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Uptheante:
Who is your neighbor here that can vouch for your statement?

Hahahhahahaha

essentialone:
So now you are shifting the goal post. Go back to the main topic and see where you veered off from.

Continue switching monikers to be revalidating yourself

helinues:
Continue switching monikers to be revalidating yourself

So in your tiny mind, you think me and Uptheante are one and the same person?

I am not the same person as Uptheante, just 2 different persons saying the same truth.

Uptheante:
➜Bro, this lady is telling you the truth. 95% of ladies living alone, either bring men to sleep with them or go out to sleep with men.
Only very few percentage do not engage in such.That's why many landlords in some parts of Nigeria do not agree to rent their house to single ladies. because they know that such ladies will be bringing different kinds of men to sleep with them thereby constituting a nuisance & security threat (some of the men may be armed robbers, kidnappers, cultists, etc).
➜ Single ladies omen are supposed to live with their parents or a family relation till they get married. Freedom to live on their own will be exploited by them for waywardness/promiscuity.

Let's assume that you are right, that 95% of women who live alone bring men to sleep with them or go to sleep with men. Don't men do the same(maybe to an even greater percentage than women)?

2. Supposed to be by whom? Your mind or the Law? Which one? Promiscuity is OK for men but not for women? No be women men dey do their promiscuity with? Why is it OK for men to the promiscuous but not OK for the women they are promiscuous with to be equally promiscuous? And please, make certain you provide a legal reference for your response and not some mental delusions.🥱🥱

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What is it about the dick that has you convinced that your destiny is as Toto-monitor/ vagina-patrol/hisbah? 🥱🥱🥱

ogashman:
Before I married my wife, she was staying alone in a different city. So no biggie.

She was living alone and paying her bills while we take turns in visiting each other

i like that taking turns part

Pootle:
i like that taking turns part

Hahhahahahhahahha

essentialone:
Most ladies who live alone fall into 2 categories.

Either they turn their apartment into a hosting place for different random man who just want to have sex with them for a fee.

Or they go out every night to hustle for men at clubs and hotels and return at 5AM every day.

Oga calm down na you dey follow yeye girl nor mean say better responsible girls nor dey dem plenty

tunize:
Oga calm down na you dey follow yeye girl nor mean say better responsible girls nor dey dem plenty

Hahahaha

essentialone:
Most ladies who live alone fall into 2 categories.

Either they turn their apartment into a hosting place for different random man who just want to have sex with them for a fee.

Or they go out every night to hustle for men at clubs and hotels and return at 5AM every day.

Na comment like this make me fit support jungle justice. Are you okay?

pansophist:
Na comment like this make me fit support jungle justice. Are you okay?

Yeah I am very much okay. What about you?

Kobojunkie:
Let's assume that you are right, that 95% of women who live alone bring men to sleep with them or go to sleep with men. Don't men do the same(maybe to an even greater percentage than women)?

2. Supposed to be by whom? Your mind or the Law? Which one? Promiscuity is OK for men but not for women? No be women men dey do their promiscuity with? Why is it OK for men to the promiscuous but not OK for the women they are promiscuous with to be equally promiscuous? And please, make certain you provide a legal reference for your response and not some mental delusions.🥱🥱

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What is it about the dick that has you convinced that your destiny is as Toto-monitor/ vagina-patrol/hisbah? 🥱🥱🥱

For the fact that it's only women's vagina that has hymen, that should tell you that virginity is a female virtue not a male because men don't have anything to prove sexual purity.
2ndly, it is men who finance relationships/marriage. A man spends a fortune to marry, & then take over all the expenses of the woman.
The least he should deserve is an untainted virginity so as to ensure that he's getting the best deal for all spending & effort. If he gets a vagina that has been pummeled & vandalized by others without them spending or making any commensurate effort.

Is it fair for you to pay the price for a secondhand fo car that thousands have drove for free for the price of a brand new car?

Can you buy a leftover food that many have eaten for free for the price of a freshly cooked food that has not been tampered with?

ogashman:
99% of the time, Whatsapp exposes cheaters in Nigeria because it is the easiest medium of communication.


If they started chatting on either Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, they would definitely move to Whatsapp.

What if they communicate only through calls?

