₦airaland Forum

muyico:
no still alot of women dreams

That is primarily because women are still being brainwashed from a young age into believing they have no real life without a Mrs. badge.🥱

You will find a woman who has achieved much more than her male peers, thinking that because she has yet to acquire a Mrs. badge under one of those men who don't have any achievements to measure up to the level that she has, she is not worth celebrating. That is the most stewpid nonsense I have ever had to witness, and I have witnessed it so many times over. It is ridunculous. 🥱🥱

israelmao:
Marriage in line with God's word is never an old fashion God's word is always current.Forever Oh LORD thy word is settled in heaven.Heaven and earth shall pass away not one of your word shall go unfulfilled.

This is a bloody lie that has got many, most especially women, deceived and deluded even to this day. 🥱🥱🥱

orikoku:
Who marriage help. Baby mama's is the way to go.

Even that will change soon as more and more women begin to realize the true cost of their dalliances with men. 🥱🥱🥱

The sad truth

CaptainFM1:
But people are already buying pampas at 25years without marriage. Baby mama's and Baby daddy's are gaining grounds. Even those that married are transitioning to Baby mamas and Baby daddy.

kolafolabi:
✓ Other reasons include fear of failed marriages due to rising divorce rates, financial pressures, lack of trust, unrealistic expectations shaped by social media, and poor communication between partners. Some people also see marriage as stressful or limiting, while others believe love and companionship can exist without formal marriage.
✓ All these factors together are making marriage seem less attractive to many people today, even though it still holds value for those who truly understand and are ready for its responsibilities.

1. Marriage failure has always been a core part of society from the beginning. More women are now realizing that women have never been to blame for it and that the truth has simply been hidden for the most part by sections of society, so that it continues selling marriage as an ultimate dream to women. The marriage abandonment/divorce rate of today is no different from that which existed during the time of our ancestors.

2. Increased visibility into the reality of things in our society, thanks in part to the internet, is what we see happening today.

DeltaBachelor:
I think so. Baby mama springing up everywhere

Even that is going to begin dying off soon as more and more women realize that children are a burden and not a handbag.

oyeb15:
✓Observe your girlfriend mother very well. Study how she control her husband and what she turned d man to.
If u don't like her, you will regret d marriage cos d girl will grow up to be like her mother.

Sadly, a great number of women who do not want marriage happen to be women who were themselves raised by abusive/violent/present-but-absent fathers, the kind many of you prefer to become. 🥱🥱

babz11:
Marriage isn’t old-fashioned, the system that supported it is gone, love now meets harsh reality; bills are louder than romance, roles are unclear, pressure is high, and going in unprepared breaks people; marriage still works, but only with readiness and wisdom, anything else is gambling.

What was love? The suffering of a woman in marriage? 🥱🥱🥱

Hhh4444:
Yes, marriage and relationship are now outdated. Everything has changed,only the blind seem not to notice. Our women are now becoming less feminine,hence making them less attractive for commitment. They believe they are now equal to men and don't wanna submit to any man. Two captains can't be in control of a ship. Women that are supposed to bring peace to their men are now busy bringing chaos. A man goes out to face the chaos of the world and comes back to his house to meet a bigger chaos in his wife. He is likened to a soldier fighting war on all fronts. It's just a matter of time before he is defeated. No man in his right senses will venture into marriage with this present day women.

You got clarity, many are talking about the primary issues that devalued the principles of true cultural marriage.

Have had experience with women, so as other men and every man knows what he deserve in his woman he call wife.

Biblical principles were the cultural values of marriage.

A woman duty is to respect her husband and in return love's and cherish his wife.

A modern man of ancient cultural values can never accept disrespectful woman as a wife.

Fact saying, 70% of men that of marriageable age are capable of running a standard home.
But nobody won marry chaos put for house.

For me , my solitude and peace is very important to my Life, family and future. Nor go let one toxic woman stain my white.

He get the kind wife when you got marry out of lust and emotion, even your kids go blame you why you marry this kind woman as their mother.

To women looking for husband, respect a man he will wife you and you control him with dignity.

Na woman when respect man they fit press he mumu botton.

Dpsychologist:
Let’s be real for a moment this isn’t a troll post, it’s a reality check.

Sometimes I ask myself: is marriage as we knew it simply outdated? Not because love is dead, but because the environment that once supported marriage has fundamentally changed.

Before you get angry, read to understand.

