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Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by Diamond098454(f): 10:28pm On Dec 19, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
U right. It is man's nature to want to sex a woman he hadn't sexed before if there are no bad consequences
my problem is they will make you understand they have feelings for you

They should keep it to themselves and buried it. Than collecting your contact calling and sending unwanted gifts

It doesn't make sense men should try and control themselves
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:28pm On Dec 19, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
The other way round.
Every man of means or status is attractive to women. Almost all men are NOT attracted to old women or fat and shapeless, yet they have same hole
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This one, I doff my hat to you, especially the bold.
You will see one guy that looks like dwarf, his face is like a mix between a goat and a vulture. He has the lips of a buffalo and stumped legs like that of a racoon or badger. But this man is a billionaire and almost EVERY woman will lust after him.

A little anecdote.
One day years ago my friend and I were having dinner at a restaurant on the Island by the lagoon. There was a beautiful small Yacht/ Boat we were admiring parked by the water and we were dreaming about the day we would own a thing like that. This fabulously ugly and ill dressed man walked up to us and said, "you like my boat right?" We just laughed and said in your dreams. He sha sat down beside us and said he is waiting for his chic.

Lo and behold, the goddess that walked in not long after. Beyonce, Princess Diana, got nothing on her. The chap just said, see you guys later and hopped into the boat with the chic while we were struggling to pick up our jaws from the floor. They zoomed off and returned about two hours later with the woman looking suitably roughed up.

That guy could have passed for a spare parts dealer at Lawanson.
Money talks, BS walks.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:32pm On Dec 19, 2025
Diamond098454:
my problem is they will make you understand they have feelings for you

They should keep it to themselves and buried it. Than collecting your contact calling and sending unwanted gifts

It doesn't make sense men should try and control themselves
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So you do not see women who run after men?
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:33pm On Dec 19, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
You keep thinking women sexual attraction is like men's. For most women sex the physical act is a tiny part of aexual attraction - it is the whole man and his circumstances and things that surround him
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I more than understand this point, but you seem to ignore the actual primal sexual desires of women. You really really do.
Also you are talking about more than actual sex here, and what you are talking about almost borders on love, which is different. It also almost borders on secure choices, which are different.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by Diamond098454(f): 10:34pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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So you do not see women who run after men?
I do but they are not much
It's few unlike men
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:35pm On Dec 19, 2025
Diamond098454:
I do but they are not much
It's few unlike men
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Dem boku oh.

Women's ways are just different.
A man can think he chased a woman and be totally unaware that she was the one who programmed him first.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo: 10:35pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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This one, I doff my hat to you, especially the bold.
You will see one guy that looks like dwarf, his face is like a mix between a goat and a vulture. He has the lips of a buffalo and stumped legs like that of a racoon or badger. But this man is a billionaire and almost EVERY woman will lust after him.

A little anecdote.
One day years ago my friend and I were having dinner at a restaurant on the Island by the lagoon. There was a beautiful small Yacht/ Boat we were admiring parked by the water and we were dreaming about the day we would own a thing like that. This fabulously ugly and ill dressed man walked up to us and said, "you like my boat right?" We just laughed and said in your dreams. He sha sat down beside us and said he is waiting for his chic.

Lo and behold, the goddess that walked in not long after. Beyonce, Princess Diana, got nothing on her. The chap just said, see you guys later and hopped into the boat with the chic while we were struggling to pick up our jaws from the floor. They zoomed off and returned about two hours later with the woman looking suitably roughed up.

That guy could have passed for a spare parts dealer at Lawanson.
Money talks, BS walks.
grin grin
Exactly. Regina said she was truly in love with Ned, not his money, and I believe her. It was because of his status and things that surround him
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by Diamond098454(f): 10:36pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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Dem boku oh.

