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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Kobicove(m): 12:49pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

Until you have actually married a girl you cannot claim she is yours.

She did what a reasonable person would do in the current circumstances by keeping her options open!

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by ugodson(m): 12:49pm On Dec 15, 2025

My brother RUN. Is better this happened now she wouldn't have denied totally like that.

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by AKWATGOLD1(m): 12:51pm On Dec 15, 2025

Serious RED FLAG. Please let her go because if you accepted her back she might to take revenge on you.

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by pocohantas(f): 12:52pm On Dec 15, 2025

See mouth like city girls.
After scattering yourself with same city girls, you are looking for one naive girl to dump your traumas on. I like as e shock you. Keep testing or remain single. Men don't benefit from marriage

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by CrownedPhoenix: 12:54pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

The point where you revealed the test result is where the problem lies.

If the test was to find out something, take your findings and handle your L quietly by yourself.

Now it's a mess.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Fxwarrior: 1:01pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

If it were just the girl's reaction I would say overlook it but for the mother to say you overreacted is RED flag.

Believe it or not mothers have a strong influence on their daughters. Use the mother's attitude to have a glimpse of the future.

Not saying you should abort though. At the end it's your decision.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Heffalump(m): 1:02pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
I was having some doubts about her loyalty because I'm not friendly with long distance relationship

The problem with your test is that you cut it short abruptly. You were overzealous and couldn't gather enough evidence to score a point. This could also be the reason her mom had the guts to challenge you and her friends begging.

You should have used someone else to represent you at the point the fb chat became cordial. The person would've collected enough video and pictorial views of them together in awkward ways. The examination would have been perfect! There, you got something cogent as collateral evidence. No DENIAL!!!!!!

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by TLAX: 1:04pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

You are a young immature boy who need counselling on many things.

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by vdestro: 1:07pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

You think it's like before when guys would have finished chopping all the city girls then go and marry from the village?

I can not tell you how many village girls that guys I know married and brought to the city who are cheating on their husbands even with their direct neighbours.

Village girls are not like before ooo. They have access to the internet now and are very active online. So now you guys get headache because whether village or city, all the girls of today are the same.

Then Btw, what is all this cousin sister ejooo. Female cousin captures it now.

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Fxwarrior: 1:09pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
The father is late.
Died 6yrs ago

Do you have an idea what killed him. Some men die because of high BP.

Whatever be the case, the mother supporting the daughter in infidelity is a RED flag. Listen to Justice Fumilayo court videos. You'll find something similar.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Johnholmes: 1:09pm On Dec 15, 2025

Woman go stain ur white normally
Don't expect much from women

Look out for ur self first before any woman

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by thinkmoney(m): 1:09pm On Dec 15, 2025

Sonnobax15:

Can any man here boast of his girlfriend? . That she wouldn't fall for this ? Personally, I've tested my own once ,and she fell for it....... Exactly the same way that the op's girlfriend did to him....In fact,from that day,I lost a very huge percentage of my trust on her . And from that the same day,I swore never to trust any woman.

The truth is that, don't put your entire trust on any human,be it a man or a woman...

Una dey date rubbish I swear. It must be down to your mindset and attitude. I have dated over a 100ladies and have never been heartbroken. Yes I boast about this.
I can’t be having it all wrapped up everytime but I don’t have these issues you guys have in relationships

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by eagleonearth(m): 1:21pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
My cousin sister said I should forgive her.
And besides, she made it clear 2 the person that she don't want s3x

you don't sound mature yet you want mature advice.

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by essentialone(m): 1:22pm On Dec 15, 2025

Namaster:
RUN!

Her mother is ANGRY at you for being angry at her daughter's INFIDELITY.

RUN!

This woman will help her daughter to ABORT a pregnancy that resulted from her daughter's INFIDELITY.

Plus, you haven't mentioned the FATHER.
So she sounds like a SINGLE MOTHER.

AVOID single mothers!
AVOID the daughters of single mothers.

RUN!

Drink anything you are fond of. I will pay for it. Thanks for saving me stress. You wrote everything I would have said.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Chijeep(op): 1:24pm On Dec 15, 2025

AKWATGOLD1:
Serious RED FLAG. Please let her go because if you accepted her back she might to take revenge on you.

Thanks. Seems like that exactly what I'll do

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Chijeep(op): 1:26pm On Dec 15, 2025

😢😢😢
Why I want to forgive is because of my cousin, as she's in the village and knows how parols are been runned there

eagleonearth:
you don't sound mature yet you want mature advice.

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by michoim(m): 1:27pm On Dec 15, 2025

Diamond098454:
Your insecurity is alarming and it's a sign of a weak man. You you you Mr tester hope you will pass when she test you in her own way?

You are not ready for marriage

This response of yours is fierce & nonsensical!!!

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by olaolulazio(m): 1:28pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
I was having some doubts about her loyalty because I'm not friendly with long distance relationship

you are not ready for marriage. They all fail test bro

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by RillJ(m): 1:28pm On Dec 15, 2025

RUNooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Chijeep(op): 1:31pm On Dec 15, 2025

Heffalump:
The problem with your test is that you cut it short abruptly. You were overzealous and couldn't gather enough evidence to score a point. This could also be the reason her mom had the guts to challenge you and her friends begging.