Uptheante:
✓ For the fact that it's only women's vagina that has hymen, that should tell you that virginity is a female virtue not a male because men don't have anything to prove sexual purity.
✓ 2ndly, it is men who finance relationships/marriage. A man spends a fortune to marry, & then take over all the expenses of the woman.
The least he should deserve is an untainted virginity so as to ensure that he's getting the best deal for all spending & effort. If he gets a vagina that has been pummeled & vandalized by others without them spending or making any commensurate effort.
✓ Is it fair for you to pay the price for a secondhand fo car that thousands have drove for free for the price of a brand new car? Can you buy a leftover food that many have eaten for free for the price of a freshly cooked food that has not been tampered with?

1. A hymen is not a measure of virginity in women. This is 2025, and if you don't already know at this point that the hymen myth has long been reduced to ancient stewpidity, then I don't know what to tell you.

2. Only impoverished men cry about spending a fortune to marry a woman. .😩😩😩

There is a reason why poor people don't get to decide the market value of goods. That is because poor people can only usually afford goods at the same quality that they exist at— lower quality goods— so when you say that because you had to marry a woman with what you consider your fortune and as such deserve to have a virgin, I say you need to realize that you should at least be happy that a whole sane woman looked your way, to begin with. You can't deserve a diamond when all your so-called fortune can afford you is the quartz that is by chance available to you. 🥱🥱

3. Stop making useless noise and go make money, o'jare! 🥱🥱🥱

Uptheante:
What if they communicate only through calls?

This is rare......you sef don chyke women before. Was there any one of them u didn't chat with on Whatsapp?

This will give u ur answer.

Uptheante:
For the fact that it's only women's vagina that has hymen, that should tell you that virginity is a female virtue not a male because men don't have anything to prove sexual purity.
2ndly, it is men who finance relationships/marriage. A man spends a fortune to marry, & then take over all the expenses of the woman.
The least he should deserve is an untainted virginity so as to ensure that he's getting the best deal for all spending & effort. If he gets a vagina that has been pummeled & vandalized by others without them spending or making any commensurate effort.

Is it fair for you to pay the price for a secondhand fo car that thousands have drove for free for the price of a brand new car?

Can you buy a leftover food that many have eaten for free for the price of a freshly cooked food that has not been tampered with?

Keep on telling them the truth. They are thinking that me and you are one and the same person. Just imagine.

essentialone:
Hahahaha

Yes now wen some people dey follow or attract nonsense automatically dem ho generalise am. Compliment of the season

Whoever underrates my post is sleeping on a swinging bicycle. I give advices not based on emotions but critical thinking.

Now here it is:

While it is not wrong to date or marry a lady that lives alone, make sure she is productive and has a meaningful work she is doing to careter for her needs.

If a lady is living alone and has no actual job she is living of to attend to her needs, run at the speed of light and never look back.

If she has no job nor any reasonable skill, it means that men are the ones funding her life.

What does that translate to? A lady that is sleeping with diverse men for survival.

If she has an actual job or a skill that is paying her bills, there is no problem if she lives alone.

The only problem comes when you know that the very lady has no single job nor any skill she is living on, instead only shake yansh on social media. Bro, do you need any naysayer to tell you What's up?

I believe any man that is reading this is not that daft as a person, are you?

So, investigate very well before you go on to commit to marrying a lady that lives alone without a job nor skill that pays the bills.

Think about that.

Facts speak for themselves. Study critically the lives of most Nigerian ladies that live alone. While it is understandable for some categories of ladies to live alone, like university students living off campus, but study even their lifestyle critically and see what goes on.

Some are missing the point on this thread. Naturally, ladies are lazy beggars who depend on men financially to survive. Maybe father, brother, son, uncle, benefactor, sugar daddy, boyfriend, husband, etc.

However, if you marry a lady who sleeps with random men for money, especially hosting them in her place or going out almost every night to hustle, do not expect her to change in any way once married. Such Ladies do not change after marriage, they only change pattern of doing same thing.

essentialone:
Guys, can you marry a lady who lives alone? If Yes, why? If No, why not?

living alone or with people is not the problem just make sure she is not a dysfunctional person and clearly understand the assignment in marriage , sometimes life can make you stay alone or stay with people

