₦airaland Forum

To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes angry. Is she normal at all?

What advice do you need after typing this
You dey pull our legs
You have not heard a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage/life

ChizzyBuna:
A man in love is a foolish man.

You are damn right.
He is very fullish.

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

You are not her father....she should stop demanding from you what her father cannot provide

You admitted that you are broke. Instead of strategizing for a better 2026, you are here sweating over a (transactional) relationship.

Accept her proposal and move on. You are a man, and cannot afford to be broke.

Thank God I don’t do relationships. Sometimes, when I feel I’m missing out, I come across a thread of this sort. I pat my back then go back to sleep.

The hairstyle pictured is still expensive. The woman will need maintenance every other day. A buzz cut is the sure thing. That one needs weekly maintenance. Ten days in my case.

Zestzealotzenit:
your own good bro my banny say I nor fit buy her mama Xmas chicken or clothes she get elder sister wen dn marry n elder brother too but non of them buy rice wen I tell her mother she say make I no bother cus she know say things rough for me but banny still da insist I must buy na so relationship end 2 days back

the way olojukokoro take dey make these girls ruin themselves needs to be studied. Very useless sets

She's looking for a way to blame you for the breakup, don't be surprised to see a wedding iv by April 2026.

YourGFsnatcher:
Where do you people get all these money from to give a girl that's not your wife? I can't give any girl more than 30k at a time. Mostly na 10k I dey give. Where una dey get this money?
And I have the hottest girls

you dey lag? Link me up with a couple na

This is not a red flag


THIS IS CODE RED...ITS A WAR ZONE.
As far as am concerned remain there and


YOU'RE DEAD🤔🤔😠

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

You are asking if this is a red flag? You are not serious at all. This flag is a rainbow flag for blind lovers who cannot see, hear or smell anything wrong in love. So, if you get married to her, you have to be her ATM for ever. Which means if you don’t have money, she will be playing away games with your neighbours that have money. Don’t you have a brain? I can lend you my brain for a second. It will cost you 1 million dollars.

eniolorunfe:
Chaiiii! So una still dey date women wey no get their own money

Na the women wey dey date your kind, I pity pass. 🥱🥱🥱

ChizzyBuna:
A man in love is a foolish man.

Whoever told you you are wise is foolish

Emmy000seun:
I think d Op is catching cruise..😂😂😂😂😂😂..he want to know what people will say..but I will give you one tactics!! Don't leave her, Infact borrow loan from opay or online merchant, double d money for her..and forever she will b yours...only of you go last long tho!!🥲😂 Bcuz billing go don pai you before then...thank you for taking good care of your woman ..you are a good man

I disagree! Definitely, the girl must break up with the broke man. I cannot endorse a child I raised dating any broke man or signing up for struggle love. However, OP should probably avoid dating all together... maybe stick to prostitutes.. until he is able the afford dating.

No such thing as a free lunch yet many boys out there believe they are entitled to a free girl. E no go ever make sense. 🥱🥱🥱

My own question is how una dey get into this kyn relationship in the first place? And you're here asking us if na red flag. No be red flag na blue flag.

visiondee:
Bro, forget about years you've spent together. The gospel truth is she's already out of the relationship, she isn't there again but want to have a reason to hang the blame on you. I will advice you not to see her as your girl again because you are obviously dating yourself presently. This new year, please build yourself, focus on your goals, channel your energy for emotion, love, etc to actualise your goal. Also, learn how to be confident in yourself. You can get any woman you want and keep if you play your game right. Keep this at the back of your mind, if your woman isn't sacrificing in the relationship, it will always be easier for her to walk away. Create an aura that you always have admirers out there, yet you are faithful to her.

Will you allow your own daughter or sister to date a man who cannot even afford her hair needs or when holiday clothing for her? Come on naw. If your daughter, whom you raised with great care showed up with a man like OP(full of excuses as to why he should be allowed to use your child for free) will you be accepting of him and the relationship? 🥱🥱🥱

Sunisonflex39:
✓ You are just paying for love..she should go and work..if she is already working, what stops her from using her own fund to make her hair..
Girl no get, man no get, but the girl dey blame the man for her brokeness .
Oga, look that for eye and ask her what's her life's goals

---

She no get yet many of you come here to talk of how your gals clean up your homes, cook for you and even do your laundry when she comes over. And you don't see ho such a girl is already given a broke man too much of her time and energy for free? If the man had to hire someone to do all of that for himself, do you know how how much that would cost him? 🥱🥱🥱

The gal is better off hiring her services off to someone who will pay her than giving it away for free to someone who will still believe she has adds no value to his life. 🥱🥱🥱

Both of you are still young. Both of you shouldn't be in any relationship.

What do you mean by broke man??.. when we are growing up, we realize that there is no discrimination between man and woman in responsibility wise, you fend for what you want or desire..
So my question to you now is why will she gauge her love for d guy with condition of getting what she want for December...or else the relationship??.. meaning she don't love him but only keeping him for financial gain which is bad..

Kobojunkie:
I disagree! Definitely, the girl must break up with the broke man. I cannot endorse a child I raised dating any broke man or signing up for struggle love. However, OP should probably avoid dating all together... maybe stick to prostitutes.. until he is able the afford dating.

No such thing as a free lunch yet many boys out there believe they are entitled to a free girl. E no go ever make sense. 🥱🥱🥱

I am the type that can buy a house for a woman I am with. I see nothing wrong with that. But you make demands like this and you won't get a penny from me.

If you succumb to this nonsense you will forever be her slave.

