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None of them will listen to this advice. It’s always those lifting blocks for 15,000 Naira daily who’ll want to birth nine children. See them in this thread complaining that such isn’t feasible.

If the man and woman are good managers, they can survive with 100k salary especially if the woman also hustles and adds to the family's finances. People have been getting married on even lower salaries. Like the saying goes, two good heads are better than one.

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

For this economy? How much be ur rent,Abi you wan dey village dey run farm levels? Cux if na city,no way ur wife (girls of nowadays)no go look outside,when you can't provide the basic needs

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

Hmm.
If lady is industrious and earning same N100k, she will lose respect for the man.
Afterall, she's earning same as him.
She can even put leg inside same trousers as him.
Respect is lost.

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

I don't know where you live or what your monthly expenses are.
But can you save any money from that N70,000 each month?
Can you take care off feeding and rent from that N70,000 where you are?
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If you answer NO to any or both questions, abeg don't marry O.
You will regret it.
Imagine, your wife earning more than you, and you're still on that N70,000.
You will hate it.

Getting a job that pays 100k in this country is a blessing. Advice people to get side hustle and to cut their cloth according to their size.

The reason a man earning 100K may want to gamble his way into marriage is because Africans, (especially Nigerians) see marriage as an achievement, a blessing and compulsory. Otherwise, majority of men will never consider marriage with such a meagre income.

Regardless, some people are terrific planners and will know how to manage 100K monthly. But it can get brutal if the wife isn't contributing to anything, and she goes ahead to give birth.

harjay1986:
➜To me I will say getting new toys or gadgets fall under needs and wants not decision. Let me explain most of time we decide to get a new phone or gadget not that we don't see any that is of low price which can still serve us but just because of societal influence and need to feel among we tend to break the bank to have high ends one at the end of the day it only serve the basic needs and nothing more that a low price gadget would have deliver too..
➜ The reason I say that having a family or Kids is base on decision is because not everyone of us want such but everyone want luxury and good lifestyle ..

Ol, boy! Make Google your friend immediately. Wants and needs are based on decisions.🥱

2. But to some people, marriage and/or kids are a luxury they cannot afford! Again, is marriage and/or having children a want or a need? Please consult Google before you respond this time around. 🥱🥱

[quote author=SpencerForbes post=137634810]Let's be real here. How many 40-year-olds walking our streets right now can actually boast of ₦2 million liquid cash? Plenty of them are struggling, yet they have families. Are we saying they shouldn't procreate? That’s not sustainable.

In Nigeria, hard work isn’t the ultimate solution. You can hustle for 30 years and still have nothing significant to show for it. If we base starting a family on the official minimum wage, literally nobody would be giving birth.

The real problem is not having a child, it’s having too many children without a plan. If you manage yourself and have just one kid, how is that a burden?

And seriously, why are we making Pampers the ultimate financial obstacle? It’s just a year or two out of a lifetime. If you have a solid plan, rent that is manageable (say, ₦200k/annum), and some decent savings (even ₦5 million figure), you have a great platform to start. It’s tough only at the beginning, but smart people grow.

If we agree with these standards, then what about people in villages and rural areas? How many of them earn ₦200k per month, let alone have ₦5 million saved? Yet, life goes on and families are raised.
Some of the kids even turn out better than children raised in luxury or even abroad. Modest with wisdom is good. The money isn’t the problem but lack of wisdom is the ultimate problem.
You have said it all...
What you said is the ultimate truth

uuzba:
Hmm.
If lady is industrious and earning same N100k, she will lose respect for the man.
Afterall, she's earning same as him.
She can even put leg inside same trousers as him.
Respect is lost.

It's your type that will go into unhealthy competition with your wife because of your bloated ego. So, if a woman earns more than a man, she she will start disrespecting him?

Una mindset for this country dey funny me, is 100k money? If you consider other expenses that 100k is just 100 naira

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

how can that work. Bills go choke the man, later on with health problems

Teeroyzimma:
Una mindset for this country dey funny me, is 100k money? If you consider other expenses that 100k is just 100 naira

. Ordinary grocery bills for feeding a pregnant woman and a man alone fit collapse person, or the cost of Pampers and baby milk during the first few months of the child entering into the mix will collapse that 100k-marriage idea completely into nothing. The reason people like that refuse to consider small things like this, which are real at teh end of the day, is that they want to cling to the magical idea that somehow the magical fairy of marriage will solve it all in the end.

SpencerForbes:
Does having millions in your account guarantee you’ll raise good kids and be a good husband?

