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FreeIgboho:
See my write-up above. Do you still think it is a woman’s world?
In the villages it is even worse. A woman can't be seen with a man for years after her husband dies, while a man can be sleeping with his second wife same night. In the old days the alive wife gets buried alive with her husband!

FreeIgboho:
See your conditions for the female to get what should be naturally hers - "Many educated wealthy men now have wills". How about no education, no wills? How about traditionally?
Check the villages. A woman can't be seen with a man for years after her husband dies, while a man can be sleeping with his second wife same night! In the old days the alive wife actually gets buried alive with her husband!
Just admit things are unfair to women because it is men that set it up!

SIRTee15:
guy quit this boring and unnecessary rhetoric
women also suffer double standard.
They are shamed for body counts and having multiple sexual partners.
no one cares if a x video of a man is leaked, he may even be hailed for his performance in the video. a woman's leaked x video is a disaster for her and her future.
An ugly man can compensate with money, charm and good humour. not the same for an ugly woman- even if she has good character and well domesticated. a woman's first and ultimate attraction is her beauty irrespective of lies peddled by men.
a woman that has big yansh and breast and fair has made it in life (even if she has very ugly character) courtesy of men.

women have biological clock, a man at 40 can get married to 21 yr old princess. a woman at 40 has very little choices for suitors. baby daddy is not a limitation in anyway, he can even get married to a virgin girl. A single mother already have a hard life by virtue of that tag.

Nature deals with us all in different ways, instead of moaning and sounding irritating, each gender should embrace his/her role in life and be ready to be accountable for his/her action.

nairalanda1:
I've seen many men who when they fall, a lot of people help them up .

MadamExcellency:
First understand the context before writing a rebuttal. What he is saying is that it doesn't matter how good, moral and incorruptible a man is, without a good financial footings, he is scorned, degraded and shamed by the society and on the contrary, a good lady/woman with morals but nothing in her bank balance is still classified as virtuous and appreciated in the same man's world.

ThePureDiamond:
Okay, according to your analogy, the husband of Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala should do what then?! look for a way to drag her down, lower than his level in order to massage his ego??!

Women who ends up with men of your mentality, are always in perpetual bandage, because - every attempt the woman makes to rise and prosper are always antagonized and stepped-down by the man, due to his insecurities.

Kobojunkie:
. There are!

oyeb15:
When a man makes money,he believes he needs more women but when a woman makes money,she believes she need no man.

The moment your wife get richer and greater than you, then u are gone.

advanceDNA:
There are systems that favour men more than women a vise verse and it's men that set both up

By the way.......Why are your comments ending with "just admit" .....is that a way of bullying someone into submission or you just feel you view is the only correct one hence, they shouldn't have a their own submissions,..

bluefilm:
Childbirth, menstraul cycles etc. are nature's design

Each sex have their own natural crosses to bear...

But you and I can never argue about the fact that once the task at hand demands taking huge risks, it is normally men who are expected to 'man' up.

That's why men go to war

Men learn survival skills

Men build all the structures and facilities that make the society function

And why do men do all these things?

So that WOMEN and children can survive!

SIRTee15:
guy quit this boring and unnecessary rhetoric
women also suffer double standard.
They are shamed for body counts and having multiple sexual partners.
no one cares if a x video of a man is leaked, he may even be hailed for his performance in the video. a woman's leaked x video is a disaster for her and her future.
An ugly man can compensate with money, charm and good humour. not the same for an ugly woman- even if she has good character and well domesticated. a woman's first and ultimate attraction is her beauty irrespective of lies peddled by men.
a woman that has big yansh and breast and fair has made it in life (even if she has very ugly character) courtesy of men.

women have biological clock, a man at 40 can get married to 21 yr old princess. a woman at 40 has very little choices for suitors. baby daddy is not a limitation in anyway, he can even get married to a virgin girl. A single mother already have a hard life by virtue of that tag.

Nature deals with us all in different ways, instead of moaning and sounding irritating, each gender should embrace his/her role in life and be ready to be accountable for his/her action.

Fiscus105:
Not until you know you are head in your family, and the wife and kids your wife will bear for u through excruciating pains will bear your paternal name for life.



