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Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Savedday2: 4:33pm On Dec 14, 2025
Madam, give him steady kpekus and stop wasting his money.

And one last thing, stop distributing the kpekus to other men.

Na who no know 9ja girls, na him go pity the Op. Ask her wetin she do now. She no go fit talk, better still, she go to talk lies full everywhere.
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Diamond098454(f): 5:11pm On Dec 14, 2025
Why abusing your wife the bone of your bone.

The body that gives you pleasure every day and the same body you rest on every night

There are so many ways to punish a woman without hitting her skin
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by essentialone(m): 5:19pm On Dec 14, 2025
Diamond098454:
Why abusing your wife the bone of your bone.

The body that gives you pleasure every day and the same body you rest on every night

There are so many ways to punish a woman without hitting her skin
That's very true. Ladies are delicate and should be pampered. When a lady becomes irritable, what should a man do?
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Diamond098454(f):
essentialone:
That's very true. Ladies are delicate and should be pampered. When a lady becomes irritable, what should a man do?
there are so many ways to punish a woman

There are men that knows how to punish a woman. Only there eyes hmmmm

Denial her your third leg when she need it must

Hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I can't talk abeg
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by essentialone(m): 6:26pm On Dec 14, 2025
Diamond098454:
there are so many ways to punish a woman

There are men that knows how to punish a woman. Only there eyes hmmmm

Denial you the third leg when the woman need it must

Hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I can't talk abeg
Haaaaa. This gist go sweet ooo. Third leg denial? It works? Hahahhaha
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Diamond098454(f): 6:37pm On Dec 14, 2025
essentialone:
Haaaaa. This gist go sweet ooo. Third leg denial? It works? Hahahhaha
hahaha hahaha hahaha please ooooo
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Carndidlaydid(f): 6:45pm On Dec 14, 2025
Savedday2:
Madam, give him steady kpekus and stop wasting his money.

And one last thing, stop distributing the kpekus to other men.

Na who no know 9ja girls, na him go pity the Op. Ask her wetin she do now. She no go fit talk, better still, she go to talk lies full everywhere.
Just imagine !!! The way your genders reason bah?
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by essentialone(m): 7:08pm On Dec 14, 2025
Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha hahaha please ooooo
Hahahhaha. But you are very correct. But I still want to hear it.
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Diamond098454(f): 7:15pm On Dec 14, 2025
essentialone:
Hahahhaha. But you are very correct. But I still want to hear it.
I don't know..........

I'm not married
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by essentialone(m): 7:20pm On Dec 14, 2025
Diamond098454:
I don't know..........

I'm not married
Some of us are not married. But with the kind of information on social media ehn. It will seem one understands marriage stuffs from even outside marriage.
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Kobojunkie: 7:26pm On Dec 14, 2025
Carndidlaydid:
➜You wanna Learn to stay in an abusive marriage... undecided
Just imagine... lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Diamond098454(f): 7:26pm On Dec 14, 2025
essentialone:
Some of us are not married. But with the kind of information on social media ehn. It will seem one understands marriage stuffs from even outside marriage.
smile smile smile smile
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:33pm On Dec 14, 2025
AllBlack:
You started by saying HONESTLY as if you know the intricate details of the situation or you even know the person who posted it.

Can you vouch for the poster?
do you know if it is the other party that needs to RUN?

Honestly?
we all needs the running away for our mind to reset
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:34pm On Dec 14, 2025
Stephen0mozzy:
As a woman, try to be self-sufficient. The only reasons I can imagine why this OP will want to stay in an abusive marriage is because:

1. She's completely dependent on the husband's hand out - money and shelter.
2. She will rather keep up appearances of a Mrs than leave for her own mental sanity - seeing that she's trying everything possible but it's not working
yes o,!!! Na money
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:36pm On Dec 14, 2025
AllBlack:
out of the blues a man just starts PLANNING on how to go to prison by breaking the restrain has been holding for 15 whole years. suddenly, he prefers sleeping in jail than to live with his wife which he paid bride price and spent money on wedding for (abi na forced marriage or co-habitation?)

No smoke without fire but too bad we can't hear his side of the story because women lie a lot and know how to paint stories just to demonise the other person.
i don't lie to paint him bad, dat is y i said how to stay
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:43pm On Dec 14, 2025
Ibkay32:
You mean you want to carry and run away with his moneyhuh
no not his money, i don't have my own money is wat i meant
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:45pm On Dec 14, 2025
kiddaz:
AHH... If what you say is true, you and your boy need to get out from there fast. Carrying cutlass to beat someonehuh Report him ooh... And try to stay away from him for your safety and that of your boy. Better safe than sorry
yes o! D way he is treating me especially makes him to be like my daddy like u sef are d questions he was asking me from his tender age till now,
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:46pm On Dec 14, 2025
Imindmybusiness:
All of a sudden, you entered into his mind to know he has plans of beating you to deqth and going to prison. Madam, please stop abusing your husband. If you're tired of the marriage, just leave him so he can live his life in peace. Raising a 15yr old boy in this generation sometimes requires extreme discipline and measure to shield him from societal vices of his age. If he has never beaten you in 15yrs of marriage, he is never an abusive man and holding up a nearby item like broom, belt or even cutlass while cautioning a 15yr old son does not mean he will butcher his own son. My mother would always threaten us that she would rather keel us than have any of us bring shame to her. Did she keel my sister when they had a child before her brideprice was paid? Again, stop abusing your husband.
u are still young for dis post dat is y i said matured minds
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:48pm On Dec 14, 2025
Savedday2:
Madam, give him steady kpekus and stop wasting his money.