I can't

‎Bro, in as much as I advised you to be disciplined and train yourself not to be moved by a w00man's unclothedness.
But that shouldn't mean that you should allow any w00man to manipulate you into waiting until marriage before they could allow you to taste their honeyp0t.
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‎How do you mean?
Some of you will ask now.
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‎Yes, s€x is not worth waiting for. There is nothing special about her that you should start waiting for that long. Her va.gina is not made of gold, it is just like other w00men's va.ginas
‎There is nothing wrong for the two adults who claimed to love themselves to engage in s€xual intimacy.
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‎Because it further stretches the bond and make the relationship stronger. It has also been proven that w00men become more committed and affectionate after engaging in s€xual intercourse with their men.
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‎Men and w00men have different perspectives on s€x. ‎To men, s€x doesn't go beyond having fun or cruise with the opposite s€x. A man can have his way to a random w00man with no emotional attachment.
‎But for w00men — s€x is an investment. Yes, having s€x with you means investing their emotions which will further strengthen their commitment.
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‎And you know what?👇
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‎W00men values their investments, especially their emotional investments. That is why they rarely forget the man who took them to their s€xual pinnacle.
‎That is why they will always remember that guy that deflowered them. That is why they will never forget that man that rough handled them on bed.
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‎Even the one that r.a.pe.d them, they never forget because there is emotional involvement.
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‎To the w00man, relationship started when s€x is involved, that is why some will ask you after s€x; 👇
‎What are we now?
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‎After having s€x with them. I am talking about decent w00men not s€x workers, h00kup girls or bed to bed midfielders who commercialized s€x.
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‎It becomes easier for a w00man to dump you when you haven't seen her unclothedness no matter the level of your sacrifice. ‎But some w00men can stick with you simple because you have seen their unclothedness and you are good on bed.
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‎Can you see that w00men value s€x more than men?
‎If a w00man who already in the relationship with you insists that you are not going to see her pant.ies until after marriage — then she wants to play game with you. The truth is — she's not into you.
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‎It is understandable if she is a virgin who wants to present her virginity to her husband as a gift which is commendable but even at that, I will advise you to quit the relationship if you are not ready for marriage at the moment unless she submit herself to be deflowered.
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‎But if a w00man has been tasting many dic.ks and declined to allow you access when it got to your turn, then something is wrong somewhere.
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‎Three things are involved;👇
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1. She may be hiding something that will scare you away from her. Some of them with many body counts and multiple penile mileage carried dirt, smelling boreholes under there.

‎Some of them have a very bad body odour. Immediately they remove their pan.ties, the whole r00m will be polluted.
It will be like a rat died in the room, you will be gasping for breathes while been suffocated by the stench.
‎Forget about their outward appearances, their fine faces, smooth skins and nice dressings, some of them have rotten smelling things under there and they know it and are ashamed of it.
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‎Mind you bro, some may said no at that moment to know your reaction, or to put you into practical, define the situation and know the right time.
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‎2. ‎They may sense your desperation in trying to have s€x with them and will assume that you just want to have them.
‎This is where your self discipline comes in.

Are you following?
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‎S€x is important but don't be desperate to have it. Relationship is more than having s€x especially if you are seeing future in her.
‎I told you in one of my articles not to start relationship without having a purpose — which you both want to pursue and achieve together.
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‎ S€x shouldn't be your priority in a committed relationship, the purpose of starting the relationship in the first place comes first. ‎Your zeal in pursuing the purpose will give assurance to your partner and make her comfortable, then she won't hesitate any time you brings the s€x talk.
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‎3. She may not be into you. Both men and w00men have standards and boundaries. The different is that, men are strict and rigid in maintaining their standards and boundaries while w00men are flexible in maintaining theirs.
‎W00men are weak-willed, they bend their rules to favour the men they love.
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‎If she insisted that you will never see her pant until marriage, then she is not really into you. Don't be surprised that another man else is piping her. It has happened in many occasions.
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‎One of the reasons of starting the relationship at first is to check your level of compatibility which s€xual compatibility is included.
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Like I said before — if she's not a virgin, for what reason are you actually waiting for bro?

You may need to read this again.

Class dismissed.
Till I come your way again.
Keep following for more.

*1. “Sex is not worth waiting for” / “Her vagina is not made of gold”*
That’s your value judgment, and you’re free to have it. But waiting or not waiting is a personal boundary. For some people, sex is casual. For others, it’s tied to marriage, religion, trauma history, or self-respect. Saying there’s “nothing special” about it erases the fact that for many, there _is_. Reducing it to just anatomy ignores that meaning is subjective.

*2. “Women invest emotions through sex, men don’t”*
There’s a kernel of truth that _many_ people, not just women, bond through sex due to oxytocin and vulnerability. But it’s not universal. Plenty of men get emotionally attached after sex, and plenty of women compartmentalize it. Generalizing sets you up to misread real individuals. The claim that women “never forget” the man who deflowered them or even raped them conflates trauma bonding with affection — that’s not healthy or accurate.