Genz guys getting lazy on daily basis, shifting responsible to women.

hatchy:
Don't say that. It is natural to fall. Not everyone would fall, but when it happens, it has a way of teaching us what we don't know. It redirect our lives.

I was once in such situation. I never knew life could become harsh and unfriendly. Closest friends turned their backs on me. Even family would abandon you in some cases. I became a laughing stock. It wasn't a good experience for years but it thought me a lot. However, it brought me closer to God. We all seek his face in difficult times and he never fails. I'm not a born again, Infact you don't need to be a born again for God's mercies and grace. He is so loving.

Eventually I rose again, this time, more better than I was before. I rediscovered who I am. I conquered territories and broke boundaries and achieve a lot that seemed impossible before now.
To fall is to learn and rise with full force. It will unleash the hidden potentials in you which you never knew was there before.

Unfortunately many people fall and just accept their fate that way. It's not supposed to be so

oyeb15:
Who knows Ngozi husband today. Is she cooking for her husband or can d mom control her.

FreeIgboho:
Because it is very annoying, people hugely favored by nature, then again hugely favored by a system set up by men, are the ones always complainning!

Mention systems set up in this society that favour women

nairalanda1:
I've seen many men who when they fall, a lot of people help them up .

vdestro:
You know the craziest part of it? It is that he is mocked and ridiculed by his fellow men and not just by women, alone.

Then when the tables turn, it is still men who do the excuses and sympathies for a woman. You will hear leave am now, na woman she be.

MadamExcellency:
First understand the context before writing a rebuttal. What he is saying is that it doesn't matter how good, moral and incorruptible a man is, without a good financial footings, he is scorned, degraded and shamed by the society and on the contrary, a good lady/woman with morals but nothing in her bank balance is still classified as virtuous and appreciated in the same man's world.

vdestro:
You know the craziest part of it? It is that he is mocked and ridiculed by his fellow men and not just by women, alone.

Then when the tables turn, it is still men who do the excuses and sympathies for a woman. You will hear leave am now, na woman she be.

donleo92:
The worst thing that can happen to a man is if you fall with the wrong woman......


Na suicide.

It's even better to rise with the wrong woman, than to fall with the wrong woman,

As a man, how to overcome a wrong wife, is to always have money more than her.

advanceDNA:
..sometimes the system are designed, sometimes they are just there .. either way, people will complain from their point of experience i.e., based on how nature/society has dealt with them...

In the UK...driver's licence are cheaper for women than men because one man woke up and claimed nature made women more kind and gentle claiming they drive more safer ....

Men designed the System that said it's better for men to go and die protecting the society.,...how may times have u heard women soldiers killed by Bokoharam?? Zero....Women are not posted to battle fronts even the west that scream equality...

Men set up system where Single mothers are paid benefits in the UK, nobody pays single fathers for not having a spouse to support him...

If u marry a stay at home mum...she gets half or your property at divorce because one slmp designed a system that established she has contributed to your entire wealth by just staying at home and not chasing her own life...

Check the statistics of all the rape cases perpetrated by women and even other criminal offences .......the sentence are just naturally lesser than men......a phenomenon designed by a male system known as "benevolent sexism" or the "female leniency effect" .....

If u know the amount of women and girl empowerment programmes in this country and in the west.,.u'll start wondering if someone is against the boy child or men...

Just last week...one morally bankrupt mid 30s lady teacher was caught in a statutory rape situation with a teenage boy....
. but alas....even women on nairaland started saying there is no foul because of the gender of the victim.... ...and that's how it is for men,....society expects unwritten things from you they don't expect from women that even overrides established law.....

Last year, I was applying for a programme ......i saw that women are encouraged to apply as they will offer them more slots & scholarship

..as in..?? I'm like..it shouldn't be this obvious naaaa..,.. and the sad reality is that women don't want to be in the engineering fields for long, even when they study it....they eventually branch off to something else more feminine which is why hua psychology says u can only force equal opportunity for men and women, but u can't force equal outcomes, because most women will always chose the easy way out...

And there is the sex system, which women are naturally custodian of.....u spread u get pregnant ..but if you don't want the baby..the man doesn't have a say...
.the man cannot force you or drag you to keep the baby......But hey!!..if u want a baby and a man isn't ready, he doesn't have a day.....infact you can pin another man's baby on him if you like....

