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SpencerForbes:
If you keep testing, I’m 100% sure you’ll never find a wife. Most Nigerian girls will fail loyalty test even with a ring on their finger. Just look for a woman that can train your kids and respect you Once she’s given birth ensure you take care of the kids. Your purpose should be finding a good mother for your kids.

This isn't making any sense in real life situations. If a woman respects you she will not be playing both sides to begin with. If she finds someone else she will first end it with you then move on to the next. I don't even understand what some of you guys are into. There are girls who will never play two sides at once and I have met them. No one is perfect but as a man you never take a woman who plays both sides seriously. What nonsense is she going to teach the kids

You have trust issue. Anyone that wants to go into a relationship must be ready to trust no matter how bitter the pill is to swallow. Your case study was not necessary at all. You got what you wanted because the lady too might be thinking you were not so serious about her reason she told the fake guy she was single. Move on with her and never set any trap for anyone because no human is infallible.

Run o. . Na this kind person go leave u, go see man for hotel

I don't have anything to tell you; I'm just angry with you. You're very bias. Thanks.

Namaster:
RUN!

Her mother is ANGRY at you for being angry at her daughter's INFIDELITY.

RUN!

This woman will help her daughter to ABORT a pregnancy that resulted from her daughter's INFIDELITY.

Plus, you haven't mentioned the FATHER.
So she sounds like a SINGLE MOTHER.

AVOID single mothers!
AVOID the daughters of single mothers.

RUN!

Hian , you have started again ooooooooo with your savage and brutal response ooooooooo mucheche Hahaha oturugbeke hahaha 😂

Was the lady wrong in her response to your fake identity?

Have you married her or paid her price?

Meeting her mom and your parents nodding positively to your intention does not mean you can't come up tomorrow and start saying a different thing.

If the lady had faked her identity and the reverse now becomes the case, would you even apologize for your mistake? No,

Let the lady be. She was only playing safe thank God she was very clear about no sex.

kiddaz:
This isn't making any sense in real life situations. If a woman respects you she will not be playing both sides to begin with. If she finds someone else she will first end it with you then move on to the next. I don't even understand what some of you guys are into. There are girls who will never play two sides at once and I have met them. No one is perfect but as a man you never take a woman who plays both sides seriously. What nonsense is she going to teach the kids

The truth is, women keep their options open to avoid wasting their prime years. It’s not personal; it’s just biology and common sense. Largely because they operate on a stricter timeline than men. A woman over 23 knows her clock is ticking, so don't expect her to put all her eggs in your basket until she sees a concrete commitment. She’s trying to dodge heartbreak and time-wasters.

The OP is expecting too much too soon. Introduction isn't marriage. Until there’s a ring and a certificate, she’s essentially a free agent. (Still for the street) This is why men are often advised to lower their expectations regarding 'loyalty' if they aren’t marrying a virgin. In this internet age, finding 100% loyalty is rare. If the OP keeps searching for a non-virgin with 'loyalty' as his main requirement, he’s likely setting himself up for disappointment. He needs to focus on other qualities or he’ll keep getting hurt.

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

You are here because you did not complete your underground work fully. It would have been nice if she met the guy, they rendezvous a bit and see how it progresses.

You probably feel she was keeping her chances open in case you disappoint.

I can't make a decision for you. I am wary.

For some reason, i don't think there's love. More like a marraige of circumstances to me.

Guy, you are the red flag. A lady you have not married, who is still free to choose a suitor, and you are trying to set her up. How can you convince me that you are not the red flag here?

Guy cool down! U r planning to marry her u have not, if she were ur wife already or u have done the traditional rites n this happens u can start throwing all these tantrums but as at now u can still disappoint her , which u might do. So don't over react cus she knows she is not urs yet not even by tradition or anything. Cus I see traditional marriage as d real marriage, u add any other one on it. So don't over react , if her character is good which is what u should really look into go for it.

Chijeep:
We've known our genotype.
She have introduced me to her mom and I've told her that my dad is notified already. And 3 of my Aunts have known her. So what else, I don't see any reason why she would deny the fast growing relationship

OP, please don't mind those calling you the red flag. You are in the best position to use what ever means or method in selecting a Life Partner.

For someone you call a partner to deny the relationship even if the two of you haven't met each other's parents or family members calls for immediate concern. That means little breeze of distraction, the partner is tossed off the radar.

