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This is just up to a short debate or just your opinion, no need for insult.

But i for one don't think its should be called rape, same way there are different kind of murder, and it seem to be a one sided situation, d wife cries rape and the husband cries what?? Or wait we hardly or can't remember hearing the case of a man getting raped by the wife.

Am just saying wat i feel, feel free to say urs

No!

Acceptance of marriage means mutual consent to intercourse, both legally and religiously.

In marriage, the partners owe each other the responsibility of sexual pleasure. You carry out your responsibility as long as you are able (healthy and available) to do so, whether it pleases you or not.

A child that verbally expresses his or her anger towards his or her parents when the parents fail to feed the child or pay school fees for the child is not guilty of assault. But a child who verbally expresses anger towards an adult who is neither parent nor guardian to the child is guilty of assault. An adult that tells another person's child to wash plate can be found guilty of child abuse. But an adult that tells his or her own child to wash plate is not guilty of child abuse. A woman who takes a man's money without his consent is guilty of theft if the man is not her husband or father or guardian, even if he is her boyfriend or sugar daddy. But if he is her father or husband or guardian, she is not guilty of theft. This is exactly how a man who sleeps with a woman when she is not in the mood for sex is guilty of rape as long as the woman is not his wife, even if she is his girlfriend or sugar mummy or a prostitute. But if she is his wife, he is not guilty of rape when he sleeps with her when she is not in the mood for sex.

A woman saying she was raped by her husband just because he slept with her when she was not in the mood for sex is like a man saying that his family enslaves him because the struggles he goes through to feed the family do not please him.

But if a man can hold himself when his wife says no, it is very good. He should also be considerate to let the wife be when he knows that she is stressed out. One of the major problems with our society is that we want to eat our cake and have it. Morally, a man insisting on sleeping with his wife when she is not in the mood is better than he cheating on the wife. But to those who misunderstand the meaning of marriage, a man cheating on his wife is better than he sleeping with the wife when the wife is not in the mood for sex. The craziest part is that some women after claiming that they are not in the mood and denying their husbands sex will still persecute the husbands for meeting another woman. This paragraph is not trying to justify infidelity in marriage. This paragraph only tries to project the madness of our society.

Most of the women who believe that a man can rape his wife are still the ones cheating on their husbands. They claim it is because they still love the exes.

When I try to explain to people that sex is not part of love, they say I am crazy. Love is what you owe everyone including strangers. Love does not have types. Love is just one. Love is immeasurable. There is nothing like, "I love John and Peter but I love John more than I love Peter". Love does not come in degrees. People misinterpret responsibility as love. Sex is a matrimonial responsibility, not love. If sex is love, then it is right for every single person to offer sex to all the people around him or her.

Love alone cannot keep marriage. Being diligent in carrying out matrimonial responsibilities keeps marriage. Giving one's spouse sexual pleasure when the spouse needs it is part of matrimonial responsibilities.

Yes, A man can RAPE his wife, As long as it's forced sex, It's rape.

Yes, he can... A woman has to be in the mood so that her body can start releasing some hormones to prepare her for the sexual intercourse, the hormones will lubricate her and get her reproductive organs ready for the penetration.

But if she's not in the mood, it will hurt and you'd have violated her.

Let’s call a spade a spade.
It’s rape.

“Rape is a form of sexual assault where you're forced to engage in sexual acts (vaginal, anal or oral) against your will or without giving consent”.

That’s why polygamy should be allowed.They’ll both want to comport themselves because they know what’s at stake or you can get a side chick.

Polygamy definitely has downsides, like the inevitable envy and jealousy, which means you better have serious money before jumping in. And just for the record, guys are victims of rape too.

But society acts like men can't be victims, so who is going to actually believe a man? We've only just started getting real about domestic violence against men; acknowledging male rape is still way behind.

Yes a man can rape his wife, marrying her does NOT give you the man automatic sexual consent on her. Your marrying her doesn't translates to her being your sex machine, sexual consent is a must.

Yes I do! Use sense do am. Don't go about beating her like a bandit.

Your no authority to be giving anyone any marriage advice when you're not even married... Get married first and we'll talk.

SpencerForbes:
Let’s call a spade a spade.
It’s rape.

“Rape is a form of sexual assault where you're forced to engage in sexual acts (vaginal, anal or oral) against your will or without giving consent”.

That’s why polygamy should be allowed.They’ll both want to comport themselves because they know what’s at stake or you can get a side chick.

Polygamy definitely has downsides, like the inevitable envy and jealousy, which means you better have serious money before jumping in. And just for the record, guys are victims of rape too.

But society acts like men can't be victims, so who is going to actually believe a man? We've only just started getting real about domestic violence against men; acknowledging male rape is still way behind.

Samantha125:
Your no authority to be giving anyone any marriage advice when you're not even married... Get married first and we'll talk.

Must we wait until we fall into a coma to understand what unconsciousness is? Likewise, must someone contract HIV to recognize its dangers and the potential progression to AIDS?

