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Renting a house that cost me half a million in another city without a job or setting up a business
This cost me my life savings and almost took me to square 1...
Make sure before you move to another city , you have secure a job or setup something that fetch you money if not you will regret it

Your good deeds can sometimes, be a gun pointing at your head, so being a good person is not enough. You have to be good in a right way.

Help in such a way that you do not transfer permanent obligations (dependency) to yourself, which will inevitably break the relationship down the line because of your refusal to be depended on.

pansophist:
Your good deeds can sometimes, be a gun pointing at your head, so being a good person is not enough. You have to be good in a right way.

Help in such a way that you do not transfer permanent obligations (dependency) to yourself, which will inevitably break the relationship down the line because of your refusal to be depended on.

If you must help someone, make sure you don’t help them beyond their capability. I will narrate an experience I learnt bitterly from.

So I had this extended family I grew up with, like a brother to me. His parents were poor, but as kids, social status wasn’t a barrier in our relationship.

He always struggled with money, and have mostly being doing menial job that can’t even sustain him to the next month.

So I helped him leveled up. I devised a plan that will elevate him to the next stage, and give him a healthy head start.

I paired him up with someone to rent a 2 bedroom flat together and paid his part, bought a car from a friend and gave to him to run uber, giving him a healthy head start so he can sort his life out.

All he has to do is just work and save, and from next year when the rent end, renews it and live responsibly. This was in 2019. He has no expense except fuel the car, and normal car expenses.

But this guy suddenly felt like he has arrived, and all he did with the car was carry girls up and down, work only when he feels like and was flexing. Sometimes the car will break down due to his recklessness, and I’ll help him repair it.

Until a year later when it was time to renew his rent, and he doesn’t have any money. He wasted the opportunity he had, and was expecting me to renew the rent for him.

I was furious. I didn’t renew the rent, he was chased out of the house, but I left the car for him. Few months later, he sold the car and went back square one being poor and doing menial jobs.

Then I learnt a lesson that you can’t elevate a person more than their ability. You can believe a chicken can fly, but if you lift it up and leave it, it will fly back to the ground.


So if you choose to help someone, don’t help more than their capabilities or in such a way that it leads to a break down of relationships, because you assume everyone can exploit opportunities when they find one.

Giving him urgent 2k would have been better, and at least we would still be in good terms. But my idea to level him up made me lost money, a brother, a learnt a bitter lesson.

It makes me understood clearly the biblical “parable of the talents” in Mathew 25:14-30. Where the master gave talents to three of his servants, and the last one came with excuses while he couldn’t doubled his talent like the rest.

We are all humans and created in the image of God, but thinking we are all equal in capabilities is nonsense.

I managed to avoid any huge disasters this year— no major slip-ups, but the biggest lesson I learned was to just chase your dreams, no matter what. Real growth is way more important than just looking the part— Self-growth beats showing off every time. Instead of stressing about impressing other people, focus on leveling up yourself. You might not see the results overnight, but it pays off big time down the road. I’m ready to go all in on myself next year.

Working on the inside is always better than just polishing the outside.

Avoid love for the sake of your mental health
And don't spend recklessly hoping your source of income will cover you when it gets red. You can't tell what emergencies that might come to take away that funds.
Don't forget to journal, make note of what to do too.

pansophist:
If you must help someone, make sure you don’t help them beyond their capability. I will narrate an experience I learnt bitterly from.

So I had this extended family I grew up with, like a brother to me. His parents were poor, but as kids, social status wasn’t a barrier in our relationship.

He always struggled with money, and have mostly being doing menial job that can’t even sustain him to the next month.

So I helped him leveled up. I devised a plan that will elevate him to the next stage, and give him a healthy head start.

I paired him up with someone to rent a 2 bedroom flat together and paid his part, bought a car from a friend and gave to him to run uber, giving him a healthy head start so he can sort his life out.

All he has to do is just work and save, and from next year when the rent end, renews it and live responsibly. This was in 2019. He has no expense except fuel the car, and normal car expenses.

But this guy suddenly felt like he has arrived, and all he did with the car was carry girls up and down, work only when he feels like and was flexing. Sometimes the car will break down due to his recklessness, and I’ll help him repair it.

Until a year later when it was time to renew his rent, and he doesn’t have any money. He wasted the opportunity he had, and was expecting me to renew the rent for him.

I was furious. I didn’t renew the rent, he was chased out of the house, but I left the car for him. Few months later, he sold the car and went back square one being poor and doing menial jobs.

Then I learnt a lesson that you can’t elevate a person more than their ability. You can believe a chicken can fly, but if you lift it up and leave it, it will fly back to the ground.


So if you choose to help someone, don’t help more than their capabilities or in such a way that it leads to a break down of relationships, because you assume everyone can exploit opportunities when they find one.

Giving him urgent 2k would have been better, and at least we would still be in good terms. But my idea to level him up made me lost money, a brother, a learnt a bitter lesson.