She's not yours until you wife her

Even engagement ring you no give

Talk less of promise ring

Very jobless you... See what your testing testing as caused... Be looking for wetin no lost

The same way ladies need options is the same way we males at the back of our minds have backup options

Abeg go and sleep

Shaketable:
Guy cool down! U r planning to marry her u have not, if she were ur wife already or u have done the traditional rites n this happens u can start throwing all these tantrums but as at now u can still disappoint her , which u might do. So don't over react cus she knows she is not urs yet not even by tradition or anything. Cus I see traditional marriage as d real marriage, u add any other one on it. So don't over react , if her character is good which is what u should really look into go for it.

Most of you have criminal minds ,he has been spending money on this particular girl and her mother ,read your comments and think again if what you write up there makes sense even if the Op marries her she will still cheat

ogaprime:
OP, please don't mind those calling you the red flag. You are in the best position to use what ever means or method in selecting a Life Partner.

For someone you call a partner to deny the relationship even if the two of you haven't met each other's parents or family members calls for immediate concern. That means little breeze of distraction, the partner is tossed off the radar.

Don't mind them they all have criminal minds together

Brotherly, your conclusion is vague. You are in a relationship with a girl who you know for a fact you will like to marry, but the question does she feel the same about you or feel secured enough to think I will look away from other guys and stick with this man.. if she has been exposed to dating and relationships you can be rest assured that at the back of her mind, you are just one of those potentials mate to settle down with. she can't see you for your seriousness nor read your mind for it's authenticity towards her. On that note, you are not at fault but their bleeped up experiences.. So in a way. I go say if you like her enough, convinced enough that she might be catch and to make her see a future with you, engage her.. No be all women be olosho, or unworthy of having a proper relationship.. but if you are just looking for testing up and down, my brother.. you go wait tire.. most of this ladies are used to what men tell them to get what men want .. and sometimes, some even like you to share their body with you but trust me, they are not falling heads and toes for any relationship . A typical Nigerian spinster these days, sees a relationship as something that can crash anytime so they always still want to have an open space for alternatives .. you know how many guys don go visit woman, mama and papa and even get close to the family and at the end of the day everything na wash?.. Omo forget loyalty test, as this one doesn't even qualify for one.

sammiewrite:
Shocked to see comments talking about plan B, not putting eggs in one basket or even worst, the ones saying all women or men will fail this test. Like, seriously? But why am I even surprised? Isn't this the same Nigerians who believe in the idea of "workchop?" Zero integrity, but somehow they want their leaders to be faithful and honest.

As for you OP, if you like, allow damaged, dishonest people to mislead you with all those insecurity talks. She denied your papa this one time. Just like Peter in the bible, there are at least two more times she is going to deny you. If you think cheating is only when your girlfriend is sending nudes or doing the do, then think again. And one last thing, let this be the last time you will ever seek advise from or report a woman to another woman.

am equally shocked too

She failed. It's that simple. Never mind the morally loose libtards saying otherwise.

Once you guys have agreed in principle to get married and have informed both your parents, then she's supposed to hold her loyalty to high standards.

If she can't give you loyalty at the proposal phase, then its beyond idiotic to expect her to be loyal when she has become your wife.

She had no business being open to discussing with strangers of the opposite sex on social media, let alone delving into her personal space That only means she has a loose personal barrier and poor inhibitions and is open to dating despite agreeing to your marriage proposal with her mom. That's infidelity gathering its storm. You are advised to take shelter before it rains.

She is still in the dating market holding out in hopes that someone (financially better) will pop up before the wedding date so she can switch lane.

You don't want to settle for such women. She's not attracted to you. You're just a handy escape from her spinsterhood. If she was, every idea of a better dude in the dating market would never crossed her mind. Why would you want to marry a woman who settled for you for lack of opportunity? She would still be in searching mode while breastfeeding your child.

Go up your game and get a woman who values your worth. One for whom no other man exists because thoughts of you sits at the center of her universe.

wildcatter23:


I see absolutely nothing wrong with what the lady did. Infact you are the red flag!

Testing or tricking your fiance is born from a place of insecurity. Do you understand?

And the mother is correct. Why are you making a big deal out of nothing. If she is already married, I will be the first to come for her.

You are just in a relationship. So while at that, she is free to chat and explore her options. You too should be exploring your options.

