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emmaodet:
You raised good points but so many men also are invincible and dying in silence.
It is the main reason if 100 men get an average paying job today, atleast 80% of them will rush to go and marry withing 3/4 years.
Also, when women are encouraged to open up- if a man beats you in a relationship or marriage, speak out so that we can help you, don't die in silence.
- if you are seeking a spouse, come to the front of the altar let the pastor pray for you etc
Men are being mocked for all these so we are to solve our issues in silence.
Your woman is disrespectful? You better solve it in-house else you become a sisi who can't handle his woman.
You don't have a spouse and show up in front of the altar? Even most of the ladies who come out who want to pick you because they will see you as low quality and men throw jabs at you for having no options.
That is the reason suicide rate and mental issues are very very high with men compared to ladies.
But all in all, in a country like Nigeria and you can get a room and throw mattress down on the floor, you are sure of banging some - the Bilikis, Rasheedats, Romokes etc

Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

luminouz:
Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

Golden
Well said

luminouz:
Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

Men settle down for who don't love and respect them when they economically improve and slave miserably for their wives because they are lonely and scared of dying or living life without a partner to bond with, even if the affection has to be bought with money, it's sad

luminouz:
Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

Honestly, the life of a man, regardless of where he lives, is very hard and full of responsibilities. It is much better in richer countries (which have their own issues), but the life of a man is just full of work, work and work. I thank God for the comfort he has provided my family, but when I think of the scenario where I am a husband and father, it gives me issues. It is now that I further appreciate the sacrifices my dad went through. So far, I don analyse am tire - the best solution is to have a few children. When I see men with three, four or five children, I raise cap for them.

Gerrard59:
Honestly, the life of a man, regardless of where he lives, is very hard and full of responsibilities. It is much better in richer countries (which have their own issues), but the life of a man is just full of work, work and work. I thank God for the comfort he has provided my family, but when I think of the scenario where I am a husband and father, it gives me issues. It is now that I further appreciate the sacrifices my dad went through. So far, I don analyse am tire - the best solution is to have a few children. When I see men with three, four or five children, I raise cap for them.

The life of a man economically in western gynocentic societies is far better than patriarchal Africa with better opportunities, organized system but culturally and societally western men have been emasculated and castrated with woke culture, feminism, liberalism, transgenderism etc. masculinity is dead, men are not respected or valued by their society even if they are billionaires, gynocentrism system and laws would humble you regardless of your status, for men to become gay openly and marry each other in the presence of women, it shows how bad they have been feminized, it's crazy, one can't even dream of marriage there without considering the fact that divorce is an option hence family and marriage institutions the core foundation of stable societies have been destroyed, degeneracy and single motherhood is now the norm due to fatherlessness and hyperpromiscuity, it's sad, yes economically they are better but asides that men are treated worse than gutter

Traditional Conservatism (Trad-Cons) is an attempt to maximize the male protective instinct through indoctrination and social learning for the benefit of women.

Feminism is an attempt to minimize the female submissive instinct, also through social indoctrination, to enable women to more ruthlessly exploit the male protective instinct for the benefit of women.

The Red Pill is an attempt to teach men to selectively suppress the male protective instinct to avoid its exploitation by women who are conditioned not to be submissive for the benefit of men

it's true, men achieve through conflict. Conflict with self and conflict with the world. Nothing is given on a silver platter. This conflict is what builds character. Usually for most men that conflict is during their 20s while they discover themselves, finish their education and try to carve out a career. It's also a man's loneliest and most bitter time filled with frustrations of all kinds from sexual to financial. But a man is to persevere. Cause it's his rite of passage. The essential lessons of patience, persistence and relentlessness gained during this period are what will make him the Rock that his women and children will depend on. The ability to not be overwhelmed by the odds, the ability to persist under utter discouragement and the ability to retain hope while nothing is going his way is what will make a man the Head that people in his life can follow with confidence and trust. It's called The School of Life. Circumstances are the teachers.

Being a man is never going to be easy. It would be nice to inherit a softer existence. But that's not what destiny has planned for us. Ours is a bloodstained path sprinkled with sweat and tears. No easy mode. No cruise. No dodging consequences. No hiding behind excuses. No nothing. You stand up straight and you take it. And survive it.

Women don't have love to give, it is men trying hard to force it out of them.

Handle them according to their nature and you'll find peace.

JESHAL007:
it's true, men achieve through conflict. Conflict with self and conflict with the world. Nothing is given on a silver platter. This conflict is what builds character. Usually for most men that conflict is during their 20s while they discover themselves, finish their education and try to carve out a career. It's also a man's loneliest and most bitter time filled with frustrations of all kinds from sexual to financial. But a man is to persevere. Cause it's his rite of passage. The essential lessons of patience, persistence and relentlessness gained during this period are what will make him the Rock that his women and children will depend on. The ability to not be overwhelmed by the odds, the ability to persist under utter discouragement and the ability to retain hope while nothing is going his way is what will make a man the Head that people in his life can follow with confidence and trust. It's called The School of Life. Circumstances are the teachers.