It makes me understood clearly the biblical “parable of the talents” in Mathew 25:14-30. Where the master gave talents to three of his servants, and the last one came with excuses while he couldn’t doubled his talent like the rest.

We are all humans and created in the image of God, but thinking we are all equal in capabilities is nonsense.

Sorry about the wasted investment sir. However, it all comes down to the individual involved. There are people with worse background who will do better then the said friend.

pansophist:
If you must help someone, make sure you don’t help them beyond their capability. I will narrate an experience I learnt bitterly from.

So I had this extended family I grew up with, like a brother to me. His parents were poor, but as kids, social status wasn’t a barrier in our relationship.

He always struggled with money, and have mostly being doing menial job that can’t even sustain him to the next month.

So I helped him leveled up. I devised a plan that will elevate him to the next stage, and give him a healthy head start.

I paired him up with someone to rent a 2 bedroom flat together and paid his part, bought a car from a friend and gave to him to run uber, giving him a healthy head start so he can sort his life out.

All he has to do is just work and save, and from next year when the rent end, renews it and live responsibly. This was in 2019. He has no expense except fuel the car, and normal car expenses.

But this guy suddenly felt like he has arrived, and all he did with the car was carry girls up and down, work only when he feels like and was flexing. Sometimes the car will break down due to his recklessness, and I’ll help him repair it.

Until a year later when it was time to renew his rent, and he doesn’t have any money. He wasted the opportunity he had, and was expecting me to renew the rent for him.

I was furious. I didn’t renew the rent, he was chased out of the house, but I left the car for him. Few months later, he sold the car and went back square one being poor and doing menial jobs.

Then I learnt a lesson that you can’t elevate a person more than their ability. You can believe a chicken can fly, but if you lift it up and leave it, it will fly back to the ground.


So if you choose to help someone, don’t help more than their capabilities or in such a way that it leads to a break down of relationships, because you assume everyone can exploit opportunities when they find one.

Giving him urgent 2k would have been better, and at least we would still be in good terms. But my idea to level him up made me lost money, a brother, a learnt a bitter lesson.

It makes me understood clearly the biblical “parable of the talents” in Mathew 25:14-30. Where the master gave talents to three of his servants, and the last one came with excuses while he couldn’t doubled his talent like the rest.

We are all humans and created in the image of God, but thinking we are all equal in capabilities is nonsense.

Where is this your relative now

Trust your gut 100% of the time.

Well this is not a mistake but kinda like what I wished I could have done better.

So again I got a big appraisal and I wanted to just invest the money, but I was skeptical on a lot of things to invest the money into, well I got nice feedback from a well meaning friend, but mumu me was like, let me wait small maybe the price will drop. I was kinda stingy in a way, later I paid 2% more than if I had invested at that stage. I have learned that when it comes to money and general finance what is worth spending on, dont delay it. Close eye spend. Saving cost will just make you spend more in future.

Next year once I find a genuine investment I’ll not be stingy.

2025 has been good sha, and I thank God for life. Truly trusting your gut is very important.

pansophist:
If you must help someone, make sure you don’t help them beyond their capability. I will narrate an experience I learnt bitterly from.

So I had this extended family I grew up with, like a brother to me. His parents were poor, but as kids, social status wasn’t a barrier in our relationship.

He always struggled with money, and have mostly being doing menial job that can’t even sustain him to the next month.

So I helped him leveled up. I devised a plan that will elevate him to the next stage, and give him a healthy head start.

I paired him up with someone to rent a 2 bedroom flat together and paid his part, bought a car from a friend and gave to him to run uber, giving him a healthy head start so he can sort his life out.

All he has to do is just work and save, and from next year when the rent end, renews it and live responsibly. This was in 2019. He has no expense except fuel the car, and normal car expenses.

But this guy suddenly felt like he has arrived, and all he did with the car was carry girls up and down, work only when he feels like and was flexing. Sometimes the car will break down due to his recklessness, and I’ll help him repair it.

Until a year later when it was time to renew his rent, and he doesn’t have any money. He wasted the opportunity he had, and was expecting me to renew the rent for him.

I was furious. I didn’t renew the rent, he was chased out of the house, but I left the car for him. Few months later, he sold the car and went back square one being poor and doing menial jobs.

Then I learnt a lesson that you can’t elevate a person more than their ability. You can believe a chicken can fly, but if you lift it up and leave it, it will fly back to the ground.


So if you choose to help someone, don’t help more than their capabilities or in such a way that it leads to a break down of relationships, because you assume everyone can exploit opportunities when they find one.

Giving him urgent 2k would have been better, and at least we would still be in good terms. But my idea to level him up made me lost money, a brother, a learnt a bitter lesson.

It makes me understood clearly the biblical “parable of the talents” in Mathew 25:14-30. Where the master gave talents to three of his servants, and the last one came with excuses while he couldn’t doubled his talent like the rest.

