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People saying the wife is wicked, if it were to be your sister or daughter, kindly advise.

If the said wife had dies, you'll stoll say she was wicked for not fighting enough to stay alive for her children.

If she wasn't financially empowered as they're mostly FHWs. in scenarios like this, which money would she use to care for the children she would take if he made her financially handicapped in the marriage?

The children would be fine and nollywood taught us they'll look for their mother

Let her go and rest, make money and come to fight custody battle when she's settled.

2mch:
You better leave him to his own problem and go and live your own life. Before he put you in a situation where you forgo your life to raise his kids. Let him hire nanny. This his cheapness is probably why the wife ran away. Go and find your own husband and runaway too. A word is enough for the wise.

Or you will wake up at 50 and realize you wasted your life for a sibling that can’t keep a marriage. He will even have time to make more children and bring them to you to raise. Let him learn his own lesson. 5 children and he allowed the wife to go? He’s not a serious man. When you have more than 2 kids with anyone you have to treat them well so they don’t runaway. If you sit down raise kids for one week, all the madness wey de your head go run.

You still believe cork and bull stories like this??
If it's true then I blame illiteracy for running within them.

Ifexibe:
Are the kids his? Biologically?

If they are not, he won't be asking the sister and his own mum to take custody.

That said, if indeed the man maltreated his wife making her to leave the marriage, he should be able to chest the consequences.

Let him look for those who won't mind the maltreatment and offload the kids on her.

Asking the sister to step in is akin to denying her some chance at living her own life. Well, may be the mother can take responsibility but again, if the sister is unemployed and the man can pay her pending the time to marry again but they, this sort of men don't really care.

nairalanda1:
Man has made his bed, make he lie down in it.

He might learn a lesson or two

If he wanted his sister to take care of the kids, maybe he should have married her first.

Nairaland redpillers, see the end of your red pill life . You will be begging the same women you call evil to come and look after your progeny

Exactly like this guy lailo, check his posts about women and you'll be greatly astonished about the despicable things he says about them,just soon when his wife finally leaves him , it's either his mum, sisters or a new wife that will take care of his child or children but he'll be here cussing them out..
Sad about the kind of people who raised him.

what are families for?

Pay attention in school.
E sey na brother wants sister!

How people end up with partners whom they are not equally yoked shocks me. The fact that she could go ahead to bear five kids with such a man is baffling.

The brother's wife made a good decision to leave him. Her absence will make him realise what he lost, and hopefully force a change. Leave shitty people alone so they can deal with their problem and realise that they are the problem.

He should take care of his kids alone and must not outsource it to others. People must carry the weight of their mess otherwise they wont reorient themselves.

Say no

Kobojunkie:
An abusive father of five decided to gaslight his sister and his mother into caring for his five children after his wife decided to leave them with him.

Your acceptance simply means you have inherited the sins and consequences of your erring brother. Let him carry his Cross. Escape from another man's sins before it becomes your own. Be guided by principle not sentiment

He needs to bear the consequences of his actions completely alone. His family should not support any talk of remarriage until he proves he has genuinely and permanently changed. He has no one else to blame for this mess.

The only persons who deserves pity are the children. The wife's mistake was in allowing a man of that character to father five of her children; she should have walked away after the first.

geoworldedu:
This thing is happening to someone around my place too. This man beats his wife every now and then, until last week when he beat her to coma. When she recovered from the coma, she assured herself that it was enough. She reported at the police station, but the man already threatened the children to speak positive of him. They supported the man's lies that he always gave her 70k weekly. Lol. This is a man who doesn't like to work, but always relying on his wife to provide for the family. He has a Keke napep that could fetch money, but refused to use it. Then he sold the Keke for 180k and was asking his wife to tell her mother to give her 300k to give him to start a business.

The wife felt betrayed that the children supported the father, so she left her home and the husband was looking for her everywhere. This is a man that after they returned from the police station, he has been threatening fire and brimstone, thinking that the wife has nowhere to go because he felt they are tied together by the children. Now he is running from pillar to post looking for her. The woman that has fled to a far away place to start afresh.

Not every woman will die in husband house like Osinachi abeg.

This is touching to read.

However, the story never end here.

It is not easy for women to leave their kids behind. Some can do it easily while some cannot.

She is probably going through hell wherever she is now. Women are bound to their children naturally. Unlike we men.

So, everyone will chop breakfast in this matter. I pity the kids though.

3kay945:
This is touching to read.

However, the story never end here.

It is not easy for women to leave their kids behind. Some can do it easily while some cannot.

She is probably going through hell wherever she is now. Women are bound to their children naturally. Unlike we men.