Moreover, You haven't paid her dowry so she isn't yours yet. So you cannot claim double dating.

While you are looking out for yourself finding the right one, who said she can't look out for the right one for herself.

Guy, you see, a woman should exercise absolute prudence in picking a spouse.

If she chooses wrongly. She will spend her entire life ruing her choices. This is nothing new, expect you weren't experienced.

Heck, she told the fake you no sex.
So, why the fuss?

That's the best response you should be expecting.

As a woman or man, you should keep your options open.

It's up to you to take my advice or leave it.

Lol, look at this guy oh! do you know how many women that told me no sex before we started dating and we still ended up having that same sex on her first visit

3 things you should never negotiate or overlook when looking for a wife:

1. Loyalty
2. respect
3 . And peace of mind.

Just before you say I do, ensure that the lady you want to settle down with has her absolute loyalty for you.

Also, ensure that the lady has great regard and respect for you as a man.

And the last but not the least, 100% make sure that she will give you absolute peace of mind.

You see those 3 attributes, never negotiate them with any woman you want to settle down with. They are not negotiable.

As an OG, I will advise you as if I am advising my own brother. For that lady to have denied that she was never in any relationship, she has no single regard and respect for you as a man. That lady is a typical Olosho. Her loyalty for you is zero.

If you go ahead with her, know that in marriage she will still be flirting and frolicking with other men cuz she lacks zero loyalty as a woman.

She is not a virtue woman. She is a street harlot in disguise.

Remember that this is a girl that you've already made plan to marry. You've met her mother but she is still spreading her tentacles around, entertaining other men and even went as far as denying she has a man.

She lacks loyalty. Dish her and move on. Look for another lady to avoid fathering another man's child in your own house in the future if you proceed with her.

The red flag is on her mother, use your tongue count your teeth.

Diamond098454:
essential..... Today is Sunday

Where's your girlfriend?

Sorry to say this aunt, your profile picture made you look like a trans

Anything you're looking for inside a woman's online profile or phone...you'll surely find it

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

She stays in Abuja right?

Donlexino:
Sorry to say this aunt, your profile picture made you look like a trans

Transgender

Thanks
You don't need to be sorry for your opinion or what you feel like okay.... Diamond Douglas understand very well. In school some people call me goddess while some call me mami

Hope your day was great

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

Her mind still dey outside. Don't marry her.

Smartguyboy:
You want to tie someone daughter down for good?
You haven’t engaged or married her yet so her options are still open , believe me %99.99 will fail the test .

If you want to test her loyalty marry or engage her then put her to the test .

Not when she’s not sure you will marry her or not .

Stop exaggerating please...all women are not the same at all at all! i tested the very good and extraordinary woman i married in so many ways and she never even answered or replied not to talk of falling for it... dey play! u never jam better woman for ur life be that

Hypnotise:
@Op, if she can do this now, I.e lie and deny, in future, she will lie, deny and cheat on you. A woman who really loves you would own you and never deny your position in her life. Her loyalty is questionable.

Gbamsolutely!

Diamond098454:
Transgender

Thanks
You don't need to be sorry for your opinion or what you feel like okay.... Diamond Douglas understand very well. In school some people call me goddess while some call me mami

Hope your day was great

Thanks for not taking my comment so seriously,i could be wrong in my opinion too u know? maybe bcs the picture wasn't too clear to my view! my day was fantastic and how was yours?

Donlexino:
Thanks for not taking my comment so seriously,i could be wrong in my opinion too u know? maybe bcs the picture wasn't too clear to my view! my day was fantastic and how was yours?

very well, thank you.

Neoteny:
Dear Nigerians.

Please stop saying "cousin sister".

There's no such thing

She's either your cousin, or your sister. She certainly can't be both.

Thank you for your attention to this very important matter.

My cousin sister said I should greet you

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

No body is perfect .

The good sign you should take is that she didn't try to explain her mistakes rather she apologized and even asked others to beg you .
It's actually a good sign

Now it's left for you to decide.

Don't bother about her mom

She may nott be seeing it the way you see it

Simple question please: where is the red flag and Bleep up in everything you wrote? Dont you know that whe. Lady's get to certain age, it is logical to be strategic; that is, they tends to be more welcoming of proposals and friendship. It is just not putting ones orange in one basket. Keep playing.

Chijeep:
I was having some doubts about her loyalty because I'm not friendly with long distance relationship