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From my DM:

Good morning sir, please I need your advice and that of your followers too.

I met a young lady of 27years old just three months ago.

I met her at a photo studio where she works. Got her number, kept in touch with her for like a month, and I decided to express my feelings to her. She accepted to date me.

But here are some contentious Issues between us.


— She's a single mother of a 6yr old lady. The baby lives somewhere else while my babe lives alone in a rented apartment. Her parents are Divorced. And the dad remarried. Her six year old baby lives there.
But dating a single Mum isn't really the issue for me, as long as she loves me and has a good character.

— She pierced her nose and has a nose ring. I didn't complain.

— She has a Legchain and I'm not comfortable with this. I've asked her to remove it, but she said she can't remove it. I feel responsible ladies shouldn't be putting on legchains. This is a lady I do all my best to ensure she's happy. I support her with the little I can. The public image of ladies who use legchains isn't appealing to the society at all.

— She can't allow me access to her phone. She said her phone is her Privacy. Yes her phone is actually her privacy, no doubt. But why is her body not her privacy as well? If I can see her unclothedness, then why can't I see her phone. She's always so Glued to her phone, if I need to get something from her phone, maybe music or movies, she can't release it to me. If she's showing me anything from the phone, she will still hold the phone and be showing me . Truth is, I'm not comfortable with that. If there's nothing to hide, then, I see no reason for hiding her phone always. I told her I'm not the only guy she's dating but she keeps denying it. Well, do I even expect her to Agree?
All the ladies I've dated, I try to check their phones from time to time especially when they least expected. I wouldn't just say give me your phone, I want to probe you. There were ways I would get the phone from them respectfully.
If some police officers turn up at my place and want to search my apartment, I will gladly open it for them because I know there is nothing incriminating in my apartment. But if I have a skeleton in my cupboard, I wouldn't allow them search it, even if they have their search warrants.

I gave her this illustration

— in the second week of our Relationship, I went to her place of work and while she was operating her phone, I jokingly asked her when she didn't reply my last WhatsApp message. She said she wasn't having data. I refused to believe that. Then I asked to check her phone, but she refused. She carried it and showed me numbers of UnReplied chats, but while she was showing me, I noticed that she had asked WhatsApp A.I "Drugs for Abortion". I was shocked . Meanwhile,I had initially asked her if she was pregnant for someone else. Because I have not slept with her yet. She was sick within that period and what made me suspect her the most was her constant throw of Saliva almost every three minutes. I asked if she was pregnant, but she said No. Then later I saw that abortion thing on A.I

She wanted to explain to me, but I ignored her. I was so angry because I almost gave her money to go for some medical tests to ascertain the main issue with her health. Firstly she said she had no money to run tests. Later she did it, and the doctor called to inform her it was Malaria and typhoid. I asked her to go get the result from the hospital where she had the test , then Snap the test result and send to me, but she claimed she wasn't having transport fare. In my mind, I knew she wasn't sincere. Later she told me that it was her friend(lady) that typed that abortion thing on her phone. That her friend was the one that did the abortion.
But I thought she said her phone was her privacy?
I didn't and still do not believe it was her friend that typed it. She lied, I guess. The next week, she completely broke down and couldn't go to work for a whole week. Right now, she is still feeling unwell. When she tries to talk, she develops instant headache. She looks pale.
I'm sure she did abortion.

Before we started the relationship, I asked about her guy, but she said she wasn't in any serious relationship and that the guy wasn't a serious person and that she had broken up with him. I pressed further again, I asked, have u ended things with the guy formally? She said the guy hasn't called her for over a week and she too didn't bother to call. That's it.

I asked about her baby's father, she said, immediately it was discovered that she had took in and became pregnant, her baby's father disappeared till today and she hasn't heard from him. This is the 6th year. I doubt this one.


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DeclanR:
From my DM:

Good morning sir, please I need your advice and that of your followers too.

I met a young lady of 27years old just three months ago.

I met her at a photo studio where she works. Got her number, kept in touch with her for like a month, and I decided to express my feelings to her. She accepted to date me.

