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If you no get car for this Naija, no even think about love... because love go be hard mode.

Night movement alone fit cost Uber fare wey go buy full groceries for house.

Make we no deceive ourselves… mobility matter.
Most girls no go even gree if you no get car... or dem go quietly keep one side guy wey get am.

For Naija romance, car no be luxury.
Na survival tool.

If you still dey trek, focus first.
Buy car. Forget love for now.

Love fit wait.

You are 100% correct brotherly . Mob dey very important in a man's life . Though i have one not because i want to be loved but it's a necessity for every day movement and hustle for me .
But you are correct sha

Babatunjo:
✓ If you no get car for this Naija, no even think about love... because love go be hard mode.
Night movement alone fit cost Uber fare wey go buy full groceries for house.
Make we no deceive ourselves… mobility matter.
Most girls no go even gree if you no get car... or dem go quietly keep one side guy wey get am. For Naija romance, car no be luxury. Na survival tool. If you still dey trek, focus first. Buy car. Forget love for now. Love fit wait.

Since not everyone out there will be able to get a car, doesn't this equally mean that some men will have to learn to love themselves, instead of waiting around to be loved by another person--- of course some women will also have to accept and love themselves instead?

mmadu4:
You are 100% correct brotherly . Mob dey very important in a man's life . Though i have one not because i want to be loved but it's a necessity for every day movement and hustle for me .
But you are correct sha

Depends on where you live. And what if the female has car nko?

FreeIgboho:
Depends on where you live. And what if the female has car nko?

Nothing wrong with the female having a car .
I was only stating what I have and the reason I have it . Not because I expect to be loved by females lol

If I like av car, person with out car go still flog ur girl

Let me give you the quick truth: if a babe only likes you because of your car, she doesn't actually like you—she's just seeing dollar signs. Let's not sugarcoat it: a lot of women in Nigeria are just wired differently. They're taught that the main goal is finding a provider. That’s why, after some chatting, the question drops: 'Are you going to take care of me?' It just screams that she's only in it for the 'better,' never the 'worse.'

Here's the key: any woman you deal with needs to have something to contribute, because in her mind, it's basically a transaction. If you make it all about sex, you'll be the one getting played. Think about all the Money, Energy, Attention, and Time (MEAT) you spend just to get some. You’re practically the Bible's Esau, trading something valuable for something quick and temporary— giving away the birthright for a bowl of stew, seriously!

If marriage is the endgame for you, forget the 'love' quest for a second. Focus on finding a solid woman who'll be a great mother to your future kids and, most importantly, respects you. You might spend forever chasing some fantasy romance that probably doesn't exist. Only a handful of guys ever get lucky enough to stumble on that movie-style 'love.' Keep your expectations grounded!

Let your relationship with women always be about what she can offer outside sex.

SpencerForbes:
Let me give you the quick truth: if a babe only likes you because of your car, she doesn't actually like you—she's just seeing dollar signs. Let's not sugarcoat it: a lot of women in Nigeria are just wired differently. They're taught that the main goal is finding a provider. That’s why, after some chatting, the question drops: 'Are you going to take care of me?' It just screams that she's only in it for the 'better,' never the 'worse.'

Here's the key: any woman you deal with needs to have something to contribute, because in her mind, it's basically a transaction. If you make it all about sex, you'll be the one getting played. Think about all the Money, Energy, Attention, and Time (MEAT) you spend just to get some. You’re practically the Bible's Esau, trading something valuable for something quick and temporary— giving away the birthright for a bowl of stew, seriously!

If marriage is the endgame for you, forget the 'love' quest for a second. Focus on finding a solid woman who'll be a great mother to your future kids and, most importantly, respects you. You might spend forever chasing some fantasy romance that probably doesn't exist. Only a handful of guys ever get lucky enough to stumble on that movie-style 'love.' Keep your expectations grounded!

Let your relationship with women always be about what she can offer outside sex.

You’re coping and capping.
I never said having a car alone will stop another guy from digging your girl.

But having a car does help... especially when you’ve handled other areas of your life, you’re focused on purpose, and you’re not chasing women.
You move with direction; women move toward you.

Babatunjo:
You’re coping and capping.
I never said having a car alone will stop another guy from digging your girl.

But having a car does help... especially when you’ve handled other areas of your life, you’re focused on purpose, and you’re not chasing women.
You move with direction; women move toward you.

And my point still remains, whether you have a car or not doesn’t guarantee you’ll find love. Wake up…

There’s nothing like “love” in Nigerian girls dictionary.

Having a car just sets you up to be taken advantage of. And if your main reason for buying one is to snag a woman? No point. It should be about getting around or maybe business—that's it. Most guys can still get sex even without wheels, so women hopping in your ride is not an achievement. It’s like hitting the gym just to look like a Greek god for the ladies instead of focusing on actual health. Misplaced priorities. You've should have a hundred better reasons for a car, but if it's all about women, that cash is better spent on land, stocks, or bonds.