1. The Economy Has Redefined Commitment
In West Africa especially, marriage is no longer just emotional, it’s a financial stress test. As a man, if you’re not reasonably stable, marriage doesn’t bring peace; it brings pressure, anxiety, and in many cases, depression. Love doesn’t pay rent or school fees.

2. The Timeline Has Shifted
Decades ago, a 25-year-old man likely had years of work experience, a steady income, and a clear path.
Today? Many are unemployed graduates, interns, or still “finding themselves.” The system changed, but expectations didn’t.

3. Gender Equality Changed the Market (Not a Bad Thing Just Reality)
Women are educated, empowered, and ambitious and that’s progress. But it also means many now want a fully established man, not someone still under construction. Growth partnerships are rare; finished products are in demand.

4. Marriage Is Now High-Cost, High-Risk
Dowries were once symbolic. Today, some families treat marriage negotiations like asset liquidation.
Cost of living is brutal. Feeding yourself is hard enough add a spouse and children, and the math becomes scary.

5. Roles Are No Longer Clear
Back then, roles were defined (right or wrong). Today, roles are negotiated and negotiation requires emotional intelligence most people were never taught. Some outsource domestic roles. Others resent them. Tension follows.

6. Options Have Exploded
Travel was limited. Communities were smaller. Choices were fewer.
Now? Infinite options, endless comparisons, and constant dissatisfaction. Marriage used to signal responsibility. Today, many see it as a trap.

7. Tolerance Levels Have Dropped
People were more patient then sometimes too patient.
Today, tolerance is low. Exit doors are wide open. One mistake and it’s “I deserve better.”

8. Sex Is No Longer a Scarce Resource
Let’s not pretend. Intimacy once came mostly through marriage. That alone pushed commitment. Today, access is easy, so the incentive structure has changed.

So no, marriage isn’t dead.
But the conditions that made it work effortlessly in the past are gone.

Marriage now requires:

A. Strategy
B. Emotional maturity
C. Financial realism
D. Clear alignment and
E. Brutal honesty

If you’re doing it blindly, you’re gambling.

And before anyone asks
No, this isn’t me talking.
It’s my 95-year-old grandma observing the world and shaking her head.

The end.

Brutal fact especially number 2

Everything written here is the exact reality of this present age. I got married in 2021 and four years on, I'm already feeling the heat

Family
For anyone trying to have a Family, marriage is the only way through which he/she can get it. While as marriage is nothing but a contractual union between man and woman to become husband and wife. Right, duties and responsibilities are well defined.

Courtship
One thing you need to understand is that marriage can't take place immediately until there's a mutual relationship and understanding between the couple involved, a period which we called courtship, families from each side of the country get to each others and their culture and traditions. Still during this period, the couple check their compatibility, values, does and don't, characters and intentions. After passing this stage/period, we then moved to the next stage.

Marriage taking place: (wedding)
Marriage is a legally, socially, and often religiously recognized union between two people as husband and wife, entered into with rights, duties, and responsibilities. (copied)

Key aspects of marriage

••Commitment – long-term, not temporary

••Contractual – there is an agreement between both sides

••Rights & duties – love, care, support, faithfulness

••Family recognition – both families usually involved

Lets ask ourselves these questions:

(1) How many of the nowadays marriages duly follows marriage processes?
(2) How many marriages aren't carried away by worldly and materials stuff?
(3) How marriages aren't meant for show off and bragging?
(4) How many marriages aren't just for beauty contests?
(5) Today, dates are now means in which couples know each other ( why wouldn't I lie in my character or my pocket just to impress my spouse)?
And many more questions that are not helping.

Why wouldn't marriage be an old fashioned stuffed!

No
It is a God Ordained Institution

SpencerForbes:
One thing we often overlook is the "internet factor." With just a swipe, a lady can be talking to a man thousands of miles away. When you have that many options at your fingertips, many ask themselves why they should settle for one when they can keep five on rotation without any strings attached.

The hard truth is that a lot of young girls are actually dodging commitment. They’ve done the math and realized what they stand to lose—the constant attention, the gifts from different "simps," and the financial perks that come with being single and "available." They know that once they’re tied to one man, that tap mostly runs dry.

Then there’s the "packaging" on social media. These content creators post filtered, blissful versions of their relationships, and girls today go into dating expecting that 24/7 romance. They’re chasing a fantasy and forgetting that what happens off-camera is a different story entirely. By the time they realize they’ve been chasing shadows, time is no longer on their side. Honestly, the internet has done more to shake the foundation of marriage than help it.

social media ......

BeautyV:
And what if the couples are finding it hard to conceive? Does that mean they are not yet married?

