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Most guys get angry when a girl tells them a guy is just a friend to them. Bro, it is far better to be that "Just a friend" than to be her boyfriend.

I am just a friend to most girls and I can tell you for free that I am tired of using their bodies as I wished. Just a friend simply means her emotional comforter, bed warmer, talk buddy, she can tell you things she'll never tell her bf even though she knows very well you are not serious with her and that's exactly what women wants. Dear men, endeavour to be "just friends" with a woman instead of the main boyfriend. Another name for the main boyfriend is an "understanding guy"

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It’s a double-edged sword. If you’re playing the 'just a friend' card without any real game, you’re basically funding her lifestyle without her even noticing. She’ll bill you before she bills her own boyfriend because she sees you as a safe 'provider' while you think you’re just 'preparing the ground.' You’ll be the shoulder she cries on while she’s being handled by other guys. Then, after 100 heartbreaks, you try to move in for a kiss and she gets angry because she feels you weren't 'honest' about your intentions.

The truth is, being direct is a confidence booster. Even if you get rejected, you’ve acted like a man. It shows b😊lls. Hiding behind 'friendship' just to get close usually stems from a fear of rejection. Some women with high standards won't even respect you until you show that masculine backbone. It reeks of low self-esteem. While the friend-to-lover route can work, it requires elite-level game and usually takes way longer than necessary. If you don't handle it perfectly, you lose the girl and the friendship in one go. Unless you have serious game to navigate the transition from friend to partner, you’re better off just shooting your shot directly and moving on if it’s a no.

SpencerForbes:
It’s a double-edged sword. If you’re playing the 'just a friend' card without any real game, you’re basically funding her lifestyle without her even noticing. She’ll bill you before she bills her own boyfriend because she sees you as a safe 'provider' while you think you’re just 'preparing the ground.' You’ll be the shoulder she cries on while she’s being handled by other guys. Then, after 100 heartbreaks, you try to move in for a kiss and she gets angry because she feels you weren't 'honest' about your intentions.

The truth is, being direct is a confidence booster. Even if you get rejected, you’ve acted like a man. It shows b😊lls. Hiding behind 'friendship' just to get close usually stems from a fear of rejection. Some women with high standards won't even respect you until you show that masculine backbone. It reeks of low self-esteem. While the friend-to-lover route can work, it requires elite-level game and usually takes way longer than necessary. If you don't handle it perfectly, you lose the girl and the friendship in one go. Unless you have serious game to navigate the transition from friend to partner, you’re better off just shooting your shot directly and moving on if it’s a no.

well said bruuuuhhhhhh

Just a friend simply means her emotional comforter,

Heaven bear me witness, I will rather be a tree than to be emotional comforter of any girl.

I'm not a partaker of anything that will bring comfort to any Nigerian girl.

Perfectly said. Months ago I shook up a corner of the internet by saying: "Husband or Boyfriend material is the WORST thing for a man"

That statement gave some people sleepless nights. All along, they thought being a husband or boyfriend material is the way to go. But it's not.

In fact, if a girl or group of girls hails you as a boyfriend or husband material, you should be VERY WORRIED.

I mentioned that the ideal position you want to be is fùççk buddy or Friends with benefit material. This is where you see women for who they truly are.

Most women hide things from their boyfriends. Sometimes, hide acts from their bfs. I cant count how many times I've trained gfs how to give blòw jóbś so they can do it for their bf and get him to pay for things.

To both of you, you're the fwb that's pounding her. To her husband/bf you're just a friend.

A friend that warms her bed, between her legs and her body. While the hubby warms her bank account (and a lot of times unknowingly the fwb)

The thing is most guys don't know how to approach the fwb angle.

They falsely assume it's by getting into a relationship that you can have her. Until they find out the "just a friend" guy is more than that

SpencerForbes:
It’s a double-edged sword. If you’re playing the 'just a friend' card without any real game, you’re basically funding her lifestyle without her even noticing. She’ll bill you before she bills her own boyfriend because she sees you as a safe 'provider' while you think you’re just 'preparing the ground.' You’ll be the shoulder she cries on while she’s being handled by other guys. Then, after 100 heartbreaks, you try to move in for a kiss and she gets angry because she feels you weren't 'honest' about your intentions.

The truth is, being direct is a confidence booster. Even if you get rejected, you’ve acted like a man. It shows b😊lls. Hiding behind 'friendship' just to get close usually stems from a fear of rejection. Some women with high standards won't even respect you until you show that masculine backbone. It reeks of low self-esteem. While the friend-to-lover route can work, it requires elite-level game and usually takes way longer than necessary. If you don't handle it perfectly, you lose the girl and the friendship in one go. Unless you have serious game to navigate the transition from friend to partner, you’re better off just shooting your shot directly and moving on if it’s a no.