But here are some contentious Issues between us.


— She's a single mother of a 6yr old lady. The baby lives somewhere else while my babe lives alone in a rented apartment. Her parents are Divorced. And the dad remarried. Her six year old baby lives there.
But dating a single Mum isn't really the issue for me, as long as she loves me and has a good character.

— She pierced her nose and has a nose ring. I didn't complain.

— She has a Legchain and I'm not comfortable with this. I've asked her to remove it, but she said she can't remove it. I feel responsible ladies shouldn't be putting on legchains. This is a lady I do all my best to ensure she's happy. I support her with the little I can. The public image of ladies who use legchains isn't appealing to the society at all.

— She can't allow me access to her phone. She said her phone is her Privacy. Yes her phone is actually her privacy, no doubt. But why is her body not her privacy as well? If I can see her unclothedness, then why can't I see her phone. She's always so Glued to her phone, if I need to get something from her phone, maybe music or movies, she can't release it to me. If she's showing me anything from the phone, she will still hold the phone and be showing me . Truth is, I'm not comfortable with that. If there's nothing to hide, then, I see no reason for hiding her phone always. I told her I'm not the only guy she's dating but she keeps denying it. Well, do I even expect her to Agree?
All the ladies I've dated, I try to check their phones from time to time especially when they least expected. I wouldn't just say give me your phone, I want to probe you. There were ways I would get the phone from them respectfully.
If some police officers turn up at my place and want to search my apartment, I will gladly open it for them because I know there is nothing incriminating in my apartment. But if I have a skeleton in my cupboard, I wouldn't allow them search it, even if they have their search warrants.

I gave her this illustration

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There is a reason her baby daddy is not with her
Since you don't want to have sense, let us give you one,
But no, yeye love will not make you leave her

And you believe you both are dating or she’s faithful to you
There’s a reason it’s called instinct or ‘guts’…… Hope you ain’t planning anything long term?


The way single moms are changing tactics needs to be studied. Now every single mom is now ‘loving and caring’ before commitments. Some ladies are really manipulative and cunning. They are now making young guys think dating single moms is the next best thing. I laughed when I read ‘as long as she loves me and care for me’😂

I rest my case.

Hehehe..

Bro, trust me on this --you don't need any good tailor to tell you that those materials being displayed by her are more than enough to sew a very big red flag . In fact,a very long gown of red flags

Most single mother do hook up from time to time to take care of their kid and family. I don see am tire for abuja here

It means she doesn't want you to see what she has on her phone, join then league! If you can bear with her fine, if not you know what to do when you don't like how someone believes. U can't force her to change her way just u met her already 27year she has a lot with her.

I am just curious to know what attracted her to you in the first place, because none of her attributes mentioned above indicates a good testimony

SpencerForbes:
And you believe you both are dating or she’s faithful to you
There’s a reason it’s called instinct or ‘guts’…… Hope you ain’t planning anything long term?


The way single moms are changing tactics needs to be studied. Now every single mom is now ‘loving and caring’ before commitments. Some ladies are really manipulative and cunning. They are now making young guys think dating single moms is the next best thing. I laughed when I read ‘as long as she loves me and care for me’😂

I rest my case.

The average Nigerian girl is evil and wicked. He doesn’t know what he’s into!

Gr8mind07:
I am just curious to know what attracted her to you in the first place, because none of her attributes mentioned above indicates a good testimony

Honestly, the red flags are too many

In VDM voice —- You will learn in the very hard way!

Hope you listen to those advises up there in this comment section before calamity befalls you. I can see you’re a still a struggling young man. Better divert your efforts and attention into making it big!

DeclanR:
From my DM:

Good morning sir, please I need your advice and that of your followers too.

I met a young lady of 27years old just three months ago.

I met her at a photo studio where she works. Got her number, kept in touch with her for like a month, and I decided to express my feelings to her. She accepted to date me.

But here are some contentious Issues between us.


— She's a single mother of a 6yr old lady. The baby lives somewhere else while my babe lives alone in a rented apartment. Her parents are Divorced. And the dad remarried. Her six year old baby lives there.
But dating a single Mum isn't really the issue for me, as long as she loves me and has a good character.