Ofcourse they are married!
But most times, with little or no commitment to one another which may lead to secracy and infidelity.

But when a child is there, they will be forced to sit up

folake4u:
Yawns.

Nigerians that are getting married everyday.

Divorce rate are also accelerating.

Okay thank you for clarifying it. Now I understand 😊

paxonel:
Ofcourse they are married!
But most times, with little or no commitment to one another which may lead to secracy and infidelity.

But when a child is there, they will be forced to sit up

Marriage isn't old fashion and living in sin is not good...children born outside marriage are illegitimate and bas.tard when there is legal issues you will know your social standing

Stop giving birth to children outside marriage they are illegitimate children and in many societies they are not accorded the full respect even if they have millions

Dpsychologist:
Let’s be real for a moment this isn’t a troll post, it’s a reality check.

Sometimes I ask myself: is marriage as we knew it simply outdated? Not because love is dead, but because the environment that once supported marriage has fundamentally changed.

Before you get angry, read to understand.

1. The Economy Has Redefined Commitment
In West Africa especially, marriage is no longer just emotional, it’s a financial stress test. As a man, if you’re not reasonably stable, marriage doesn’t bring peace; it brings pressure, anxiety, and in many cases, depression. Love doesn’t pay rent or school fees.

2. The Timeline Has Shifted
Decades ago, a 25-year-old man likely had years of work experience, a steady income, and a clear path.
Today? Many are unemployed graduates, interns, or still “finding themselves.” The system changed, but expectations didn’t.

3. Gender Equality Changed the Market (Not a Bad Thing Just Reality)
Women are educated, empowered, and ambitious and that’s progress. But it also means many now want a fully established man, not someone still under construction. Growth partnerships are rare; finished products are in demand.

4. Marriage Is Now High-Cost, High-Risk
Dowries were once symbolic. Today, some families treat marriage negotiations like asset liquidation.
Cost of living is brutal. Feeding yourself is hard enough add a spouse and children, and the math becomes scary.

5. Roles Are No Longer Clear
Back then, roles were defined (right or wrong). Today, roles are negotiated and negotiation requires emotional intelligence most people were never taught. Some outsource domestic roles. Others resent them. Tension follows.

6. Options Have Exploded
Travel was limited. Communities were smaller. Choices were fewer.
Now? Infinite options, endless comparisons, and constant dissatisfaction. Marriage used to signal responsibility. Today, many see it as a trap.

7. Tolerance Levels Have Dropped
People were more patient then sometimes too patient.
Today, tolerance is low. Exit doors are wide open. One mistake and it’s “I deserve better.”

8. Sex Is No Longer a Scarce Resource
Let’s not pretend. Intimacy once came mostly through marriage. That alone pushed commitment. Today, access is easy, so the incentive structure has changed.

So no, marriage isn’t dead.
But the conditions that made it work effortlessly in the past are gone.

Marriage now requires:

A. Strategy
B. Emotional maturity
C. Financial realism
D. Clear alignment and
E. Brutal honesty

If you’re doing it blindly, you’re gambling.

And before anyone asks
No, this isn’t me talking.
It’s my 95-year-old grandma observing the world and shaking her head.

The end.

Oga marriage isn't old fashioned there is a stage as a man you get you get married...if you haven't gotten to that stage ...try and get to that stage

It's maturity
It's financial commitment
It's psychological commitment
It's social and cultural commitment

Society doesn't respect people that are cohabitating..it's sin and kids born outside marriage are illegitimate,I don't want to use the word bas.tard but that is what they are

And it's shameful to live with another persons daughter without doing the right thing ! There is no dignity in it

Gerrard59:
In the Western World? YES. The data shows it - fewer people are marrying and at a much later age.

However, in Nigeria, I doubt as there isn't any conclusive data. Traditionally, many Nigerians look forward to being married. Social media isn't a true representation of socio-cultural lives in Nigeria.

Select list of countries where a majority (over 50%) of adults are currently married, based on recent census and demographic data (roughly 2019–2024). These countries still have marriage as the dominant relationship status among adults.


✅ Countries Where MOST Adults Are Married (50%+)

🌍 Europe

Italy — ~50–52%

France — ~50–51%

United Kingdom — ~51–53%

Switzerland — ~51–52%

Austria — ~50–51%


(Southern & Central Europe tend to remain just above the 50% line)


🌎 Americas

United States — ~51%


(The U.S. is barely above the majority threshold but still qualifies)


🌏 Other Developed / Western-Aligned Countries

Australia — ~50–51%

New Zealand — ~50%


These countries have high cohabitation instead of marriage.