We are all humans and created in the image of God, but thinking we are all equal in capabilities is nonsense.

You can't love someone more than they love themself.

2025, no mistake because I was extremely careful about guys and there sweet mouth and that particular look ( sexy eye or bad eye) they normally give a girl that caught their energy

I shot down my social media and i stayed away from social gathering ,especially house party.

Running from the pain before clarity!!!!!!!


Always face your fears in life, they will mock ,disrespect and belittle your resilience but never give up on yourself.

Be a lone wolf, fearless, emotionless and just let silence speak your AURA.

CLARITY IS FREEDOM
FREEDOM IS HAPPINESS
HAPPINESS IS LIFE.

Diamond098454:
2025, no mistake because I was extremely careful about guys and there sweet mouth and that particular look ( sexy eye or bad eye) they normally give a girl that caught their energy

I shot down my social media and i stayed away from social gathering ,especially house party.

You got clarity!!!!!!!

You read energies (AURA) .

You will always mingle when you are with the connection resonating in your frequency.

ManknowThyself:
You got clarity!!!!!!!

You read energies (AURA) .

You will always mingle when you are with the connection resonating in your frequency.

hi and happy weekend too you.

Diamond098454:
hi and happy weekend too you.

Hello and enjoy the rest of your weekend.

I finally impregnated my girlfriend this year, rushed to do the introduction, only for the pregnancy to fall after two weeks of the introduction. The foetus was 4months plus as at the time. This miscarriage happened in October 2025. I spent a lot sha, money that I could use to buy a plot or two. But it is well. Thank God for life. We go again 2026

No mistake your wife for a H*E..

I was being too Careful With
Money and investment and this made me to procrastinate a lot this year, next year I will make sure I don't repeat same, I have like 3 unpublished book waiting, why I haven't published them on kindle still baffles me, I kept making up one excuse or another. Not anymore

Respecting my elders!

Diamond098454:
2025, no mistake because I was extremely careful about guys and there sweet mouth and that particular look ( sexy eye or bad eye) they normally give a girl that caught their energy

I shot down my social media and i stayed away from social gathering ,especially house party.

Must everything be about man. Imagine all thru 2025 all you learnt is just about man...women think and talk about man man man all the time .,..if they are 3 check what they are saying 90% about man.

Men are really the kings

UniQue84:
Must everything be about man. Imagine all thru 2025 all you learnt is just about man...women think and talk about man man man all the time .,..if they are 3 check what they are saying 90% about man.

Men are really the kings

yes men are very UNIQUE

Diamond098454:
yes men are very UNIQUE

Have they shine your kondo before.
How was your first experience?

Sirchiboy:
Have they shine your kondo before.
How was your first experience?

tia..... You are too raw and it's not good for gentlemen

Hi

1) Mine was the case of curiosity. I wanted use sound for meditation, even after being warned how dangerous sounds can be, so after some research, I downloaded a frequency generator application on playstore

I saw a video on how sound worked to reshape water structure, even salt sprinkled on an acoustic flat-plate metal...the videos are on YouTube, so I said, "if my body is made of water too, then..."
I was looking for change forgetting that change can be negative too

I played some high frequency, and then some low frequency, placing my phone very close to my ears while doing so. Well nothing happened. It was afternoon. What an experiment

Then night came...
And other nights followed
Hmmm
I've learnt a lesson

A word can be enough sometimes

Don't play with forces you do not understand, especially spiritual forces. If you're to ever engage in such, do so at the guide of an experienced spiritualist. I follow one here on nairaland

All those solfeggio frequencies or healing frequencies you see online and what not...hmmm
Be careful

If such frequencies was that impactful to the masses that could help grow someone spiritual and or mentally, it would not be easily available to the average man.

Government or religious bodies is likely to
have hidden them so they won't be accessible to the average man. If people can rule themselves, they wouldn't need a Ruler. Insecure leaders rule the longest


2) Treating girls badly.
Most of the RedPillers people listen to have the most silliest of contents. Looking back now, I laugh.

Women are my equal complement, not the bone of my bones, as some pathetic Religion preach.
They tell you women were an afterthought of the creator, created simply to make man happy. Like they're the slave of men.

That's what religion, government and most RedPillers capitalize on to brainwash the masses who haven't for once sat and thought

"if women were an afterthought of the creator, then night was an afterthought created to make morning happy.
Then breathing out was an afterthought, created to make breathing in happy"

For those interested, there's a link to a very affordable ebook in my signature that reveals the truth of the complementary forces of creation, as regarding man and woman relationship.

Diamond098454:
tia..... You are too raw and it's not good for gentlemen

You are talking to diokpa

Sirchiboy:
You are talking to diokpa

hahaha what's the meaning of Diokpa? Hope your weekend is going well?

Diamond098454:
yes men are very UNIQUE

Explain?