— She pierced her nose and has a nose ring. I didn't complain.

— She has a Legchain and I'm not comfortable with this. I've asked her to remove it, but she said she can't remove it. I feel responsible ladies shouldn't be putting on legchains. This is a lady I do all my best to ensure she's happy. I support her with the little I can. The public image of ladies who use legchains isn't appealing to the society at all.

— She can't allow me access to her phone. She said her phone is her Privacy. Yes her phone is actually her privacy, no doubt. But why is her body not her privacy as well? If I can see her unclothedness, then why can't I see her phone. She's always so Glued to her phone, if I need to get something from her phone, maybe music or movies, she can't release it to me. If she's showing me anything from the phone, she will still hold the phone and be showing me . Truth is, I'm not comfortable with that. If there's nothing to hide, then, I see no reason for hiding her phone always. I told her I'm not the only guy she's dating but she keeps denying it. Well, do I even expect her to Agree?
All the ladies I've dated, I try to check their phones from time to time especially when they least expected. I wouldn't just say give me your phone, I want to probe you. There were ways I would get the phone from them respectfully.
If some police officers turn up at my place and want to search my apartment, I will gladly open it for them because I know there is nothing incriminating in my apartment. But if I have a skeleton in my cupboard, I wouldn't allow them search it, even if they have their search warrants.

I gave her this illustration

— in the second week of our Relationship, I went to her place of work and while she was operating her phone, I jokingly asked her when she didn't reply my last WhatsApp message. She said she wasn't having data. I refused to believe that. Then I asked to check her phone, but she refused. She carried it and showed me numbers of UnReplied chats, but while she was showing me, I noticed that she had asked WhatsApp A.I "Drugs for Abortion". I was shocked . Meanwhile,I had initially asked her if she was pregnant for someone else. Because I have not slept with her yet. She was sick within that period and what made me suspect her the most was her constant throw of Saliva almost every three minutes. I asked if she was pregnant, but she said No. Then later I saw that abortion thing on A.I
I became so curious. Before

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if you have problems with what you are seeing and experiencing then take a walk. No be by force na.

No happy ending for Okokor.....

DeclanR:
From my DM:

Good morning sir, please I need your advice and that of your followers too.

I met a young lady of 27years old just three months ago.

I met her at a photo studio where she works. Got her number, kept in touch with her for like a month, and I decided to express my feelings to her. She accepted to date me.

But here are some contentious Issues between us.


— She's a single mother of a 6yr old lady. The baby lives somewhere else while my babe lives alone in a rented apartment. Her parents are Divorced. And the dad remarried. Her six year old baby lives there.
But dating a single Mum isn't really the issue for me, as long as she loves me and has a good character.

— She pierced her nose and has a nose ring. I didn't complain.

— She has a Legchain and I'm not comfortable with this. I've asked her to remove it, but she said she can't remove it. I feel responsible ladies shouldn't be putting on legchains. This is a lady I do all my best to ensure she's happy. I support her with the little I can. The public image of ladies who use legchains isn't appealing to the society at all.

— She can't allow me access to her phone. She said her phone is her Privacy. Yes her phone is actually her privacy, no doubt. But why is her body not her privacy as well? If I can see her unclothedness, then why can't I see her phone. She's always so Glued to her phone, if I need to get something from her phone, maybe music or movies, she can't release it to me. If she's showing me anything from the phone, she will still hold the phone and be showing me . Truth is, I'm not comfortable with that. If there's nothing to hide, then, I see no reason for hiding her phone always. I told her I'm not the only guy she's dating but she keeps denying it. Well, do I even expect her to Agree?
All the ladies I've dated, I try to check their phones from time to time especially when they least expected. I wouldn't just say give me your phone, I want to probe you. There were ways I would get the phone from them respectfully.
If some police officers turn up at my place and want to search my apartment, I will gladly open it for them because I know there is nothing incriminating in my apartment. But if I have a skeleton in my cupboard, I wouldn't allow them search it, even if they have their search warrants.