🧠 Key Takeaway

In most Western countries, marriage is no longer the majority status

Where marriage is still dominant, it is usually barely above 50%

Cohabitation though very has replaced marriage in many Northern European societies due to the laws on divorces and alimony and most men try to avoid marriage due to these financial losses not as if they don't want marriage but the laws of divorce

paxonel:
Marriage begins when a child enters the union.
All these formalities called wedding, bride price payment, etc, does not define marriage

You must be a Yoruba person! That's your own people definition of marriage

Well, any child born outside marriage is illegitimate and bas.tard

Cohabitating there is no dignity and respect in that ..go and make money! Get married and do the proper thing

Let your children have legal standing and not raising illegitimate kids everywhere

There is a lot of confusion in Christian marriages in comparison to other religions currently

israelmao:
Marriage in line with God's word is never an old fashion God's word is always current.Forever Oh LORD thy word is settled in heaven.Heaven and earth shall pass away not one of your word shall go unfulfilled.

Talk to someone who knows the law before making legal claims, no illegitimate child under the law

ariesbull:
Marriage isn't old fashion and living in sin is not good...children born outside marriage are illegitimate and bas.tard when there is legal issues you will know your social standing

Stop giving birth to children outside marriage they are illegitimate children and in many societies they are not accorded the full respect even if they have millions

Wealthoptulent:
so werin come they VOGUE oo? TELL ME

Baby mama/daddy

ariesbull:
You must be a Yoruba person! That's your own people definition of marriage

No!
It has been observed that way by reasonable people worldwide that wedding ceremonies does not define marriage.
After the wedding occasion and bride price payment or whatever, are these things going to help sustain marriage?
The answer is no!

Therefore they are absolute waste of time and resources in the real sense.

I did mine few years ago but just recently, we sat down think over it together and concluded that it was waste of time and resources orchestrated by culture and tradition just to satisfy ego

Well, any child born outside marriage is illegitimate

you cannot go to someone's house to declare any of his child illegitimate.
No one has that right

and bas.tard

define the word bastard from your English dictionary and see the difference

Cohabitating there is no dignity and respect in that ..go and make money! Get married and do the proper thing

is there dignity in dating a girl as if you are marrying her?
The answer is yes

Let your children have legal standing and not raising illegitimate kids everywhere

wedding ceremonies does not make a legitimate child.
Even a child that is adopted can also be legitimate.

The essence of this awareness is that, African men should start taking every relationship they have with their woman as serious as marriage.

African men are fun of misbehaving thinking that they will start behaving well after the wedding ceremony.

Wedding ceremony my foot

Steveagro:
There is a lot of confusion in Christian marriages in comparison to other religions currently

Christian marriage is not in confusion only that some people are the ones in confusion.

israelmao:
✓ Christian marriage is not in confusion only that some people are the ones in confusion.

.. and the some people happen to be the Christians, right? Even your pastors are confused since they mostly say one thing but do something else and then end up with profiles and live consequences no different from those of people from other religions and those who don't have or care for religion. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
.. and the some people happen to be the Christians, right? Even your pastors are confused since they mostly say one thing but do something else and then end up with profiles and live consequences no different from those of people from other religions and those who don't have or care for religion. 🥱🥱🥱

You are the one that is confused here.

I didn't say Christian marriage is in confusion. I said there is a lot more confusion i.e high numbers of confused fellows (Identity crises, role debate and conflict, head and submission issues, provision and helper definitions, acceptability of monogamy or polygyny) within Christian marriages in comparison to other religions

israelmao:
Christian marriage is not in confusion only that some people are the ones in confusion.

Steveagro:
I didn't say Christian marriage is in confusion. I said there is a lot more confusion i.e high numbers of confused fellows (Identity crises, role debate and conflict, head and submission issues, provision and helper definitions, acceptability of monogamy or polygyny) within Christian marriages in comparison to other religions

I said some people not some christians.Even you have no empirical evidence to back up your claim that other religion marriages are better than christian marriage so desist from vague claims.

Kobojunkie:
.. and the some people happen to be the Christians, right? Even your pastors are confused since they mostly say one thing but do something else and then end up with profiles and live consequences no different from those of people from other religions and those who don't have or care for religion. 🥱🥱🥱

Have u ever thought of being domesticated?

Lol... make I attach image from marriage registry Abuja few days ago not Saturday o.. work day. Then decide by your self if people are still getting married