While I am not saying that, to answer your question, having millions can make a big difference. Now back to the topic, 100k income is definitely not enough for one man, not to mention a couple, say the woman brings in another 100k and decides to fully support the man, then they have 200k.
They'll need to wear clothes to work every working day (say they're not business owners who sometimes go to work 7 days a week), they'll need clothes and shoes, shoes only if they're police officers or nurses who wear a uniform, transport fare back and forth, if the workplace isn't at the back of their house 😂, subtract the cost of all of that from the income.
A 100k salary doesn't mean 100k spendable money, going to work costs money, Only very few jobs pay 100k and up in rural areas where rent is cheap, they'll live in the city, if not Lagos, at least any of the state capitals, that means high rent, say they want to live like rats and be miserable, they'll want to rent a room self contained, they must forget any purchase of home appliances like AC, refrigerator, washing machine and even couch.
Now let's assume they're both slow and decide to have a kid in such a financial state, then they'd have each gone into covenant with the demon of poverty and lifelong struggles, if such a couple do not try to at least triple that income, they'll not eat good or look good, won't enjoy life a tiny bit and most likely owe one or two food vendors in the streets, there is no way this income will work for them.

MONEY247:
The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......

Meanwhile there are married security guards, cleaners, messengers who are earning far less than that and are living fine.
Better is a meal of plain vegetables eaten with love than a feast filled with strife and fighting.

Believe everything you see or read on social media at your own peril.

Babatundehy:
➜While I am not saying that, to answer your question, having millions can make a big difference. Now back to the topic, 100k income is definitely not enough for one man, not to mention a couple, say the woman brings in another 100k and decides to fully support the man, then they have 200k.
They'll need to wear clothes to work every working day (say they're not business owners who sometimes go to work 7 days a week), they'll need clothes and shoes, shoes only if they're police officers or nurses who wear a uniform, transport fare back and forth, if the workplace isn't at the back of their house 😂, subtract the cost of all of that from the income.
A 100k salary doesn't mean 100k spendable money, going to work costs money, Only very few jobs pay 100k and up in rural areas where rent is cheap, they'll live in the city, if not Lagos, at least any of the state capitals, that means high rent, say they want to live like rats and be miserable, they'll want to rent a room self contained, they must forget any purchase of home appliances like AC, refrigerator, washing machine and even couch.
Now let's assume they're both slow and decide to have a kid in such a financial state, then they'd have each gone into covenant with the demon of poverty and lifelong struggles, if such a couple do not try to at least triple that income, they'll not eat good or look good, won't enjoy life a tiny bit and most likely owe one or two food vendors in the streets, there is no way this income will work for them.

Transportation cost for one person alone to and fro that job alone fit chop about 30K of that money in this economy.

Kobojunkie:
Combined income with whom? A woman that Mr.100K would also expect submission from, in addition to treating him as head of her life in marriage, right? Poor men never know wetin don happen to them and their ilk in that country. 🥱🥱

That is why ladies of nowadays in Nigeria do not deserve marriage at all. Making them a Baby Mama is far better. If what makes a Man to be husband is the MONEY He have and can spend on "Her", then most Ladies parents do not deserve to be paid DOWRY at all!

Regardless of your age, you may still not understand what I summarise up there.

Alfred200825:
➜Meanwhile there are married security guards, cleaners, messengers who are earning far less than that and are living fine. Better is a meal of plain vegetables eaten with love than a feast filled with strife and fighting. Believe everything you see or read on social media at your own peril.

Have you ever really seen the way those people live their lives for you to openly declare they are living fine? Are you seriously wishing such a life on someone who is not an slowpoke?

Seriously, when it comes to Nigerians, indeed misery loves company is not just a saying!

Kobojunkie:
Transportation cost for one person alone to and fro that job alone fit chop about 30K of that money in this economy.

Everybody Sabi as e dey go na

ibechris:
Someone earning 250k should not try to go close. The person earning 100k should not even promised any woman marriage.

I used to advice men to marry quick but now...I really do not have any advice to give again.

If u don't marry wisely,the marriage would hit u like where a trailer had a head on collision.

Marriage is very dangerous without adequate money to run its internal costs.

I earn 200k plus but it doesn't last me two days. After paying my nanny,pay my children teachers and give to my parents,set aside Nepa bill,fueling two cars in a month,feeding in a month...I might have spent close to
1.2m...it is crazy...not to mention other sundry expenses...all thanks to my side income.

What do i know self..marriage is not for the faint hearted my people.

If u must marry,marry a financially prepared spouse. That doesn't mean u should look for a rich woman or man ...no! but a woman/ man who is financially prepared to manage with u,live with u in tough days and not a downer

Why do u guys find reasons for being irresponsible

Any man who marries base on His financial bouyancy have prepared himself to be SCAMMED or USED. He has set himself to be another lady's UNTIMELY DEAD HUSBAND. A reasonable Guy only marries when He meets a lady who as been well trained to know that Financial obligations in Matrimony is for both the Husband and Wife.
A woman who does not invest in Her Marriage RIGTH from the days of courship have nothing to loose if she misbehaves.