And one last thing, stop distributing the kpekus to other men.

Na who no know 9ja girls, na him go pity the Op. Ask her wetin she do now. She no go fit talk, better still, she go to talk lies full everywhere.
pls not kpekus matter . Na how to get things rite pls
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:49pm On Dec 14, 2025
Diamond098454:
Why abusing your wife the bone of your bone.

The body that gives you pleasure every day and the same body you rest on every night

There are so many ways to punish a woman without hitting her skin
verbal n non kinetic abuse
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Brandiebird: 12:18am On Dec 15, 2025
dollytino4real:
verbal n non kinetic abuse
non kinetic abuse! 🤣🤣🤣

Sis, learn to just detach from your husband. Whatever he says, just respond with 3 words-
* you’re right, dear
* I’m sorry, dear
* yes, dear

Stop feeding into his energy. He can’t psychologically abuse you if you just stop fighting back. Stop doing the things that he hates and do more of the things that he likes. That’s how you stay in an abusive relationship. Calm down and take your mind off things that concern him. Give him what he wants, needs, and stay out of his way. Since you’re as broke as him be humble and appreciate the small things he provides for his family.
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 12:21am On Dec 15, 2025
Brandiebird:
non kinetic abuse! 🤣🤣🤣

Sis, learn to just detach from your husband. Whatever he says, just respond with 3 words-
* you’re right, dear
* I’m sorry, dear
* yes, dear

Stop feeding into his energy. He can’t psychologically abuse you if you just stop fighting back. Stop doing the things that he hates and do more of the things that he likes. That’s how you stay in an abusive relationship. Calm down and take your mind off things that concern him. Give him what he wants, needs, and stay out of his way. Since you’re as broke as him be humble and appreciate the small things he provides for his family.
thank u very much for dis ur advice i really appreciate it so much, i will try wat u said, i don do all b4 but e no still dey work o but i will do ur advice
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Ibkay32(m): 6:29am On Dec 15, 2025
dollytino4real:
no not his money, i don't have my own money is wat i meant
Okay good luck
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 6:56am On Dec 15, 2025
Ibkay32:
Okay good luck
thank you
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 7:02am On Dec 15, 2025
Brandiebird:
non kinetic abuse! 🤣🤣🤣

Sis, learn to just detach from your husband. Whatever he says, just respond with 3 words-
* you’re right, dear
* I’m sorry, dear
* yes, dear

Stop feeding into his energy. He can’t psychologically abuse you if you just stop fighting back. Stop doing the things that he hates and do more of the things that he likes. That’s how you stay in an abusive relationship. Calm down and take your mind off things that concern him. Give him what he wants, needs, and stay out of his way. Since you’re as broke as him be humble and appreciate the small things he provides for his family.
do u know till na he gives 1k for feeding of 3 kids n me most times he does not give, since I wanted to stay been married i don't complain but since d marriage don tire me i began telling him to change his early character i was enduring it becomes a trouble BTW me n him
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Kevineleven(m): 9:54am On Dec 15, 2025
Look like you are the bread winner, does he have a job?
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 11:08am On Dec 15, 2025
Kevineleven:
Look like you are the bread winner, does he have a job?
no, we started with me shouldering his responsibilities like nothing, i was tod dat he not be responsible later in life i taught dey were just joking na is to late 4 him to carry the load alone
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Helpout12345: 5:26pm On Dec 15, 2025
dollytino4real:
no, we started with me shouldering his responsibilities like nothing, i was tod dat he not be responsible later in life i taught dey were just joking na is to late 4 him to carry the load alone
So what is the main problem you have with him? Did you really love this man before marriage, and do you still love him?
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by Kobojunkie: 5:39pm On Dec 15, 2025
Helpout12345:
➜So what is the main problem you have with him? Did you really love this man before marriage, and do you still love him?
Was it love when the man decided to shirk his responsibilities onto the same woman already carrying the burden of raising the kids and caring for the house all by herself? Talk about weaponizing love against someone who has more than revealed that she has not received love from her partner for the longest? Are you going to demand, as religious nutjobs do, that she continue to love him — carry all of the load alone, aka be a single married woman — even when there is clearly no reciprocity? 😂😂😂😂
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 7:18pm On Dec 15, 2025
Helpout12345:
So what is the main problem you have with him? Did you really love this man before marriage, and do you still love him?
i really loved him b4 because he was handsome and hardworking but tins changed wen we stayed together as husband n wife fully
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 7:24pm On Dec 15, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Was it love when the man decided to shirk his responsibilities onto the same woman already carrying the burden of raising the kids and caring for the house all by herself? Talk about weaponizing love against someone who has more than revealed that she has not received love from her partner for the longest? Are you going to demand, as religious nutjobs do, that she continue to love him — carry all of the load alone, aka be a single married woman — even when there is clearly no reciprocity? 😂😂😂😂
non chal ant attitude is wat is really pissing me off in all, he will say other women do it
Re: How To Stay In Abusive Marriage!!! by dollytino4real(op): 7:27pm On Dec 15, 2025
Kevineleven:
Look like you are the bread winner, does he have a job?
he has a bus he uses 4 transportation bush market runs, so he is used to those women carrying responsibilities
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