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

Your relationship was able to last for 3years because you have been a giver from day one.
I’d suggest you continue in that path because a SIMP will always be a SIMP.

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

You are the joker of the century!!! Even if you don't have the money to give her, don't ever advice a woman to cut her hair. If she suggest am... You can then advice.

You are gradually being banned from your Disney Land.

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

My brother na only you dey build the relationship oh 😂😂😂

Pls if na joke, pls stop now
For this era, u talk say u no know wetin to do? Sincerely u no do well at all for given this matter reasoning

Kobojunkie:
Will you allow your own daughter or sister to date a man who cannot even afford her hair needs or when holiday clothing for her? Come on naw. If your daughter, whom you raised with great care showed up with a man like OP(full of excuses as to why he should be allowed to use your child for free) will you be accepting of him and the relationship? 🥱🥱🥱

I'm blessed with 2 daughters presently, I'm training them to be disciplined, hardworking, self-sufficient, always seeking for personal growth, not looking down on anyone, seeing through the present time, finding and utilising potential, growth in others. Everyone has the time of growth and development. What I won't trained my daughters for is being a leech. Don't wait for anyone to feed you or make you look good. It's not all about being a wealthy man's wife but also being wealthy. There is nothing wrong for my angels attaining greatness even beyond their counterparts. Above all, humility, confidence, bluntness and fighting for their selves when the need be is the goal.

Emmy000seun:
➜What do you mean by broke man??..
➜when we are growing up, we realize that there is no discrimination between man and woman in responsibility wise, you fend for what you want or desire.. So my question to you now is why will she gauge her love for d guy with condition of getting what she want for December...or else the relationship??.. meaning she don't love him but only keeping him for financial gain which is bad..

OP said he is broke and hence the reason why his girlfriend should probably have to shave her head for him. 🥱🥱

2. She is not gauging his so-called love. Words without substance are ultimately meaningless to us all, if we are honest with ourselves. She is simply making it known to him that she needs her hair done and new clothing for the holiday, in addition to love from a man. 🥱🥱🥱

Nothing about love means poverty. 🥱🥱🥱

U no get job walai !

Na so husband plenty to marry ?

Tell her u no dey do.again, u go see her dey beg.
Na so one dey ask me for 100k to.buy rice and oil for Christmas.
Who get time for nonsense?

visiondee:
➜I'm blessed with 2 daughters presently, I'm training them to be disciplined, hardworking, self-sufficient, always seeking for personal growth, not looking down on anyone, seeing through the present time, finding and utilising potential, growth in others. Everyone has the time of growth and development. What I won't trained my daughters for is being a leech. Don't wait for anyone to feed you or make you look good. It's not all about being a wealthy man's wife but also being wealthy. There is nothing wrong for my angels attaining greatness even beyond their counterparts. Above all, humility, confidence, bluntness and fighting for their selves when the need be is the goal.

Chances of the average woman out there being a wealthy man's life are very slim, so this isn't about being a wealthy man's wife. Still, about women finding themselves men that would not abuse them — financially, emotionally, and physically in marriage— at least... yes, this is the bare minimum that a woman should be able to get in marriage.

You mention them not being leeches, and I would like to ask that you please clarify this statement. Are you implying that you would be OK with your girls laboring for a man without receiving any remuneration for the labor they put in? Are you implying that, should your children have jobs of their own while married, in addition to doing chores in the home, they should not expect any percentage or part of the marital communal fund to be given to them?

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

Where her papa?
Has he father giving such money to her mother for this Christmas?
My brother thank your stars and move on.

But he said they have been into relationship for 3yrs now!!.so why is she now seeing him broke?.if the girl is not benefiting from him she won't have stay that long...so it tells you how woman see man as use and dump ..in the sense that once they see highest bidder, they don't mind what happens next and dey forget your previous effort...🤷..I appreciate both side of relationship don't get me out of context, but I support reciprocity, treat your partner d way u want to b treated...📌💯

Kobojunkie:
OP said he is broke and hence the reason why his girlfriend should probably have to shave her head for him. 🥱🥱

2. She is not gauging his so-called love. Words without substance are ultimately meaningless to us all, if we are honest with ourselves. She is simply making it known to him that she needs her hair done and new clothing for the holiday, in addition to love from a man. 🥱🥱🥱

Nothing about love means poverty. 🥱🥱🥱

Emmy000seun:
➜But he said they have been into relationship for 3yrs now!!.so why is she now seeing him broke?
➜if the girl is not benefiting from him she won't have stay that long...
➜ so it tells you how woman see man as use and dump ..in the sense that once they see highest bidder, they don't mind what happens next and dey forget your previous effort...🤷..I appreciate both side of relationship don't get me out of context, but I support reciprocity, treat your partner d way u want to b treated...📌💯

1. Again, OP himself said he is broke... not she.

2. That isn't true, and you are disingenuous by insisting it should be. She is a human being and may have reached her last straw in enduring what she may have realized as an unfair exchange between her and OP.

3. She used him? WOW... what a giant leap on your...how do you know she used him? 🥱🥱🥱

This is one of the trap that always catch men .. Emotions .. Op really want to know what he'll do not lose the relationship.. bro , reduce the volume of your emotions and be decisive for once . Watch how your life transform .. Everyman needs to lower the frequency of their Emotions, this people are using it to get us .. have you discovered yourself or you still dey emotionally, dey do things ?

sexy74:
➜Where her papa? Has he father giving such money to her mother for this Christmas?
My brother thank your stars and move on.

So, a woman cannot demand better than her own mother got from her father, is what you are insisting on?🥱🥱🥱