I gave her this illustration

— in the second week of our Relationship, I went to her place of work and while she was operating her phone, I jokingly asked her when she didn't reply my last WhatsApp message. She said she wasn't having data. I refused to believe that. Then I asked to check her phone, but she refused. She carried it and showed me numbers of UnReplied chats, but while she was showing me, I noticed that she had asked WhatsApp A.I "Drugs for Abortion". I was shocked . Meanwhile,I had initially asked her if she was pregnant for someone else. Because I have not slept with her yet. She was sick within that period and what made me suspect her the most was her constant throw of Saliva almost every three minutes. I asked if she was pregnant, but she said No. Then later I saw that abortion thing on A.I
I became so curious. Before

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Gr8mind07:
I am just curious to know what attracted her to you in the first place, because none of her attributes mentioned above indicates a good testimony

I'm still wondering too

You get her pregnant or leave her alone and stop complaining

Baronthecelebri:
You get her pregnant or leave her alone and stop complaining

Get her pregnant for what?
Seems you don't have what to say

My advice to you is to first go and learn how to love yourself first.

It looks as if you are not love at home the reason you are looking for love from someone that didn't love you.

@ original post

Let me give you the short, sharp truth with small love inside:
1 You’ve only known her 3 months, you never still enter the main road, you don reach junction to dey fight leg-chain and phone password. My guy, this is just the trailer o.

2 Leg-chain no kill person. Nose ring no steal destiny. If those small things dey pepper you now, wait until bigger issues land. Focus on character, not accessories.

3 The phone lockdown + the abortion search you saw + the “my friend used my phone” story + constant sickness + pale face = 99% she did abortion recently, probably for the ex she claimed she “broke up” with.
She’s still bleeding physically and emotionally. That’s why she’s weak and hiding phone.

4 You asked all the right questions before dating and she gave you half-truths. Now the full picture is coming out in pieces.
This is not “small lie”, this is foundation problem.

5 You’re already policing her body jewelry and begging for phone access at 3 months. That energy go tire you when real trust issues show face.

My honest advice (no sugar):
• She’s a sweet girl going through a very rough season, but she’s not ready for a honest relationship right now.

• You want peace, she currently carries plenty drama (health, ex, recent abortion, shame, secrets).

• You deserve someone who is free, open and healed enough to love you without all this load.

Tell her gently: 
“Babe, I like you, but I can see you’re still going through a lot. I think you need time to heal properly. I nor fit manage this kind stress for my spirit right now. I wish you quick recovery and all the best.”

Then face front.
Three months no be marriage.


Protect your peace, king.
Plenty better girls dey wey no go give you detective work as full-time job. 🙏🏾

Saybal:
My advice to you is to first go and learn how to love yourself first.

It looks as if you are not love at home the reason you are looking for love from someone that didn't love you.

Don't judge people u don't know by your own Standards. You could make a sensible comment without been uncouth.

Rubbish

infogenius:
@ original post

Let me give you the short, sharp truth with small love inside:
1 You’ve only known her 3 months, you never still enter the main road, you don reach junction to dey fight leg-chain and phone password. My guy, this is just the trailer o.

2 Leg-chain no kill person. Nose ring no steal destiny. If those small things dey pepper you now, wait until bigger issues land. Focus on character, not accessories.

3 The phone lockdown + the abortion search you saw + the “my friend used my phone” story + constant sickness + pale face = 99% she did abortion recently, probably for the ex she claimed she “broke up” with.
She’s still bleeding physically and emotionally. That’s why she’s weak and hiding phone.

4 You asked all the right questions before dating and she gave you half-truths. Now the full picture is coming out in pieces.
This is not “small lie”, this is foundation problem.

5 You’re already policing her body jewelry and begging for phone access at 3 months. That energy go tire you when real trust issues show face.

My honest advice (no sugar):
• She’s a sweet girl going through a very rough season, but she’s not ready for a honest relationship right now.

• You want peace, she currently carries plenty drama (health, ex, recent abortion, shame, secrets).

