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NiRfreak:
Picked or not, it's up to them and hasn't really gotten to that.
I'm most content they are paying their own bills and facing their careers squarely, of which I'm proud of, since through their example I could as well see the possibility that their age group may not all be bad

I am proud of that too and on a serious note, I don't see the issue. While I understand your concern, we need to get rid of the mentality that 30 is some rush-hour age. People do not wither and die a day after 30.
2) They might be dating and keeping it to themselves until engagement. Most women do that. So you cannot be sure until you ask. If it bothers you, ask them. I bet they will answer.

Their ages are perfect to me for current realities. It is only on NL men have stopped marrying 29yo women. I see every age group get married out there. Though the older she is, I notice they both have jobs or have japa'd and came back here to do wedding.

It will happen if they want it and it is their destiny. Until then, they are doing fine. I wish them the best as you seem like a chill guy. They are women anyway. I wish every woman the best.

Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣 Tenrack

Good morning........ Tell me about your night

Was it sweet or good?

good morning dear. Sweet ke. I'm not happy, how could it be sweet? I'm looking for Christmas money

SuperOnyi:



Another dumb and stupid comment hiding behind sarcasm. Do you have any problems with the OP?

problem with OP? NO...... Rather the way you guys treat NL girls and talk down on them is tooooo alarming

I was surprised to hear something like this from a guy in this forum

Tenrack:
good morning dear. Sweet ke. I'm not happy, how could it be sweet? I'm looking for Christmas money

Ooohhh I get it
Don't worry your babe will understand but you can borrow from your dad and mum, sisters and send to her

Diamond098454:
Ooohhh I get it
Don't worry your babe will understand but you can borrow from your dad and mum, sisters and send to her

lmao. Wetin concern me and babe 🤣🤣 I dey talk how I won take send money to Mumsy to prepare for that day. Which foolish babe 😂 babes are for men wey don chop belleful

Stop all this talk of wedding going on. I am in the event management industry and I can tell you for free that weddings have dropped over 50% since 2015. Infact this December season used to be everyday wedding, sometimes we manage 10 weddings in a single day, today getting a wedding event is scarce. Just one wedding per Saturday and you are jubilating. Do you know we have millions of unmarried ladies out there?

SpencerForbes:
It’s a natural thing to feel concerned, but honestly, I suspect they might be the ones holding themselves back. Forget all the 'anti-marriage' talk you see here on the forum; the reality is that weddings are still happening every single Saturday. If they aren't part of that trend yet, it’s likely due to a few things: maybe they are focused on their education, dealing with fear or high expectations, or perhaps it’s just a personal choice they’ve made.

Since you’re their senior, you should approach them with wisdom. You don’t have to be blunt or confrontational to find out where their heads are at. If you find out it’s a deliberate personal decision, then it’s best to let it go. In this day and age, they might even have alternative plans for the future, like surrogacy or other paths.

Besides, if they are as comfortable and 'okay' as you say, they probably don't see any reason to rush into a commitment.

My advice? Try to understand the 'why' behind their status first. If it's a personal choice, respect it. Just be careful not to overstep—if you aren't smart about how you handle it, it’ll come off as meddling and they’ll end up feeling disrespected.

Tenrack:
lmao. Wetin concern me and babe 🤣🤣 I dey talk how I won take send money to Mumsy to prepare for that day. Which foolish babe 😂 babes are for men wey don chop belleful

hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha chaiii........... That's good but naaaa babe supposed come first before mumsy remember na babe dey do the work oooooo

Settle babe then settle mumsy shikina

Sebi it's you men going around screaming that marriage is a scam, who do you now expect to marry your sisters? The same men you keep preaching to not marry? Una never see anything

NiRfreak:
Who also get worried and hopes his sisters gets married off the street to a good man in no distant time? And not suffer the dreaded husband search syndrome of 30+ ladies.. Imagine that your innocent god fearing little sister

Omo how time flies, those sweet little sisters of 16, 17 of yesterday are now hitting 30. Looks unreal. Already graduates, one has Msc
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Although they are doing well job wise for themselves paying their own bills, [/b] but I see myself praying for them to get good husband. Am I the only one having this feeling as a brother. More like I've started counting time for them.
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God abeg o, favour my sisters, They are too young for husband wahala abeg. Even at 29/30 , in my eyes they still feel young and naive.
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the bolded is where the problem lies
Assuming they weren't doing well and paying their bills by now they would have settled.
Team independent women my foot

Jman06:
Honestly, at 29/30 yo, their chances of finding good husbands have become limited as no decent young man with his masculinity intact would want to wife any lady above 27yo.