Being a man is never going to be easy. It would be nice to inherit a softer existence. But that's not what destiny has planned for us. Ours is a bloodstained path sprinkled with sweat and tears. No easy mode. No cruise. No dodging consequences. No hiding behind excuses. No nothing. You stand up straight and you take it. And survive it.

All these pains and you still choose to bring another human to come and experience it. Why don't you pass through it alone and just escape the matrix once and for all instead of bringing more humans through your lineage to come and suffer

Meedon:
All these pains and you still choose to bring another human to come and experience it. Why don't you pass through it alone and just escape the matrix once and for all instead of bringing more humans through your lineage to come and suffer

You are correct, if you have sense and not that ambitious, bringing a child with average means especially a male child is setting him up for failure, 80% of men are failures, they are poor or average at best, life for them is a miserable existence where they serve as cheap labour to the few top 10% men, statistically most men would end up here even if they are ambitious and put effort to escape the matrix, it's life, it's now wise to kill your genes since you won't be able to give them the leverage, capital, connection needed to survive the harsh reality of life, inflation worsen every year, the future generation would meet a worse inflation and economy than you

JESHAL007:
You are correct, if you have sense and not that ambitious, bringing a child with average means especially a male child is setting him up for failure, 80% of men are failures, they are poor or average at best, life for them is a miserable existence where they serve as cheap labour to the few top 10% men, statistically most men would end up here even if they are ambitious and put effort to escape the matrix, it's life, it's now wise to kill your genes since you won't be able to give them the leverage, capital, connection needed to survive the harsh reality of life, inflation worsen every year, the future generation would meet a worse inflation and economy than you

My pain is that the supposed failed men are the ones pressuring young ones to get married at all cost. They will say, "even if na palm Kernel you get still marry, God will take care of the children 🤣🤣🤣
Is that not wickedness? Bringing more humans to suffer and cause more pains because of their fear of loneliness in old age. Old age weh some of them no go reach.

luminouz:
Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

You're making sense...

But the bolded caught my attention...

The truth is...

Being a man is tough only if your main approach to dating or relationship is presenting yourself as a provider.

One of the worst things that can happen to you as a man is to be an intentional guy with “good intentions” toward a woman.

Why?

Because most women despise men who have good intentions for them.

Sounds bleeped up, but hear me out.

Having “good intentions” basically means you’re serious, you want commitment, you’re ready to invest and build something long-term. On paper, nothing wrong with that.

But here’s the brutal truth most men miss:

When women say they want a man with “good intentions,” they mean they want those good intentions from a man they already have raw, primal sexual desire for.

If you come in with good intentions toward a woman who does NOT already feel that raw desire for you, she immediately slots you into the “provider” category.

And providers tend to suffer at the hands of women.

She’ll expect you to pay bills, handle her financial needs, boost her social status, be her emotional tampon… all while in return: she cheats on you with a man she has raw sexual desires for.

Most women have sky-high standards, long lists of rules and requirements… but those rules are almost exclusively for the men they DON’T actually want to Bleep.

Those rules are for the “good intention” guys…the betas( and providers) orbiting them.

I once had a light argument with a girl I was already smash**g. She posted on her status: “For God’s sake, if you don’t have money, stop asking me out.”

In other posts she laid out her demands: her man has to pay her a weekly “girlfriend allowance,” among other shit.



I laughed… Well, I don't blame her. She's in her prime, so she has lots of male options and her beauty has really gotten into her head.

I asked her:

“You know all these guys sliding into your DMs actually have good intentions for you, right? They’re serious about you.”

She said, “Yeah, I know.”

So I asked, “Then why do you set all these insane standards for men who have good intentions for you… but you don’t demand any of that from me, the guy who’s already pounding you?”

Her response: “Ah, you’re different from those other men..”

Translation: “I actually want to Bleep you, so I don’t need you to pay for access. I just want your dick and the excitement that comes from being around you.”

What made me “different”?

Simple: I only trade sex for sex.

I don’t buy access to pussy with money or promises of commitment.

The provider guys trade resources: money…in exchange for (usually mediocre) sex.

I trade good sex for good sex. Nothing more, nothing less.

As a man, never build your game around money or “providing.”

Build it around raw sexual desire.

Make her want to Bleep you first.

Everything else: commitment, marriage, “showing good intentions” — only works successfully when the woman has raw sexual primal desire for you.

If that raw desire for you doesn't exist in a woman, you'll suffer at the hands of her later.