• You deserve someone who is free, open and healed enough to love you without all this load.

Tell her gently: 
“Babe, I like you, but I can see you’re still going through a lot. I think you need time to heal properly. I nor fit manage this kind stress for my spirit right now. I wish you quick recovery and all the best.”

Then face front.
Three months no be marriage.


Protect your peace, king.
Plenty better girls dey wey no go give you detective work as full-time job. 🙏🏾

Thanks so much dear. God bless you for making this sensible comment. You've spoken wisely Sir 🙏.
Again, God bless you 🙏

DeclanR:
Don't judge people u don't know by your own Standards. You could make a sensible comment without been uncouth.

Rubbish

To a finished man like you is rubbish

There is no happy ending for a matured man begging for love.

Chop your own now that it is your turn and move on. U are taking a hook up lady serious. U will cry

Too long to read but let me tell you what's on my mind. You haven't seen a wife. She ain't ready to be tied down.

I didn't even read two paragraphs and actually I don't need to...so what are you waiting for...? Abi you won to commit suicide in advance?

I am 100% that she does hookups.


Person wey you go fûck go your way, you wan buy wholesale.

She did abortion

DeclanR:
Don't judge people u don't know by your own Standards. You could make a sensible comment without been uncouth.

Rubbish

Someone gave u the best advice you could get
But ur foolish ego can't make u see past ur nose

Because tell me why will a man created in God's image and likeness put up with nonsense all in the bame of datin??
U only put up with nonsense if you don't have love for yourself which is what you don't have


The min i can't Access your phone at will
You're playin urself

If the lady in question is 27 as you said, it implies you can't be less than 30 as a man. And at this stage of your life you are seeing a glaring red flagssssssss like this, and you still came here to seek advice.

It is well with you o my brother.

Guy man to man, forget her, there is no way she can be real with . She is only out for survival now on the next man available. She doesn't see you beyond what you can offer her, you expecting her t ne foryou only is a pipe dream.

DeclanR:
From my DM:

Good morning sir, please I need your advice and that of your followers too.

I met a young lady of 27years old just three months ago.

I met her at a photo studio where she works. Got her number, kept in touch with her for like a month, and I decided to express my feelings to her. She accepted to date me.

But here are some contentious Issues between us.


— She's a single mother of a 6yr old lady. The baby lives somewhere else while my babe lives alone in a rented apartment. Her parents are Divorced. And the dad remarried. Her six year old baby lives there.
But dating a single Mum isn't really the issue for me, as long as she loves me and has a good character.

— She pierced her nose and has a nose ring. I didn't complain.

— She has a Legchain and I'm not comfortable with this. I've asked her to remove it, but she said she can't remove it. I feel responsible ladies shouldn't be putting on legchains. This is a lady I do all my best to ensure she's happy. I support her with the little I can. The public image of ladies who use legchains isn't appealing to the society at all.

— She can't allow me access to her phone. She said her phone is her Privacy. Yes her phone is actually her privacy, no doubt. But why is her body not her privacy as well? If I can see her unclothedness, then why can't I see her phone. She's always so Glued to her phone, if I need to get something from her phone, maybe music or movies, she can't release it to me. If she's showing me anything from the phone, she will still hold the phone and be showing me . Truth is, I'm not comfortable with that. If there's nothing to hide, then, I see no reason for hiding her phone always. I told her I'm not the only guy she's dating but she keeps denying it. Well, do I even expect her to Agree?
All the ladies I've dated, I try to check their phones from time to time especially when they least expected. I wouldn't just say give me your phone, I want to probe you. There were ways I would get the phone from them respectfully.
If some police officers turn up at my place and want to search my apartment, I will gladly open it for them because I know there is nothing incriminating in my apartment. But if I have a skeleton in my cupboard, I wouldn't allow them search it, even if they have their search warrants.