Their best baits is to search from among widowers, single dads and polygamous men. That's the consequences of not setting one's priorities right and hooking up a decent man when they were much younger. They must have been deceiving themselves that they could get a man whenever they want to marry

Walai:
Stop all this talk of wedding going on. I am in the event management industry and I can tell you for free that weddings have dropped over 50% since 2015. Infact this December season used to be everyday wedding, sometimes we manage 10 weddings in a single day, today getting a wedding event is scarce. Just one wedding per Saturday and you are jubilating. Do you know we have millions of unmarried ladies out there?

If you’re an insider in the industry, then I have to agree with you. I remember how weddings were still a major trend back in 2020 and 2021, but things have clearly shifted. This economy is teaching men to be more prudent with their resources and peace of mind.

Beyond the economy, the attitude of some women post-wedding isn't helping matters; many turn into 'tigers' the moment the ring is on. When you add the constant news of paternity fraud and divorces, it’s no wonder why many men are consciously boycotting marriage.

The truth is, if there was an stress-free way to have kids without all these risks, many men would take that option quickly. People are simply prioritizing their peace of mind over marriage traditions these days.

Bro, I still blame this whole thing on the economy. Women unlike men can't handle difficult times. They can do anything to survive.


In the West, their women started misbehaving because of the feminist centered laws they made, handing over power to women which unfortunately they can't handle.

But here in Nigeria, economy contributed a lot.
Back in the 90's and early 2000's. A man graduates, gets a job with minimum wage and is able to support marriage with his earnings. For clear emphasis, minimum wage can get you three bags of rice then with change still remaining to buy other things. The poorest of the poor can easily have access to food.
But the story have changed now. Women being unable to handle difficult times openly embraced hook up culture seen as a taboo in recent past.
I read a book about thousands of French, Polish and even Jewish ladies that embraced and became foster wives to invading Nazi soldiers that killed their fathers and brothers just to survive.
What I'm saying is that Nigerian men became poorer and powerless and the ladies adopted sleeping with multiple men and other bitchy behaviors just to survive. This led to marriage collapse.

SpencerForbes:
If you’re an insider in the industry, then I have to agree with you. I remember how weddings were still a major trend back in 2020 and 2021, but things have clearly shifted. This economy is teaching men to be more prudent with their resources and peace of mind.

Beyond the economy, the attitude of some women post-wedding isn't helping matters; many turn into 'tigers' the moment the ring is on. When you add the constant news of paternity fraud and divorces, it’s no wonder why many men are consciously boycotting marriage.

The truth is, if there was an stress-free way to have kids without all these risks, many men would take that option quickly. People are simply prioritizing their peace of mind over marriage traditions these days.

Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha chaiii........... That's good but naaaa babe supposed come first before mumsy remember na babe dey do the work oooooo

Settle babe then settle mumsy shikina

you don dey turn troll🤣🤣

NiRfreak:
Who also get worried and hopes his sisters gets married off the street to a good man in no distant time? And not suffer the dreaded husband search syndrome of 30+ ladies.. Imagine that your innocent god fearing little sister

Omo how time flies, those sweet little sisters of 16, 17 of yesterday are now hitting 30. Looks unreal. Already graduates, one has Msc

Although they are doing well job wise for themselves paying their own bills, but I see myself praying for them to get good husband. Am I the only one having this feeling as a brother. More like I've started counting time for them.
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God abeg o, favour my sisters, They are too young for husband wahala abeg. Even at 29/30 , in my eyes they still feel young and naive.
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Why do you worry about things you have no control over? I mean it’s enough you pray, have faith, your sisters in their wisdom will in time chose what’s best for them. Best believe.

dominique:
Sebi it's you men going around screaming that marriage is a scam, who do you now expect to marry your sisters? The same men you keep preaching to not marry? Una never see anything

No still mean say no be scam in most cases. Mam go just busy inherit wahala. You take care of a woman who might destroy you later because you no be blood. Abeg abeg.

Men all you can do is to pray for your sisters and let them face reality of getting a life partner themselves.

You are a man that understand true men want to marry a modern woman with an ancient cultural values of marriage.

I tell people, 70% of men of marriageable age are capable of running a standard home but no one wants to marry chaos as a wife.


I'm a modern man with an ancient cultural values of marriage and my clarity can only marry a modern woman with ancient cultural values of marriage.


There is no pain to feel man, just believe with prayers.

Tell them the truth, woman when respect man na still they press he mumu botton.
Men will do anything to wife a woman that truly have discipline and respectful character of building a home.

I pray God give me at least a sister in my next life.