Women's ways are just different.
A man can think he chased a woman and be totally unaware that she was the one who programmed him first.
hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha nawa for you oooooo
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:39pm On Dec 19, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
grin grin
Exactly. Regina said she was truly in love with Ned, not his money, and I believe her. It was because of his status and things that surround him
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Sure. Too sure. She's a kid tho.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:39pm On Dec 19, 2025
Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha nawa for you oooooo
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I say I am experienced, you are doubting me.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo: 10:41pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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I more than understand this point, but you seem to ignore the actual primal sexual desires of women. You really really do.
Also you are talking about more than actual sex here, and what you are talking about almost borders on love, which is different. It also almost borders on secure choices, which are different.
We are talking about MOST women. And with most women sex ALWAYS borders on love. Which is why a man is told to be very careful if his wife sleeps with another man. With men it can be just sex
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by Diamond098454(f): 10:42pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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I say I am experienced, you are doubting me.
honestly ......... A lot of bad guys here oooooo
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo: 10:43pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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Sure. Too sure. She's a kid tho.
People used to marry at 15. She was 19
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:47pm On Dec 19, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
We are talking about MOST women. And with most women sex ALWAYS borders on love. Which is why a man is told to be very careful if his wife sleeps with another man. With men it can be just sex
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Bro, maybe you still dont know that with women, it can be just sex. Many times, so many times.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by udder: 10:48pm On Dec 19, 2025
cucumbar:
go for a check up , because what you described isn’t normal .
Check up after how many years?
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo: 10:53pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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Bro, maybe you still dont know that with women, it can be just sex. Many times, so many times.
Believe me, with most normal women sex is intertwined with love. Example, you can have great sex consistently with a guy but he'll still love his wife. But if you have great sex with a woman better than her husband, she'll fall in love with you!
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:55pm On Dec 19, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
People used to marry at 15. She was 19
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Still a kid. And a manipulated one at that.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 10:56pm On Dec 19, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
Believe me, with most normal women sex is intertwined with love. Example, you can have great sex consistently with a guy but he'll still love his wife. But if you have great sex with a woman better than her husband, she'll fall in love with you!
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Addicted, not necessarily love.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by Mattswaggz: 10:58pm On Dec 19, 2025
judewrites:
Masturbation does a lot of harm spiritually.

Chronic masturbation can affect your self esteem, confidence and purpose.
Tales by moonlight......stop interchanging indiscipline with Masturbation....there is nothing spiritual in it.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by Mattswaggz: 11:00pm On Dec 19, 2025
udder:
Even masturbation is not safe.

Once got thick semen stuck at the base of my urethra. I was unaware for 2 days until I started having difficulty urinating.
Instead of masturbating again, I started forcing it out gradually with several urinations not knowing I was irritating my urethra.

The burning pain started the following day. If I was sexually active, I would have concluded I had an infection - the only difference was there was no discharge.

The irritation disappeared after a week without treatment.

Moral of the story is - No enjoyment without risk. Life is short and something must kill a man. STDs are overrated and usually treatable.
Most people abuse masturbation a lot and you might fallen under such category...that could be why.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by udder: 11:03pm On Dec 19, 2025
maasoap:
You see, I knew all along that something was wrong with you, this just proved it. This is not a mentality of a normal human being
What is wrong with you?
A normal human is a person that thinks like you. Noted.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by udder: 11:06pm On Dec 19, 2025
Mattswaggz:
Most people abuse masturbation a lot and you might fallen under such category...that could be why.
That is not why. Nothing like masturbation abuse.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo: 11:06pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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Still a kid. And a manipulated one at that.
Has nothing to do with age. Lots of older women will likewise fall in love with Nwoko but he wanted her. It's what surrounds him
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo: 11:13pm On Dec 19, 2025
DeepSight:
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Addicted, not necessarily love.
Understand, sex happens inside a woman. They don't just withdraw their dick and walk away. They carry the person's semen around and can get pregnant. That's why hookers are usually heartless - they need to remove emotion to work or they can't do it. Men on the other hand, that's their default setting. Infact they'd feel happy having sex with different, different women.
Of all the queens and powerful women in history, do you know any that ever had a harem of boys to service her? No matter how rich, a woman wants ONE special man!
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by Mattswaggz: 11:24pm On Dec 19, 2025
udder:
That is not why. Nothing like masturbation abuse.
There is everything like masturbation abuse...... because they can get it at will without spending time, money, resource et al they tend to do it much more than needed even when their bodies begin to show signs of overdoing it they still can't stop or restrict it because it's easy to achieve at will unlike normal sex. grin .
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by judewrites: 11:32pm On Dec 19, 2025
Mattswaggz:
Tales by moonlight......stop interchanging indiscipline with Masturbation....there is nothing spiritual in it.
😂😂😂
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m): 12:08am On Dec 20, 2025
DiarisGodoo:
Understand, sex happens inside a woman.
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Sex happens between two people.

They don't just withdraw their dick and walk away.
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Neither do men always do that and women many times do the same, even absent dixx.

They carry the person's semen around and can get pregnant. That's why hookers are usually heartless - they need to remove emotion to work or they can't do it. Men on the other hand, that's their default setting. Infact they'd feel happy having sex with different, different women.
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You just dont understand that many women are equally happy to have sex with several men, no strings attached.

Of all the queens and powerful women in history, do you know any that ever had a harem of boys to service her?
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I can actually cite many in history.

No matter how rich, a woman wants ONE special man!
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This is patriarchy and male chauvinism writ large. Men often also want one special woman, especially romantic men. And many times, women also want and have several men. This is a fact.