SpencerForbes:
Having a car just sets you up to be taken advantage of. And if your main reason for buying one is to snag a woman? No point. It should be about getting around or maybe business—that's it. Most guys can still get sex even without wheels, so women hopping in your ride is not an achievement. It’s like hitting the gym just to look like a Greek god for the ladies instead of focusing on actual health. Misplaced priorities. You've should have a hundred better reasons for a car, but if it's all about women, that cash is better spent on land, stocks, or bonds.

I never said you should get a car because of a woman.

But let’s be honest.. a guy with a car will almost always have a better quality dating experience than a guy without one. That’s just reality.

You’re starting to sound like some red-pill guys who act as if intentionality, planning, and structure don’t matter when it comes to dating quality women.
This isn’t about chasing sex or dealing with just anybody. I’m talking about women with standards.

As I said earlier.. don’t chase women. Instead, build a life that women want to step into. A masculine mindset is one layer; having a car, a decent apartment and so on, is another.

Babatunjo:
I never said you should get a car because of a woman.

But let’s be honest.. a guy with a car will almost always have a better quality dating experience than a guy without one. That’s just reality.

You’re starting to sound like some red-pill guys who act as if intentionality, planning, and structure don’t matter when it comes to dating quality women.
This isn’t about chasing sex or dealing with just anybody. I’m talking about women with standards.

As I said earlier.. don’t chase women. Instead, build a life that women want to step into. A masculine mindset is one layer; having a car, a decent apartment and so on, is another.

I'm going to stop the goalpost shifting right here. I'm about to take your first post and dissect it like a science project.

Babatunjo:
If you no get car for this Naija, no even think about love... because love go be hard mode.

Hold up, let's swap 'love' for 'dating.' Also, the opening line makes it sound like guys shouldn't even think about dating until they've got wheels. That whole idea of 'hustle for a car just to find someone' is a pretty low mindset. If you get a car, it should be for your own life, not as a dating requirement.

Night movement alone fit cost Uber fare wey go buy full groceries for house.

Abeg how many times you Dey commot for night? Even people wey get cars Dey park for night. But I’ll still agree with this a bit. That’s if the Uber is for yourself.

Make we no deceive ourselves… mobility matter.
Most girls no go even gree if you no get car... or dem go quietly keep one side guy wey get am.

Getting mobile needs to be about your journey, period. There's zero reason to focus on women here. Mentioning a woman just makes her look like a trophy, and that mindset really throws the dating dynamics off balance. Let's keep the focus on personal hustle.

For Naija romance, car no be luxury.
Na survival tool.

If you still dey trek, focus first.
Buy car. Forget love for now.

Love fit wait.

You still brought romance into it. Notice your theme from the first line, cars and romance. that’s wrong mindset. But cars and self development is the best.

Just so we're clear: that girl you're driving around? She's likely sleeping with some guy who's totally fine crashing in a small, basic room. And get this—she might even be using your own funds to spoil him. Just saying.

You're right bro

Smithwilliams826:
If I like av car, person with out car go still flog ur girl

Don't mind them. They want to buy love with possessions and later they will still start crying that the girls are materialistic.
That girl you want to make life convenient for by owning a car has been moving around morning, noon and night all her life without a car and she didn't complain to anyone.

SpencerForbes:
I'm going to stop the goalpost shifting right here. I'm about to take your first post and dissect it like a science project.



Hold up, let's swap 'love' for 'dating.' Also, the opening line makes it sound like guys shouldn't even think about dating until they've got wheels. That whole idea of 'hustle for a car just to find someone' is a pretty low mindset. If you get a car, it should be for your own life, not as a dating requirement.



Abeg how many times you Dey commot for night? Even people wey get cars Dey park for night. But I’ll still agree with this a bit. That’s if the Uber is for yourself.



Getting mobile needs to be about your journey, period. There's zero reason to focus on women here. Mentioning a woman just makes her look like a trophy, and that mindset really throws the dating dynamics off balance. Let's keep the focus on personal hustle.



You still brought romance into it. Notice your theme from the first line, cars and romance. that’s wrong mindset. But cars and self development is the best.

Just so we're clear: that girl you're driving around? She's likely sleeping with some guy who's totally fine crashing in a small, basic room. And get this—she might even be using your own funds to spoil him. Just saying.

I agree. If you’re a simp, a nice apartment or car won’t save you. But if you’re badboi, playa, sharp, socially intelligent, purpose-driven guy, and not chasing women, your dating quality naturally improves with these things. When your life is properly built, access to girls become easier.. without chasing. No capping.