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A babe told me she will prefer a public place for a date instead of my house. I recommended a very big Catholic Church Cathedral. We met there, talked, got to know each other. When the date ended, she was like, "I thought we will be going to a posh restaurant when we meet in church." I told her the church is main venue and very safe. Well, she blocked me later

Batman2412:
✓ A babe told me she will prefer a public place for a date instead of my house. I recommended a very big Catholic Church Cathedral. We met there, talked, got to know each other. When the date ended, she was like, "I thought we will be going to a posh restaurant when we meet in church." I told her the church is main venue and very safe. Well, she blocked me later

He chose a safe place to get to know you; she did good. 🤔

Nigerian girls are hungry... Dating 1 of Dem is as good as adopting an orphan.. u will pay bills till u run away.. stay on ur own bro build ur life..

bixton:
What I think happened is that they have placed an order for a dish that having a three course arrangements...

probably a three course meal.
one thing our naija girls are fond of is ordering foreign cuisine on a date, they rarely go for local dishes, food they know they can’t afford on a normal day, that is what they always order for on a date, and this food are pricey too. very gutterish behavior.

Why is he complaining? Did she force him to spend 100k?
This is what you get when you try to impress people he should not complain.

The girl used him for a meal and he volunteered.

Eastcoastboy:
You don go far for this thing oh! I like the indirect question.

You have to be physiological with this people.

Nobody wey no like awoof

If I see free food, me sef go chop.

Person gats sharpen up

pansophist:
His first mistake was to go where he can spend 109k on the first date.

From the beginning, you can always predict the end. If on a first date, you begin hear funny locations like sheraton restaurant, or some rooftop places, you should not go there unless you can afford it.

Trying to give the perception of ''money no be problem'' is bad. If she think you are broke for being frugal, then she just confessed that she is not good for you. You cant have high tatse on someone's else pocket.

Men should understand that since they have the responsibility to spend, then they also have the right to choose how, where, and what to spend on. ''Responsibilities'' and ''rights'' go hand in hand.

If a girl insist on a particular place to meet and it seems expensive, playfully ask if she is the one taking you out. If her response seems like she is expecting you to foot the bills, then decline if it is above your budget.

A woman that likes you will happily meet you at a bus station, and walk in a park with just a bottle of water and groundnut.

You guys are just stressing yourselves over this matter. He will do it again. He went for a slay queen and was trying to be a "big boy" to her. The lady being smarter only wanted a meal ticket of him and utilized it big time, then he is online whining. I am sure he will do it again, his type are egotistic and don't learn.

Traay:
probably a three course meal.
one thing our naija girls are fond of is ordering foreign cuisine on a date, they rarely go for local dishes, food they know they can’t afford on a normal day, that is what they always order for on a date, and this food are pricey too. very gutterish behavior.

Well i naturally dont blame the lady....
The blame is on the guy and his likes.

OvertheTop:
Have you lost your Job before while she takes care of the Bills for 6 Months?

Lol, if he loses his job,he will finally realise he has been married to his enemy

Batman2412:
A babe told me she will prefer a public place for a date instead of my house. I recommended a very big Catholic Church Cathedral. We met there, talked, got to know each other. When the date ended, she was like, "I thought we will be going to a posh restaurant when we meet in church." I told her the church is main venue and very safe. Well, she blocked me later

Hahahahaha very funny. She tot she found maga.

lildush:
Nigerian girls are hungry... Dating 1 of Dem is as good as adopting an orphan.. u will pay bills till u run away.. stay on ur own bro build ur life..

you have said it all. Men should stop dating them. They are not worth it.

Chief2410:
you have said it all. Men should stop dating them. They are not worth it.

They aren't Worth it yet they are all you lot spend your days and nights busy discussing? 🥱🥱

Normally, before you go on a date with a lady, you should be convinced she's really into you.

Kobojunkie:
They aren't Worth it yet they are all you lot spend your days and nights busy discussing? 🥱🥱

lol,we are waking up men who are still sleeping. If we don't talk about these things,many men will still be Living in illusion.

Chief2410:
lol,we are waking up men who are still sleeping. If we don't talk about these things,many many will still be Living in illusion.

Alright! Too many Nigerian men are obsessed with Nigerian women and that, in and of itself, has been a major problem. I look forward to see Nigerian men focusing more of their energy on developing and growing themselves and less on objectifying the women.

Kobojunkie:
He is most definitely better off alone if he thinks his grand gesture— not his personality and character, but just a bunch of performative acts — is what it should take to win him the heart of the woman. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Why in the world would you order so much food when you are only out on a date with someone, and you know you are not rich enough to not care about it? You were obviously trying to lie your way into that woman's heart. And here you want us to believe you are some sort of victim when, instead, you are just a scammer who got had!