I gave her this illustration

— in the second week of our Relationship, I went to her place of work and while she was operating her phone, I jokingly asked her when she didn't reply my last WhatsApp message. She said she wasn't having data. I refused to believe that. Then I asked to check her phone, but she refused. She carried it and showed me numbers of UnReplied chats, but while she was showing me, I noticed that she had asked WhatsApp A.I "Drugs for Abortion". I was shocked . Meanwhile,I had initially asked her if she was pregnant for someone else. Because I have not slept with her yet. She was sick within that period and what made me suspect her the most was her constant throw of Saliva almost every three minutes. I asked if she was pregnant, but she said No. Then later I saw that abortion thing on A.I

She wanted to explain to me, but I ignored her. I was so angry because I almost gave her money to go for some medical tests to ascertain the main issue with her health. Firstly she said she had no money to run tests. Later she did it, and the doctor called to inform her it was Malaria and typhoid. I asked her to go get the result from the hospital where she had the test , then Snap the test result and send to me, but she claimed she wasn't having transport fare. In my mind, I knew she wasn't sincere. Later she told me that it was her friend(lady) that typed that abortion thing on her phone. That her friend was the one that did the abortion.
But I thought she said her phone was her privacy?
I didn't and still do not believe it was her friend that typed it. She lied, I guess. The next week, she completely broke down and couldn't go to work for a whole week. Right now, she is still feeling unwell. When she tries to talk, she develops instant headache. She looks pale.
I'm sure she did abortion.

Before we started the relationship, I asked about her guy, but she said she wasn't in any serious relationship and that the guy wasn't a serious person and that she had broken up with him. I pressed further again, I asked, have u ended things with the guy formally? She said the guy hasn't called her for over a week and she too didn't bother to call. That's it.

I asked about her baby's father, she said, immediately it was discovered that she had took in and became pregnant, her baby's father disappeared till today and she hasn't heard from him. This is the 6th year. I doubt this one.


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DeclanR:
From my DM: Good morning sir, please I need your advice and that of your followers too. I met a young lady of 27years old just three months ago. I met her at a photo studio where she works. Got her number, kept in touch with her for like a month, and I decided to express my feelings to her. She accepted to date me.
But here are some contentious Issues between us.
— She's a single mother of a 6yr old lady. The baby lives somewhere else while my babe lives alone in a rented apartment. Her parents are Divorced. And the dad remarried. Her six year old baby lives there. But dating a single Mum isn't really the issue for me, as long as she loves me and has a good character.
— She pierced her nose and has a nose ring. I didn't complain.
— She has a Legchain and I'm not comfortable with this. I've asked her to remove it, but she said she can't remove it. I feel responsible ladies shouldn't be putting on legchains. This is a lady I do all my best to ensure she's happy. I support her with the little I can. The public image of ladies who use legchains isn't appealing to the society at all.
— She can't allow me access to her phone. She said her phone is her Privacy. Yes her phone is actually her privacy, no doubt. But why is her body not her privacy as well? If I can see her unclothedness, then why can't I see her phone. She's always so Glued to her phone, if I need to get something from her phone, maybe music or movies, she can't release it to me. If she's showing me anything from the phone, she will still hold the phone and be showing me . Truth is, I'm not comfortable with that. If there's nothing to hide, then, I see no reason for hiding her phone always. I told her I'm not the only guy she's dating but she keeps denying it. Well, do I even expect her to Agree?
All the ladies I've dated, I try to check their phones from time to time especially when they least expected. I wouldn't just say give me your phone, I want to probe you. There were ways I would get the phone from them respectfully.
If some police officers turn up at my place and want to search my apartment, I will gladly open it for them because I know there is nothing incriminating in my apartment. But if I have a skeleton in my cupboard, I wouldn't allow them to search it, even if they have their search warrants.

Whoever posted is in your OP is clearly not a mature enough individual for a relationship. He saw that this woman obviously has a lot of things that are clearly issues for him, yet he chose to engage her in a relationship. Why? Why date someone whose life you are clearly not comfortable with? What is wrong with these boys, abeg?

Emmyjand:
Guy man to man, forget her, there is no way she can be real with . She is only out for survival now on the next man available. She doesn't see you beyond what you can offer her, you expecting her t ne foryou only is a pipe dream.

Fact!