Men, You've been warned.

When a woman pleases you, both of you are happy. If you try to please her, you will never win and she will hold you in contempt for being so snivelling.

So if you're trying to please a woman, you're already losing. The whole dynamic is wrong. She should be trying to please you.

Most men please women because by default they are poor and invincible @emmaodet has touched on these subject sometimes ago, women would always win the dating market game even if they have a terrible past worse than prostitution because redpill awareness is for only a few men like 10% and it varies in understanding, most men would end up with hoes, society is designed for the benefit of women and children at the expense of men

JESHAL007:
Most men please women because by default they are poor and invincible @emmaodet has touched on these subject sometimes ago, women would always win the dating market game even if they have a terrible past worse than prostitution because redpill awareness is for only a few men like 10% and it varies in understanding, most men would end up with hoes, society is designed for the benefit of women and children at the expense of men

The fact that a man is poor does not mean he has to wife a LovePeddler. Also, poor has levels. There is lower middle class and very very poor. At any strata of society, there are decent ladies and whores.. I mean a mechanic can still marry a hairdresser that is decent. A lawyer can still marry s nurse that is decent. Being poor pr average is not enough reason to wife an ex prostitute. It is not fair

Pukkalolo:
You're making sense...

But the bolded caught my attention...

The truth is...

Being a man is tough only if your main approach to dating or relationship is presenting yourself as a provider.

One of the worst things that can happen to you as a man is to be an intentional guy with “good intentions” toward a woman.

Why?

Because most women despise men who have good intentions for them.

Sounds bleeped up, but hear me out.

Having “good intentions” basically means you’re serious, you want commitment, you’re ready to invest and build something long-term. On paper, nothing wrong with that.

But here’s the brutal truth most men miss:

When women say they want a man with “good intentions,” they mean they want those good intentions from a man they already have raw, primal sexual desire for.

If you come in with good intentions toward a woman who does NOT already feel that raw desire for you, she immediately slots you into the “provider” category.

And providers tend to suffer at the hands of women.

She’ll expect you to pay bills, handle her financial needs, boost her social status, be her emotional tampon… all while in return: she cheats on you with a man she has raw sexual desires for.

Most women have sky-high standards, long lists of rules and requirements… but those rules are almost exclusively for the men they DON’T actually want to Bleep.

Those rules are for the “good intention” guys…the betas( and providers) orbiting them.

I once had a light argument with a girl I was already smash**g. She posted on her status: “For God’s sake, if you don’t have money, stop asking me out.”

In other posts she laid out her demands: her man has to pay her a weekly “girlfriend allowance,” among other shit.



I laughed… Well, I don't blame her. She's in her prime, so she has lots of male options and her beauty has really gotten into her head.

I asked her:

“You know all these guys sliding into your DMs actually have good intentions for you, right? They’re serious about you.”

She said, “Yeah, I know.”

So I asked, “Then why do you set all these insane standards for men who have good intentions for you… but you don’t demand any of that from me, the guy who’s already pounding you?”

Her response: “Ah, you’re different from those other men..”

Translation: “I actually want to Bleep you, so I don’t need you to pay for access. I just want your dick and the excitement that comes from being around you.”

What made me “different”?

Simple: I only trade sex for sex.

I don’t buy access to pussy with money or promises of commitment.

The provider guys trade resources: money…in exchange for (usually mediocre) sex.

I trade good sex for good sex. Nothing more, nothing less.

As a man, never build your game around money or “providing.”

Build it around raw sexual desire.

Make her want to Bleep you first.

Everything else: commitment, marriage, “showing good intentions” — only works successfully when the woman has raw sexual primal desire for you.

If that raw desire for you doesn't exist in a woman, you'll suffer at the hands of her later.

Men, You've been warned.

The issue is maybe most men believe in the ideology that anything difficult to get is worthwhile and so they pursue a lady that gives them a tough time. Think about it this way. A man is toasting 2 ladies. One lady is always eager to see him. She calls him often and always replies his calls. She does not bother him for money . The second lady does not reply his calls, bothers him for money and rarely visits him. Maybe most men will go for the second lady. Its obvious the second lady dies notvreally like him but he might still go for her. If he wins her it will be with a lot of money and he has to keep spending to keep her. I think ubunja choosen talks about this.