You didn't understand his point. Just a friend doesnt mean you're pretending

You're still bringing your sexual energy but in a different way. You're basically a fùck buddy or fwb material than a bf/husband material. I prefer fwb material btw because it's the sweetest spot to be in

Also the fwb material or hook up guy material takes a shorter time. It doesn't take long at all. In fact within a week, she's yours while her suitors pile up for weeks or months waiting.

You're referring to someone trying to use the friend zone or caring friend route. It's different from this

Rizzputin:
You didn't understand his point. Just a friend doesnt mean you're pretending

You're still bringing your sexual energy but in a different way. You're basically a fùck buddy or fwb material than a bf/husband material. I prefer fwb material btw because it's the sweetest spot to be in

Also the fwb material or hook up guy material takes a shorter time. It doesn't take long at all. In fact within a week, she's yours while her suitors pile up for weeks or months waiting.

You're referring to someone trying to use the friend zone or caring friend route. It's different from this

Let’s get one thing straight: FWB and 'just friends' are two completely different ballgames (which he never said anything about). If I want a Friends With Benefits arrangement, I state my intentions clearly from day one. You'd be surprised how many ladies would actually prefer that honesty over the 'just friend' camouflage. The moment you settle for being 'just a friend,' you’ve already lost the lead.

Man up and state your purpose. If she’s not down for it, she can move on to someone else. Remember, FWB still requires you to bring something to the table; it’s just minus the 'boyfriend' labels. You’re a man; don't hide your intentions. Stop masking your desires under the guise of friendship—it’s a losing strategy.

SpencerForbes:
Let’s get one thing straight: FWB and 'just friends' are two completely different ballgames (which he never said anything about). If I want a Friends With Benefits arrangement, I state my intentions clearly from day one. You'd be surprised how many ladies would actually prefer that honesty over the 'just friend' camouflage. The moment you settle for being 'just a friend,' you’ve already lost the lead.

Man up and state your purpose. If she’s not down for it, she can move on to someone else. Remember, FWB still requires you to bring something to the table; it’s just minus the 'boyfriend' labels. You’re a man; don't hide your intentions. Stop masking your desires under the guise of friendship—it’s a losing strategy.

Again, You didn't understand.

He said "He's just a friend" NOT "Just friends" It's a subtle but VERY IMPORTANT distinction

"He's just a friend" is like a clichè term for a guy fùcking a girl in a relationship. Because most times when the bf asks about a guy, the girl says "oh he's just a friend"

So it has become sort of a popular phrase to hint at a guy knacking a guy's babe. Because most times when girls say "oh he's just a friend" he's never just a friend.

Secondly, it's the same thing. It can also mean a friendzone guy like you initially described

You didn't understand the context of where op came from. He wasn't describing the just friends kind of "he's just a friend" (this takes longer)

He was describing the friends with benefits kind of "he's just a friend"

Rizzputin:
Again, You didn't understand.

He said "He's just a friend" NOT "Just friends" It's a subtle but VERY IMPORTANT distinction

"He's just a friend" is like a clichè term for a guy fùcking a girl in a relationship. Because most times when the bf asks about a guy, the girl says "oh he's just a friend"

So it has become sort of a popular phrase to hint at a guy knacking a guy's babe. Because most times when girls say "oh he's just a friend" he's never just a friend.

Secondly, it's the same thing. It can also mean a friendzone guy like you initially described

You didn't understand the context of where op came from. He wasn't describing the just friends kind of "he's just a friend" (this takes longer)

He was describing the friends with benefits kind of "he's just a friend"

You’re doing a lot of mental gymnastics to find a meaning that simply isn’t there. Whether it’s 'he’s just a friend' or 'we’re just friends,' the core message is the same. If the OP meant Friends With Benefits (FWB), he’s savvy enough to have used the term.

If the OP wanted to discuss FWB, nothing stopped him from saying so. You've created two separate meanings that don't correlate and you're trying to conjoin them— splitting hairs over non-existent differences and then trying to force them back together. The OP is wise enough to know the difference; if he didn't include FWB, it was intentional. Let’s stop adding 'flavor' to a story that's already clear. Let’s stick to the text and stop drifting into assumptions.

SpencerForbes:
You’re doing a lot of mental gymnastics to find a meaning that simply isn’t there. Whether it’s 'he’s just a friend' or 'we’re just friends,' the core message is the same. If the OP meant Friends With Benefits (FWB), he’s savvy enough to have used the term.

If the OP wanted to discuss FWB, nothing stopped him from saying so. You've created two separate meanings that don't correlate and you're trying to conjoin them— splitting hairs over non-existent differences and then trying to force them back together. The OP is wise enough to know the difference; if he didn't include FWB, it was intentional. Let’s stop adding 'flavor' to a story that's already clear. Let’s stick to the text and stop drifting into assumptions.

You are the one assuming he meant "leading with friendship"
You are the one assuming it takes long. You then falsely and ignorantly assumed that you'll be bringing "things" to the table. You then assumed again you'll be spending on her

Lol. Dude, You clearly have NEVER been in the situation op talked about. I dont think your mind can wrap around what he's talking about all.

