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Kalatium:
➜Let’s have a grown-up conversation without pretending we don’t understand incentives.
Sex and provision are not weapons; they are foundational exchanges in marriage. When either side deliberately withholds what sustains the union, the relationship starts to rot.
If sex is repeatedly withheld in marriage without medical, emotional, or exceptional reasons creates frustration, resentment, and emotional distance. This isn’t theory. It’s reality. A man whose core needs are consistently unmet will eventually seek relief elsewhere: emotionally, financially, or physically. Not because he is evil, but because deprivation has consequences.
➜ At the same time, using money as leverage is also destructive. Provision should not be transactional blackmail, just as intimacy should not be treated as a bargaining chip. Marriage is not a power struggle; it’s a partnership.
➜ The uncomfortable truth many avoid is this: You don’t enter marriage just for love . You enter it for companionship, intimacy, loyalty, support, and yes regular sexual access.
➜ If someone enters marriage already unwilling to meet those needs, then the issue isn’t just the partner, it’s a mismatch in expectations.

Kobojunkie:
1. If the man is done with the marriage, he can rightly seek divorce; choosing to commit adultery— a blatant violation of the marriage agreement which he seeks to hold on to —is what makes the man an evil, despicable being. The same way society does not allow a woman to commit adultery when she is deprived is the same as a man who pleads deprivation when caught cheating is nothing but a scumbag.

2. Wrong! The Traditional configuration of marriage is not a partnership but rather a master/slave agreement.

3. Love, companionship, and sex are not the basic requirements of marriage, as people are generally able to configure their marriage as they see fit.

3. In the case of a marriage mismatch, the legal next step is divorce; divorce has been available as a legal out to all married individuals for over 10 thousand years.

Kalatium:
✓ Because you think you are right doesn't mean i am wrong.
You have your point and i have mine.

Kobojunkie:
Two conflicting matters cannot be true at the same time. Either one is right and the other is wrong or both are wrong. 🥱🥱

What I focused on in my response to you were the facts, and not opinions. Opinions cannot trump facts. 🥱🥱

Kalatium:
➜Has it ever occurred to you that what you think is conflicting might not really be conflicting but just how you see it.
For example, it was battled in the beginning of 20th century whether light is a matter or a form of energy but the debate was that it was never both. Years later it was discovered it was both. Light exist as both matter and energy.
In summary. Life is not a zero sum game. It's not everytime that how you think things are means its the objective reality for everyone.

Kobojunkie:
This subject isn't about life but about the supposed rightness of general opinions held by some humans regarding the freedoms of other humans. And there is absolutely no way an opinion should be raised above a fact, which is that all humans are free to act according to their rights by law, not by the opinions of society.

Kobojunkie:
Two conflicting matters cannot be true at the same time. Either one is right and the other is wrong or both are wrong. 🥱🥱...

See how you contradict and confuse yourself?You said "Two conflicting matters cannot be true at the same time" only for you to say "both are wrong. "That is you affirming that two conflicting matters can be right.

Diamond098454:
I wonder how married women cope with the excessive demands of sex from there husband

Dpsychologist:
It will shock you that some men are running away from their wives high libido.

Diamond098454:
I wonder how married women cope with the excessive demands of sex from there husband

Kobojunkie:
. It should be dealt with in the same way non-married people cope with excessive demands for sex from their partners. The one with the problem learns to better handle their need rather than attempt to impose it on the other human. Most people know to adopt sexual discipline before and while dating. There is no reason why such sexual disciplines should be thrown out the door after marriage. If the partner feels he/she can find better outside of the marriage, then there is also divorce, which is a legal way out of marriage.

It is never the responsibility of one partner to needlessly suffer to satisfy the other partner.

Diamond098454:
absolutely correct✅
The demand is becoming much especially from men even in a relationship they feel entitled to the extent he won't allow any man come close to you

Diamond098454:
what? No no no I don't believe you

Dpsychologist:
Just because you haven't seen it or don't believe me doesn't doesn't negate my statement nor does it make it false either.

Kobojunkie:
This subject isn't about life but about the supposed rightness of general opinions held by some humans regarding the freedoms of other humans. There is absolutely no reason why an opinion should be raised above a fact; all humans are free to act according to their rights by law, regardless of the opinions of society.

Kalatium:
➜So facts is what you believe to be true right?

Kobojunkie:
A fact is a truth. 🥱🥱

Fyi, an opinion is not a statement of truth.

Kalatium:
➜You couldn't even answer the yes or no question.

Kobojunkie:
Are you for real?

Kobojunkie:
Two conflicting matters cannot both be true. Either one is right, and the other is wrong, or both are wrong. 🥱🥱

What I focused on in my response to you was the facts, and not opinions. Opinions cannot/do not trump facts. 🥱🥱