MadamExcellency:
First understand the context before writing a rebuttal. What he is saying is that it doesn't matter how good, moral and incorruptible a man is, without a good financial footings, he is scorned, degraded and shamed by the society and on the contrary, a good lady/woman with morals but nothing in her bank balance is still classified as virtuous and appreciated in the same man's world.

SIRTee15:
guy quit this boring and unnecessary rhetoric
women also suffer double standard.
They are shamed for body counts and having multiple sexual partners.
no one cares if a x video of a man is leaked, he may even be hailed for his performance in the video. a woman's leaked x video is a disaster for her and her future.
An ugly man can compensate with money, charm and good humour. not the same for an ugly woman- even if she has good character and well domesticated. a woman's first and ultimate attraction is her beauty irrespective of lies peddled by men.
a woman that has big yansh and breast and fair has made it in life (even if she has very ugly character) courtesy of men.

women have biological clock, a man at 40 can get married to 21 yr old princess. a woman at 40 has very little choices for suitors. baby daddy is not a limitation in anyway, he can even get married to a virgin girl. A single mother already have a hard life by virtue of that tag.

Nature deals with us all in different ways, instead of moaning and sounding irritating, each gender should embrace his/her role in life and be ready to be accountable for his/her action.

funsho75:
✓ I think most of the things you listed are just about choice and not really nature...
✓ If woman of 40 want a guy in his 21, she will get but most women will not.
✓ About baby daddy... Why most guys don't go for women with kids is because of the financial responsibility.
✓ Am not disputing the fact that double standard exit for both genders. Am saying sometimes it is not double standards
It just choice
✓ Most men will want to marry slay Queen wen they don't hv money to maintain her... If she rejects it not double standard.. It just wrong choice

MadamExcellency:
First understand the context before writing a rebuttal. What he is saying is that it doesn't matter how good, moral and incorruptible a man is, without a good financial footings, he is scorned, degraded and shamed by the society and on the contrary, a good lady/woman with morals but nothing in her bank balance is still classified as virtuous and appreciated in the same man's world.

FreeIgboho:
Give examples

FlipModeSquade:
That doesn't change the norm,so go sit your *#@ down.

FreeIgboho:
See your conditions for the female to get what should be naturally hers - "Many educated wealthy men now have wills". How about no education, no wills? How about traditionally?
Check the villages. A woman can't be seen with a man for years after her husband dies, while a man can be sleeping with his second wife same night! In the old days the alive wife actually gets buried alive with her husband!
Just admit things are unfair to women because it is men that set it up!

abbey621:
➜We are talking about now compared to 30 years ago, WHY WOULD ANY WOMAN MARRY A MAN WITH NO EDUCATION, NO WILL & NO PLAN? Una no dey learn? The people you're describing are mostly poor or average at best, MAJORITY of village men are not leaving behind a mansion or enough money to secure his family for the rest of their lives. W[b]e are not talking about a million or two or that old village family house but REAL INHERITANCE![/b]

Kobojunkie:
The poor in Nigeria number above 170 million(women combined). And most of those men in that bracket have no real inheritance to offer anyone, including their children. Now, if the vast majority of Nigerian women "learn" and decide they should remain single, una go label them evening newspapers with bad characters? 🥱🥱🥱

abbey621:
➜The topic is inheritance, what business does a poor man have with inheritance? Read my initial comment and reply accordingly, I don't give a flip about man or woman dynamics in 9ja but the topic of inheritance is not for poor people!

abbey621:
We are talking about now compared to 30 years ago, WHY WOULD ANY WOMAN MARRY A MAN WITH NO EDUCATION, NO WILL & NO PLAN? Una no dey learn?...

abbey621:
...The people you're describing are mostly poor or average at best, MAJORITY of village men are not leaving behind a mansion or enough money to secure his family for the rest of their lives. We are not talking about a million or two or that old village family house but REAL INHERITANCE!

➜See your conditions for the female to get what should be naturally hers - "Many educated wealthy men now have wills". How about no education, no wills? How about traditionally?
Check the villages. A woman can't be seen with a man for years after her husband dies, while a man can be sleeping with his second wife same night! In the old days the alive wife actually gets buried alive with her husband! Just admit things are unfair to women because it is men that set it up!