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I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Grace456: 4:42pm On Apr 25
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by squash47(m): 4:44pm On Apr 25
Dem go soon cash out for ur head.

That bros abroad is tired of foreign games, he now wants to come Back and play local.

Like how Ahmed Musa came back to play for Local League.

Which well thinking Nigerian man will want to marry and move into his wife's house ?

There is something he is hiding from you.

Modified FTC

I dedicate this FTC to women going through emotional pains in their marriages. May God help you all.

my neighbor, just dey inflict pain on his wife and I feel very sad about it.

Nobody is ready to listen to the woman. Everybody thinks she is wrong. But na d man dey mess up big time.
I just pray she doesn't die of depression.







imagine, your 16 year old mannerless sister go dey insult ur wife and u go dey support d small girl.

some men are Cows.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by TripleDdotcom: 4:48pm On Apr 25
For as long as humanity will not go through the PROPER means to navigate the affairs of their life, they will continue to fall in calamities as a consequence of them not going through the proper channel.

Now in your case, what's proper??

A man sees a woman he likes, they court each other, finding out about each other's qualities and see if they are fine with them.

They must ask each other important questions and know all what's vital to be known about their prospective partner.

If they are fine with each other, AND they are now ready for the next step, they now introduce the family members.

The family members, especially the elders, will use their wisdom to assess the candidate to see if there's something that their son or daughter could have missed from the candidate as a result of them being blinded by love or because of inexperience and naivety.

Another importance of introducing the family members is that it sets everything in motion with a serious impression and outlook.

for example, if a man toasts a woman and tells him he wants to marry her, they've courted and the woman likes him, if she tells him to come see her family, this will instill the impression of seriousness in him or will expose his intentions. If he has sinister motives in mind and isn't serious about marrying the girl, it'll reflect in the way he responds to that request.

Now if all the family members are involved and matters have been settled, they now marry each other. then they will feel at ease sharing their assets or possessions (sex, money, properties) with each other cause of the bond that has now binded them together.

That's the proper channel. But humanity will go through improper channels and rush things with themselves these days, giving out their possessions to people that have not proven to worth it yet and they will start crying when the consequences arrives.

This proper channel may not guarantee that there'll be no problems 100 percent of the time but its waaay more credible and safe than not doing it.

And the wisdom in what I've said reflects in your life already. Just for you to know I'm telling the truth.

You gave out yourself to your first man, had two children with him and now he's not ready to marry you. You have now become a single mother, striving to foot all the responsibilities all because you gave yourself and your intimate commitments away too early to someone who doesn't deserve it.

Let this serve as a lesson for you. Don't let love or emotions blind you. If you meet a man that's not showing any commitment to you and is asking things from you too early and is seeming to hide some vital information you should know from you, jilt him and Block him!!!

If you don't heed daddy's advice (meaning me) And you get hurt, don't come and cry to daddy (me) about it.

God guide and help you to do things properly oo..







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By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg.Thanks

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by michlins(m): 4:50pm On Apr 25
If care isn't taken, it's same baby daddy still playing you.


You already have a child, cherish her and work hard to repay that loan. You have lots of things to occupy and keep you busy now

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by DannyG8(m): 4:58pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2 and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
frankly speaking from what you just said that man is a scammer he want to use you to achieve something he couldn't achieve on his own

if he truly love you he won't be acting funny maybe you told him about the other man , he wants to cash out to

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by daniel7328(m): 5:17pm On Apr 25
Just one word... He his a fraudster so please run away from him .

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Teaveapoet(f): 5:38pm On Apr 25
Please for now, no man please..please take care of your daughter till you heal well. Please don't make mistake and don't let anyman turn you against your daughter

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by dederocs(m): 5:42pm On Apr 25
Good Nigerian men dey, successful, most of them in America live via hand to mouth. Abi na US dey shack you grin

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Michelle55: 5:43pm On Apr 25
My sister run.. Na dem oh

Besides, you should be more concerned about your kid and not some silly relationship that would end up shattering your heart or ain't you tired of being a baby mama?

Take care of yourself and your kid, the right man will come in at the right time. No need to hurry, one mistake is enough for you to learn from.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by NengiWIDEtoto: 5:49pm On Apr 25
But you would like to marry a man and move into the house he built right?