*3. “If she won’t have sex pre-marriage and isn’t a virgin, she’s playing you”*
That’s a dangerous leap. Reasons people wait include: religious conviction, past sexual trauma, STIs they’re treating, fear of pregnancy, wanting to test emotional compatibility first, or just personal preference. “Three things are involved” flattens a complex human decision into suspicion. The body-shaming section about “smelling boreholes” is also dehumanizing and factually off — vaginal health issues exist, but that’s a medical conversation, not a moral judgment or dating test.

*4. “Relationship starts when sex is involved”*
For you, maybe. For others, commitment starts with exclusivity, meeting family, or shared goals. You said “don’t make sex the priority” and “have a purpose” — that part I agree with. But then the piece circles back to sex as the litmus test of whether she’s “into you.” That contradicts your own point about purpose over sex.

*Where I think you’re right:*
- *Clarity matters*: If sex is important to you, don’t pretend it isn’t. Be upfront early so you and your partner can see if your values align.
- *Don’t be manipulated*: Nobody should use sex as a bargaining chip, and nobody owes you sex to “prove” love.
- *Self-discipline*: Desperation is unattractive and clouds judgment. Agreed 100%.

*Where it goes off:*
- *The generalizations*: Not all women or men fit those boxes. You’ll miss good people if you assume.
- *The contempt*: Lines about “rotten smelling things” and “piping her” turn a discussion about boundaries into misogyny. You can make your point without degrading women.
- *Consent and coercion*: Pressuring someone to have sex because “others had you” or because you think she’s “hiding something” isn’t discipline — it’s coercion. A “no” is a complete sentence, virgin or not.

*Better frame for your brother:*
1. Know your own dealbreakers. If pre-marital sex is one, own it without shaming people who choose differently.
2. Communicate early: “Sexual compatibility is important to me. If waiting till marriage is your boundary, I respect it, but we may not be compatible.”
3. Walk away if values clash — don’t stay and try to wear her down. That’s not discipline, that’s manipulation in reverse.
4. Judge individuals, not genitals. Some “high body count” women are clean, kind, and loyal. Some “virgins” are vindictive. Character > history.

Strength is built on mutual respect, not on who “wins” the sex negotiation.

So the real question for your brother: Is he looking for a partner, or just trying to avoid being “played”? Because if it’s the latter, the mindset in this piece will make him suspicious of every woman he meets.

My name his Ola from Lagos Epe,,I’m single with no kids and love having sex every day and go for many rounds and cause of this girls always leave me so anyone interested can contact me on

09030623315

Yemite132:
My name his Ola from Lagos Epe,,I’m single with no kids and love having sex every day and go for many rounds and cause of this girls always leave me so anyone interested can contact me on

09030623315

I hear you, Ola.

Quick heads up: posting your phone number and personal details publicly like this can expose you to spam, scams, or unwanted contact. On most platforms it’s also against community rules to share phone numbers for hookups.

If you’re looking to meet people, you’ll have better luck — and stay safer — using proper dating apps where people also want that kind of connection and can verify profiles. Apps like Tinder, Badoo, or Boo let you set expectations upfront.

Also, if “girls always leave” is a pattern, it might not just be about frequency. Compatibility, communication, and respect matter just as much as stamina.

essentialone:
Most ladies who live alone fall into 2 categories.

Either they turn their apartment into a hosting place for different random man who just want to have sex with them for a fee.

Or they go out every night to hustle for men at clubs and hotels and return at 5AM every day.

your ancient mentality Na wa. Just see how you dey reason so if your sister go work for another state make she finds your family home there stay

Cum4me:
your ancient mentality Na wa. Just see how you dey reason so if your sister go work for another state make she finds your family home there stay

It is not my fault that you are not properly educated enough to know the meaning of "Most".

You can still go back to school. Not too late.

essentialone:
Most ladies who live alone fall into 2 categories.

Either they turn their apartment into a hosting place for different random man who just want to have sex with them for a fee.

Or they go out every night to hustle for men at clubs and hotels and return at 5AM every day.

This is childish and not true!!
Context matter.

drnoel:
This is childish and not true!!
Context matter.

Smiles

Talkisneeded:
This marriage thing will end up running you people mad one day…

Too many analogy just to fulfil the duties of marriage…

This is so funny 😁

Proserpina:


This is so funny 😁

Hahahahaha

drnoel:
This is childish and not true!!
Context matter.

You saw a comment that wrote "Most", not "All".

You labelled it as "childish and not true". Then you ended by saying "Context matter", implying that although not all do it, but that some do it.

What school did you even attend? You really need to go back to school.