So, everyone will chop breakfast in this matter. I pity the kids though.

She will still come for them, but for now she needs to escape with her life first.

nairalanda1:
The same issues happen even in sane climes.

Even in USA, there are cases where police have been called in because man was beating up his wife in the presence of their kids and even sometimes where the woman was the aggressor

5 kids, left for another woman to cater for! No, it's not so in other civilizations.

Why not fight after one kid? This five is too much.

Oisagbai78:
2nd Marriage Loading....... If care is not even taking, the beast in human form would rape u and convert u into his new wife. That's automatically incest. Aunty, run o. No even allow ur Mama to go sef. Na beating She go dey receive on a daily.

your post is devoid of logic and common sense

LordIsaac:
5 kids, left for another woman to cater for! No, it's not so in other civilizations.

Sorry, but that how it is many times , even in saner climes.

My friend, Justiceleague1 is the antithesis of an alpha

On Monday mornings, he doesn't step out, will be busy washing his wifeys undergarment .

That Princess girl don totally colonize am

nairalanda1:
Man has made his bed, make he lie down in it.

He might learn a lesson or two

If he wanted his sister to take care of the kids, maybe he should have married her first.

Nairaland redpillers, see the end of your red pill life . You will be begging the same women you call evil to come and look after your progeny

Two things involved



1 Your brother is MUMU for not being a man to divorce with FIVE children



2 Maybe he broke and suspeting d woman having affair outside

Coder2Client:
But his wife is wicked o. I always see women fight for the custody of their children but this one just left without looking back.

it is high time women start dumping children for their fathers in case of a divorce.We need to eradicate the epidemic of single mothers and give a rise to singe fathers.Men have more resources to cater for children in Nigeria.

Gotocourt:
Nothing can be done ma'am. That's the extra baggages that comes with some families 📌💯

Your brother's extra baggage don't need to be your extra baggage. They are family, yes, but not your extra baggage to carry for head. 🥱🥱

alphaconde:
SO Amaka u brought my matter online. After all the money i gave u and mama.

And so? Go court! 🥱🥱🥱

nairalanda1:
Sorry, but that how it is many times , even in saner climes.

No...people don't just breed like pigs in "saner" climes. It's expensive! No sister is free enough for such.

Gotocourt:
✓ Most women who fight for custody end up regretting. It works for weak Men, don't fight over kids, she will use it to pepper you if you're a emotional man.

Not only that. There is also the huge stigma out there against single/divorced mothers, that seem to exonerate the single fathers who make them so. 🥱🥱

AKWATGOLD1:
I will suggested that for sake of the blood, please give your brother the that will suite you to take the custody of his kids but not in his house because you know who those kids will be in future.

Nonsense! When e no be say her brother dey autistic, why would his life choices have to impact hers in any way or shape? Abegi! 🥱🥱

That’s too much responsibility

nairalanda1:
Man has made his bed, make he lie down in it.

He might learn a lesson or two

If he wanted his sister to take care of the kids, maybe he should have married her first.

Nairaland redpillers, see the end of your red pill life . You will be begging the same women you call evil to come and look after your progeny

Don't mind them, they even said women brings nothing to the table, therefore they don't need women.

He is probably the bread winner.
These days male children are trained to think if they can provide financially, it compensate for any stinking behaviour and wrong choice.
Ur mum can not live all her life raising u and probably ur siblings then during her latter days when she is suppose to be enjoying comfort from the kids she once trained u decide to give her five more kids to start afresh.
Ur sister also have her life to live. Hasn't she got a job?

manuelkel:
✓ What happened to reporting to human rights??
Most times na illiteracy dey make some marriages cast. None of them fit reason as educationist.

Who report to human rights so that? The man obviously hated her presence in the home with him that is why she removed herself from the marriage The children are his after all so he too can and should raise them. 🥱🥱

ABankole:
That’s too much responsibility

Even if na only one baby, the man can and should raise them by himself. After all, we hear a lot that fathers raise better kids.

ABankole:
That’s too much responsibility

How is that too much of a responsibility to care of his own children I thought your gender said women brings nothing to the table and therefore men don't need women for anything. The mother have been taking care of the children since birth, but for him to take over now he's complaining.

cocolacec:
it is high time women start dumping children for their fathers in case of a divorce.We need to eradicate the epidemic of single mothers and give a rise to singe fathers.Men have more resources to cater for children in Nigeria.

What’s that This table you’re about to shake, hope you know it ain’t strong enough

Preator:
Its is well with all of una. He should allow the wife take custody and pay for upkeep.

He is a monster that's the last thing he would do.