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Grace456: 5:54pm On Apr 25
dederocs:
Mugu, good Nigerian men dey, successful, most of them in America live via hand to mouth. Abi na US dey shack you grin
no be US dey shack me. I can afford to relocate to any country of my choice. Just like him anyway

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by daniel7328(m): 6:19pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
no be US dey shack me. I can afford to relocate to any country of my choice. Just like him anyway


The dude has given you all the reg flags sign you needed but yet you wanna fall for it....

Think of your kids abeg

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by dederocs(m): 6:21pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
no be US dey shack me. I can afford to relocate to any country of my choice. Just like him anyway
Find a good man here.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by SmellySperm(m): 7:03pm On Apr 25
niqqa is only coming for the money...

ditch him and move on make you no go turn client on top guyman hustle

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Quelme: 7:10pm On Apr 25
Be calming down babe before those men run you street.
You seem to be acting desperate....

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by murphyibiam15(m): 7:17pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
You sound desperate. The last guy doesn't stay in the USA, he wants to just prey on u

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by silento(m): 7:17pm On Apr 25
find a hard working local based and marry both the baby daddy and the new guy are udingvur brain


in ur next relationship try as much as possible hide ur worth

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Kenturkey048(m): 7:20pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
no be US dey shack me. I can afford to relocate to any country of my choice. Just like him anyway


This same card played with my neighbor. I dey live for one estate for Osapa London for lekki. Naso this gee run this babe serious street...Funny thing be say the babe na popular person because of she dey act movies... E use this US base format wack this babe bar like say na him birthright...

Till date, she never leave the nightmare...

I use God name beg you...Let that guy go or you go regret am...That dude na fraudstar.

He has no iota of love for you. He is only after what you have...

No fall for another scam I beg you...Take care of your daughter and love her with all your heart...

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Charmingrascal(m): 7:23pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by SimplyFacts: 7:31pm On Apr 25
May God lead you aright if your story is true.


I just hope some wouldn't become preys

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Bola146(f): 7:43pm On Apr 25
Hummmm Don't allow him to sleep in your house again! He is not serious. Let him go rent even if it's one room, a man telling you all that bullshit is a kid! Don't let him hinder good men from you. Let him find a better solution to his life first.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Misterone: 8:17pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.
The guy na yahoo yahoo. run for your life.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by brainmax2000: 8:23pm On Apr 25
that US guy na yahooboy

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Lonelypacifist6: 8:25pm On Apr 25
Focus on your child right now, put all romantic inclinations on hold, She two years old and needs your full attention now.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Basics007: 8:40pm On Apr 25
There's nothing wrong in what you've been doing. Some men like to prey on single mother's desperation hence the lies and pretence. Don't lower your standard for anyone.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by PrettyBunny(f): 8:40pm On Apr 25
From your story, all I see is red flag. I would have done the same, if I was in your shoes.. You did no wrong by trying to confirm his identity.

You know what you are supposed to do, do it before it becomes a case of broken heart.

If not for your sanity, at least, for your daughter's own.

Love will find you again. So, don't rush it. Just enjoy life and build with your baby girl, and things would definitely work out for good for you and your daughter.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Nobody: 9:04pm On Apr 25
Neither of these guys are any good and their stories don't add up, so be careful, before you find yourself with another baby daddy.

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by phemy36(m): 9:33pm On Apr 25
Nigerian females should be avoided by all means

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Iseoluwani: 10:59pm On Apr 25
Grace456:
I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.


don't fall for those unserious fellas

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by bestabigaelever(f): 11:07pm On Apr 25
You have a child already
How old are you that you are already desperate for husband
IF ANY MAN CANNOT PAY YOUR DOWRY THEN YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT'S UP and this one that cannot even rent a house, is that not obviously a bad sign
YOU MADE A MISTAKE ONCE, DONT LET IT REPEAT ITSELF

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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Anfield247(m): 11:25pm On Apr 25
[quote author=TripleDdotcom post=101114233]For as long as humanity will not go through the PROPER means to navigate the affairs of their life, they will continue to fall in calamities as a consequence of them not going through the proper channel.

Now in your case, what's proper??

A man sees a woman he likes, they court each other, finding out about each other's qualities and see if they are fine with them.

They must ask each other important questions and know all what's vital to be known about their prospective partner.

If they are fine with each other, AND they are now ready for the next step, they now introduce the family members.

The family members, especially the elders, will use their wisdom to assess the candidate to see if there's something that their son or daughter could have missed from the candidate as a result of them being blinded by love or because of inexperience and naivety.

Wisdom will not kill you, grandpa loo...!

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