This concept clearly above your level of experience. So I suggest you sit this one out.

Rizzputin:
You are the one assuming he meant "leading with friendship"
You are the one assuming it takes long. You then falsely and ignorantly assumed that you'll be bringing "things" to the table. You then assumed again you'll be spending on her

Lol. Dude, You clearly have NEVER been in the situation op talked about. I dont think your mind can wrap around what he's talking about all.

This concept clearly above your level of experience. So I suggest you sit this one out.

Honestly, it’s funny how you’re mixing these things up. 😂 First off, FWB is rarely ever called 'just a friend'—they usually hide that under the 'bestie' label. Also, where did the OP mention FWB? You’re clearly just adding flavor to the story to suit your narrative.

Here’s the truth: a woman knows the value of what she’s giving. If there are no tangible benefits in an FWB setup, she’s checking out in a few weeks. Also, remember that the FWB is at the end of the spectrum—she handles her man first, and you only get a look-in when she’s bored (except you have something to offer). If you choose the 'just friends' route, you’re in for a long, unproductive run. You can ask for FWB on day one and get a 'yes,' but telling a girl you want you both to be 'just friends' is just a slow road to nowhere. She see you as a spineless femboy. So being ‘just a friend’ might work, but don’t ever compare it to FWB because FWB works faster.

SpencerForbes:
Honestly, it’s funny how you’re mixing these things up. 😂 First off, FWB is rarely ever called 'just a friend'—they usually hide that under the 'bestie' label. Also, where did the OP mention FWB? You’re clearly just adding flavor to the story to suit your narrative.

Here’s the truth: a woman knows the value of what she’s giving. If there are no tangible benefits in an FWB setup, she’s checking out in a few weeks. Also, remember that the FWB is at the end of the spectrum—she handles her man first, and you only get a look-in when she’s bored (except you have something to offer). If you choose the 'just friends' route, you’re in for a long, unproductive run. You can ask for FWB on day one and get a 'yes,' but telling a girl you want you both to be 'just friends' is just a slow road to nowhere. She see you as a spineless femboy. So being ‘just a friend’ might work, but don’t ever compare it to FWB because FWB works faster.

Wrong again. Women NEVER refer to fwb as bestie. They refer to besties as besties

Fwbs are the one referred to as "just a friend" Because they are many.

Anyways thank you for saying that OBVIOUSLY nonsensical statement. You've saved me from wasting my time.

Cause that statement alone shows you have NEVER experienced this. You're probably one of those red pill guys obsessing over books. Lol. Go and meet women. And stop hallucinating experiments in your head

And you just exposed yourself.

Rizzputin:
Wrong again. Women NEVER refer to fwb as bestie. They refer to besties as besties

Fwbs are the one referred to as "just a friend" Because they are many.

Anyways thank you for saying that OBVIOUSLY nonsensical statement. You've saved me from wasting my time.

Cause that statement alone shows you have NEVER experienced this. You're probably one of those red pill guys obsessing over books. Lol. Go and meet women. And stop hallucinating experiments in your head

And you just exposed yourself.

Who brought redpill😂😂😂 you’re a funny dude. I asked a question and you’re jumping all around. Can you show where fwb was stated? No!

Bestie and FWB are same on the spectrum. Get that. Just different names but same meaning. I guess you know nothing of synonyms. You see bestie will sleep with your girlfriend faster than those guys in her contact and fyi women don’t have plenty FWB all those plenty names on her contacts are those guys she’d friendzoned

I guess you’ve don’t know the meaning of being friendzoned. I guess some men really have low self esteem what stops y’all from asking a lady you want to do FWB? Then you tell her you want to be ‘just friends’ I believe you love eating crumbs. That’s shows how some boys think. Have a nice day being “just a friend” it’s best you man up and stop advising boys to wait for crumbs. I thought you knew better.

With the way you’re shifting the goalposts. I doubt any man will be bold to do that.

See as grown up men dey discuss woman matter . If you like be just a friend to her,she will still manipulate you in one way or the other.. Sex is your problem ba? She will use you to be curing her ovulation konji ,and you will still spend ,you like it or not.

BigYash:
See as grown up men dey discuss woman matter . If you like be just a friend to her,she will still manipulate you in one way or the other.. Sex is your problem ba? She will use you to be curing her ovulation konji ,and you will still spend ,you like it or not.

Na Wetin I Dey explain since oo. Matter wey for don die, person Dey drag am say FWB no Dey give shishi.

SpencerForbes:
Na Wetin I Dey explain since oo. Matter wey for don die, person Dey drag am say FWB no Dey give shishi.

FWB sometimes dey spend pass her main Boyfriend. She is always an understanding girl to the main guy,cux her goal is marriage with him,but the rest na bill payers. Their compensation is the public toilet she calls private part