Philosopher1979:
The fact that a man is poor does not mean he has to wife a LovePeddler. Also, poor has levels. There is lower middle class and very very poor. At any strata of society, there are decent ladies and whores.. I mean a mechanic can still marry a hairdresser that is decent. A lawyer can still marry s nurse that is decent. Being poor pr average is not enough reason to wife an ex prostitute. It is not fair

Fair assessment. Hopefully, we have more of this rhetoric across social media platforms in the country. The belief that everyone is rich in Nigeria is untrue. The belief that every thriving or hustling young man is into fraud or every young lady is into hookups is misplaced. Most importantly, Nigeria is a country of many ethnic nations: so people should not generalise what happens in their ethnic nations towards others.

guys I need your help save a brother. females have been using me and cashing out while I got left with no sex. any girl I try, she will use me for her own financial benefit.

i am devastated a girl collect my hard earned 5k nd refuse to show. this is the third day in a row.
I think i must take my mind off sex and just dey do soapy

always247:
guys I need your help save a brother. females have been using me and cashing out while I got left with no sex. any girl I try, she will use me for her own financial benefit.

i am devastated a girl collect my hard earned 5k nd refuse to show. this is the third day in a row.
I think i must take my mind off sex and just dey do soapy

This is funny. How old are you? It seems you are a toddler.

Meedon:
This is funny. How old are you? It seems you are a toddler.

bro im not toddler, I am 30 years old man. females have been using my sexual lust to exploit me for so long

always247:
bro im not toddler, I am 30 years old man. females have been using my sexual lust to exploit me for so long

Go to the first page of this thread and start to read from there.

Meedon:

Go to the first page of this thread and start to read from there.

On one hand, I wanted to ask why he is trolling, but then, on the other, I remembered that what simps can not do does not exist.

Martinez39s:
On one hand, I wanted to ask why he is trolling, but then, on the other, I remembered that what simps can not do does not exist.

Seriously I thought bro is/was trolling

always247:
guys I need your help save a brother. females have been using me and cashing out while I got left with no sex. any girl I try, she will use me for her own financial benefit.

i am devastated a girl collect my hard earned 5k nd refuse to show. this is the third day in a row.
I think i must take my mind off sex and just dey do soapy

You're acting desperate for sex. Make women chase you. And they'll fùck you for free and in a lot of cases, pay to fùck you

I'm writing a guide on this so keep your eyes open. And when I mean women, I'm referring to girls that can easily pass off as models

Society descended into sexual promiscuity and chaos the moment feminism was born.

Society descended into sexual promiscuity and chaos the moment men were demonized and women made to look like angels.

Men choosing not to get married is due to the fact that modern day marriage is of no benefit,the number of happily married men today is extremely low compared to their counterparts decades ago.

I hope that a lot of men like you don't understand the deep, dark secrets of female nature because you will never trust them and when you can't trust them, you can't be manipulated easily. Also, you'll make less effort in contributing to the blue pilled system that makes men highly ignorant so that they can slave for the society and women. Anything against this, society will collapse. The illusion of happiness in the typical blue pilled modern monogamous marriages is encouraged for this reason.

And if you are bent on continuing to deal with a lady who is not posing as a hooker, but is giving you stringent conditions (a clear sign of low interest) before hitting the coochie, then you are a thirsty oneitis fool. If you have these types in rotation, then you are SIMPING PLATES - not spinning plates

Trying to unplug from the blue pill is difficult even for those who claim to be red-pilled, as the dating market is oversaturated with pussay-thirsty, money-paying fools who make it seem like nigerian women are ONLY MONEY-HUNGRY and don't have inner/innate lust for men that tickle their fantasies

what I want you to know is that the coochie you paid 5k - 10 million naira for is (or can be potentially) fûcked for free or almost free. It's happening around you and if you are not "looking" you won't see. I've experienced it a few times.

The girl telling you to part with some money before you see her pants already sense that you are hopelessly thirsty (which is what she sees from the Nigerian men she meets who have their brains move to their dicks when they see a woman), and plays it to her advantage. If you expect the girl to tell you that she has a guy she is gobbling her semen for free while still billing you 300k to gobble yours, then you know nothing about women or how they operate.

Women fûck men who they are sexually attracted to, but marry men who can provide - Red Pilled Realists. Women are the "chosers" for a reason.

Men are the opposite. Most of the time, they marry women they are sexually attracted to, over women who chose and "love" them.

By the way, drop that stupid feminine emotions called love. Men don't need love in relationship with women. RESPECT and LOYALTY is what a man needs that is why our forefathers who understood women never used that silly word, called love. It is an emotion that can fade off and for women. Any decision made on emotion never ends well in the long run.

SEXUAL VS NON SEXUAL NEEDS.
Women's needs are divided into two groups: non sexual needs and sexual needs.

Men's needs are also divided into two groups: non sexual needs and sexual needs.

Sexual needs are sex, cuddles, kisses, MouthAction, massages, sex pics, sexting, phone intimacy etc. Anything that is sexual.

Non Sexual needs are food, shelter, money, clothes etc. Anything that has nothing to do with sex.

Women date for non sexual needs.

Men date for sexual needs.