HUSTLER001:
As a single man earning 110K a month, I just cannot sustain until end of the proceeding month. Shey you dey craze ni? Shey feeding, transport,utilities,rent savings,personal effects,e.t.c dey inside d money?

Kobojunkie:
Have you ever really seen the way those people live their lives for you to openly declare they are living fine? Are you seriously wishing such a life on someone who is not an slowpoke?

Seriously, when it comes to Nigerians, indeed misery loves company is not just a saying!

Wealth they say is relative.
100k might be nothing to you, while to the person behind you, 100k is a prayer point.
All fingers are not and will never be equally that's life for you

Poisoned opinions! Marriage does not follow economic indices, it follows the 2 players commitment and determination to succeed in life.

People who are not supposed to be advising are suddenly picking up the role merely because they are unfortunate themselves.

Get married to grow in it, you will understand that things improve for couples.

I may not advice you to marry with 100k salary,though it's doable, am very sure that more than 70% of nigeria don't earn 100k .. if you marry your wife make sure she is earning at least
80k-100k monthly.. so una go manage together with 180k income, don't give birth to more than one child,...
Family total income-2.160m
House rent-average a room selfcon-300k per annum..
Feeding- buy your foods in bulk- like 50k monthly..
Transportation-20k monthly..
Nepa bill-10k
Miscellaneous-40k monthly
Savings-30k monthly..

Word on marbles son

Alfred200825:
➜Wealth they say is relative. 100k might be nothing to you, while to the person behind you, 100k is a prayer point.
➜ All fingers are not and will never be equally that's life for you

. No one ever says wealth is relative when considering how far money like N100K will go in the Nigerian economy. It is measurable and tangible, hence it cannot be considered relative or subjective in any way of form since the individual does not make the decision, but society on how much it is worth. 🥱🥱

2. That is bullsheet, and you know it! 🥱🥱

Jman06:
If the man and woman are good managers, they can survive with 100k salary especially if the woman also hustles and add to the family's finances. People have been getting married on even lower salaries. Like the saying goes, two good heads are better than one.

oga 100k cannot sustain a family in Nigeria of today. stop misleading people
except u want to raise your family in an obscure village and u have no reasonable plan for your kids.

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

how many ladies want hear that one? dem go like go cheat outside the easy way to make money if the husbnad is earning 100k, and they will make life unbearable for the man

SIRTee15:
➜oga 100k cannot sustain a family in Nigeria of today. stop misleading people except u want to raise your family in an obscure village and u have no reasonable plan for your kids.

Even people in the village are struggling on their former <30K realities.

Jega2000:
I may not advice you to marry with 100k salary,though it's doable, am very sure that more than 70% of nigeria don't earn 100k .. if you marry your wife make sure she is earning at least
80k-100k monthly.. so una go manage together with 180k income, don't give birth to more than one child,...
Family total income-2.160m
House rent-average a room selfcon-300k per annum..
Feeding- buy your foods in bulk- like 50k monthly..
Transportation-20k monthly..
Nepa bill-10k
Miscellaneous-40k monthly
Savings-30k monthly..

50k monthly for food in today's economy for a family of 3, u will know person wey never carry responsibility.

SpencerForbes:
The issue here isn't marriage itself—it's the four kids, plain and simple. I'm telling you, if you had stuck to one or two and your wife was also in, the stress wouldn't be hitting you this hard. As a young guy starting out, there’s zero shame in having just one kid and then waiting and planning properly before you have the next, the age gap doesn't matter.

The biggest killer in Nigeria is bad management. People choose 'runs-girl' beauty over brains, they don't plan how many kids they want, and they refuse to start a side hustle like POS or trading. Even worse, they spend money they don't have just to impress the society.

Forget all that competition. Aside from food, school fees, and rent, nothing else is worth stressing over. Poorly management of money is what truly makes marriage look like a burden. If you know the difference between what your family needs and what they want, a man should be fine. So the problem wasn't getting married; it was you having four children—even though they might eventually turn out to be your advantage.

What happens to Her paart of Financial Obligations in the Matrimony?

Is the obligation of the "wife" just about getting fuuccked to get pregnant and later put to bed even if it is just a single child?

Is just about Sex on Her Part?

If money makes the Man a correct Husband, what should make the the woman a correct wife? Her womanwood?

Kobojunkie:
. No one ever says wealth is relative when considering how far money like N100K will go in the Nigerian economy. It is measurable and tangible, hence it cannot be considered relative or subjective in any way of form since the individual does not make the decision, but society on how much it is worth. 🥱🥱

2. That is bullsheet, and you know it! 🥱🥱

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