Common sense and readily available knowledge should be enough to tell us that HIV can lead to AIDS. It is far better to learn from that knowledge and avoid the risk than to require personal, devastating experience.

Samantha125:
Yes, he can... A woman has to be in the mood so that her body can start releasing some hormones to prepare her for the sexual intercourse, the hormones will lubricate her and get her reproductive organs ready for the penetration.

But if she's not in the mood, it will hurt and you'd have violated her.

And you think we're in the mood every time we please y'all?

Who's forcing you? And if we do force you, what's stopping you from reporting us to the police?

kiddaz:
And you think we're in the mood every time we please y'all?

Samantha125:
Who's forcing you? And if we do force you, what's stopping you from reporting us to the police?

I see... Continue

Rape is NONCONSENSUAL sex.

Regardless of the parties involved, ALL nonconsensual sex is RAPE.

DELIBERATELY killing your spouse is still MURDER.
DELIBERATELY assaulting your spouse is still ASSAULT.

Deliberately FORCING your spouse into sex is still RAPE.

Relationship between a CRIMINAL and a victim does NOT change the crime.

If you RAPE your spouse you are a RAPIST.

Just like a man who sexually abuses his own child is as much a PDFile as the Donald that travelled to Epstein's Island to rape another person's child.

Victims DON'T define the crime.
The CRIME defines the crime.

Dude, go and get married because these baseless marriage advices of yours are now becoming depressing.

SpencerForbes:
Must we wait until we fall into a coma to understand what unconsciousness is? Likewise, must someone contract HIV to recognize its dangers and the potential progression to AIDS?

Common sense and readily available knowledge should be enough to tell us that HIV can lead to AIDS. It is far better to learn from that knowledge and avoid the risk than to require personal, devastating experience.

Common sense says otherwise, but it is a matter of law and jurisdiction. In Nigeria, legally speaking, a man cannot rape his wife.

Samantha125:
Dude, go and get married because these baseless marriage advices of yours are now becoming depressing.

Thank you, but I am not interested in commitment at this time. Honestly, what's so great about marriage these days anyway? I've seen enough to know I'm much better off single.

Modern marriage is a gamble, and you know it. I'll assume you're one of the good ones, but how many people can honestly say that about their partners? Very few.

Regarding the matter of depression, that's not for me; sometimes the truth, even if unpleasant, is simply the truth. I suspect many men who are currently married would prefer the single lifestyle I maintain.

Rage bait

bmd1010:
This is just up to a short debate or just your opinion, no need for insult.

But i for one don't think its should be called rape, same way there are different kind of murder, and it seem to be a one sided situation, d wife cries rape and the husband cries what?? Or wait we hardly or can't remember hearing the case of a man getting raped by the wife.

Am just saying wat i feel, feel free to say urs

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SpencerForbes:
Thank you, but I am not interested in commitment at this time. Honestly, what's so great about marriage these days anyway? I've seen enough to know I'm much better off single.

Modern marriage is a gamble, and you know it. I'll assume you're one of the good ones, but how many people can honestly say that about their partners? Very few.

Regarding the matter of depression, that's not for me; sometimes the truth, even if unpleasant, is simply the truth. I suspect many men who are currently married would prefer the single lifestyle I maintain.

Samantha125:
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I apologize, but this is the Romance section. Your teachings seems better suited for discussions in the Family section, perhaps where advice about parenting or marital behavior is exclusively shared.

Married women in the house over to you

Answer ooooo

SpencerForbes:
Thank you, but I am not interested in commitment at this time. Honestly, what's so great about marriage these days anyway? I've seen enough to know I'm much better off single.

Modern marriage is a gamble, and you know it. I'll assume you're one of the good ones, but how many people can honestly say that about their partners? Very few.

Regarding the matter of depression, that's not for me; sometimes the truth, even if unpleasant, is simply the truth. I suspect many men who are currently married would prefer the single lifestyle I maintain.

but you can't be single forever

Diamond098454:
but you can't be single forever

Can you please explain why you think like that?

Yes a man can rape his wife. Now outside the confinement of marriage it is a serious and punishable offense by law , within the confinement of marriage ( well I don't think there's a law for that here in Nigeria , except other countries , so it may or may not be punishable by law in Nigeria )

If a woman says no ,it's best to respect her decision and move on as a man , forcing her to copulate with you because you married her is morally wrong and can lead to further problems within the marriage. So yes a man can rape his wife.

MikeofKd:
Yes a man can rape his wife. Now outside the confinement of marriage it is a serious and punishable offense by law , within the confinement of marriage ( well I don't think there's a law for that here in Nigeria , except other countries , so it may or may not be punishable by law in Nigeria )

If a woman says no ,it's best to respect her decision and move on as a man , forcing her to copulate with you because you married her is morally wrong and can lead to further problems within the marriage. So yes a man can rape his wife.

Knowing they live together at all time and the woman can wake up and decide to call police and just say he raped her, how does he proves its a lie??

