet read;

“Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there.

First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“

You are taking woman on date in 2025 ..

Bro that 100k na 25 rations of hot amala and ogunfe like 3 ogunfe oo .. with kponmo and fish .. and Pepsi wea chill... 25 rations

Read my post and eat amala with your money
That's 25 rations gone .. when you have yourself
Games
Tiktok
Music
Learn an instrument
Proceed to stop and addiction
Test yourself . Keep your phone for 2 days a week
Do alot of other shit with your life
....