3. Please remain single until you:
➜ learn to cut your coat according to your size. Stop trying to lie or scam your way into getting women whose preferences you cannot afford to date you. That is FRAUDULENT.
➜ learn that gestures alone do not win over quality women; a combination of maybe performative gestures— I say maybe because some women don't even appreciate such gestures—, quality character, and personality would.
➜ realize that your mental, emotional, and social intelligence are the best weapons you can have, both in life and relationships

U are lost, critical thinking skills equal zero, just a bunch of haphazard thought process. The one paying is the problem not your fellow glutton wonder shall never end.

Double0h7:
Some people have zero shame! How will I pack leftovers from a date like I haven’t eaten in years 😭😭😭

Don't blame your gender. Such opportunity comes once in a year, so they need to make most of it

xtianchris:
Mehn you try for that banny. God will reward you back.

He only fueled the gluttons ego, I don't pay my hard earned money for such f""lish ladies anywhere, my money is meant for a good venture not to bail irresponsible adults.

thesicilian:
But where were you when she was ordering so much? Aren't you the one paying? Why would you be so ashamed that you can't tell her this is the most I can spend on this date?

I don't even need to tell her, once a lady behaves like that I already know the talking stage is over so she will pay her bills herself. Her thought was just to come eat like a thief so treat her as one.

DyshApp:
A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.

In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride.

Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.

He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish.

Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any.

Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.

He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.

The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.

His tweet read;

“Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there.

First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“

Shay if we say don't spend this much, you go laugh us say na poverty dey worry us. Now u have learnt the hard way.

Kobojunkie:
He is most definitely better off alone if he thinks his grand gesture— not his personality and character, but just a bunch of performative acts — is what it should take to win him the heart of the woman. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Why in the world would you order so much food when you are only out on a date with someone, and you know you are not rich enough to not care about it? You were obviously trying to lie your way into that woman's heart. And here you want us to believe you are some sort of victim when, instead, you are just a scammer who got had!

3. Please remain single until you:
➜ learn to cut your coat according to your size. Stop trying to lie or scam your way into getting women whose preferences you cannot afford to date you. That is FRAUDULENT.
➜ learn that gestures alone do not win over quality women; a combination of maybe performative gestures— I say maybe because some women don't even appreciate such gestures—, quality character, and personality would.
➜ realize that your mental, emotional, and social intelligence are the best weapons you can have, both in life and relationships

I'm waiting for the day you'll not support women in any post related to this kind.
Always victimising women whether they're right or wrong

Where is that moniker that use to say "all Nigerian gals are uselezz"? I miss that guy,He must be a prophet.

Kalulu44:
➜I'm waiting for the day you'll not support women in any post related to this kind.
Always victimising women whether they're right or wrong

OP is the one wanting us to believe he is the victim here, not the woman. He literally took a woman to a place he could not afford or had issues with, and then came on here to pretend he is some victim, when he is just a scammer.

If your budget for dinner is Chipotle, then go to Chipotle to eat with your date. And if it is McDonald's, then go to McDonald's and tell your date that you don't have much to spend. Honesty is the best policy, even when dating or dining out.

When you deceive others into thinking you are bigger than your breeches, it is called manipulation, and you are a scammer, not a victim.

Kobojunkie:
OP is the one wanting us to believe he is the woman here, not the woman. He literally took a woman to a place he could not afford or had issues with, and then came on here to pretend he is some victim, when he is just a scammer.

If your budget for dinner is Chipotle, then go to Chipotle to eat with your date. And if it is McDonald's, then go to McDonald's and tell your date that you don't have much to spend. Honesty is the best policy, even when dating or dining out.

When you deceive others into thinking you are bigger than your breeches, it is called manipulation, and you are a scammer, not a victim.

Hahahaha, abeg Kobojunkie leave me o.
Your grammar and explanation too much.
But you're right sha

How on earth will I spend over 100k of my hard earned money on a woman in the name of fist date?

Immatex:
Being happily married to a loyal woman (SPDAZZY) for 10 years and I will always count my marriage a blessing from God.

Never being insensitive to her demands but has proven to be Godly, virtuous, loving wife and mother, something now quite rear about this generation of women.

Our commitment is for happily ever after!

By the way, she’s also very brilliantly and only recently became a phd holder from a UK top university.

Baba who asked you for all these one now?

Some people will believe this cock and bull story concocted to chase clout shamelessly.

Hhh4444:
Where is that moniker that use to say "all Nigerian gals are uselezz"? I miss that guy,He must be a prophet.

Mosdii the prophet ordained by Almighty Jah to do His great works

My first date no pass barbeque fish and beer joint. And I'm happily married with kids today.

geoworldedu:
And if I would want to redate, it will be in a library

^^^

Batman2412:
I recommended a very big Catholic Church Cathedral. We met there, talked, got to know each other. When the date ended, she was like, "I thought we will be going to a posh restaurant when we meet in church." I told her the church is main venue and very safe. Well, she blocked me later

^^^


Hilarious thread.