Tohsynetita1:
Can I meet them?

You want wet

NiRfreak:
Who also get worried and hopes his sisters gets married off the street to a good man in no distant time? And not suffer the dreaded husband search syndrome of 30+ ladies.. Imagine that your innocent god fearing little sister

Omo how time flies, those sweet little sisters of 16, 17 of yesterday are now hitting 30. Looks unreal. Already graduates, one has Msc

Although they are doing well job wise for themselves paying their own bills, but I see myself praying for them to get good husband. Am I the only one having this feeling as a brother. More like I've started counting time for them.
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God abeg o, favour my sisters, They are too young for husband wahala abeg. Even at 29/30 , in my eyes they still feel young and naive.
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Post their pics
Let me help u take one

No" good man" out there marriage is not a bed of roses.

Is he making money from it. Is he decent? Does he have plans to have something doing. You know it may only. Be his present predicament

NiRfreak:
Bro, if na your sister, Shay you go fit recommend a jobless betnaija player. You can do better, I pray God answer your call next year

franchasng:
It's normal for all men, not just brothers, fathers too worry about this the most


My suggestion?

You need to have a man-to-sister talks with them individually, that's if you have a close relationship with them and if they respect you.


Make them understand some of the realities on ground when it comes to today's economy, finding love and getting married. They must understand that due to failed leaders like Tinubu and co, Nigerian youths, especially guys are not finding life easy financially. And it is when a man finds his fit financially that he starts thinking of settling down; at least most reasonable guys. And because of failed leaders and failed Nigerian government, many young guys are struggling even after graduating from the university and even after acquiring postgraduate degree certificates.


This has made many ripe and overripe single guys pretend like they dislike marriage, it's not true, most Nigerians desire to marry (male and female) but most times financial difficulties make them act like they don't wish to marry, they all do, forget internet banters and pretense.


My point?

Making your sisters understand that it's not easy to find a rich, handsome, God fearing man to marry presently based on the realities of today will bring their senses to reality. Yes they can still find a rich, handsome, Godly husband but the possibilities are very slim, we all know this.


Many guys today start getting financially stable from 38yrs due to failed government and leaders, so bearing this in mind, they must lower their expectations from men when it comes to financial status especially. Since they have good jobs, they should focus on other good and futuristic qualities in a man, qualities like; empathy, does the man have empathy, conscience, does the guy have human conscience, fear of God, does the guy fear and reverence God? Not being born again oh or being fire bred brother in Christ, I said fear of God, does he have absolute fear and reverence for God?


Is he ambitious in reality not just in words? Is he making serious efforts to become better financially? Is he street smart? Does he have sellable ideas and making efforts? If he is lazy, flee! If he is violent, flee! Does he respect his dad? This is very important. Is he nice to strangers, neighbors and friends? If he is mean and always acting mean to people around him, flee! If he believes in get rich quick, flee.


Above all, make your sisters also understand that most financially stable guys who appear to be the dream man of most ladies are already married, yes. If they see any guy that have a good paying job or business, drives a very lovely car, dresses well and have a kind of settled and attractive lifestyle, he is most likely married, especially in Nigeria


They should focus on building with a sensible guy with conscience and empathy, there are many of them. I have some of them I can recommend but I am always scared of matchmaking.


Your sisters must work very hard not to offer sex to guys too early, any guy rushing for sex is on a fast lane, he is probably married or looking for just fling miracle do happen though but not always. In every rule there are exceptions but it's always better to follow the rules to be safe than to be sorry.


They must not look down on any guy.


Unfortunately many ladies fail to realize that their future husband is usually among:


1.) Their school mates

2.) Online, yes online if you apply wisdom as already explained. But not on hookup Apps, you see forums like this, you see Twitter/x, you see general platforms for news, comedies, business, etc

3.) Their hometown, especially for Igbo ladies, try and be visiting home during Christmas season like now.



But most importantly, single ladies today must be realistic with the current economic situation of Nigeria and you must not make yourself look too sophisticated that potential single guys will be scared to approach you such that it will be only financially buoyant and bold married men like will be the ones approaching you, if you make yourself that kind of lady that appear too sophisticated and too hard to approach, na married men you go de end up with last last


Don't reject matchmaking, be nice to older women, men, your husband could be in their hands.



Above all, they must not neglect their feminity and physical beauty/appearance cos it matters a lot oh.