All said and done I am not sure about your level of exposure to women. You seem to talk about them in traditional terms.
Women are far wilder than that.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo: 12:53am On Dec 20, 2025
DeepSight:
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Sex happens between two people.


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Neither do men always do that and women many times do the same, even absent dixx.


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You just dont understand that many women are equally happy to have sex with several men, no strings attached.


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I can actually cite many in history.


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This is patriarchy and male chauvinism writ large. Men often also want one special woman, especially romantic men. And many times, women also want and have several men. This is a fact.

All said and done I am not sure about your level of exposure to women. You seem to talk about them in traditional terms.
Women are far wilder than that.
You keep arguing something that has been settled since human existence. MALE AND FEMALE SEXUALITY ARE NOT SAME!!! Primarily due to BIOLOGY, the ingrained need to have have our gebes survive mandates different secuality!

I think I know what the problem is - your experience has been with women who have sex for money. That's the only way you can be arguing like this. See screenshot below, most men who can, want a variety of women! MOST women want ONE good man - except hookers! No matter how special a woman, a man who regularly has sex with her is no longer as turned on by her! Everybidy knows that excepti you!

Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by udder: 12:55am On Dec 20, 2025
Mattswaggz:
There is everything like masturbation abuse...... because they can get it at will without spending time, money, resource et al they tend to do it much more than needed even when their bodies begin to show signs of overdoing it they still can't stop or restrict it because it's easy to achieve at will unlike normal sex. grin .
You can give it your own definition but it's not a thing.
By your logic there is also everything like singing abuse because you can sing at will without spending and it can strain your voice.
Abuse can be added to any action word but it doesn't make it a thing. You only abuse something or someone that is not you.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DiarisGodoo:
DeepSight:
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Sex happens between two people.


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Neither do men always do that and women many times do the same, even absent dixx.


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You just dont understand that many women are equally happy to have sex with several men, no strings attached.


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I can actually cite many in history.


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This is patriarchy and male chauvinism writ large. Men often also want one special woman, especially romantic men. And many times, women also want and have several men. This is a fact.

All said and done I am not sure about your level of exposure to women. You seem to talk about them in traditional terms.
Women are far wilder than that.
But for relationship or marriage, WHY would a man want to hang around a pregnant woman?

You keep arguing something that has been settled since human existence. MALE AND FEMALE SEXUALITY ARE NOT SAME!!! Primarily due to BIOLOGY, the ingrained instinct to have our genes survive mandates different sexuality!
Even amongst animals it is males that are after females for sex!

I think I know what the problem is - your experience has been with women who have sex for money. That's the only way you can be arguing like this. See screenshot below, most men who can, want a variety of women! MOST women want ONE good man - except hookers! No matter how special a woman, a man who regularly has sex with her will no longer be as turned on by her! Everybody knows that excepti you!

Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by DeepSight(m):
DiarisGodoo:
But for relationship or marriage, WHY would a man want to hang around a pregnant woman?

You keep arguing something that has been settled since human existence. MALE AND FEMALE SEXUALITY ARE NOT SAME!!! Primarily due to BIOLOGY, the ingrained instinct to have our genes survive mandates different sexuality!
Even amongst animals it is males that are after females for sex!

I think I know what the problem is - your experience has been with women who have sex for money. That's the only way you can be arguing like this. See screenshot below, most men who can, want a variety of women! MOST women want ONE good man - except hookers! No matter how special a woman, a man who regularly has sex with her will no longer be as turned on by her! Everybody knows that excepti you!
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There is a lot here that I have not disputed and even expressly said I agree with but you are way too "black and white" in your approach to understand what I am saying. I think we should agree to disagree.

As for the bold, I will only advise you to be wary of assumptions. Aside from that, you yourself claimed women are always paid one way or the other, be it in cash or in kind. So what then are you on about here.

Your experience is simply too binary and limited. For you, men are like this and women are like that. Whilst no one denies that men and women are built differently, you seem unable to understand certain commonalities exist which do not make themselves obvious only on account of the history of power dynamics and the resultant cultural nuances. I tried to walk you down this path briefly but it was utterly lost on you. Any man who does not know that women also have an aggressive sexual side which is not tied to love does not know anything about women.
Re: A Hard Reality About Casual Sex And Sexual Health by wonder233: 7:10am On Dec 20, 2025
Pure lies! Women lack the most self control, they are only good at covering up and pretending., that is what people are mistaking for self control. Men are more open about it, so that is why it seems they are the randy ones, but you see women! They get so turned on and can't stay one place and must have that sex with that person they fancy and nobody will know.- why because the guy don't mind being a silent side piece, but a side chick will later cast the man. That's the difference, let's stop this lie that women are more restrained. They are not
Diamond098454:
Very very difficult for men but we women can control ourselves not 100 percent but we can resist a difficult situation
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