Samantha125:
Yes, he can... A woman has to be in the mood so that her body can start releasing some hormones to prepare her for the sexual intercourse, the hormones will lubricate her and get her reproductive organs ready for the penetration.

But if she's not in the mood, it will hurt and you'd have violated her.

Olive annionting oil will get her read. Spitting on it will get the job done

The world has moved past this question the op is asking.

Here's the new trend:

You can sleep with your wife but she needs to give you consent before you can ejaculate

I mean, now you get consent to sleep with your wife and then you need to obtain consent again in the middle of the sex to ejaculate.

A man was recently convicted of rape because his wife only gave approval for sleeping with her but not consent to ejaculate.

The world is against men and we still are joking around.

First they brainwash these women like this first article.

Convince women that sperm is dangerous and then push a bill against it.

bmd1010:
This is just up to a short debate or just your opinion, no need for insult.

But i for one don't think its should be called rape, same way there are different kind of murder, and it seem to be a one sided situation, d wife cries rape and the husband cries what?? Or wait we hardly or can't remember hearing the case of a man getting raped by the wife.

Am just saying wat i feel, feel free to say urs

As long as he forced himself on her, yes, he has raped her.

Secondly, since women usually marry men who are stronger than they are, then reason proves that a wife cannot rape her husband. However, if it happens then The Law would do just is to it.

Host78:
The world has moved past this question the op is asking.

Here's the new trend:

You can sleep with your wife but she needs to give you consent before you can ejaculate

I mean, now you get consent to sleep with your wife and then you need to obtain consent again in the middle of the sex to ejaculate.

A man was recently convicted of rape because his wife only gave approval for sleeping with her but not consent to ejaculate.

The world is against men and we still are joking around.

First they brainwash these women like this first article.

Convince women that sperm is dangerous and then push a bill against it.

Not in Nigeria howevet, UK has been going out of Law since, most especially as they way they marry in the UK and co, is not the same as we do in Nigeria.

This is where you see that UK and co are just like us and that they have their own culture and traditions.

Which is why even if you are a lawyer here and law is universal they have to retrain you there to fit their own culture and tradition.

And now you see that even in UK and co, culture and tradition does not always fit and comply with Law

Dtruthspeaker:
Not in Nigeria howevet, UK has been going out of Law since, most especially as they way they marry in the UK and co, is not the same as we do in Nigeria.

This is where you see that UK and co are just like us and that they have their own culture and traditions.

Which is why even if you are a lawyer here and law is universal they have to retrain you there to fit their own culture and tradition.

And now you see that even in UK and co, culture and tradition does not always fit and comply with Law

bro.

Those things trickle down here eventually. It's a matter of time.

immortalcrown:
No!

Acceptance of marriage means mutual consent to intercourse, both legally and religiously.

In marriage, the partners owe each other the responsibility of sexual pleasure. You carry out your responsibility as long as you are able (healthy and available) to do so, whether it pleases you or not.

A woman saying she was raped by her husband just because he slept with her when she was not in the mood for sex is like a man saying that his family enslaves him because the struggles he goes through to feed the family do not please him.

But if a man can hold himself when his wife says no, it is very good. He should also be considerate to let the wife be when he knows that she is stressed out. One of the major problems with our society is that we want to eat our cake and have it. Morally, a man insisting on sleeping with his wife when she is not in the mood is better than he cheating on the wife. But to those who who misunderstand the meaning of marriage, a man cheating on his wife is better than he sleeping with the wife when the wife is not in the mood for sex. The craziest part is that some women after claiming that they are not in the mood and denying their husbands sex will still persecute the husbands for meeting another woman. This paragraph is not trying to justify infidelity in marriage. This paragraph only tries to project the madness of our society.

Most of the women who believe that a man can rape his wife are still the ones cheating on their husbands. They claim it is because they still love the exes....

See you used the word "consent".

So you see, it becomes rape when that consent is not there.

"Not in the mood" is not the same as lack of consent. Not in the mood in marriage means implied consent. So uncle as every husband does, still has and enjoys the right to stimulate and put her in the mood while he is already in her after all the mood always kicks in when the match has started.

But this is different from the one that she says "No" and has closed her legs and runs to another room where you pursue her and beat her and tear her clothes and pant and penetrate her, all with force. That is Rape!

Host78:
bro.
Those things trickle down here eventually. It's a matter of time.

Only when Nigerians start having the kind of cohabitation arrangements that they have in those places.

MikeofKd:
Yes a man can rape his wife. Now outside the confinement of marriage it is a serious and punishable offense by law , within the confinement of marriage ( well I don't think there's a law for that here in Nigeria , except other countries , so it may or may not be punishable by law in Nigeria )

If a woman says no ,it's best to respect her decision and move on as a man , forcing her to copulate with you because you married her is morally wrong and can lead to further problems within the marriage. So yes a man can rape his wife.

The Rape law in criminal code can still punish the offending spouse (note I said spouse for any sex can be raped)