I wish your sisters the best

I wish I can give you many likes. Wisdom shall not depart from thee

NiRfreak:
Who also get worried and hopes his sisters gets married off the street to a good man in no distant time? And not suffer the dreaded husband search syndrome of 30+ ladies.. Imagine that your innocent god fearing little sister

Omo how time flies, those sweet little sisters of 16, 17 of yesterday are now hitting 30. Looks unreal. Already graduates, one has Msc

Although they are doing well job wise for themselves paying their own bills, but I see myself praying for them to get good husband. Am I the only one having this feeling as a brother. More like I've started counting time for them.
.
God abeg o, favour my sisters, They are too young for husband wahala abeg. Even at 29/30 , in my eyes they still feel young and naive.
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Your two sisters dont they have bf?

Marriage or no marriage, your sisters and everybody go dey alright.

Stop the worry.

franchasng:
Some of you guys are the reason the ladies are replying the way they did on this thread, just reread your comments, it doesn't make sense.

What is wrong with marrying a 34yrs old lady, and you are here making it look like a big deal marrying 29/30yrs old ladies? People are marrying ladies above 40yrs, I know some that did and they are living absolutely fine and their wives even look hotter than the under 30 ladies. You better change your orientation oh


For your information, I married my wife when she was 29yrs approaching 30.


And guess what? We have our beautiful kids that give me super joy today without a single delay.


I know the issue is most of you have wrong notion and belief about women's fertility and childbearing. You guys believe ladies around 29/30 won't give birth easily which is totally wrong.

I am not mocking anyone, just for the sake of this thread, let me share my real life experience with you guys.


I married my wife 29 going 30yrs and immediately after our wedding she took in and had our first baby without delay.

Unfortunately I have 3 friends who married their wives at; 24, 25 and 26. All of them had serious childrearing delay. The one that married his at 24 had 8 years delay. They even resorted to IVF which all failed twice. It was prayers and God's intervention that made them later had a child. The other one just had his not long ago, it was close to 7yrs too.


My point, these things are all in God's hands and your destiny in life also matters plus your family background and the spiritual battles in your family and your wife's family too, those are the things that cause delay in giving birth in Nigeria. Some come from men too, a lot of men are not potent but won't know cos they can still ejaculate spm.


My point?

There is nothing wrong in marrying 29, 30, 31, etc ladies.



In fact while single I never liked the idea of marrying any girl below 28yrs, I always knew I would marry someone mature and sensible, though there are ladies that are very sensible and mature at even 22yrs, so all these things are individual based. Just pray to marry the right person, someone that have human conscience, empathy, zero or less spiritual baggages and from a good/reasonable family. All these age and other things don't usually matter at the long run.


Until you guys marry, you won't understand some things about life and marriage sha


If you make sex and sexual matters (she must be a virgin this, body count that) a top priority in deciding who to marry, take it from me, you will most likely end up marrying the wrong person that will make you regret ever getting married.

Well said. Thanks for sharing this beautiful piece.

If you make sex and sexual matters (she must be a virgin this, body count that) a top priority in deciding who to marry, take it from me, you will most likely end up marrying the wrong person that will make you regret ever getting married

Can you please shed more light on this?

Very funny thread.

Life indeed humbles us all.

VaginaAcademic:
No" good man" out there marriage is not a bed of roses.

Those they call good men typically turn out weapons fashioned against women. I recall reading, not too long ago, a thread where a brother detailed how the good man he introduced to his sister turned out to be a weapon of abuse against her life. He claimed he knew the guy for 8 years and believed he would be best for his sister, but the opposite turned out to be the case.

Sirchiboy:
Your two sisters dont they have bf?

I don't know, and I'm only concerned about marriage

njelrapheal:
Is he making money from it. Is he decent? Does he have plans to have something doing. You know it may only. Be his present predicament

Who makes money from Betnaija that is sustainable enough to cater for bills? Are you?

Ebenezer2021:
the bolded is where the problem lies
Assuming they weren't doing well and paying their bills by now they would have settled.
Team independent women my foot

Don't you pray for your daughters to get a job and fend for themselves after you must have sponsored them to school?

He said he only plays bet. So I assume that maybe sustaining him for now. Who knows

NiRfreak:
Who makes money from Betnaija that is sustainable enough to cater for bills? Are you?

njelrapheal:
He said he only plays bet. So I assume that maybe sustaining him for now. Who knows

Betnaija is an evil everyman must fight . The worst devil not worth depending on

Tenrack:
No still mean say no be scam in most cases. Mam go just busy inherit wahala. You take care of a woman who might destroy you later because you no be blood. Abeg abeg.

It is always the poverty-ridden entities going around claiming they took care of women. How much do you give or pay her for all she does that you believe in your delusion that you take care of her? 🥱🥱🥱