You should have used someone else to represent you at the point the fb chat became cordial. The person would've collected enough video and pictorial views of them together in awkward ways. The examination would have been perfect! There, you got something cogent as collateral evidence. No DENIAL!!!!!!

This was what my cousin told me to do.
But I don't know how to act nice when I know that the person have wronged me so much.
I couldn't bear it and when she started chatting me challenging me of not chatting her since morning my mind pushed me to open everything on her

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by shortgun(m): 1:31pm On Dec 15, 2025*

I already see them gaslighting you with the insecurity nonsense.
There's nothing wrong with the test you did, it clearly shows you know what you want in a woman and she's not the woman for you.

Don't fall for the lie that all the girls are like that. There are many faithful girls out there who once they enter into a relationship with you, they become blind and deaf to all other men advances.

The faithful girls are out there, just keep searching and of course keep testing until you find the right one.
Never make the mistake of bringing a girl who belongs to the street home as a wife, the street will never forgive you.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Dfather1(m): 1:32pm On Dec 15, 2025

Sonnobax15:

Can any man here boast of his girlfriend? . That she wouldn't fall for this ? Personally, I've tested my own once ,and she fell for it....... Exactly the same way that the op's girlfriend did to him....In fact,from that day,I lost a very huge percentage of my trust on her . And from that the same day,I swore never to trust any woman.

The truth is that, don't put your entire trust on any human,be it a man or a woman...

I am 100% sure that my girl can not fall for this. She is too loyal

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by neonly: 1:32pm On Dec 15, 2025

Baronthecelebri:
Don't go ahead with her, abort mission

Best advice since reading this post well make I continue to read comments

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Chijeep(op): 1:32pm On Dec 15, 2025

Fxwarrior:
If it were just the girl's reaction I would say overlook it but for the mother to say you overreacted is RED flag.

Believe it or not mothers have a strong influence on their daughters. Use the mother's attitude to have a glimpse of the future.

Not saying you should abort though. At the end it's your decision.

Thanks, it's this same mother's act that made me to come online for clarification

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Ishilove: 1:32pm On Dec 15, 2025

pointblank247:
thank God that she made it clear to the "other guy" that sex would not be involved, a condition she didn't give to you. Meaning, the "other guy" was just a plan B Incase you disappoint her. Most Nigerian girls watching Nollywood are like that. You are still the main guy in her life.

The only realistic comment describing the motive for her actions. The other person is just a plan B, hence the caveat of no rush and no sex.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Chijeep(op): 1:33pm On Dec 15, 2025

pocohantas:
See mouth like city girls.
After scattering yourself with same city girls, you are looking for one naive girl to dump your traumas on. I like as e shock you. Keep testing or remain single. Men don't benefit from marriage

😢😢😢

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by eagleonearth(m): 1:33pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
😢😢😢
Why I want to forgive is because of my cousin, as she's in the village and knows how parols are been runned there

everything about your statement screams of immaturity. Can you please chill for a while and forget about marriage. Learn to be a man inorder to be able to face this journey called life. Involve God Almighty in this learning process and let him also help you to select a life partner. That mother in-law will skin you if you ask me from her reactions when the journey has not even started. I say this because I can sense that you are too emotional, chai. A man do not harbour emotions but go the way of logic. Women ditch logic and go emotional and that is why a woman left to herself brings about destruction in most cases. Don't give a hoot about your cousin because when the chips are down in the marriage, you alone will face it. Either your cousin gets you another lady or you do that yourself prayerfully.

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Nelochukwu: 1:33pm On Dec 15, 2025

Namaster:
RUN!

Her mother is ANGRY at you for being angry at her daughter's INFIDELITY.

RUN!

This woman will help her daughter to ABORT a pregnancy that resulted from her daughter's INFIDELITY.

Plus, you haven't mentioned the FATHER.
So she sounds like a SINGLE MOTHER.

AVOID single mothers!
AVOID the daughters of single mothers.

RUN!

Best advise. Very bad mother.

Op shud run ooo

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Snow2six(m): 1:34pm On Dec 15, 2025

If una de select select all d good gals dem marry, na who wuna wan com leave d bad ones for?? Bros manage her like dt

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Ishilove: 1:35pm On Dec 15, 2025

Chijeep:
Thanks, it's this same mother's act that made me to come online for clarification

Yes, you overreacted because your lady was only trying to secure a Plan B in case you mess her up. She told the phantom guy that there would be no rush and no sex, meaning she was going to keep him on talking stage pending when there is a very firm commitment from you. I don't blame her. Nobody can be trusted, and that includes you.

Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by neonly: 1:37pm On Dec 15, 2025

Guy don't listen to most of the advice here if you like yurself u want to hear d honest truth
RUN
RUN
RUN
And don't look back ok
Otherwise u go cry after fathering another man child for 30yrs
Mind u her mother go dey bleam her for back without u knowing but she can't be against her daughter in public
Na bad family to go der again
Yes Nigerian girls are terrible but good ones still dey just relax

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Re: Red Flag Discovery Gone Wrong. Should I Still Continue This Relationship? by Chijeep(op): 1:40pm On Dec 15, 2025

Neoteny:
Dear Nigerians.

Please stop saying "cousin sister".

There's no such thing

She's either your cousin, or your sister. She certainly can't be both.

Thank you for your attention to this very important matter.

I only tried to be more precise. And besides, cousins are also gender wise right?
That's y I indicated it

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